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Mums with circumcised boys

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WaitTillFebruary · 27/12/2014 14:06

Hi,
I'm due in the second week of February and am expecting a baby boy. This will be our second boy and my husband and I have decided to have him circumcised as soon as possible after he is born.
We have gathered that circumcision is not available in the NHS unless for medical reasons. This leaves us going down the private route, which is a path we are unfamiliar with.
Does anyone have any advice as to where one can go (preferably in London) to have one's newborn baby boy circumcised privately?

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BlameItOnTheBogey · 27/12/2014 14:08

YOu can get it done at the Portland Hospital.

HoHoEffingHo · 27/12/2014 14:12

There is lots of information about circumcision nowadays that shows it is not a positive thing for men or boys. Please reconsider, for your son's sake.

I don't think I can write any more without being rude, but I'm sure others will be along to say what I think.

spinduchess · 27/12/2014 14:14

Did you do your first son? I'm struggling to understand the situation here.

OttiliaVonBCup · 27/12/2014 14:15

Oh brilliant.

A circumcision thread in addition to the dog one and the various MILs.
We only need a parking thread for the full bingo experience.

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WaitTillFebruary · 27/12/2014 14:17

Yes, our first son was circumcised as a toddler for medical reasons. We now want to get our second one circumcised as a baby when it will be less traumatic for him and the healing time will be quicker.

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GraysAnalogy · 27/12/2014 14:17

Why don't you let your son decide when he's older whether or not he wants to have part of his genitals removed.

It absolutely astounds me that in all the joy of expecting a baby, it still crosses people's minds that 'oh gee we must remove that pesky foreskin!'. Just plain weird.

Sallyingforth · 27/12/2014 14:20

One of my brothers had his appendix removed for medical reasons. The other still has his.
Just sayin'

HoHoEffingHo · 27/12/2014 14:20

Your ds2 may not have medical problems that would require circumcision.
Are you doing it so they match? What will you do if they have different colour hair or eyes?

HoHoEffingHo · 27/12/2014 14:22

And it would probably be every bit as traumatic, but babies tend to shut down when truly distressed, which is why some well meaning people say that babies don't feel pain like older children.

Fairylea · 27/12/2014 14:23

Why would you do it unless it is medically necessary? Just because your older son needed it done for medical reasons this baby might not. It won't matter at all that they look different if that's what you're concerned about.

Annarose2014 · 27/12/2014 14:23

How baffling. Subjecting your newborn to a medical procedure on the completely unfounded presumption they'll have to do it later. Bizarre.

Sallyingforth · 27/12/2014 14:30

When DS2 grows up and asks why he had his penis cut, are you going to say it was because of DS1?

That's going to go down well between brothers.

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WaitTillFebruary · 27/12/2014 14:31

Sallyingforth, I don't believe it is any of your business.

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WhyYouGottaBeSoRude · 27/12/2014 14:34

Get his tonsils and appendix out while you're there OP. Perhaps his testicles too as he might get testicular cancer at some point. Some children also get ear infections- i wonder if you could have his ears sealed up too? Ask the doctor.

Sparklingbrook · 27/12/2014 14:35

You can't start a thread about something and then complain it's nobody else's business.

Sallyingforth · 27/12/2014 14:35

My best wishes to your sons :)

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WaitTillFebruary · 27/12/2014 14:38

Sparklingbrook, yes I can. I addressed this thread to mums with circumcised boys. I am looking for specific locational advice on clinics that do circumcision for newborns.
I have zero interest in justifying my decision to circumcise my son, let alone discuss other unrelated body parts.

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Sparklingbrook · 27/12/2014 14:39

Oh right. I'll get me coat then Wait. My two still have theirs......

CaptainAnkles · 27/12/2014 14:43

You know, very rarely in their lives will they ever be wandering around naked and need to have matching genitals. Just in case that's why you're doing it. Is it because your DS1 might be jealous of your DS2 not having had some of his penis removed?

nickeljrismybabesitter · 27/12/2014 14:44

It's not available on the NHS because it is not good for the boy if there is no medical reason
The nhs don't just make rules for the fun of it!
Please please goofgle circumcision and what the actual medical procedure is.
It is well documented that babies under extreme pain go into shock and their bodies shut down.
shock is not a good condition.
In a baby it could lead to brain damage or death.

NetworkGuy · 27/12/2014 14:44

Fairylea - Why would you do it unless it is medically necessary?

A lot of families believe it necessary for religious reasons. One more reason not to bother with religion, in my book.

This thread seems to be one for cosmetic reasons, certainly no mention of religion, and presumably not expecting it necessary on health grounds, so just one of vanity or something.

As someone in middle age, I certainly don't think there's any need for this medical procedure for a male without any health issues, and consider it quite an unpleasant parental choice when the child has no say in it. While it's not in the same league as female mutilation, it's on similar lines and makes little sense unless there is a medical problem.

HoHoEffingHo · 27/12/2014 14:45

There was a very heated interesting thread about circumcision a while ago, with loads of links about reasons it's a bad idea.
I'll try to find it.

Fwiw, my ds was circumcised for medical reasons. He's now 14 and hates it, is extremely self conscious about it. I can tell him that we had no option (although according to the thread I'm going to try to find, we had an option, we just weren't told). If I had to tell him that Dh and I decided to have him circumcised so he matched his brother, or just in case he had an issue, I don't think I could live with myself.

If you post on a forum, you are going to get discussion, and opinions that you don't like, but in this instance, I truly believe that you owe it to your unborn son to think carefully about your decision.
It's not necessary, and your son can never rebuild his foreskin when he's older if he decides he's not happy with it - he will be stuck with it and he will blame his parents for making that decision.

HerrenaHarridan · 27/12/2014 14:45

You can address it to who you like that doesn't make it personal and private.

It's on a public forum, in a country which does not generally go down the genital mutilation route.

HoHoEffingHo · 27/12/2014 14:46

I wrote that and x-posted with your last comment.

My son is circumcised, so will you listen to my opinion? I hope you do.

NetworkGuy · 27/12/2014 14:48

I have zero interest in justifying

Sadly for you, you have no control over what other people discuss on this thread or elsewhere (unless they break MN guidelines). While a complete hijack is unlikely to be acceptable by MN, tangential discussions on moral and other grounds, associated with the subject, are far from banned.

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