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Mums with circumcised boys

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WaitTillFebruary · 27/12/2014 14:06

Hi,
I'm due in the second week of February and am expecting a baby boy. This will be our second boy and my husband and I have decided to have him circumcised as soon as possible after he is born.
We have gathered that circumcision is not available in the NHS unless for medical reasons. This leaves us going down the private route, which is a path we are unfamiliar with.
Does anyone have any advice as to where one can go (preferably in London) to have one's newborn baby boy circumcised privately?

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WhyYouGottaBeSoRude · 27/12/2014 14:52

Its quite sick, a parent actually wanting to cause unnecessary extreme pain to their child, to want to unnecessarily permanently mutilate their child. And to decide to do it even before theyve set eyes on the child. Imagine planning to do that to your brand new born baby. Its not normal to want to do that. And i look forward to the day when the law refuses to allow sick acts like this on defenceless children.

LittleBearPad · 27/12/2014 14:52

I don't think you're going to get a lot of suggestions here OP for a completely unnecessary procedure. If he needs it done in the futire that's one thing. Pre-empting an issue that may never arise when it will cause your newborn son considerable pain is silly.

LeftyLoony · 27/12/2014 14:52

DS2 was circumcised for medical reasons. Unfortunately there was no other option.

We left DS1 alone as there is absolutely no good reason for foisting an unnecessary surgical procedure on a child. None whatsoever.

MrSheen · 27/12/2014 14:55

It's shocking that this is still legal. Technically not my business I suppose, my boys are still intact, but I haven't cut my girls genitals either and I support the ban of FGM.

I don't think male and female circumcision are the same, and am loathe to get into a game of genital mutilation top trumps, but I have an old fashioned belief that just because they are your kids, that doesn't mean that you can do what you want with them. Society should protect the most vulnerable, and laws should be in place to stop random attacks on their genitals.

ISolemnlySwearIveBeenUptoNoGood · 27/12/2014 14:55

Just out of interest OP...what are the bonuses to you getting your son circumcised?

WhyYouGottaBeSoRude · 27/12/2014 14:58

OP if your eldest DS had never had a problem requiring circumcision and then your second son did when he is say 5 years old, would you have then taken your older son to have his foreskin removed at whatever age he would be then?

paddyclampo · 27/12/2014 15:01

Dear oh dear. How could anyone get their son butchered for non-medical reasons?!?

There is plenty of medical advice now that says it is rarely necessary, and that there are less invasive options that people aren't always told about. So even if he was to develop the same problem as your first son, you have options.

Please read the comment above where a PP mentions that her son is v self conscious having been done.

HoHoEffingHo · 27/12/2014 15:01

This is the thread I mentioned

Bear in mind it is regarding circumcision for medical reasons. The interesting (but angry) poster is called Lightf00t or something like that. If you can overlook the anger, he actually makes some very valid points.

Eastwiththem · 27/12/2014 15:05

DH was circumcised as an adult for medical reasons, it was pretty traumatic and I wish he'd had it done as a child when his problems first became apparent and he had less psychological "baggage" around the op. One of his brothers has the same condition and was also circumcised as an adult. However the other brother is fine (as far as I know, the state of BIL's penis hasn't come up in conversation.)

As such, I am very aware that DS might have trouble in the future and did consider getting him done straight away just in case. However it is a functional part of the body and it seems unfair to remove it on the off-chance. I am keeping an eye on DS and will get him down the doctor's if anything appears even slightly wrong; I think DH's problems were worse because they were left so long. I'm open to the idea of circumcision in the future for DS, but I'd want to be sure that it was his only option medically rather than going ahead without knowing truly.

spinduchess · 27/12/2014 15:07

I would really miss DH's foreskin. I'm really glad he's got one.

willowisp · 27/12/2014 15:12

My DH is circumsised & would prefer not to be. Medical reasons when he was a young boy, but no-one would have predicated this. AFAIK his DB still has his.

Bit of an odd reason - I think circumsised willies are ugly (sorry DH Blush)

NoLongerTheSeasonToBeJolly · 27/12/2014 15:13

I'm going to miss my DH's, it's going next week. At least he is able to consent to the procedure which is obviously on medical grounds and is unrelated to the fact that his genitals have previously been intact.

OP, you say my husband and I have decided to have him circumcised as soon as possible after he is born but you don't really explain why you wish to mutilate him.

Reindeerballs · 27/12/2014 15:14

DH was circumcised as a toddler for medical reasons and found the whole process pretty traumatic. Mainly because no one explained anything to him - this was in the 1970s. Interestingly his brother developed a similar problem in his forties and was circumcised as a result. Less traumatic as an adult though he found it unpleasant. Other brother and nephews are not affected.

Why don't you just wait and see what happens?

OnlyWantsOne · 27/12/2014 15:16

This is probably the politest thing I can add

I've fucked a lot of men. Many of which have been circumcised. None of any of the cocks were similar in appearance. Cut or not.

GraysAnalogy · 27/12/2014 15:20

hoho that thread has made me so so sad. Why on earth are people trying to forcibly pull back foreskins? Leave them alone!

NetworkGuy · 27/12/2014 15:39

Why on earth are people trying to forcibly pull back foreskins? Leave them alone!

Come on! Personal hygiene means that this is beneficial.

Surely everyone can appreciate that.

Being unable to do so will initially lead to poor hygiene and perhaps infections, and later could cause problems when TTC.

WhyYouGottaBeSoRude · 27/12/2014 15:42

Network guy there is a difference between pulling back your foreskin to clean and forcibly pulling it back. Which is the word grays used.

GraysAnalogy · 27/12/2014 15:45

Thankyou why. If it isn't budging, leave it alone. No mother should be trying to sodding forcibly pull her child's foreskin back - in fact doing so will make it more likely to become infected.

It is like that for a reason, as the child get's older it will in the vast majority of cases, 'detach' and allow for washing. Until then, it's fine as it is, stop mauling about.

Fairylea · 27/12/2014 15:51

Networkguy not sure why you quoted me ... I said I don't agree with circumcision unless it is absolutely medically necessary. Religion or not. For me religion is not enough of a reason to justify circumcision.

Micah · 27/12/2014 15:54

Why, when it is no longer allowed to clip puppies ears or dock their tails do we still allow boys to be circumcised when there is no medical need?

If you can prosecute for doing such procedures to animals, are baby boys not protected in the same way?

Personally, I think it's mutilation.

Sallyingforth · 27/12/2014 16:18

Why, when it is no longer allowed to clip puppies ears or dock their tails do we still allow boys to be circumcised when there is no medical need?
Because there are powerful religious lobbies against any such law, and if it was passed they would ignore it anyway.

Personally, I think it's mutilation.
Of course it is.

Debster7808 · 27/12/2014 18:29

Hello OP,
I'm sorry that your thread has been hijacked by a pack of rabid anti-circumcision fanatics.

All you were looking for was advice on where you could plan on getting your son to have this simple procedure when he arrives.

I have two boys, and both of them are circumcised. The youngest one was circumcised at the cromwell hospital in London. I was very happy with the whole thing. My son received very adequate pain relief, including Elma cream so he didn't feel the local anaesthetic injection. Then I was advised to give him calpol later if he needed it, but I my son seemed not to need it. Within a week, it had healed very neatly, and that was that.

Both of my sons are now old enough to be aware that they had their foreskins surgically removed, and they are totally at ease with it. Not only are other family members also circumcised, but each of my boys have one or two classmates that are also circumcised, so they know that it's just one of those things that some boys have done.

Good luck with the birth, and hope all goes well!

Xxx

RoganJosh · 27/12/2014 18:36

Nhs site says the foreskin only becomes retractable around ages 2-6.

GraysAnalogy · 27/12/2014 18:37

Oh shut up.

I'm never that rude on this forum but 'rabid anti-circumcision fanatics'? Excuse me? You mean normal people who aren't obsessed with the mutilation of their baby boys penis?

You have absolutely no idea if he had adequate pain relief. I'm sure you were very happy but you're not the one having a part of their genitals removed - it's not your place to be happy.

It's not 'just one of those things' at all, and shouldn't be seen as that. It wouldn't be see as that if it were not for religious group apposing the banning of it.

GraysAnalogy · 27/12/2014 18:38

Nhs site says the foreskin only becomes retractable around ages 2-6.

There's a lot of contradictory data because from anecdotal evidence, and studies I've read it can be much later and sometimes only detaches in puberty.