please note this is posted in the MNers Without Children section
I've been posting on and off about my situation but in a nutshell my husband left me last week. Maybe midlife crisis / breakdown / affair / just doesn't love me any more, we've gone NC so none the wiser right now.
He's slung some (unfair and untrue) mud my way but one has really hurt me. I've always been very upfront about the fact I don't want children, as well as having reproductive issues that probably prevent it anyway. I've always said I'd be open to adoption / fostering if I ever changed my mind (40 this year and not changed yet).
He told me that he did want children in his previous relationships, and that he's just gone along with it for me and doesn't know if he regrets that now.
I was beyond shocked. He's been very vocally childfree by choice since very early in our relationship, does not enjoy the company of children (I was there the first time he held a baby and it was sheer panic) and had never, ever told me or made me think otherwise.
I'm obviously struggling with all of this but this has really stuck in my throat. Would appreciate any thoughts from other CFBC women, has anyone ever found themselves in such a bizarre situation?
This has made me particularly angry and upset because I feel like it's such a personal thing to throw at me.