Are parents missing out? MN without children

[Sequinppigeon]

Inspired by another thread, but really not meant with malice... Do you think parents are missing out by having children?

Do they remove themselves from
opportunities or experiences for example?

Although they experienced child free life before having them, one you have them you don't get childfree life again. Especially not initially, and you're always a parent.

Can they really know what it would be like to have children and therefore what they are committing themselves to?

Just wondering how child free people feel as a counter to this well worn idea that we are some how missing out or lacking.

Do you know what @WillYouPutYourCoatOn don't bother answering my last question

I have no doubt you will respond as you very much strike me as a poster who must have the last word by I am out. I have no interest in enabling the further derailment of this board by engaging in a debate that shouldn't even exist by someone with fairly blatant motives.

Sure.

When I replied that I found it patronising to not address something and just declare someone "doesn't get it"

You quoted my text and directly responded "I think it's patronising to keep informing childfree posters of the joys of being a parent"

Was I to presume that in conversation with me, quoting my text directly in response, that you were not directing that at all at me?

What I find interesting, is the not having to repeatedly prove something, when I can't see l, despite asking numerous times, points have even been addressed, let alone repeatedly proved.

As a mixed race person, with a disabled child, I need an "education" in none of those things, nor the discussion of this thread. Like you, I can read, I just don't agree with your conclusions, nor you mine. Which is fine. Likewise, when I see something untoward, I speak up.

Because I don't accept calls of "misogyny" for using the correct word to describe a certain action, I now obviously have "motives." I'd really like to be enlightened as to what you have decided they are because I don't have any. Other than discussion on an internet forum.

I've seen many threads eg "what are you going to buy and lavish on yourself today after your nice lie in because you were clever enough not have those irksome drains on your resources called kids". Don't get me wrong, I'd love a lie in. And more cash. But I've seen these kind of threads several times.

Could you post a link to that thread please? I honestly don’t remember it.

I've seen many threads eg "what are you going to buy and lavish on yourself today after your nice lie in because you were clever enough not have those irksome drains on your resources called kids". Don't get me wrong, I'd love a lie in. And more cash. But I've seen these kind of threads several times.

That’s the point of this board. It’s a space for us to post about the day to day reality of our lives, without judgement or derailing from parents. If you don’t like it, don’t read. It’s not for you.

It shouldn’t be a problem for the poster to do so, as apparently she has seen “several” of them, yet I suspect you’ll be waiting for that link!