Mindee that doesn't play on her own?

[chloejessmeg]

I only have 1 mindee and only for 9 hours a week, who is in full time reception. But the hours she is here, she wants me to sit and play with her the whole time, and won't sit and do anything by herself. I am not saying I want her to completly entertain herself while she is here, but I have my DD who is 1year old and soon a newborn so she needs to be able to do something. She likes to do stuff like drawing, playdough, pictures etc but won't do it unless I am sitting with her, doing the activity with her which isn't always possible. If I am dealing with my DD she just keeps asking me to do x with her, or says she needs help with stuff I know she can do on her own, and won't do anything even for 2 mins. I bought her lots of stuff in the sales to try and keep her busy, but nope, still won't do it on her own. I think she will be better if/when I get another mindee of similar age but I am only getting enquiries for babies and I don't have an under 1 space.

Has anybody else had this problem and how do you deal with it?

What is the point Chloe, you are right and everyone else is wrong.

nbm that's great you are entitled to your opinion. How many carers has your dc had? I have a child who is with me now and has been since 23 mths he is 7 and prior to coming to me was in 9 different nurseries now he has great relationship with me and he is not constantly getting used to new rules and people - even the best nurseries have staff turnovers I work with an assistant now but crb's wherever used are only good the day they are written also nurseries now choose their own staff ofsted only check manager using crb due to costs involved

"OP you are very defensive"

Of course I am, as I started a thread asking for a bit of simple advice and feel like everybody is telling me I am not providing good quality childcare.

If I started insulting your parenting skills or how good you are at your job, I am sure you would defend yourself? No?

you're back bubble nurseries do have notice they can also work out based on their 3 yearly cycle I was deputy in a nursery and we knew what month they were coming we were not attached to a school

Whereas CMs get a few days to cook the registers and get the cornflour out.

My DD1 went to 2 nurseries and is now at school. DD2 went to 2 and only moved as we moved - she is still there now. And my new baby will gor to the same fantastic nursery - there is no way I would leave her in the care of 1 person.

Omg!

Is this still going on??

The best post in my opinion is that from Boysarelikedogs at 22:28.

I always find it shocking how naive and ill-informed some parents are regarding childcare. Many dont even know the difference between nanny/nursery/CM.And lets not even go to au-pairs...

The advice sometimes posters give to each other leaves me speechless.

Is currently some kind of CM/nanny hate campaign going on? Why so many posters turn nasty to them?

"What is the point Chloe, you are right and everyone else is wrong"

Right or wrong about what though? I don't even know what the whole point in this conversation is? I have had some really helpfull replys to what I could do to help this child, which is what I have asked. Nobody can tell me WHAT I have done wrong, yet everybody is jumping on me??? I asked a question and suddenly I am a bad CM?

Nope. Sorry, you are wrong.

I am a nursery owner. Knowing that you are due an inspection is not the same as being given notice.

Chloe - I think the debate has happened because of the way your OP came across. Are you defensive because there is some truth in some of the posts that have been negative towards you?

bb if we had time to cook registers would be great also as you don't know parents sign a cm's register also as i say if a cm is on a network can be assessed at any time unannounced or otherwise

How long ago were you a deputy? Spot inspections came in a few years ago.

"But the hours she is here, she wants me to sit and play with her the whole time, and won't sit and do anything by herself. I am not saying I want her to completly entertain herself while she is here, but I have my DD who is 1year old and soon a newborn so she needs to be able to do something."

If a nursery worker wrote this I would be questioning their dedication.

Some truth in what? What am I meant to have done? Thats what I don't understand and nobody has answered me!!

Lesbianmummy, glad you have such a good relationship with your mindee . That's nice.

Parents who prefer nurseries would of course like low staff turnover. But having had 2 dcs in ft nursery for years, I can honestly say a bit of staff movement does not matter to the dcs. Even if the staff stayed the same, they will still change rooms after a year or so and with that change of staff. My dcs have never blinked an eye. They don't look at carers in the way they require from their mummy and daddy. My dd can forget the name of her dearest carer quite quickly . She is not looking for an unchanging mother substitute. I am her mother.

So a nursery worker would be expected to provide 1-1 care? NO.

Tiram

I do not hate childminders and I have not mentioned nannies. I just would not use a childminder myself and threads like this are confirmation of this choice.

But a nursery nurse will not be cooking, cleaning etc at the same time as childcare.

"But the hours she is here, she wants me to sit and play with her the whole time, and won't sit and do anything by herself. I am not saying I want her to completly entertain herself while she is here, but I have my DD who is 1year old and soon a newborn so she needs to be able to do something."

If a nursery worker wrote this I would be questioning their dedication. "

So what do you expect? Am I not meant to be able to go to the loo/change a nappy or whatever? Is that what you are saying?

are the truth buble, guilty conscience about how you behave when ofsted are due? you can do plenty with that info another question are your dc's at the same nursery?

"But a nursery nurse will not be cooking, cleaning etc at the same time as childcare. "

As I have said several times I NEVER do any of this when she is here, other than roughly clear up after an activity - put paint pots in sink etc. And maybe do DDs milk which takes about 1 min.

naturalbornmum you are actually being quite nasty, adding nothing to what the OP actually wanted which is ADVICE, not personal attacts.

OP you have done nothing wrong, there are some people on here that only come on to threads to be nasty and vindictive, I suggest you ignore those people and dont rise to their baiting.

Yes of course but from what I have read you seem to find your minded child a bit of a nusiance and you said something about the whole point of childminding is to be with your own children.

last day as a deputy was 2 years ago however am in regular contact with various other nursery managers who all confirm it still the same spot checks are normally following a complaint etc

Following a complaint yes. But not for periodic inspections.