Well, she has always been a 'lively' character and expected the children to do what she said from the off. She meant well, but i had to explain to her that it takes time to bond with kids, you have to get them on side etc.
Obviously I have told the children that the yare to do what she says, to tret her with respect etc. i have said all of this n front of her so we all know where we stand.
They children have never bonded with her though and this has obviously been a problem for me as i am not getting any respite as the younger ones won't be left with her.
I was rather hoping that these problems would iron themselves out, after all she has only been here for a month.
I was never directly unhappy with her treatment of the children, but there was certainly a gentlness and empathy missing, she was very brash and in your face.
Consequently my middle two dc's have started to play up with her more and more iyswim?
This morning she was meant to be doing teeth, hair etc, getting them ready for school. Dc no 3 (7) came and told me she had just kicked dc no4 (5). I said she must be mistaken and went downstairs to finf aupair and dc 4 shouting at each other. Dc4 was demanding an apology!!
I asked what was going on and aupair said dc had repeatedly kicked her when she was trying to brush her hair and she had warned her that if she kicked again she would kick back, which she did, so there they were kicking each other.
I said as she shouted and ranted that i was not ok that dc had kicked her but that it was absolutely not ok for her to kick a child. that I could no longer trust her etc.
By then i was late for school. she stormed off to her room and I did school run.
When i came back i asked if she was packing and said she had to leave today. She was crying and said she was angry with herself , me and dc's!
i don't in any way condone dc 4's behaviour. She can be feisty, but is generally very kind, loving and obedient.
Still i can't have someone here who kicks my kids can
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I have never been comfortable with this au pair, but as I said I hoped it was teething problems, but in all truth
i think she burnt her brides with the kids very early on and once you've done that there's not much hope is there?
excuse typos I one handed typing whilst bf!