God, my au pair/mother's help just kicked my 5 year old!

[kittywise]

Obviously I've told her she has to leave today. I'm so pissed off . Just needed to vent

By LynetteScavo on Wed 10-Dec-08 19:30:27
"But why would you warn a child that you will kick them back, moston?

Seems an odd way to try to educate a child to me. "

In real life it wouldn't be my first thing to do. I'd say no. I'd say stop it. But if, as the OP says, I was being repeatedly kicked I'd warn a 5 year old who is more than old enough to understand that they would get a smack on their bottom if they continued. If I was able to kick I would warn them I would kickthem back, but I'm not so I wouldn't.

read the posts

northanlurker I don't know, but whatever i do decide to do I'll do it with the knowledge that I'm not as unpleasant as you and that has to count for something.

kittywise - what a day. I hope that the children go down well for you and you get a few moments rest to gather your thoughts and plan your way forward.

Hopefully all will seam clearer in the morning and you'll find someone where its a mutually benefitial situation of employment.

Strange too that having a big house and loads of children should cause you write an unpleasant post. obviously touched a nerve there or something. Is there something wrong with having a big house, loads of children and needing an aupair, didn't realise it was grounds for having a dig.

Do you also have digs at peoplel in tiny houses and no kids or is it just those with big houses. Enquiring minds would like to know.

Kittywise that's the first time anyone has ever called me unpleasant! Guess you're not planning to follow my downsizing plan then

Sorry crossposted - no I'll have a dig at anyone who leaves themselves wide open to it.

I haven't had a single 'dig' at you, kittywise, or attacked you in any kind of underhand way - yet you have chosen to ignore my comments (although I am the one who reported your post and had it removed').

I think you did the rgiht thing re: your au pair

I also think all of your excuses for your racist attitudes are pathetic.

right thing

Kittywise, have just read this thread and want tosay I'm so sorry for the day you've had and the misunderstandings that have happened.

Ignore all the snooty unpleasant types on their high horses. It must be great to be perfect, eh! THe sam people ake these high and mighty attitudes on every thread they go on.

Good luck with finding new help.

i live in a big house, have 3 children, have had aupairs/nannies, am a sahm too .
i still think you are out of order to make the racist statements you have.
btw - get a housekeeper and spend more time with the kids. trust me, its the way forward.

i am not
snooty
high and mighty
nor perfect

and yet i disagree with KW's attitude.

funny that.

FFS!@Loola

How is it being snooty to point out when someone has been blatantly racist?

Kittywise's original comment (now deleted) assumed that we were all white, for starters. Not all of us are. Some of us (black or otherwise) DO take offence to generalisations being made about 'black people', West indians, West Africans (whatever...she has changed it about 3 times!) and we WILL point it out.

The idiocy on this thread is starting to really piss me off.

I don't agree with the racist comments, but I fell Kittywise has already explained what she menat and did not mean it in a racist way.

I do agree with her attitude to sacking somebody eho kicked her child though

thanks loola.
Nl why on earth would you want to do that? Does it make you feel better or something?

MrsMattie, there are generalisations made about all races, colours and creeds all the time. People are oversensitive to comments and like to find something to moan about

Well it WAS racist and offensive.

Maybe she should acknowledge that.

The argument that these comments are 'made all the time,' therefore it;s not worth saying anything about them (or you are 'oversensitive') isn't even an argument - it's preposterous.

herbie have you actually read some of the comments directed at me and my family?

Ffs woman pull yourself together! You posted about how you had to sack your au-pair (which I agree was the right thing to do) You then whimpered about how you need help because of the size of your house. So sure you need help and you've had a rough day but if you were expecting unconditional validation of everything you 'need' then I think you're on the wrong website. You post, you get views, you get it pointed out to you that not everybody takes the same life view as you, you get fun made of your point of view. Deal with it! An au-pair is not the only way to deal with your dilema. If you think it is then you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself.

You have deliberately chosen to dwell on a handful of posts and ignore the majority that, although perfectly reasonable, you happen not to like. So....what do you want, exactly? A chorus of approving, sympathetic voices all saying 'there, there'? Ok, well here's a tip for next time, then: Don't alienate so many people with your ignorant, offensive views, and they might be more understanding.

kitty - walk away.

go have a nice cuppa.

not worth it.

MM and NL there is a difference between telling someone you point of view and being offensive.

noiamnot, a glass of wine and devils' whore for me!