Take nanny on holiday?

[ChampagneLassie]

My children are 2.5 & 4 months, nanny just started working with us last week for my 4 month old. 2.5 Ye old remaining in nursery. We’ve not discussed holidays and I’d assumed we wouldn’t bring her. But would it be a good thing? Worth the extra expenses? I’m looking at club med and childcare is £365 per child per week. So £730 total. Bringing nanny will cost much more than that…ballpark I reckon £3k (cost of bringing her plus that she’s working rather than on a weeks holiday. ) also she’s not going to have resources or local knowledge etc.
im wondering whether ita probably much more enjoyable for children to be in kids clubs.

Some kids actually really love holiday clubs though! Being with other kids, doing all the activities etc. nothing wrong with kids going for a couple of hours whilst the parents relax and recharge!

Poor kids

I am a nanny, I can confirm. Doesn’t mean this is genuine though

Wow, you must have many a sleepless night worrying about this problem 🤣

It's a family holiday that is so sad that you don't want to spend time with your own children. I feel sorry for your kids. Are you going to ship them off to boarding school too.

Or perhaps they'd like to see you rather than be in childcare again? That was certainly the case for my under 5s. Absolutely no interest in being left with strangers to play with other unknown children. I would only take a nanny if it's a working holiday.

Anything else aside unless the Nanny has a legal right to work in the country where you are holidaying they would be breaking the rules of a tourist visa by working.

Agreed .... Surely you want a family holiday to be a time spent with family?

Give your nanny a paid week off

@LuckySantangelo35 not sure the 4 month old will play with other children!

Club Med do provide kids club from 4 months old so that is lucky for OP

Poor nanny

I forgot I posted this. A troll 🤣I’ll be back soon

This reminds me of the time I went away with my mum, stepdad and sister who was 3. I was 19. A few families we spoke to round the pool thought I was the nanny 🤣

ChampagneLassie · Today 16:53
I really don’t see the funny side of such a pretentious post. Why would anyone put their two little children, especially a 4 month old into a children’s club. Or hike the nanny on holiday when holidays are meant to be family time. I would leave the kids at home with nanny. It sounds like they are an inconvenience to you.

😂😂😂😂

This is amazing questing for rules. You're incorrect, but I admire your spirit

I don't think you forgot. I think you know exactly what you're doing.

Thanks x

Jez I’m so sleep deprived and busy you know parenting because it’s the weekend and nanny not here so sorry I’ve not found time to return yet 🤣

@ChampagneLassie

Your last post totally confirms it 😂

Never mind, school tomorrow!

I wouldn't want a nanny on my vacation personally.

Is it in the contract you have with your nanny as you can't just spring it on her?

I really did forget I posted, for some reason my notifications don’t pop up. It’s only been 24 hrs!
I really didn’t imagine this being so…inflammatory. We’ve done numerous Neilson holidays were the childcare is from 3 or 4 months and i didn’t see anyone judging other parents for using it!
im planning a holiday for September when my kids will be 3.5 & 13 months. We’ve had numerous holidays with my eldest and used childcare and she’s loved it. We have no family help and like most majority of childcare/household/life admin falls to me probably a 80/20 split. If I didn’t have childcare I’d never get any sort of break & frankly I don’t think I’d manage. Why martyr myself. If I said my parents were coming to help I bet you wouldn’t judge. My toddler is very demanding and sleeps very little. Typically 8pm-6am and wakes in night to climb into bed with me where she cuddles and sleep takes and grabs my breasts. I’ve had 2 nights away from her in her life- in hospital with my 2nd birth. we’re with her 6am-8:30 at nursery and pickup 5/530-8pm she gets LOTS of time and attention. I honestly don’t have the energy to look after her 24/7. My baby is lovely and easy but I need time to do all of the regular life stuff like go to the dentist, get my hair cut, have physio, do batch cooking and prep for returning to work in a couple of months. My baby is exclusive BF and I’m at home majority of time with nanny and baby. My partner has a very full on job and does as much as he can.

I’m posting this whilst my baby sleeps on me which is currently the only place she will sleep. I’m a bit shocked at how much judgement. I deserve a holiday and break now and then & I’m not going to feel guilty about that. I know LOTS of other parents who have family help and way more time away from their kids than I do.

Not in contract and not discussed. My DP just suggested it…hence it got me wondering. I don’t imagine our nanny would want to come, but I don’t know (and I’m sure if I paid her extra / made it attractive enough). It’s also that my DP would rather do a more adventurous holiday ie not a big resort with childcare so having nanny would allow us to do something more like that more easily.

How much parenting does DP do? Is the split 80/20 when you are not on maternity leave?

i didn’t have a nanny before, she’s only just started and in previous holidays we’ve used kids clubs for eldest. But my DP suggested we ask nanny so I was wondering what others did. It will cost ALOT more and I probably it was more the ultra wealthy who take their Nannie’s on holiday with them. But I was interested in hearing from people who do. I don’t think any of that’s strange.

I’ve cosleep with my daughter since she was born. Nursery is Monday-Friday 8:30-5:30 - I parent the rest of the time. Leaving them to go on holiday would be wild and not something I’d ever do. But I know people who have, in fact most of my friends have stayed overnight away from their children It’s probably not something I’ll ever do but I don’t judge them for it.

There are a lot of hours in the day to fill and it’s nice to be able to have a little break now and then. It’s not pretentious- lots of holidays offer childcare.