Take nanny on holiday?

[ChampagneLassie]

My children are 2.5 & 4 months, nanny just started working with us last week for my 4 month old. 2.5 Ye old remaining in nursery. We’ve not discussed holidays and I’d assumed we wouldn’t bring her. But would it be a good thing? Worth the extra expenses? I’m looking at club med and childcare is £365 per child per week. So £730 total. Bringing nanny will cost much more than that…ballpark I reckon £3k (cost of bringing her plus that she’s working rather than on a weeks holiday. ) also she’s not going to have resources or local knowledge etc.
im wondering whether ita probably much more enjoyable for children to be in kids clubs.

When I was a nanny I went on holiday with them to a ski resort. I think I had one afternoon off in the week and the baby slept in my room too. I didn't really get a choice in the matter about going, I was a live in nanny, so I recommend you ask if it is something she would be interested in? I think an uplift in her pay too for the time you're away is necessary.

No one is judging you for having a nanny. They are judging you for not wanting to spend time with your children on holiday. For me this was a time to play in the pool or on the beach together. With both parents not working this should be a lovely relaxed time together.

As @JanuaryJaguar said / no one is judging for using a nannY

just rang the fact a family holiday is that

to spend with your family - and im saying that as an ex nanny of 20yrs

many a time I’ve had kids at work in their family place and routine and parents gone away for sun or skiing break for 4/5 days

but a family holiday is that. You enjoy being in the pool with your kids

if you had said taking parents it’s slightly diff - they won’t be on call and with kids all day

as a paid nanny. Many friends who have done it have the kids most of the day or few hours daytime then evening and parents go out but they are working 10/12hrs a day

it is not a holiday for the nanny and that’s fair enough. They are being paid

equally on holiday the kids want their parents. Not the nanny and means they are sometimes a third leg and a costly one at that !

as I said before you will pay for everything plus an inconvenience fee for them being away from their home /friends and family

How much time were you were planning to put them in childcare whilst on holiday? Interesting that it was your partner suggested taking nanny with you, who also appears to be looking at a holiday that isn’t really suited to spending time with your DC.

We didn’t have any local family support, once DC appeared on the scene the type of holiday we went on changed and was very child focussed (DH rediscovered his joy of building sandcastles!) whilst DC were young. It was our time to have quality fun with DC

Yes, you should absolutely get a break on holiday. Your partner can get up with the kids in the morning while you rest etc.

Theresa difference between using a kids club a couple of mornings vs taking a full time nanny. Your original post made it sound like you'd barely see the kids on holiday.

Anyway, don't take your nanny, she'll be a like a spare part. Get your partner to do some solo time with kids and book a couple of kids club sessions if you want.

Use the childcare on site. Everyone else will be. We have done mark Warner with young kids, it's great as you get time to yourself to play sports and in the evening have an adult meal
or two. It's not all or nothing

Where would the nanny look after your dc? There’ll be your room, their room and communal hotel space. The nanny will need to be in your room to facilitate naps. Will you be taking a section of toys, craft stuff etc for the older child?

I’d use kids club for a couple of hours each day and enjoy the rest of the holiday as a family.

Interesting that it was your partner suggested taking nanny with you, who also appears to be looking at a holiday that isn’t really suited to spending time with your DC.

Indeed. Perhaps your partner hasn’t woken up to the fact that his holiday aims aren’t the priority anymore.

When your nanny has her statutory holiday dies he understand he’ll need to take time off to look after the children or does he expect you to do it all?

You seem very financially fortunate to have one child in full time nursery and a full time nanny whilst you’re on maternity leave.

I really don’t understand why people seem to think it’s so terrible for OP to take her nanny who presumably her children are bonded with rather than leave them with total strangers in a kids club. If she had posted she was thinking of bringing her mum to help, I’m sure she would have a very different reaction.

There is a risk your children will not settle at the kids’ club (my niece didn’t) so bringing the nanny would avoid that. Don’t blame you wanting some child free time on your holiday. You can still have plenty of quality time with them too.

Personally wouldn’t dream of putting such small kids into a holiday club - they won’t know the people minding them so you’re essentially leaving them with a stranger and not even the same one each day. Would they even take a baby?
Bring the nanny if you don’t want to spend time with them - at least it will be familiar face so much nicer and more containing for them.

If you take your nanny on holiday, you will need to cover her holiday when she is off... it is usual in the UK for the family to choose 2 weeks and nanny to choose 2 weeks, if you and your partner both work full time, some careful planning will be required, unless you have lots of holiday.

If you can cover it.. it could work well... What does your partner have in mind in terms of a more adventurous holiday?

You’re surely not going to leave your four month old baby at a club on holiday?

I think a morning off or an evening here or there is more typical. I’m shocked people would put their children in full time childcare on holiday. Makes me sad

also lol at you saying your child does nursery 8:30-5:30 every weekday but you parent the rest of the time…what’s that, an hour before and a couple afterwards?

Some parents want kids but not the responsibility.
Sorry op but look after your own kids.
Even on holiday you dont want to do it.

what i read most days on here is as followed.
If its not granparents and nannys its anyone else that will do the job just not the parents.

Dont have kids if you dont want to raise them or spend time with them.
My mother done the same she kept me so bloody busy with clubs i hated sending me off to summer camps and GP aunties etc i also went to bording school thank god my nan stepped in after 3 months of that i didnt really know my mother im not close to her im pretty much NC with her and she wonders why she was ok with getting CM from my dad every month and her child benefit but didnt seem to want me around.

It’s also that my DP would rather do a more adventurous holiday ie not a big resort with childcare so having nanny would allow us to do something more like that more easily.

So that ringb alarm bells for me in the context of a father also doing only 20% of the parenting/childcare.
Basically he wants his hols the way that works fir him rather than seeing the hols as a time as a family.
That you want and need time off is fair enough. We all need that. That your DP wishes he had a hols just to relax is fair enough but with his dcs? When he still won’t be the one to get up during the night, have his sleep disturbed etc… And he doesn’t see them that much due to his very important and busy job? That’s a Copt out sorry.

I can see the attraction of having your nanny with you, assuming she is happy to come with you.
The obvious issue is the cost.
The other is that, assuming you and her get 5 weeks hols, there will be one week where she’ll be on hols and you won’t….

@BookGoblin i didn’t say I didn’t want to see my kids at all on holiday; the holidays we’ve done the childcare has typically been morning or afternoon and then we’ve done stuff outside of this time & some evening babysitting when she’s asleep. My DP has only had both kids for maybe 10 mins whilst I’m in shower at home, I don’t think he’d feel comfortable taking them both to breakfast in a hotel on his own. I do sometimes have them both on my own but we try to minimise that as it’s really hard to meet both their needs and manage them. I know lots of other parents do and I take my hat off. We struggle. Last holiday was quite illuminating to us as we saw how different our child was to others. I think we need to parent our toddler differently. I’ve discussed this with nanny and she’s going to give us feedback on how we could try to manage our toddler better.

Well neither of you are going to get any better at looking after both children unless you practice.

You say you have quality time every day. But essentially you are feeding her and getting her ready for nursery and then in the evening giving dinner and again getting her ready for bed etc. also at her age 8-6 is a good amount of sleep.

you and your husband perhaps need to sit and honestly reflect on all the comments here. Everyone wants to spend actual time with their kids, and you do t really if you are honest with yourself sound like you want to

Frankly OP, your DP sounds pretty useless!

The fa t your DP, their FATHER, has ever looked after them fur 10 mins is the issue here….

That’s a pretty typical day for working parents. I’m not sure why you think it’s ok to criticise her for that.

My toddler climbs into bed with me where she cuddles and sleep takes and grabs my breasts.

erm that’s a bit weird.

and your husband has had the kids for 10minutes. Fucking hell, you need another husband not a nanny

@MyNewLife2025 whilst on maternity leave and with a nanny. It's not very typical.

sure she is.