Take nanny on holiday?

[ChampagneLassie]

My children are 2.5 & 4 months, nanny just started working with us last week for my 4 month old. 2.5 Ye old remaining in nursery. We’ve not discussed holidays and I’d assumed we wouldn’t bring her. But would it be a good thing? Worth the extra expenses? I’m looking at club med and childcare is £365 per child per week. So £730 total. Bringing nanny will cost much more than that…ballpark I reckon £3k (cost of bringing her plus that she’s working rather than on a weeks holiday. ) also she’s not going to have resources or local knowledge etc.
im wondering whether ita probably much more enjoyable for children to be in kids clubs.

I'm also a bit puzzled by this. I've nothing against working parents or nannies, but on weekends and holidays I'm desperate to spend time with my child. I've only ever used a kids club for the odd session if there is an activity she would particularly like or we want to snorkel (which she can do but doesn't like). Otherwise we hang out as a family.

Yep

Surely this is a wind up? You had children and now you don’t want to spend any time on holiday with them? You want to palm your four month old and 2.5 year old into kids club so you can have a holiday?

Honestly I think this post is really pathetic. Spend time with your children. I get you feel you need a break as do all parents but you have plenty of help.

Also, if your nanny goes that isn’t HER holiday and then she will be entitled to four plus weeks away from your family. What will you possibly do then?

Seriously shame on you and yes from your post I am judging.

Only if you make them fly economy with the kids whilst you're in first class

Have a look at how many live-in weekend nanny jobs there are advertised by nanny agencies - not everyone feels that way.

We tried our daughter at kids club aged 4 and she refused to be left. We never tried anything like that again with any of ours. Leave nanny at home and enjoy time with your little ones,

Why would it be a troll? We took our nanny on holiday many years ago now to make it easier to manage everyone's different activities, as we wanted to do longer hikes the baby couldn't go on and an older child was skiing. We must've had money to burn.

We holidayed with our young kids recently and I would have killed for a tiny bit of time to ourselves. Of course not the whole holiday but maybe kids club now and again.
We don't get much respite at home though and I often solo parent with little family help.
I would not judge anyone at all contemplating some childcare on holiday too!
It's all about what you're used to. If you're used to the help, then going without will obviously seem hard.
If I was in your situation OP it sounds like the childcare there is much cheaper so is there a particular reason you'd prefer your nanny? If so, and you can afford it and nanny is agreeable, go ahead and ask her, otherwise go with the childcare included.
Just because you're on holiday as a family it doesn't mean you can't have some quality alone time if the opportunity is there, in addition to the time spent as a family.
I get the hate on here, but I guarantee not one person on this thread would pass up some child free holiday time if offered! Especially at those ages.

Because of the way it's written, it's an inflammatory tone and because the baby is 4 months old, an extra detail to make everyone horrified

Oh and because the OP hasn't been back

And because if they had a 2.5 year old they'd have figured out their arrangements in previous holidays

Ah yeah hadn't thought of that. I forgot about everyone's desire to judge 😀

Can't you look after your own children on holiday? Presumably you have a nanny because you and your partner work full time? Surely the whole point of a holiday is to spend time together as a family!

If you are employing her you'll still have to give her 5.6 weeks holiday per year.

As others said why on a family holiday do you need childcare ?

either take with you and enjoy being parents without the stress of work. Or leave at home and do an adult week away for you and dh

if you do take your nanny - she may not went to go as it is not a holiday for us nannies and you need to discuss things like hours - duties - time off - meal times /who is in charge - nothing worse then Being undermined

you will pay everything for nanny. So travel. Accommodation ( needs her own room) food - trips - activities

plus many have an away from home charge as obv not with their friends /family and be able to do much in evenings

equally at home why pay costs for a nanny but also pay for nursery for 2.5yr. Ditch the nursery and just send to pre school 15hrs once 3

seems silly to pay for nanny and nursery

I'm trying really really hard not to judge. But I can feel myself cracking...

A holiday with two young children? Let’s be honest, it’s more of a relocation of chaos.

Parenting is exhausting, and it’s perfectly reasonable for parents to carve out a little time to recharge. After all, happy parents make for happy kids!

Why is everyone so judgmental about this? I can’t help but wonder if most of the critics wouldn’t even have the option of a nanny on holiday and are just projecting their frustration by painting the OP as a bad mum.

I hope you’re a troll OP, otherwise you’re someone who really should never have had children.

With the kids clubs at the holiday destinations you seem to favour I think bringing the nanny might be somewhat excessive. Presuming you'd have to pay for everything for her.
She won't be choosing to be there so you can't assume she'll find it appealing as it won't be a holiday for her at all. Maybe overwhelming in a place she's never been. And she doesn't really know you all that well yet.
If you feel you cannot function without the extra pair of hands it still might be better to use the local one linked with the hotel or another bilingual local childcare person who knows the area.

I’m assuming the OP doesn’t necessarily mean leaving the kids from 9 to 5:30 every day.

What if it’s just three hours a day? A short breather to recharge and be more present for the rest of the time.
Hardly scandalous, right?

I don’t think she is a troll as she’s posted before.

She’s talked about childcare for the week so to me that sounds like full-time childcare for the week. I could understand the odd session if you want to do something where children can’t be involved. However, I am assuming if a nanny is already involved for a 4 month old that parental time with DC is already limited so I would have wanted to maximise time with DC whilst on holiday.

We will be waving off DC to university next week, I can’t believe how quickly time goes from when they were little and actually want to spend time with their parents!

"Just" three hours a DAY? That sounds like loads of time to me. I think it's really sad.

Most kids club don’t take kids under 4 so both kids are too young. Some take 3 year olds.
My DC spend 1-2 hours max there not even every day and only when they choose to. OP you realise at some point you have to parent your own kids.

Maybe leave them at home with the nanny.

maybe she should make friends with the one who takes her mum as a holiday nanny

If I could've afforded it I'd have loved to have a nanny on holiday! A few hours each day where me and dh could relax together or go out after bedtime would have been bliss. The rest of the year most of the times we weren't directly parenting kids we were at work! And ours hated kids club.

But we couldn't. So it was the usual juggling around naps, managing behaviour, finding food they'd eat, doing shifts in pool etc. Still some great times and worth it, but I don't think having a bit of help would have harmed anyone!

Nanny needs holidays anyway so she holidays alone while you’re away. On holiday just book childcare for an evening or so if desperate but the idea is you take care of your own kids on holiday.