Would you have an objection to a lesbian aupair?

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Just curious

thnaks anna - she is not allowed anything with bread,flour, yeast, pasta or rice as thats not allowed in house

she will be living off beans and jackets all week i think

she is allowed to share their food,but it tastes horrible and have weird rituals they have to do, like leaning to left when eating

roll on next week!!

imananny - my partner is Jewish so I know how totally vile the food is .

My partner couldn't care less about all the Jewish rituals, and particularly not about the food ones (he used to work in the food industry and is a real foodie), but we still have to go to Passover, Rosh Hashana and other family dinners and try to eat the food...

I think your other nanny friend is very courageous btw, to live in a family with such strong religious constraints that are not her own. I hope it's a good job otherwise.

it is a fairly good job but always harder when living in, if she was live out, would be so much easier to survive their religious times

they dont force their wishes on her, but obviously they need a nanny who will try and respect their values.

btw - what is the leaning to the left all about?

I don't know - I'll ask and report back (not before tomorrow).

thanks

so does your man (did check you wrote he and not she when you said partner ) eat the foods mentioned below as they are banned this week, or is he not as dedicated as my friends employers are?

Oh gosh no, we don't pay any attention to kosher rituals at all in this household and we never ever buy special Jewish foods. We do eat mincepies, hot cross buns and Easter eggs though .

The only concession we make is if families that eat kosher come to dinner - I serve up food that won't offend their sensibilities.

Anna - you're in france aren't you? Do you find it hard to get Kosher there?

You've spotted the Mumsnet double standard, Simply Me.

It's totally fine to ridicule religion, but if you have anything less than an 'anything goes' attitude to sex, you are a bigot.

I had a Muslim au pair for while. I didn't know she was Muslim when I recruited her, and found out when she told me she did not eat meat.

It is totally not a problem having a Muslim in my household (we like people of faith), but I was concerned about having to provide vegetarian food. On further questioning, it appeared that all fish was fine, and that she could eat Halal meat. Fish was no problem for me to provide, although I was a bit worried about the expense of us all having fish for several meals, and Halal was not available in our local supermarket. I, at the time, worked in a Muslim area, and would occasionally go to a Halal butcher to get her a few cuts of meat - she didn't ask for this, and it was pretty much a 'gift'.

Halal slaughtering methods do not sit well with me, but I put the needs of humans ahead of those of animals, so was happy to go along with it for her.

captainmummy - we don't buy kosher food (ever) but it's everywhere if you want it (kosher deli in our street, kosher fridge at the local Monoprix etc).

However, this arrondissement (17th) of Paris is one of the most Jewish areas (along with Neuilly and the 16th for the bourgeois areas). I expect it's even easier in the 19th. Have absolutely no idea about the rest of France.

Not as long as she was fully committed to the Mothers helper role ;)

Not a bit. Why would it? Unless there was sexual activity around the kids, which I find hard to imagine. I would equally expect a heterosexual au pair to not be at it with a partner around the kids. Or bringing them home for the night. Keep it for nights off, perhaps?

Strange question but no I have problem whatsoever. We have had at least one lesbian au pair. I say least one because I wouldn't think to ask, it's just that, in this case we knew because her (lovely) GF from her home country came and spent a week with us.

This has jumped from 2008 to 2014!

We do love a zombie thread upheaval atm don't we?!