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Would you have an objection to a lesbian aupair?

291 replies

mishmash · 05/04/2008 14:07

Just curious

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Quattrocento · 05/04/2008 14:09

No. I am interested that you are stereotyping aupairs as female. A sizeable minority are male nowadays. I wouldn't object to a gay aupair either - in fact I've got one ...

meemar · 05/04/2008 14:09

no

barnstaple · 05/04/2008 14:10

No. Why?

shit · 05/04/2008 14:11

wtf?

chamaeleon · 05/04/2008 14:11

no, as long as she wasnt in your face about it. but i dont like people who are in your face about anything, so that would also apply to religion, food choices (in your face veggies really bug me, even tho i am veggie) etc. and i only thought that because it wouldnt occur to me to mention my sexuality at a job interview.

motherinferior · 05/04/2008 14:11

This is a joke, right?

pooka · 05/04/2008 14:12

No. Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

motherinferior · 05/04/2008 14:12

Are you convinced that you are such an irresistable babe that she'll ogle your dressing-gowned form with barely controllable lust? Or snog your friends?

No19 · 05/04/2008 14:12

Errmmm ... no.

Why?

Would you?

ScienceTeacher · 05/04/2008 14:12

I would really prefer that none of my aupairs are sexually active, tbh.

WanderingTrolley · 05/04/2008 14:14

No. I wouldn't care where she was from.

motherinferior · 05/04/2008 14:15

Would you like me to ask one of the MN lesbian mothers what they think? Or perhaps consult the Equality and Human Rights Commission, which takes up cases of discrimination against people on the basis of their sexuality?

yorkishbirdy · 05/04/2008 14:18

isn't the question offensive in it's own right?

If this is what piques your curiosity then I should think you need to find a new outlet asap.

WanderingTrolley · 05/04/2008 14:24

mishmash is 'just curious'

She hasn't given much information about why - she could have encountered someone else spouting negatively on the subject, it's not necessarily something she feels strongly about. I don't find the question offensive. It might just be idle curiousity. Let's assume she isn't a DM journo

LordGodAlmighty · 05/04/2008 14:26

The question isn't offensive in itself. For all you know Mishmash is thinking of becoming an au pair and wondering if her sexuality will be an issue with her host family.

expatinscotland · 05/04/2008 14:27

No

WanderingTrolley · 05/04/2008 14:28

LGA - fantastic name

Obv you're v against all homosexuality, unless you've been very badly misquoted.

hercules1 · 05/04/2008 14:31

No, mishmash. I would have no objection at all.

yorkishbirdy · 05/04/2008 14:31

hmm, ok, I am reserving my right to be offended pending further information!

For the record I do not think an employee's sexuality is any business of anyone unless it directly conflicts with the job they have to do (and I can't think of a single occasion where it would off the top of my head).

ImflightbutIcantlogintoday · 05/04/2008 14:31

Oh FGS.

not even worth replying.

Thought I'd try some nice patterns out though.

LordGodAlmighty · 05/04/2008 14:31

Judge not, lest you be judged.

mishmash · 05/04/2008 14:41

Firstly I have absolutely no objection at all and didn't mean to be offensive either - so I apologise if I came across like that.

And maybe I should have given the reason for my curiousity in my OP.

I have an ex aupair here at the moment on holidays with her best friend who has stayed with us numerous times in the past. They are very affectionate towards each other and in the past I thought it was a case of best friends missing each other but I think it is a bit more than that.

They make a cute couple and if they are then I would have never have guessed it until now and it just got me thinking and as Chamaleon said as long as someone wasn't in your face about it then I wouldn't have any objections.

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hercules1 · 05/04/2008 14:46

I wouldnt want an aupair to be snogging the face off anyone when looking after the children. Sexuality isnt the issue here.

motherinferior · 05/04/2008 14:48

oooh, d'you remember whoever it was who found her au pair in full flagrante with her (male) partner on the living room floor one evening?

I would feel miffed, I think, at the enviable display of youthful sexuality. And even more by the display of firm young flesh

QuintessentialShadows · 05/04/2008 14:48

I would find a lesbian au pair rather reassuring, at least she would not try run off with my DH. My dh is hot, and I am not.

Maybe I should state that as a necessity if I ever have one again?