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Childminder terminated contract on first day because of behaviour

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MrDaddio · 10/09/2021 18:09

Hi everyone. I was just looking for a little advice. It was our 4 year old's first day at his new childminders on Thursday. He started school on Monday.
He's usually very good except for one off incidents of pushing or hitting 2 or 3 times a year, but after his first stay with the childminder of only two hours she has said she can no longer have him because of his behaviour (hitting, throwing and pushing.) She gave examples, but it really sounds nothing like him. My hunch is that she just wasn't willing to spend enough time getting him settled and stimulated doing something.
Anyway, my question is: would any other parents have been happy with this happening to them if they knew it was unusual behaviour for their child? I am thinking of leaving a moderate/pragmatic review covering my dissatisfaction (nothing too angry, just disappointed and feel she should have done more.)

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Enwi · 17/09/2021 21:37

I think I’d rather she was honest from day one that she doesn’t feel she can handle his behaviour rather than drag things out. I do think it’s very easy to see from just 2 hours whether or not behaviour is going to be a problem, and clearly with your son she could. Her priority should always be her current mindees and I would be very surprised to experience a 4 year old hitting, throwing or pushing on their first day in a new setting. If she doesn’t feel she can keep the other children safe then her duty of care to them needs to come before your feelings.

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