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[MrsCurly]

Come and take my mind off it!

Suggest something indulgent we can do to distract ourselves.

Mrs C

Can I come and join you please? I saw this thread last week and smugly thought that I wouldn't need it (went in to labour with DD at 39+3) but here I am a week later and there is still no sign of anything happening. Only 3 days over so far so I suppose I shouldn't complain but I'm getting really grumpy about it - my parents are staying so they can look after DD when I go in to labour and then help out after the birth and they're due to go home next Monday so I'm using up all my postnatal help before the birth

AAGGGHHHHHHH - Sorry about this moan but I'm soooo disappointed. 40+13 today and just been to the midwife. She did a sweep and says cervix is still really far back - so far she could hardly reach it. Says it was 1cm but that's normal for second pregnancies so I am basically showing NO SIGNS of impending labour. Baby is currently halfway between OA and OP position and we think that may be what's holding off labour. As I have refused induction there's nothing to do but wait...but it's sooo depressing. What if the baby is ready but she's just not in the right position? Is she overcooked? GAH, I hate this.
Rant over....
Welcome Carikube - here's hoping your folks get to see your baby before they go home. I sympathise totally.
Lily, I agree, it can only be described as torture....
GG - absent heartburn can only be a good sign, hopefully means baby is dropping.

Saw mw today, she has booked an induction for Fri. I could hang on longer I think, but I just really want to get on with having it now, and if I have to have an induction then so be it, the important thing is to have the baby safely. I have one or two friends who have lost babies at term+ and the idea of refusing induction and then losing the baby is too horrible.

So, lots of baby thoughts before Friday please!!!

Hiya,

Can I join?

40+1 today (I know, I know, only JUST overdue...) but DS1 was born at 38+4 and so this is all new to me. The waiting, the stressing, the discomfort, the lack of sleep, the frickin' text messages!!!!

Please baby hurry up... Please.

Good luck Lily - still a while to go before Friday... x

madcatsazz My sweep was the same - 1.5cm, but 2nd DC so completely usual. Although I did have it at 39+4... Was desperate even a week ago! Got another booked next Monday for 41 week appt.

hey newmomma - we meet again!

Still nothing this end although lots of movement from baby last night got me hoping she was going to 'do something' but.....as per usual....nothing. 42 weeks today so booked for monitoring at the hospital tmw. Have decided with DP that we will book induction for next Tuesday (43 weeks) when I have decided I will finally admit defeat. Still hoping something will happen before then obviously but I'm beginning to think it never ever will!

As usual, sending labour vibes to you all (although if I could just have mine first, that would be lovely! )

oh madcat it has been so frustrating for you - does it feel any better to have an "end date" as such?! I really hope both you and Lily have your babies before the end of the week.

and newmomma and Carikube - can't believe there are more second timers who didn't go overdue the first time! No-one warned us about this!

Had niggly pains last night that lasted nearly 3 hours so was very hopeful but all came to nothing so still waiting here but only 40+3 so need to exercise patience still. Sigh.

GG - I think it feels good to have made a decision. Even if I change my mind nearer the date it feels good to be even remotely in control at this point!! FWIW, I too am on second pg and first was born at 39+5 so this is completely unexpected for me too. I almost envy your niggly pains though as have literally not had even a twinge. Nothing. Nada. Nil. No BH or anything. I'll second your 'sigh'

Oh, madcatsazz so sorry to hear you're so overdue. I don't know anything about it really and was thinking in the shower this morning about starting a thread to ask if anyone had just waited and waited with no induction or anything. And what happens - surely the baby must just come out sooner or later??

I had awful (sorry - tmi) upset tummy in the night last night and found myself hoping I'd wake up a little later having contractions. But no. Still here.

Its odd - I was so scared of contractions last time and this time I'd give anything to feel one!

And - on the induction front - a friend of mine had her baby (#2) last week by induction. She wasn't overdue but baby had been breech and then not and then breech and then not - right up until 40 weeks - so she requested an induction at 40 weeks when she knew the baby was the right way up. She said it was quicker and less painful than her first birth, so it sounded positive to me. She only did about 5 pushes and didn't even get the chance to use gas and air - but doesn't remember it being any more painful than her first!

I hate the thought of an induction (no MLU water birth) but I think by 42 weeks I'll be SO uncomfortable I won't care.
And I've been so caught up in getting my birth my way this time (things didn't exactly go to any plan last time) that its become all consuming. Baby was breech for me too for weeks - been in twice for an ECV to find out baby had switched to cephalic each time.

Just ran round after DS in the park and across the green for about an hour and now hoping the (little!) bit of exercise might have start something...

newmomma I've heard of a few people who have refused induction. In our area, they're fine with that as long you go in to hospital daily for monitoring to ensure that everything is still ok (as apparently the placenta can deteriorate the longer it goes on). For as long as everything remains ok, they let you hang on but the minute anything shows signs of giving up you are encouraged to have the induction.

A friend had her baby last week at 43 weeks after having her waters broken and everything was fine. I'm not desperately happy at the thought of being induced but I just want this little darling out now!

Newmomma - I started a thread on refusing induction a couple of weeks ago and the link is here if you want to have a read through for info. FWIW, the consultant I saw was really quite suportive and so far i haven't encountered that much pressure. The hardest thing is the emotional strain you put yourself through and the worry. However, I guess if everybody didn't have inductions, it would become the norm and we would have altered views on it. I just can't bear the thought of having to give up on all of my birth dreams. An induction to me means, no relaxed first stage at home, no gradual build up of labour, greater chance of interventions, greater interferance from hospital staff etc. However, I figure if I do decide to have one (thinking maybe at 43 weeks) then I will have given the baby a really good chance to be ready and maybe it will work with the prostin instead of the full blown drip. I just hate the thought of those chemicals being pumped into my system hours on end. Anyway... you can tell it's on my mind a lot! Apparently only 3% of people go over 42 weeks so you're very unlikely to go that far anyway.

As per usual, labour vibes to all

*supportive

Oh - thanks for the link - I'll read with interest.

I think I need to read-up a little more about what the various drugs are - the midwife I saw mentioned just breaking waters and I asked if that meant no drugs, but she said it would be in conjunction with something. A pessary to start with and then a drip I think after.

I'm a dunce...

Sorry you are still waiting. I had a baby boy on Saturday. Bit of a traumatic delivery, he was wrapped in the cord twice, ended in emergency c-section. Bah. Not quite the drug-free water birth I'd planned...

sorry you are still waiting madcats and others.

i had a wonderful home water birth last night, about 2.5 hours total labour, wonderful midwife, ds3 9lb 2 oz born about 2am at 41+2. still no name - maybe Albert? we still can't decide!

good luck to you all still waiting and hope it works out for you

weasle xx

congratulations belly and weasle!!! belly, sorry your birth wasn't as planned, hope you are recovering well. weasle, sounds lovely!

congratulations to belly and weasle on your little boys - hope your new arrivals are settling in nicely! I am glad you got your home birth in the end weasle.

Sorry to hear of the trauma, belly. Hope recovery goes well and you have lots of help on hand.

Congrats belly and weasle!!
Sorry you didn't get your water-birth belly, at least your little boy has arrived safe and sound.
Your homebirth sounds FANTASTIC weasle!
So envious of you both...

Still no sign from me. Every night I go to bed thinking "tonight I'll wake up and my waters will have broken, or I'll be having contractions"... Nada.

Hi all, i'm 11 days over today and going insane. This is my first and I've had a few BH, and at my 'sweep' last week I was less than 1cm and nowhere near ready. Going in to hospital tomorrow for monitoring and a sweep. Feeling uptight about it cos I really want a homebirth. But I want this baby too... Will be offered induction on Saturday, what to do???

Oh Hetty, now I feel bad - you're 9 days more overdue than me.

I've been undecided about an induction but I think I've finally decided to just wait and see. Sure I'll feel even more ready to 'get it out however' by 42 weeks, but madcatsazz started quite an intereting thread about not being induced - its quite an eye-opener. It seems most countries don't even consider 40 weeks 'term', like the UK.

Is there a point when they've told you they won't allow a homebirth anymore?

Hi everyone. Congrats to weasle and belly for your births.

Newmomma, nice to see you still here - sorry but I don't want you all to leave me still pregnant!!

Hetty, welcome, believe me, I feel your pain. I am 40+15 today and went for my first bout of monitoring today. It all went fine. I have to say I have a very understanding consultant who supported me so when the midwife realised why I was there today, she just about managed to refrain from making any "danger/risk" comments although I could see she was very uncomfortable with my opting for expectant management. It's a big consideration and I don't intend to go on forever (in fact booked in induction for next wednesday although I am not convinced I will turn up for it)but I feel while I and the baby are healthy, I don't want nature to messed with.

In answer to Newmommas question, I believe they have no right to take a homebirth away from you unless you opt for induction. There are lots of threads on here with links and support but even if the hospital are unhappy about your desire to homebirth because you're overdue, it is your legal right and they have to provide the cover. (I'm pretty sure that is the case). You may have a small fight on your hands though as they can be quite pushy. Having said all that, I completely understand the desire to "get this baby out" and that's one of the hardest things to ignore so there isn't really a right or wrong answer is there? Just do what feels right for you but make sure it's an informed choice, not a pressurised one. See my link in previous post for thread about induction.

Anyway, my cervix was still very very posterior today so I am officially not in labour (as if i didn't already know) but apparently this can change in a matter of hours when it's time so I'm keeping my chin up.

Hi all and congrats to weasle and belly.

Madcatsazz, don't worry there are still some of us around here. I'm still only 40+5 but totally fed up. Having a sweep tomorrow which I'm not really looking forward to but hoping that it will bring something on. I'm getting very annoyed with myself though as each new little twinge I get, I analyse it to see if I think it could be a sign of labour and I'm driving myself potty with it all. Baby would probably turn up if I stopped fretting about it....

I know the feeling Carikube. I had a bout of stomach pain which I knew was wind related but I almost convinced myself I was going into labour any minute.......but I didn't

Ah well, on with another evening of heartburn, discomfort and poor sleep....I love being pregnant!!

Right Madcatsazz, look into my eyes and repeat after me, you are going to go into labour tonight.

I am 41 weeks today and have somehow become a bit obesessed with your wait. In my head (ueterus?) I am convinced that we are linked so if you get it on then maybe it will kickstart my never-ending pregnancy.... maybe..

So come on lady get it on!!!

lol oranges, I'm trying, I'm trying.....right

I will go into labour tonight
I will go into labour tonight
I will go into labour tonight
I will go.........to bed and sleep fitfully, tossing and turning and wake up several times with sore hips and a noticeable absence of contractions....damn, lost focus there for a second
I will go into labour tonight!

if it's any consolation, I too am totally obsessed with my wait. It's become a bit like a bizarre scientific experiment to see if my body can actually do this - if I hadn't given birth once before I'd be convinced I was broken!

Oranges, you will go into labour soon, you will go into labour soon, you will go into labour soon....

I shouldn't be commenting as only 39 wks today, but want to lend support!! I was induced with ds1 at 40+10, and I ain't doing that again - ended up with emcs. This baby can come naturallyand don't care what the HCPs saqy [militant emoticon]. Good luck madcatsazz with your labour.