With the best intentions, and no disrespect, do you feel woman that have c-sections havent 'properley given birth'?

[CharlotteACavatica]

Do you ever feel you think that way even if you dont mean to??

With the best intentions, and no disrespect, do you feel that women who have formula fed haven't fed their babies properly?

FFS

I see this is a rich seam of really, really useful enquiry!!

i.e. most mothers go through that feeling of doubt (after a CS).

people like the OP shouldn't be allowed access to computers

I had 23 hours of labour and forceps and ventouse which thankfully worked as the next step was a c-section so how would that not have been giving birth properly?
You are not a troll and you have posted before on some sensible topics but surely you must have realised that this wasn't an appropriate question to post on mn?

With the best of intentions, and no disrespect, do you feel that ignorant people shouldn't be allowed on chat forums?

let's step away from the thread eh ?

Just to answer the op from a personal point of view my first birth was a c/s. The baby wsa breech and I was not even aware that I could ask to wait and see if the baby turned later (though she was still breech on the day).
I was terrified at the thought of having one, mortified at the pain and the cut and the bruising afterwards. Hated the no lifting etc for 6 weeks and the fact taht you still bled vaginally too!!
I felt that I had missed out on the naturalbirth. I was the only one in my antenatalclass to have a c/s and they all gave me the impression that they thoght I'd had the 'easy' option.
When i was expecting dd2 I was offered a c/s and I said no thanks. I had dd2 and dd3 naturally and although i had a few complications with dd2 I still think that natural birth was easier, less painful in the long term and took less time to recover from.

Ive have 2dc and both were sections. I dont think ive missed out on anything. After the first and expecting dd2 i did wonder about the natural birth and i was scared stiff. But it wasnt to be anyway and had another section. It certainly doesnt bother me, and i dont wonder about it now 7&4years later.

damn - I'm not sure I've done it properly at all - DS1 was a CS (I didn't even experience labour) but was breastfed....however I guess the CS cancels that out.

DS2 was bottlefed AND an induced ventouse delivery - so he's definitely a figment of my imagination (although I'm now worried as to who is racing around downstairs jumping on the chairs )

DS3 I gave birth to "properly"......but he's now bottlefed - so he's obviojsly not real either........oooo does that mean that I can spend all afternoon cleaning with DS2 "helping" without having to worry about sorting the baby when he cries - as he's not real

I have had both.I do feel like that about these celeb's. I needed my c section on my last baby. My poor sister inlaw has had two c sections and has never had the chance for a normal delivery and thats sad. Do you really mean these people who can't be bothered like the celebs O.P ?

Yes, good idea. Am joining you maryann. There are more interesting things to do on a friday afternoon.

I think it's complete ignorance and complete lack sensitivity...

They've not pushed a baby down their birth canal, if that's what you mean by properly.

I don't care enough, tbh, how other women give birth, to even think about whether they did it properly or not. Seriously, what do I care? It's not a competition. Baby safe + Mother safe = good birth.

oooo actually thinking about it........if I haven't "properly" given birth/fed any of my children that means I'm a free woman........think I may just go out - on my own - and go shopping

What kind of weirdo even entertains an idea like that?

Freak

Oh fgs dont get your nickers all bunched up you lot! i have 3 kids and have had c-sections with all 3, but my friend who recently had her third was told she would need a c-section due to breech baby (she had the other two vaginally), however he turned last minute and all worked out for her and she mentioned this morning of her fear and horror of having to have a c-section, she said she felt it was scary and seemed completley unnatural and she would feel deprived of a 'proper birth experience' she knows i have had sections and she was very respectful about it, and i could understand where she was coming from, our other friend agreed that mums must feel a little deprived of an 'element of nature' that comes with a vaginal birth, got me thinking thats all...

Hang on, did the OP come back and say whether she'd been feeling judged or was doing the judging herself?

And no, of course not, what a foolish notion - you have a baby in you, the baby is out of you, by whatever process this happens is "giving birth". Could come out of your nose and I'd think of it as a birth. Mind you, if you have a baby out of your nose, I'd say you have bigger problems than worrying if people think you've given birth "properly".

just re read the title .Of course it is. I had the C section , but that was just the final part of giving my little girl life.

Can you re-read your thread title please ? A bit offensive to be honest....

I think that you would have got better answers and less flak if you had given that explanation in your op.

Ah, crossed posts

Glad you didn't have nasal births, CAC.

I think you just phrased the question badly charlotte. Do you feel like you have missed out?

oh my goodness, it had never occured to me that I've spent the past 14 years bringing up children who weren't real. I could have been doing something useful with my life instead.
(disrepect to OP intended)

I had a cs with DD. Induction failed so after 50 hours I had a cs. I gave birth. Okay, not via the normal method. But I still gave birth to my child. Just via a different route and with a bit more help than might have ordinarily been required.

I have never once felt I haven't given birth! Properly or otherwise!

yes people having a baby is giving birth whichever way it comes out, im talking about the emotions involved, and by everyones response theres obviously some serious sensitivity to the subject - why would that be if people werent bothered??