Being forced to breastfeed

[butterfly92]

Hi everyone. I am due next month and already decided I am going to breastfeed for the first couple of weeks or so then move onto bottles but my OH is absolutely adamant that I am not bottle feeding our baby and that I must continue to breastfeed all the way until he is finished (2 - 3)!

I said sorry that is not happening it is my own personal choice and I am going to formula feed once I have breastfeed for a couple of weeks but then he said if I don't then he will pay for someone else to nurse him instead. He is very set in his ways.. It's either breast or he will get someone else to nurse.

What do I do? It is really making me dread childbirth I really don't want any issues

OP are you ok? I hope all the point missing lactivism, both overt and stealth, hasn't put you off continuing to access support on your thread. Agree with a pp you should try and talk to your midwife.

I feel your pain OP.I would like to breastfeed for as long as possible but that's my choice and DH has offered support should I decide to do otherwise. Sometimes hearing each other out is the solution .Maybe both calm down and express to each other why you both feel the way you do .
Happy mum=Happy baby but your marriage and the state of things makes having a baby very wonderful .
Best to sort things out than to dig in both your heels .

Hi, OP
I'm commenting on this thread because I am actually a wet nurse (although not currently as I am pregnant!)
I am self employed and I would never, ever- and neither would any other wet nurses I know- feed or supply breast milk without the full consent of both parents. I have a form both parents need to sign to give consent. My milk is thoroughly tested for drugs/disease regularly and for those wondering how it's done- i donate an agreed amount of milk to the family, and also go to the family regularly to physically breastfeed the baby if required. There are so many different reasons families choose to hire me, each of them all personal and individual.
My advice is to take it how it comes when baby is here. I was adamant I would feed until 6 months, and then it ended up being over 2 years, and I became a wet nurse too. Your opinion may change when baby is here, and also so might his. Please don't stress about it, he can't get anyone to feed your baby without your consent too.

I think the OP may have found a resolution almost 2 years later...

😂😂 How funny I am so dopey! I do apologise, I obviously didn't realise I was on 'search mode' instead of on my usual home page.

I wonder what the OP did in the end...?

Zombie thread etc