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If you have an arsey comment about breastfeeding

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SunglassesPolarBear · 03/05/2009 12:43

come and say it here please, let's get them all out in the open and in one place.
So far today I have seen a comment along the lines of "don't know why you bothered" to someone who was please to have reached 6 months of excl bf, and an incredibly rude and unhelpful comment on a thread started by a woman who was worried that her supply would be affected by her DH giving their 10 day old a bottle of formula. Snotty comments (whether to bfers or ffers) are NOT WELCOME on those sorts of threads, so go on, offload here.

Oh, before we start, some myths I'd like to bust:

  • Improved health outcomes of bf babies are not down to social class - that has been accounted for
  • People bfing past 3 weeks / 6 months / a year are not doing it just for their own sakes
  • It's not only OK to bf in public "if it's done discreetly"
erm..sure more will come up
OP posts:
MrsMattie · 03/05/2009 21:07

Agree with parsley. The generalising gets my goat - and it works both ways.

Like you can magically tell what sort of person someone is and what their experiences are by whether they are sticking their tit or a teat in their baby's mouth. Like, whatever...

wastingmyeducation · 03/05/2009 21:52

Can I be actually arsey and say that I don't like the 'making the decision together' line ABetaDad. Plus, there is a difference between ff and bf, whether or not you personally feel that way. Or was that you pretending to be arsey?

Mummy2LZ · 03/05/2009 22:17

I love BF it the feeding takes longer (in my case) than ff and it means I have a good excuse to sit and read my book.
FF DD1 BF DD2
To lazy to wash, sterilize and prep bottles although fully respect other peoples decisions and know first hand of medical reasons to FF.
Also hate the term "Artificial Feeding" as though you are pouring crap down their throats because you can't be arsed to BF!!

StercusAccidit · 03/05/2009 22:26

"Is he hungry AGAIN? Maybe you aught to try bottlefeeding"

Its my pet hate and makes me want to get up and strangle the living breath out of whoever opened their gob and said it.

Well, i WOULD if DS wasn't almost constantly attached atm lol

Don't give a shit for the tutters when i'm BF in public..don't like it? Then of course you are welcome to go and sit in the toilet till i'm done feeding my baby.

Mummy2LZ · 03/05/2009 22:31

Are you still feeding her????

She's to old now!!

We will have to do something about this BF thing soon!!

Are you still having your night time problem?

Argghhhhhhhhhhhhh

Jacksmama · 03/05/2009 22:34

"We" will have to do something about this BF thing???? Like what?
Oh. I know. You go be a dear and fuck off now, and I'll feed my child any way I want to, thank you!!

gabygirl · 03/05/2009 22:34

"I fully support BF and FF as a method of providing a fully balanced and nutritional meal for a baby - there that should equally annoy all sides"

I have a problem with your logic betadad. Breastmilk is nutritionally complete. How can artificial milk be 'complete' if it doesn't have most of the 'ingredients' in it that breastmilk does? Unless evolutionary processes have gone horribly astray and all those elements in breastmilk that are not in artificial milk actually have no purpose in the human body?

"it was just a means of getting nutrition into a baby". What - like having sex is 'just a means of getting sperm into your uterus' when you're trying to conceive a baby? Ah well, I suppose it is for some people. It's not for most of us though!

Jacksmama · 03/05/2009 22:35

LOL gabygirl!

FlappytheBat · 03/05/2009 22:36

People who breast feed are too mean to spend money buying formula milk, bottles and sterilising equipment.

Mummy2LZ · 03/05/2009 22:39

Jacksmama

StercusAccidit · 03/05/2009 22:42

I BF cos i'm too tight to fork out for all that stuff

Oops did i say that out loud

Jacksmama · 03/05/2009 23:23

Yes you did

talking · 03/05/2009 23:31

Hi all. I ff DD after 2 weeks following a c-section cos she was starving, I was exhausted and she sucked so strongly i was in agony. DH (not so DH at the time) was obsessed by BF. Turns out his whole family are!

It makes so sad and angry that there is a whole argument (and it is a fierce argument) for and against bf. Why can't mothers, whether its their first or fifth baby, receive support from every and any source to tell them that as long as baby is fed and is feeding, then that is all that matters.

Give mothers the information to make up our own minds then let us get on with it (and provide daily bf nurses to show us how to do it if we need help)!

StercusAccidit · 03/05/2009 23:36

I did

Well i spose i must put the other foot in the mouth and repeat what i did the other day.

DS is 4 months....nearly. Say 'bottle' to him.. not interested. Say 'boobies' he starts smiling, giggling, and trying to lift up my top.

Good training eh lol and goes to show

God can you tell i've had 2 glasses of some dubious looking stuff from the alcohol stash (not good when BF )

talking · 03/05/2009 23:38

Stercus, sounds like my DH .

tiktok · 03/05/2009 23:50

talking, you say "Why can't mothers, whether its their first or fifth baby, receive support from every and any source to tell them that as long as baby is fed and is feeding, then that is all that matters."

I'll tell you why mothers should not be told this: because it's not true and it's not kind.

If a mother is having problems breastfeeding, what an insult, what a trivialisation, to tell her it doesn't matter how she feeds.

I agree with you that mothers need support. But that's not support!

StercusAccidit · 03/05/2009 23:52

Aw bless

Hope you're as proud as i am

hehehe

talking · 03/05/2009 23:53

Hi Tiktok.

Sorry, , of course the mother's feelings matter. I need to explain myself: the family I married into is OBSESSED with bf, to the extent that my SIL told me that our mutual BIL took the bottles and formula away when our mutual SIL wanted to ff.

talking · 03/05/2009 23:57
  1. The baby has to be fed, either by bottle or by breast or by a combination of both.
  1. For some of us, bf is not a possibility. With me, i had to stop due to exhaustion and PND.
  1. Don't JUDGE ff and bf mothers one way or the other. Why are ff mums criticised?
StayFrosty · 04/05/2009 00:03

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talking · 04/05/2009 00:03

That would be my DH, bf until 3!

talking · 04/05/2009 00:05

My in-laws and DH want all the females in their family to bf even if they are physically or emotionally unable to do it and the child needs to be supplement with formula cos it is underweight.

Where are the mother's feelings in this instance?

tiktok · 04/05/2009 00:11

talking, the heavy-handed bossiness of the sort your in-laws seem to specialise in is obviously wrong...and as you say, disregards the mother's feelings. No excuse for it

Jacksmama · 04/05/2009 00:19

Tiktok, if you have a minute, could I please have your advice here or here - I'm having a painful problem - thank you so very much!!

Divvy · 04/05/2009 06:57

I said to dh that I would "try" again, when our latest dc was born. Got to end of week 1, still going ok. He said, ok just "try" till he is 2 weeks, so then we can start to go out.

At around 5 months old dh said, you going to bf till 2 years then? I said I will try

ps we do go out, but dh cant stop standing "on guard" in front of me, while out though! I know he dont feel comfy with it, in public but is 100% behind me now, or is that in front?