If you have an arsey comment about breastfeeding

[SunglassesPolarBear]

come and say it here please, let's get them all out in the open and in one place.
So far today I have seen a comment along the lines of "don't know why you bothered" to someone who was please to have reached 6 months of excl bf, and an incredibly rude and unhelpful comment on a thread started by a woman who was worried that her supply would be affected by her DH giving their 10 day old a bottle of formula. Snotty comments (whether to bfers or ffers) are NOT WELCOME on those sorts of threads, so go on, offload here.

Oh, before we start, some myths I'd like to bust:

• Improved health outcomes of bf babies are not down to social class - that has been accounted for
• People bfing past 3 weeks / 6 months / a year are not doing it just for their own sakes
• It's not only OK to bf in public "if it's done discreetly"

erm..sure more will come up

or the reply could be' bottle feeders care more about their own vanity than they do about their children welfare'

Riven - would you look at this thread for me. Am sweating! here

hahaha@Frosty thats coz they were on ice...mine are very good too after a total of almost 24 months of nipple tuggin..

For dd1 I had to put her on a pillow to bf.

For dd2 I don't.

Damn it.
dc 3 will be on the floor whilst I am in a chair.....

I am still BFing and my tits are starting to sag. Actually, make that "tit", singular. Only my left one is sagging. The right on is as nice and perky as ever. Seriously - my left nipple hangs an inch lower than the right.

So what category does that put me in???

I know - my left tit is sagging because I'm one of those smug self-satisfied judgy-pants mummies who plans to BF until DS weans himself at age 14... and my right one isn't, because I would gladly strangle with barbed wire anyone who makes a judgy comment about FF in front of me because I now have two friends who can't BF because of previous (necessary, not vanity-induced) breast surgery.

Whooo-hooo, I"m solidly in both camps, and I have the tits to prove it!!!

Oh, and a good response to "aren't you feeding her yourself" would be "of course not, that's my invisible friend's hand holding the bottle!".

Shame fences in different fields rofl.

Sorry Jacksmama .

Mine in different counties and my right nipple hasn't been seen in weeks anyway, otherwise I would never comment.

No, no, I was joking!! ROFL'd at the mental image of a fence dividing my skinny chest and my boobs in different fields!! We could actually take that farther and make it a political statement...
Let's see, my left boob is saggy, which clearly means it belongs to the left-wing liberal party that supports BF, and my right is perky, so it belongs to the staunchly upright right... ooh, we can go places with this!!

Oh good [phew]

And on that note did you know M.Thatcher breast fed. Bet her left nipple pointed to the right!

So are you favouring the left or right - this could form your childs political and social stance in life.

Oh jeez, tree, don't worry - I've made it a firm policy to remember that I will not be insulted on MN unless someone actively tells me to f--- off or calls me a twat, simply because you can't tell emotional meaning in a post (unless it's liberally slathered in emoticons, like mine tend to be, LOL)... but my boobies are a bit of a running joke in my family anyway because they were so not-there before I had Jackbaby, and then were extremely impressive, and are now heading south... so the idea of them diverging into separate fields was .

However, to answer your question (here, sort this one out for me): we started with a definite preference for my left (the now-saggy one). My poor right breast suffered a cracked and bleeding nipple for the first few weeks, and then mastitis, so I tended to nurse on the left and use my pump on the right to store up milk for when I returned to work. My left breast turned into the super-producer (eeeeeeeenormous supply) but didn't let down very well for the pump. Whereas my right let down great for the pump but was still sore for the first few months of his life. Now, however, he and I are often more comfortable if he nurses on the right!!

Sooo... what does that say about my politics? (Or rather, my boobs' politics?)

And I did not know about Lady Thatcher... I think that's pretty cool!

My colleague told me in disgust that there was no need for breastfeeding in this day and age, as "we have evolved past that now, thank you very much!"

WTF????????????????????????? Does your colleague believe in Aldous Huxley-type procreation, then, as well?

I think your boobs are a great example of cross party working. Collaboration and all that. But they seem to ignore the history of 3 party politics in the UK, so if left is LibD and right is MaggyT it seems labour will have to wait for a 3 breasted woman.

Shame.

Good advice - I am a bit nervous on mn. Am bad vibe phobic. Except with dh.

D - are ff mums cylons then?

There I did it. An arsey comment!

Didn't mean it by the way

No, the Labour Party is represented by my bits down below.

RedEmma - Well said:

"Infant feeding is only important in that the infant gets enough of an appropriate, nutritionally suitable diet. Breastmilk or formula milk is fine."

I said similar but got flamed:

"I fully support BF and FF as a method of providing a fully balanced and nutritional meal for a baby - there that should equally annoy all sides"

I find the differing responses to my post and your post intertesting. I agree with you anyway and I see Parsley3 does as well.

Sneaky - I agree with you too.

idontbelieveit - I wish I had been there when the nurse said that to you. I would have had a go at her on your behalf!. I can be quite impressive when I get on my high horse.

ABD, you only had one comment over your initial post......to which you responded

"I think your comment does illustrate though the axis around which the entire BF and FF arguement revolves. Some women who can BF feel they are doing something somehow better for their baby than a woman who is FF because, as you have said, they feel breast milk is 'better' and more 'complete' than formula.

The BF versus FF debate really does hang on one group of women who FF being made to feel inferior to another group of women who BF. Not all FF women feel inferior and not all BF women feel superior of course but that is the underlying discourse contained in the judgey comments I read on MN and elsewhere and the source of so much pressure and guilt some women feel who cannot BF"

It was for that that you were flamed!

Me too...