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Anyone interested in an 'extended' bfers support thread?

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lilysma · 01/02/2009 11:14

Not sure what I mean by 'extended' exactly - maybe it's a self defined thing?

I define myself as an 'extended' bfer because I hardly know anyone else bfing a child as old as mine (DD is 26 months) and feel the need to discuss some issues with people also doing this and wonder if anyone else does??

Anyone up for an informal support thread on this?

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HaventSleptForAYear · 03/02/2009 13:04

Iatemakkapakka unfortunately MY DS doesn't say anything cute when he wants milk either.

He points at my chest and says, "more more" and if I say "wait a minute" he screams in a really angry voice MOOOOOOORRRRE .

But he is so cute when he is feeding - luckily DH thinks so too.

Am dreading visit to mil's next month - not sure what the reaction will be.

mawbroon · 03/02/2009 13:09

biskybat - I know I don't need her to approve, but what I do need her to do is to stop telling ds that he is too big and doesn't need milk from mummy any more.

I think the easiest way to achieve this is to give her some information. She clearly doesn't believe me when I tell her the facts, so reading it from elsewhere might help her get her head round it.

milou2 · 03/02/2009 13:48

Quick hallo from an ex-extended breastfeeder here. Looking back it was all worth it, though tiring. My 2 did the exploring my teeth thing at a certain age, whatever that was. Sorry can't remember the age. Good luck to everyone in the middle of it.

Gorionine · 03/02/2009 14:15

milou, when were you sure it was time to stop?

RoRoMommy · 03/02/2009 15:07

Okay this will have to be a quick one but I wanted you guys to know I am serious about being a part of this community!

Iatemakkapakka hi! Great to be on another thread with you! I am looking forward to catching up here!

Me: DS is 22 months and a bit, very active and a happy little boy. I WOH as solicitor and bf as and when he wants (he asks for Tito, no idea why!), which is probably every thirty to forty minutes in the evenings and throughout the night maybe 4 times. We co-sleep and I bf to sleep most nights. I stopped pumping at work last year in august I think, what a relief!

DH and mum who lives with us are mostly supportive but have murmured inquiries of how long I will carry on, my response is "only DS knows!"

Happy to be here!

looseleaf · 03/02/2009 15:58

Hello, just wanted to say hi too as delighted to find this thread.

(Am bfding 2 year old daughter and struggle to get her to eat many solids - I haven't read the whole thread but delighted to hear from anyone else whose breastfed toddler doesn't want to eat!)

theLoneFeeder · 03/02/2009 16:24

Does anyone's little one break off from playing to wander over and demand 'num-nums' and then only try each one out for literally a couple of seconds before wandering off again??? My 14 month old has only recently started doing this...is it just to check he still can d'you think???

BouncingTurtle · 03/02/2009 17:16

Yes DS(13mo) sometimes does this, kicks up a huge fuss until I feed him and then feeds for about 3 seconds

biskybat · 03/02/2009 18:15

Mawbroon, hope I didn't offend you, it wasn't my intention. I don't know what your MIL is like. I just get tired of explaining all the benefits sometimes, so with certain people I just refuse to discuss it. This is only with people I feel aren't interested in learning but just have an inbuilt prejudice which I won't be able to change...

Hope you are able to bring her round to your way of thinking and she becomes more supportive

Had a lovely day out in the snow with DD and am knackered now, hopefully she will sleep tonight

Stefka · 03/02/2009 18:35

theLoneFeeder - my DS does this sometimes!

StealthPolarBear · 03/02/2009 20:54

looseleaf, my 21 month old DS doesn't really eat. Snacks very happily but refuses meals. Is OK at nursery though - not sure why

catweazle · 03/02/2009 20:55

Ooh another one for num-nums

Mine does the teeth thing too, and I really get that "all touched out" feeling. When we've had a lot of feeds complete with rolling (bum in air- why?!) and nibbling I've sometimes put her down and had to ignore the screaming because I just can't bear it any more.

It is nice tho when she hasn't fed for a while, settles down and her eyes glaze over with pleasure. Those times keep me going.

preggersplayspop · 03/02/2009 21:04

Hello, can I join in? My DS is 20 months now. I have toyed with the idea of weaning but keep coming round to the conclusion that there is more benefits from continuing than stopping now. I don't know how we would have got through teething without it.

I don't know any other extended breastfeeders within my circle of friends so it gets a bit lonely at times! My DS is largely supportive although the other day during a row he did accuse me of a 'ridiculous earth mother approach to mothering'. I was so . He has apologised now!

Sazlocks · 03/02/2009 21:15

I would like to join too please. My DS is 12 months and I have started to a get a few strange comments about "still" breastfeeding ! My DS isn't that interested really apart from 1 big feed a day but I am hoping he will keep going with that for a while longer..............

BouncingTurtle · 03/02/2009 21:21

DS tends to randomly kick his legs. He also likes to rest a hand on my boob too which is vast improvement on a couple of months ago when he used to dig his fingers into my boob. His face is so cute when he is feeding, his eyebrows go up like he is totally concentrating

IAteMakkaPakka · 03/02/2009 21:25

RoRo: "Only DS knows" - I love it, I'm committing this to memory for future use! Glad to hear you are well and I bet you're glad to see the back of pumping. I only expressed once a night for a few months and that was bad enough!

I am in great admiration for you guys who can tolerate the nipple twiddling. My nipples are strictly off limits for little fingers. Urgh, I can't bear fiddling!

mawbroon · 03/02/2009 21:52

biskybat - no offence taken. We are hoping to have another one, so even if ds was to self wean overnight, the issue would crop up again in a couple of years, assuming bfeeding went the same way of course.

RobynLou · 03/02/2009 22:06

I'd love to join in - still feeding a boob obsessed 18 month old here, with no sign of stopping.
I am lucky though in that out of 7 of my nct group 5 of us are still bfing - the other 2 fed till 12months, we're quite unusual, I'm constantly counting my blessings to have stumbled into such a great group of friends :-)

whomovedmychocolate · 03/02/2009 22:46

By way of update DD is now self-weaning (she's 2 years, 3 months)

Actually I'm really proud of her, but she's gone in a week from having five breastfeeds a day to one today.

DS is still robustly nursing away though.

Grendle · 03/02/2009 23:02

Can I join twice then [winks]

Ds still feeds a handful of times a week aged 3yrs 9 months.

Dd feeds maybe 5 times per 24hrs aged 18 months. She seems to have cut back a bit in the last month or so.

Bit of an old hand extended feeder, tbh here, as I guess if 12 months is 'extended' then I've been extended feeding longer than not IYSWIM?

BouncingTurtle · 04/02/2009 07:32

Wow Robyn, that is amazing - and very unnusual given bfing rates in this country

There are a few of us now, fabulous!

CantSleepWontSleep · 04/02/2009 08:25

wmmc. I can't see dd wanting to stop when she sees her brother feeding all the time. I guess that your dd has less jealousy issues than mine!

Stefka · 04/02/2009 08:47

Anyone get fed up of the night feeds sometimes. I really want a decent nights sleep.

mawbroon · 04/02/2009 08:48

at all you tandem feeders. I would love to, but just can't seem to get pg. I have been ttc for the last 2yrs, but my luteal phase has been shortened, presumably by the breastfeeding, and it's just not happening.

I have tried cutting down (no joy), stopping night feeds (no joy, and ds because a disaster so we started again), agnus castus (no joy) and am currently on progesterone cream to see if I can lengthen my LP.

I have decided to wait until ds self weans though, rather than force him to stop

Anyone else on this thread in the same boat?

CantSleepWontSleep · 04/02/2009 08:55

I for one will be overjoyed when you get pregnant again mawbroon. Was so sad for you last time. Have you seen your GP about this? Is there a specialist that he can refer you to? Or is it a case of they won't do anything whilst you're still bf?