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Anyone interested in an 'extended' bfers support thread?

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lilysma · 01/02/2009 11:14

Not sure what I mean by 'extended' exactly - maybe it's a self defined thing?

I define myself as an 'extended' bfer because I hardly know anyone else bfing a child as old as mine (DD is 26 months) and feel the need to discuss some issues with people also doing this and wonder if anyone else does??

Anyone up for an informal support thread on this?

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mawbroon · 04/02/2009 09:01

Oh yes, been to the GP. They won't do any tests until I've stopped.

Ach, I like to moan about it on here, but it's not that bad. I would hate to wean ds and then still not get pg. Or to have to deal with a whingy forced to wean ds and early pregnancy nausea and exhaustion.

BouncingTurtle · 04/02/2009 10:26

But people can get pg while bf, so I think it is unfair for them not to give you help just because you are bfing!
I'm thinking about TTCing in the summer.

luvaduck · 04/02/2009 11:05

first try TTC (TMI) last night so will let you know

BurningBright · 04/02/2009 11:30

Can I join, please? DD is two years and five months and still breastfeeding at least twice a day, often more often than that on non-work days.

showmeyourpuku · 04/02/2009 11:46

ooh roromummy, nice to hear someone else who has a nighttime feeding machine! My DS1 is 19mo and feeds about 3 times in the night - but he doesn't go to bed until about 10pm! And evenings are a craze of little feeds and usually two mouthfuls of dinner.

Am tandem feeding (and bedsharing) with our DS2, 4 1/2mo, so feel like sometimes I spend the whole night rolling from one side to the other feeding little children who would otherwise starve to death in four seconds!

RobynLou · 04/02/2009 13:35

It is very impressive that so many of my group are still going - but i wouldn't know if i hadn't known them all from the start iykwim? i'm the only one who bf's in public still and one of them admitted that she's actively lied about it because she doesn't want to be judged...
it does make me wonder if many more are at it in secret!

whomovedmychocolate · 04/02/2009 14:32

Can'tsleepwon'tsleep - DD was just like that till about a week ago then suddenly changed. She still sees DS feeding and says now and then she's jealous but she's not jealous of the fact he's feeding but just wants attention and DH has been stepping in and saying 'hey, do you want to draw a picture or go out for a walk' and distracting her. Which seems to have done the trick. We also read her books while feeding DS which seems to help.

I think she's suddenly discovered it's quite boring to sit down and nurse for ages frequently and lots more fun to run around and do stuff.

I'm a bit sad about it actually, my little girl is not so little anymore

RoRoMommy · 04/02/2009 15:31

Wow showme, I am so impressed with tandem night feeding!

Happy to see such a big group forming!

showmeyourpuku · 04/02/2009 16:32

I think DS2 sometimes feeds less than DS1! they just feed and go straight to sleep again, I hardly even wake and sometimes DS1 is in our bed and I have no memory of how he got there or whether I fed him or not! So it's pretty easy

theLoneFeeder · 04/02/2009 16:48

OMG showme . I find it hard feeding one through the night, never mind 2! [tired emoticon]. You must be a very selfless Mummy .

KristinaM · 04/02/2009 16:52

Can i join? My DS2 is 3 years one month and still bf. Over christmas / new year we managed to get him night weaned, which has helped a lot. he still wants to feed before and after naps and if he is upset. Or any time he sees me sitting down (which isn't very often)

BouncingTurtle · 04/02/2009 19:22

Ds is feeding 3 times a night - it is tiring. We did try night weaning him with some success but it all went to pot again when he cut tooth number 8. Dh suggested nightweaning again next week then I reminded him that ds is having his MMR next week, so probably not a good time to be night weaning!

mawbroon · 04/02/2009 19:56

LOL showmeyourpuku - I would be rubbish at night weaning because I too find myself in bed with ds latched on and have no idea how long he's been there, or how I managed to walk to his room without even remembering!!!

Have decided to leave things with MIL for now. But if she brings it up again, I will ask her if she is worried about it. If she says yes, then I will offer to give her info.

IAteMakkaPakka · 04/02/2009 20:55

I'm quite relieved not to be the only one who can find a child in their bed in the morning and have no recollection of going to get said child during the night - DP and I quite often wake up and disagree about who brought him through!

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lilysma · 04/02/2009 20:59

Wow, wow, there are so many posts I don't have the energy to read them all tonight! DD was up at 5.30 this morning and I've done a hard day's work so I've got shopping bags under my eyes. Looking forward to reading them all tomorrow ...

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Mummy2LZ · 04/02/2009 23:20

I would love to join.
I am BF my 16 month old DD2 and still enjoying it.
DH not too keen but never really has been, did support me and helped out when she was younger but mentioned formula and dummies alot which made me even more determined to keep going.
I was unable to BF DD1 as she was diagnosed with a genetic condition at 5 days old which meant she couldn't break down galactose in any kind of mammals milk so this also made me determined to feed DD2 myself.
She was a dream newborn to feed and took to it so well. I had her in Australia and I found the support there second to none.
I have come across Drs and Health visitors over here who have advised me to stop feeding 6 months ago!
Also seen the treatment my sister received when she had her DD in August.
Not suprised BF no's are so low.
Anyway I am still feeding and will continue until she is at least 2 I hope.
Will be sad when I have to stop.

Bettymum · 05/02/2009 13:18

Has anyone else had the problem of suddenly developing really sore nipples after a year of happy BFing? I have just done a pregnancy test to make sure I'm not pg!! I have had v. sore nipples for a couple of weeks and although DD has teeth coming through she's not really biting - this pain is different from the pain of the odd bite, it's more like the achy pain when you first start BFing a newborn.
Or is it just me?

theLoneFeeder · 05/02/2009 13:58

Hmnnn...my DS doesn't actually bite me, but he does kind of rub his sore gums on my nipple as he feeds, which makes them v.sore. At one point it developed into a blister from all the rubbing! Could it be something like that perhaps?

BouncingTurtle · 05/02/2009 14:26

I have noticed any damage but yes my nipples are very sore but it is due to ds's teeth, it was very painful last night. I do remember having this before when he first started getting teeth, and then it getting better, so I'm hoping this will pass.
Oh he'll drop night feeds

mawbroon · 05/02/2009 20:04

I just have to tell you about this very funny converstation that ds and I have just had.

We were lying in his bed feeding and as usual he was twiddling the other side.

He calls anything to do with milk/boobs/nipples "milk", so the convo went like this:

ds - mummy, what are these lumpy bits round your milks?
me - these are my montgomery's tubercles
ds - what?
me - montgomeries tubercles
ds - what are they for?
me - they make oil to keep mummy's milks soft
ds - do they have sparks?
me - no, I don't have sparks in my milk
ds - do you have chemicals?
me - everything is made of chemicals
ds - mummy I'm a puppy.

I would love to know what goes on in a 3yos mind. Sounds like fun! Sparking milk.

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lilysma · 05/02/2009 20:40

Heehee, you are very accurate in your responses to ds! DD (2 and 2 months) asks me 'what are those?' pointing to same thing but I just say 'nipples'. She thinks this is very funny for some reason.

DD doesn't twiddle the other nipple 'cos I really can't stand this so barricade it with multiple layers of clothing, but she does poke me repeatedly and rhythmically (sp?!) in the belly button, which really hurts after a while, especially when her nails need cutting. When I ask her to stop poking she puts on a cute face and says 'tickly under there' and pretends she's really just tickling me. She knows I won't refuse to let her tickle me so it works every time

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preggersplayspop · 05/02/2009 21:23

Oh my nips are so sore at the moment as well. My DS seems to be sucking really hard. I think its teeth coming through so he's using me as some kind of pain relief but its just transferring the pain to me!

DS is also a big twiddler so the one that's not being sucked to smithereens is being twiddled instead.

glitterkitty · 05/02/2009 21:38

Mawbroon- I'm also hoping to conceive again- ds is 21 months now and we have been trying...well since birth!

However, he's a terrible sleeper so I guess everything happens for a reason- can't imagine being pg and also getting up at least twice a night to him (sometimes every hour or 2 if teeth are looming).

I'm 36 and it took me nearly 4 years to get pg last time- have endometris, huge/multiple fibrods, 'convoluted' tubes (one blocked). but actually I feel incredilbly blessed that I got pg, when I was coming round after cs the surgeon popped in & said it was a miracle I had got pg

So in no hurry really to stop bf as I think this may well be my only baby...

Sorry for long waffle on tangent! Mawbroon I really hope you get pg again.

I dont mind the fiddling with nipple- mine are like rubber now. I hate the forced stuffing of his special cloth into the crease between my boob and my stomach though.

WriggleJiggle · 05/02/2009 22:32

Hello, ds is 15 months, so I'm not really an 'extended' feeder yet. ds feeds two or three times a day depending if I'm working or not, and I'm very lucky in that she sleeps 7pm-7am, so no night feeding .

I'm really unsure about how long to carry on, as I'm starting to feel a bit of pressure.

brightongirldownunder · 06/02/2009 00:03

I thought DD was ready to give up the other night as she happily toddled off to her bedroom without asking. But as soon as I put her in her cot, she screamed "booboo" until she was blue in the face. So I relented. She then slept to 12 hours. I think I can honestly say I made the right decision!
Got some more looks of disgust the other day when I let it slip that she was still being fed. Why are people so judgemental. She looks so well surely they should realise I'm not abusing her?! I think they thought I was doing it for my own selfish reasons. They should have heard her screaming - that would have shown them!