MM you may think your babies were ready to be born etc, but the scientific fact is that when a baby is ready to be born they release certain hormones which trigger labour. As such, the baby and the mother undergo endocrinological changes during labour and birth, when babies are born by elective c-section a couple of weeks before thier due date these hormones changes simply do not occur. Feel free to argue this point if you want but I think you'll find it's true.
As such, an elective section does not flood you with endorphins the way labour does (this is not true of c-sections which happen after labour has started obviously), and my comment, when taken in context, is relevant. However, when you take it out of context like this it sounds judgey and nasty, which is what you wanted to do, as it's what you do with almost every thing I post when you can.
I didn't say that mums who had c-sections were not proper mums, or failed in any way, I have spoken to several mums who dismissed thier c-section births as "the easy way" and felt like they were somehow "less" because they didn't push thier babies out, and reminded them that a c-section is not the easy way out, the recovery is not easy and to care for newborns after such major surgery is far from easy. BabiesEverywhere, you did not fail, Chipmonkey puts it beautifully, so I'll not try to put it any better.
As for my comments about slings and breastfeeding twins, I don't make these statments based on flights of fancy from my own imagination, I know a twin-mum who carried her babies in slings and breastfed them until they self-weaned aged 3, and a quick google search will find others too, so it's not impossible to do either.
The reason Ema's chosen method of delivering her baby is relevant in this thread is because as with her desire/choice not to breastfeed, she is putting her own feelings ahead of the needs and best interests of her baby. There is a huge difference between having a section because there is a clinical reason to or not bf because you are on medication or whatever, and choosing to do these things because you have issues. All the way through this thread I have encouraged Ema to seek help for her issues and take the next few months to make peace with herself so that she can be the best mother she can and feel no regret in the future.
However, there are lots of people who just want to make me out to be an unsympathetic militant bitch with some kind of post-modern hippy agenda. I guess these people have unresolved issues too. I have done my time in therapy, come to terms with my body issues and other problems, and whilst I am not a perfect mum by any means I know I do what is best for my children even if it is not the easiest or nicest thing for me. As such I feel no need to defend myself against SAHM's who infer that nursery is baby-borstal or whatever. I simpley wish people would read these messages in the spirit they are posted, and stop making assumptions and launching personal attacks motivated by thier own feelings of guilt, failure and inadequacy.