OH FUCK...... JARM about to send DH out for formula..... stop me!

[DanJARMouse]

I know I want to BF but why the hell is it so hard? We were doing really well up until today. My left nip is sore again, but latch is fine so fuck knows why it hurts. Daniel has been attatched to me all fecking day, bar 2hrs where we co-slept because thats the only way he will sleep.

im pissed off, tired and hormotional

Don't give up you will get through the pain and have nips of steel like me. No seriously I got to your stage at 2am one morning luckily DH talked me out it you can do it

oh sweetie. It's dark. It's the wrong time to make these decisions.....

It IS a rough ride. You have come so far. Chin up lady, and imagine Hunker tracking you down

Come on lovely! How old is he? About 2 weeks? that was peak agony for me, after 3 weeks it was bearable, by 6 it was painless every time.

Grit your teeth, count to 100 and say fuck a lot in your head. it helps .

you can hold my hand, and squeeze really, really hard

c'mon, you are doing brilliantly.. you sound like you want to be stopped.. keep going, lovely one, you are doing so well. xxxx

you are doing such a good job please give it another day or two before getting the formula as i gave up and really regrett it!

i know i know..... i just need some encouragement. i want to do this, but i also want half an hour to myself!!!

i feel like a feckin milking machine!

Right give him to his dad and go and have a bath

Try and get to the weekend and it'll get better, I promise. I remember shouting 'fuck, fuck, fuck' throughout the first few feeds (in my case it was a lousy latch and DD not being able to open her mouth wide enough - osteopaths can help this btw).

Keep on going, you are doing BRILLIANTS. We are all rooting for you (except your DS who is just rooting generally!)

set yourself a small target that you can achieve like
"i will bf daniel until he is 21 days old" and then think oh well only xx amount of days until i can stop and then when you get to day 21 you suddenly think-wow look i've done it, my baby has grown all through what i have done for him-i've made him happy,contented, grow.....right my next target is 2 months old....and that's how i did it, it seemed to take the pressure of myself and managed to make it more enjoyable in the first few weeks which i admit i did find hard
ps: ds bf then until the week before he was 2

half an hour to yourself?

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it gets better honestly

you just have to adjust your thinking and instead of thinking oh ffs I am a farkin milking machine, you say oooooh, I can sit on the sofa all day and feed and watch Murder She Wrote/Trisha/Loose Women etc

and get dh to be my snack slave

how old is he?

ps:too slow,
but i also gave up with dd and do regret that decision even to this day....but i had no mn and a dd with s/n, but so wish i could have turned back the clock and fought harder to learn how to feed her

JARM, you're doing great!! Absolutely wonderfully!

It's not easy to start with, particularly what is effectively first time round. Once you get through that tough bit though, it's fabulous. And all that is soooo easy to say with hindsight!

Instead of thinking of yourself as a milking machine, look at those fat little baby cheeks, chubby arms and thighs and think "I made those!"

So you know how well you are doing - you know all the ladies on here aren't telling you lies.
I would also say that IMO there is nothing wrong with encouraging daniel to go a little longer between feeds.

If you go for a bath - out for a walk without him - then he will cope - he will feed well on your return and perhaps take more than a snack.

How old is he now?

babe, even if you gave formula, with 3 little ones, your chances of getting a half hour to yourself would not be realistic anyway

settle down with your boy and watch telly, and eat chocolate !

also if you want reasons to continue see
here

2 weeks tomorrow.

man, i need a bath so badly! i know formula wont solve anything, if anything it will depress the hell out of me but i just feel so useless right now. I cant do anything with the girls because daniel needs me all the time.... demanding isnt in it.

could you have bath dp take him for walk/drive for choc whilst you soak!

Yes you are doing so well. Just wanted to add some words of encouragement myself.

What others have said is so right, until I got to around 4 weeks I felt that it could go wrong at any point.

Wishing you a bit more sleep tonight. If Daniel is reading this (!) "give your mummy a rest for 2 or 3 hours in the night."

2 weeks! [broody]

it is HARD with a newborn and other children whether you ff or b/f

ff is slightly quicker, ime b/f were longer

BUT it is on tap, you do not have to faff about with bottles and sterilising etc etc etc

I think I cried most days until dd2 was about 4 weeks, completely normal imo

dd2 would only sleep with me, go with the flow is my only advice

this stage does not last long although I wanted to punch everyone that said that to me iirc

re. the girls: reading. books books books. Can (almost) always be done while bf. Ditto puzzles, singing nursery rhymes, getting them to draw/scribble, looking at photos.

Remember all the FAFF you will save yourself now and later on if you don't swap to bottles!

It will pass. My ds2 is 11 weeks and it's easier already.

oh JARM you are doing so well don't give up now, I always remember there was one night with DD1 where I was crying feeding her it was so sore and I was nearly getting in the car myself and getting formula but I was too lazy to move.

Take it one day at a time don't think past tomorrow only BF for tomorrow.

Give Daniel to DH get yourself in the bath for a good half hour then take your time getting ready.

You KNOW you can do this x

you see nights arent an issue - he is fab, only wakes once.... its getting him to sleep and the non-stop feeding/winding during the day that is so hard