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Would I really regret giving up BF now?

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 00:43

As many of you know, I had my DS2 prematurely at 33 weeks, 11 weeks ago. I have been breastfeeding and topping up with EBM via a NGT tube. Callum is struggling with his weight gain and doesn't put on a huge amount weekly. Today has been so hard, I have struggled to express enough milk off for his topups. I am tired and physically shattered. I feel tearful. I so want to do the right thing, and keep breastfeeding but I don't know how much more I can take.

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 19:48

I don't know, I hope it will make a difference, if it doesn't then we know that something is wrong with Callum. I struggled so much yesterday to express enough off for him, I was getting dribbles of milk instead of my full bottles. He is still breastfeeding, and the topups contain mainly EBM, its just to keep my sanity now. I was so on the verge of giving up yesterday, I was exhausted with it all. My girls are playing up, every single night, screaming, shouting and running about. My body was screaming 'enough'

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moondog · 10/12/2007 19:49

It must be so hard and worrying especially with three other children.
Poor poor you.

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 19:51

I asked about fortifiers but our health trust doesn't give them out to patients at home, only in-patients. This ruling is changing next year.

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MrsGrinch · 10/12/2007 19:51

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MrsGrinch · 10/12/2007 19:52

Sorry sparkly, that stray smiley was mean't for another thread.

You must be knackered.

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 19:58

I am, Callum is still not settling at night till at least midnight, and he feeds back-to-back from 9pm. Then he wakes at 2-3 and 5-6am. I then sleep till 8am, when DH wakes me to do the girls hair. I stay at home while he does the schoolrun and feed Callum again and express enough off to last the day. Then I do whatever is needed to be done that day, and pick the kids up from school, as well as feeding and topping up. I am physically and emotionally drained.

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Highlander · 10/12/2007 20:03

Bossy Highlander speaks - your DH can learn to do your girls hair for the next couple of months. You need sleep!

200mls - wow

MrsGrinch · 10/12/2007 20:03

Sparkly - I hesitate to suggest it because of affecting your supply but could Callum be topped up down the tube by dh at say 1.30 before he wakes? Just for a couple of nights to give you a longer stretch.

moondog · 10/12/2007 20:04

YES sPARKLY,YOU REALLY SHOULDN'T HAVE ANY ADDITIONAL DUTIES.
yOU KNOW THIS DON'T YOU?
I hope your dh does!

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:07

I know, but Dd1's hair is long and has to be put up, he tried when I was in hospital and he gave up in the end.. I want to get it cut into a bob but she refuses to let me cut it that short. Dd2's hair is just above her shoulders and much easier to deal with

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moondog · 10/12/2007 20:07

Oh just cut the lot off.
Kids get no choice in times of crisis!

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:08

lol, I am going to take her to the hairdressers soon, and see if I can talk her into having it cut the same as Misdee's dd1

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 20:24

woohoo just expressed another 120mls. I think yesterday was just a bad day, I got myself all worked up and it affected my milk supply.

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moondog · 10/12/2007 21:15

Oh that's good news!
Relaaaaaaaaax girl!

AwayInAMunker · 10/12/2007 21:18

Brilliant, SGK! But how hard is a ponytail? Or does she need plaits a la Princess Leia?!

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 21:19

she has to have plaits, purely becuase her school is riddled with headlice and she comes home with them weekly if her hair is left to fly around...

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moondog · 10/12/2007 21:27

aLL THE MORE REASON FOR A BUZZCUT.
wILL SOLVE THE PROBLEM NICELY.

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 21:30

buzzcut!!?? I don't think I will get away with that one pmsl!!! I wish I could, would save lots of time hehe

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DoesntChristmasDragOn · 10/12/2007 21:36

Surely your DH can learn to do a simple plait??

You're doing a fab job.

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 21:41

no he is all fingers and thumbs lol!! Her hair is really thick too. I hate it!! I struggle to get it up most morning..

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 21:42

what I normally do is plait it the night before and hope it stays in place for the morning lol, but it doesn't always work out and has to be redone

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DoesntChristmasDragOn · 10/12/2007 22:03

Plait it and then accidentally cut it off with a pair of scissors...?

MarsyChristmas · 10/12/2007 22:14

Well done sparkly!

Callum may be having a growth spurt you know. I think that you're doing really really well and should be totally proud of yourself!

VVVExcitedAboutChristmasQV · 10/12/2007 22:15

SGK - giving up is shit. You arent giving up - neither should he.

Buy him this so he can practice

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sparklygothkat · 10/12/2007 22:18

pmsl you are naughty qv

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