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JARM NEEDS HELP ALREADY

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JARM · 30/11/2007 15:53

Nipples and boobs hurt

Daniel wants to suck 24/7 but sleeps at the breast

obviously milk not in yet

Latch seems ok, although takes time as he thrashes his arms around - where the hell do they go?

Sorry, im so new to all this!

OP posts:
moondog · 02/12/2007 21:57

They are programmed to suck all the time JARM.That's what gets the milk flowing.
Supply and demand.

E mail me [email protected]
I'll send you a tenner for the Lansinoh.
Seriously.
Would love to help.

RGPargy · 02/12/2007 21:57

No advice Jarm, but big hugs. Thinking of you. Keep going girl, you're doing great. xxxx

expatinscotland · 02/12/2007 21:58

can you try nursing him whilst lying down?

sweetkitty · 02/12/2007 22:02

Hang on in there JARM you are doing great, the first few weeks are the hardest. He's sucking as thats all he knows how to do, it's also helping your milk supply he knows what he is doing. Just get on the sofa or bed, get the TV on, drink/remote control/ohone to hand/let DH sort the girls out and feed feed feed.

Another thing I found good is to walk about boobs out as anything touching them would hurt, I also used those milk catcher things as they don't touch your nips, put some BM on your nipples and let it dry in.

With my two they never rally needed winded like FF babies, just held them upright over my shoulder and they had one burp but a lot of the time I fed lying down and they fell asleep so didn't get winded must have not needed it. Have you learned to feed lying down yet?

DanJARMouse · 02/12/2007 22:03

so im gonna be stuck not being able to move for how long exactly???

moondog - thanks for the offer, but honestly, ive already had so much from mners i couldnt take any more.

he has been awake almost constantly since 6pm, and attatched to me for most of that time... and one handed typing is so bloody hard!

its the girls i feel sorry for, im neglecting them so much.... luckily dh is here but its not easy.

ScoobyDoo · 02/12/2007 22:03

Well done JARM sounds like your doing a great job, don't give up honestly it gets easier & your nipples will get through this.

I had one sore nipple with dd i used the Lansinoh nipple cream, it is truly fab & helped me to carry on as i was on the verge of giving up, you need this cream.

I would just let him be on the nipple as much as he wants to be, all the sucking helps with the milk supply so good in the long run.

I am sure others have lots more help for you, don't give up though because once you get past the initial bit it is so much easier & all those bottles are really not worth it!

DanJARMouse · 02/12/2007 22:04

havent tried lying down yet.... not sure how to get positioning right.

omg im so fecking shite

sparklygothkat · 02/12/2007 22:06

jarm I have a tube of pure lan which is the same as Lansinoh, that I got free with my breast pump. I used it twice when Callum cracked my nipples in the first week he was home, will be happy to send it to you.

sparklygothkat · 02/12/2007 22:08

you can send it back when you are done with it (only need a tiny amount) if you are worried about taking off me.

JingleyJen · 02/12/2007 22:09

JARM You don't know me but huge congratulations - sounds like you are doing really really well.. your nips will get used to being stimulated this much and you are both learning, your little man will learn that the latch works better some times that others that will encourage him to get it right as well.
DS's both latched for about 10-15 mins each feed I alternated which boob I offered first.
As for creams I tried various things but I found that expressing a little milk by hand and rubbing it into my nips before each feed helped (MW said it had a anaesthetic (SP?) properties - not sure if this is true).

You are already giving Daniel the best start - Brilliant!

moondog · 02/12/2007 22:09

Please,if you don't take up SGK's offer then let me help.
We are a community.
We help each other out.

onepieceoflollipop · 02/12/2007 22:10

I have a tube of Lansinoh. My friend used it only once as sadly bf didn't work out for her. I have never needed to use it. Can easily post it to you tomorrow (don't want money for p&p) can send first class. Just cat me with your address if you would like it.

ejt1764 · 02/12/2007 22:10

JARM - email me your address to eirianthomas232 AT googlemail DOT com - I have a couple of half tubes of Lansinoh I no longer need ... (am still bf, but no longer need to slather the stuff on any more!)

and the 10-second thing was referred to as the "10 second toe curl" by a BF I met ... if it hurts for any longer then that, then there's something not quite there ... don't do what I did and put off seeking help, otherwise you end up like I did, with the skin completely broken down on your nips (ouch!), and having to express for 24 hours to help the skin heal ...

Go girl, you're doing fantastically!

Gingerbear · 02/12/2007 22:12

Jarm, DS was like this for 3 days after the birth. My milk came in after 4/5 days and he settled down better then - still feeding hourly, but his tummy was full.
Also, he was very mucousy and sick after the birth - that made him unsettled too. Keep going - I can send you a tube of lansinoh - I never needed it (titanium plated nipples)

email me your address (I still have your old Colchester one)

Lying down is a godsend for feeding. Hang on, I will google an excellent video of how to do it.

ScoobyDoo · 02/12/2007 22:12

Take someones cream JARM it's good stuff it will help loads also you can leave it on for feeding etc.

sweetkitty · 02/12/2007 22:12

YOU ARE NOT SHITE

you are in exactly the same place a lot of us have been, baby feeding all the time, nipples in agony, feeling like a pile of crap

feeding lying down God I am trying to remember, I used to lie with my arm crocked up so over babies head and away from you, then position baby so he's on his side his mouth by your nipple then let him go, I'm sure theres a better description than that

I mostly found I was cluster feeding at night so used to get DD1 down then settle down for a marathon feed with DD2, it's normal when they are so young but it does pass

moondog · 02/12/2007 22:15

And mylove,if you are skint,think of the cash you will save.
Also,remmeber it is going to be hard work however you feed.
You have three small children.
Life will be hell for a few months.
Guaranteed.

XXX

DanJARMouse · 02/12/2007 22:16

oh farkin hell...

my email is [email protected]

i cant keep up so mail me and i can reply.

i will say he smells yummy though!

sweetkitty · 02/12/2007 22:18

thanks moondog already feeling rough and thinking of life with 3

hard to think of it now JARM but in 3 months time when your boy is all chubby and lovely and BFing is a doddle and you have it well sussed you will feel so proud of yourself for doing it, a long way of it seems but you will get there

hunkermunker · 02/12/2007 22:22

JARM, remember your thread before you had Daniel?

The one where you said you wanted to be reminded how much you wanted to breastfeed?

Well, I'm reminding you of it now, my love - whilst I would NEVER want you to do something that would cause you pain, I think the heartache you'll feel if you stop now will be massively more than the establishing bf pain you're having now.

DON'T feel guilty about the girls. This is what television's for - DS1 learnt the alphabet off Countdown while I was bfing DS2 in the early days, so you're giving them a headstart - look at it that way

So chin up, access any RL support you can, keep posting and keep feeding. And take up one of the Lansinoh offers on the thread - it's really good stuff.

SoupDragon · 02/12/2007 22:22

You're not shite!! I've bf three and I've stuffed it up each time ending up sore at the start. Don't doubt yourself

DanJARMouse · 02/12/2007 22:24

hunker - thank you. everyone - thank you.

i know this is what i want to do, whats best for daniel etc etc etc but fuck me, its hard.

think i may have a touch of baby blues

will talk to mw tomorrow am

moondog · 02/12/2007 22:25

Will it help if I tell you that as a senior specialist speech and language therapist I soundly endorse copious use of CeeBeebies and promise it wont do your girls any harm (neither will packets of sweets.)

Gingerbear · 02/12/2007 22:27

can't find the vid

hunker, moondog, do you know of a video of lying down position? I think I found it via kellymom.

Now DS is a nosey 6 month old, who virtually refuses to feed during the day, the only time he will have a really good feed is if we go to bed, close the curtains and snuggle down. He can even feed when he is fast asleep.

Best part is, you get some rest too.

hunkermunker · 02/12/2007 22:27

Oh, my darling - baby blues are utterly natural - where you are amazed you produced a new person, bereft because your body's shedding its lovely pregnancy happy haze hormones, physically battered and sleep deprived. I'm amazed there's anybody who escapes the glums, actually!

I wish I was nearer you - I'd come and give you a big hug. Obviously I'd be very careful of your bosoms