Mumsnet has showed me the meaning of prejudice

[Hannie55]

OK, so i breastfed dd.
Intend to bottlefeed this one (due end aug).
Must be pretty neutral right?
So why is it when i read the debates on here that its clear as day to a neutral that its mums who bottle feed formula to their babies that are the ones being judged and harangued?
Yet its some of the breastfeedrs who shout loudest and demand the acknowledgement that they are in fact the opressed?
What makes it worse is its so underhand and sly, if any bottle feeders come back they are accused of being prejudiced, paranoid and of supressing guilt (wtf?!).
Mumsnet has really opened my eyes to some wierd views, none moreso than the anti-formula lobby (who of course are not anti formuls at all).

Really did not realise these people existed, thankfully they only appear in cyber-space!

so please explain your 23.38 post to me then.....

KM - What a ridiculous opinion, but good on you for saying what you believe, you actually anger me less than those who dance around the issue and pretend not to feel contempt when they quite clearly do.

A few further down have already said that they cant say what they really think as they'd be 'lynched'.

Ffs, i wish people would say what they really believed, at least then those on the recieving end would have the right to respond.

you are indeed entitled to your opinion. Yes narrow minded advocating that all mothers should breastfeed no matter the circumstances. Your failing to see that there are valid reasons ( other than medical ones) why a woman may choose not to.

so yes narrowminded.

alot of mn threads are baby based.

ah Nadine

is there really such a thing

Kerry, I know where you're coming from but not all problems are insurmountable, out of our 8 mums from our NCT class, 3 were not able to get their baby to latch on at all, ever, depsite best efforts. Myself as one of them knows just how much effort was put in, from cup feeding religiously for 6 weeks to re-birthing my baby in the birthing pool. I have been privileged to be able to breastfeed my second baby but I will never take it for granted that it is a given and will happen.

What does make me feel sad and sometimes a bit cross are those who have the information at hand, have the support of midwives and also the social support of family and friends but still choose not to even try to breastfeed. I cannot judge someone who has tried but not managed it but do feel it's a bit crap not to bother at all. Eg, girls one of my friends knows who didn't try to breastfeed as it's 'gross' and 'makes your tits sag'.

I think that it would be a GREAT thing if this BF and FF topic could be separated into three different independant ones:

-Breastfeeding. For those who choose this option and are experiencing problems for which they need advice and support.

-Bottlefeeding. For those who choose this option and are experiencing problems for which they need advice and support.

-BF activism. For those who want to fight pro the breast is best cause. An area to talk about Nestle, campaigns, etc etc

That way we wouldn't be threading in each other's feelings.

....how common do you think that is Jenky?
Even then, her body, her baby, her right to choose.

C'mon Kerry, no ofense, but QueenOfQuotes has been around for years and years before you came into Mumsnet

this will sound awful and i will wish i'd never posted. but my mum bf all of us (four sisters) and developed mastitis with her 3rd child.

she got breast cancer and always blamed it on getting that

women who bf less likely to get b cancer, cant c there being a link with matisitis?

i can only go on what i saw. she always believed that was what cause it. she didn't drink or smoke

caused

oh SEA thats awful

Your poor mum.

I do feel I should point out that b/feeding is, in statistical terms at least, supposed to help fend off breast cancer.

b/feeding can strike anyone at any age. Awful disease.

Kerrymum - posts like mine make my blood boil. You are entitled to your opinion, of course you are. Unfortunately it only takes one of your posts to completely wipe out the 50 other measured and reasonable posts from breastfeeding supporters.

Maybe you could engage your brain a bit before you open your mouth?

I didn't have insurmountable problems KM.

Please tell me why you are so shocked by my choice.

oh dear - "posts like yours...." not mine, ffs!

that is why some of us aren't so 'pro' bf

Also, I'm not dead keen on anecdotal evidence to support your sweeping statements on why folk choose not to b/feed.

Your "experience" of folk who have chosen to not b/feed amounts to how many people - in Ireland?

Sorry SEA, thaats awful for your mum, but genuinely, i have never known ANYONE to believe that BF is in any way bad for your health.

I chose to ff so poke that stick at me - I'm used to being poked regularly

here's mvho - I feel sorry for you for taking the trouble to think negative thoughts about my choice of babyfood you must be very bored, I recommend scrabble.

oh god, just spotted another type

breast cancer, not b/feeding can strike at any age....

sorry.....