Mumsnet has showed me the meaning of prejudice

[Hannie55]

OK, so i breastfed dd.
Intend to bottlefeed this one (due end aug).
Must be pretty neutral right?
So why is it when i read the debates on here that its clear as day to a neutral that its mums who bottle feed formula to their babies that are the ones being judged and harangued?
Yet its some of the breastfeedrs who shout loudest and demand the acknowledgement that they are in fact the opressed?
What makes it worse is its so underhand and sly, if any bottle feeders come back they are accused of being prejudiced, paranoid and of supressing guilt (wtf?!).
Mumsnet has really opened my eyes to some wierd views, none moreso than the anti-formula lobby (who of course are not anti formuls at all).

Really did not realise these people existed, thankfully they only appear in cyber-space!

oooo - that's a good point hadn't thought of that ! (or maybe she was wondering who's children I was looking after - had all 3 of them with me - and was suprised to see that they were obvously mine as he was attached to my nork )

i can sort of see where op is coming from. as a newbie, have noticed some of the threads can get a bit militant.

i think possibly that feeding your child is a v emotive subject and no-one wants to feel that they are not doing what is best for their family. consuqeuntly maybe we are all very sensitive about our choices and 'perceived' parenting skills.

i know i am in real life !

saying that i have had some great support and advice here on MN and think it's great to have a place where people can express their views - whatever they are - and talk to like minded people

Oh Puffy!

You've only gawn and used the 'M' word!!

LOL

(sigh)

Cant we, as mothers, just support one another with our decisions regarding raising our children without constantly belittling each other?

Its always the same.....SAHM's feel smug because they put their children before their career, mothers who work look down on SAHM's as thick as pigshit nappy boilers who cant have a converstaion without mentioning poo, snot, vomit etc etc (see recent MN thread on this one!)

Dummy/ no dummy/ smacking/no smacking/
home made food/ food in a jar/public/private school...I could go on for days.

BTW...my ds was formula fed, without which he wouldnt be here, as neither would my pre-term nephew born at 27 weeks.

It's not always a "lifestyle choice" and even if it is, it is exactly that...a choice.

Has the world gone mad?? How can people get so wound up about this. Look it's simple if you want to breastfeed do it, if not thats fine aswell. I feel the more serious issue is: have these irate people got personality disorders!

Loryan....just read your thread...thats shocking

Its what breasts are FOR fgs!!

Ramade, putting a wink after something offensive doesn't work, really.

As for:

"Look it's simple if you want to breastfeed do it, if not thats fine aswell"

Really?

I think there are a rather large number of women on here who might take issue with it being simple if you want to breastfeed.

If I question your intelligence, but put a wink afterwards, does that make it OK?

I agree with you there hunker, about the wink - also putting a when you know damn well you're not being nice! Still no-one is fooled.

Can you agree with me about the rest of my posts too, please, NadBag?

oh I do

mostly

Ooh, that was somewhat Freudian - I only meant to write "can you agree with me about the rest of my post" - haha!

But I'll take a "mostly" - that's pretty good, I think

I'd love to say I was proud to BF my 2 (still BF DS2), but it's sheer luck that I never had any probs of any significance. I really don't know what I would have done if I'd had an unsupportive partner, worries about supply, interfering parents, mastitis, babies with latching problems etc etc.

I do however, satnd on my sopabox about mums who think that formula is harmless for their infants future health and choose to ignore the benefits of BFing. But I do find it hard to take a stand on this whilst being tactful/ very sympathetic to mums who've had to switch to formula.

Highlander, I totally agree, and it isn't people not being able to breastfeed that bothers me in the slightest, I think everyone should TRY if at all possible and they all deserve as much credit as those who do it for years!!
It's just the 'my boobs arent for babies to suck on' mind set that I can't get round.