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Infant feeding

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Tandem feeding support thread

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EauRouge · 30/09/2011 10:09

In anticipation of some graduates from the BF and pregnant thread, here's a shiny new thread for tandem feeders to laugh, moan and puzzle over the ins and outs of BF a baby and toddler.

Things are going pretty well for us, we are having a bit of hair-pulling at the moment though. DD2 is 7 mo and loves grabbing hair. DD1 (3 in just over a week!) is not so keen and sometimes wraps her arms around her head.

Another issue is DD1's latch. She's not even close to self-weaning but her latch has been really lazy the last few months. I googled and found this which has been really helpful.

Aside from that, things are brilliant and I'm really glad I'm still BF DD1. It's my one-stop parenting tool for fixing everything

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TheRealMBJ · 16/10/2011 05:35

Congratulations Kelly! Well done

Would love to hear your birth story

TruthSweet · 16/10/2011 05:40

Three of us up at such an un-Godly hour!

TheRealMBJ · 16/10/2011 05:44

Yup, me waiting for DD to arrive. No signs of labour despite doing EVERYTHING possible and DS up at his usual 5am

TruthSweet · 16/10/2011 05:51

I got woken by DD3 for her usual early morning feed (have just started putting her back in the cot rather than having her in bed with us now she's 2) but I appear to have a raging ear infection so have come down stairs to wait for the pain killers to kick in.

How I have an ear infection when I am already on 2 types of anti-bs following another womb infection I don't know

Hope your baby makes their debut soon - are you post 40 weeks now? (am loath to say over due as that's 42+w in my book and really hope you haven't been waiting that long!)

TheRealMBJ · 16/10/2011 06:09

No, no. I'm not 'overdue' (I agree with you on the 42 weeks btw). 39+5 but DSwas born at 38+6 so I feel overdue . My mum is also here from SA and I would be best if she made her appearance sooner rather than late as time with Ouma is limited.

TruthSweet · 16/10/2011 06:45

In some small way I feel cheated as I have never got to 40 weeks. DD1 was evicted at 38w & DD2 & DD3 were both born at 39+5 (on a Sunday each time) but I am glad I didn't go over 42w as that would have made having a HB really difficult

Fingers crossed for a quick but not too quick birth. DD2's was a very easy birth of 26hrs of mostly painfree contractions but only 4 minutes of pushing - sending her labour vibes your way.

greensnail · 16/10/2011 07:39

I just noticed this thread. Can I join in, am tandemfeeding my dds aged 2.9 and 16 months. I swing between wanting them both to wean asap and loving them both feeding together. They are now real partners in crime and know how to gang up on me to get their "gug" when they want it but at least it is one thing they are very good at sharing.

KellyKettle · 16/10/2011 09:51

snail! Its me, Hulla! Have you checked FB this morning?

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EauRouge · 16/10/2011 11:07

Congrats Kelly! Looking forward to hearing more about your new DD.

Hello greensnail. I have a mental image of your DDs coming up with Wile E Coyote type schemes to get you to BF them

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MoonFaceMamaaaaargh · 16/10/2011 12:22

congratulations kelly! Hope you are feeling ok (esp following the problems you had last time), and that your new dd is thriving! How exciting!

We are well here. Ds is pretty much living off milk. Yesterday he supplimented this with a couple of mouthfulls each of couscous, bread, fruit and chocolate buttons. He even asked for it when i wasn't there the other day, that's never happened before. He is feeding more in the night than dd! I don't mind that too much bar when they both want milk at once. It's awkward to feed them at the same time. Ds has shown great generosity towards dd esp re sharing milk but that doesn't apply through the night. I feel like poor dd always has to wait 'cause ds is louder and would take more resettleing. She is easier to placate and so i do...though ds barely had to wait a moment for milk in his life. Poor dd.

Went to my first lll meeting t'other day...it was ace!

Hope you feel better soon truthsweet.

Welcome greensnail. I know what you mean...i occasionally wonder if it would have been easier if i'd weaned ds before dd came. But i know i would have hated to do that, and i actually really like tandem,it's just hard at times. Plus i don't actually think things would be easier, just different difficulties.

Sending you lovely labour vibes mbj!

MoonFaceMamaaaaargh · 16/10/2011 12:24

i ment it's awkward to feed them at the same time in bed

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EauRouge · 16/10/2011 12:46

Glad you enjoyed LLL, did you meet any other tandem feeders?

It took me chuffing ages to crack feeding them both in bed without having to sit up. Once DD2 had better head control I used to just lay her on me. It's way easier now that she can sit up, I have one arm under her to kind of prop her up a bit and then her and DD1 just lay one on each side. Night feeds are like a bloody tennis match though, I'm going back and forth between the two of them I can't be bothered to do both at once if it's the middle of the night

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MoonFaceMamaaaaargh · 16/10/2011 14:11

if i did meet any others i'm not aware of it! Maybe there were some but it didn't come up (though i mentioned that i'm tandeming in my intro)

Ds went through a phase at around 9m where he'd only feed (in bed while) sat up and leaning on me as you describe so will aim for that when dd is bigger. Sitting up is tricky as there's only one pillow around for cosleeping reasons, and i use a mountain's worth if feeding both on sofa! I too go back and forth. I'm considering replacing the bed with a rottisery.

greensnail · 16/10/2011 14:59

at kelly kettle, yes I was on fb first before I came on here so I worked out it was you. Didn't say anything incase you were in hiding our something! I'm so pleased for you and delighted that it all went so smoothly after last time. Looking forward to seeing photos, you'll have a great time with two girls x

Feeding both together in bed definitely gets easier as they're bigger. I usually have dd2 lying on top of me and dd1 lying next to me which works fine now

KellyKettle · 16/10/2011 16:36

Haha! I'm not very anonymous am I?

I'm exhausted right now. DD1 likes to feed and hold/twiddle other nipple all of a sudden and it's making my after pains awful.

How long do after pains go on for? They're as awful as labour

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EauRouge · 16/10/2011 16:52

Argh, after pains are so much worse the second time around, aren't they? I think mine lasted 4 or 5 days maybe. They ease off anyway. Chocolate seems to help

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mawbroon · 16/10/2011 17:12

See, I never got afterpains with ds2 at all. Wonder why?

Congrats KellyKettle. enjoy your lovely newborn!

KellyKettle · 16/10/2011 17:13

Oh I got some from Hotel Chocolat on Friday so I might try that cure!

Will post birth story at some point. I did have to get out of the pool in active labour and bf DD1. That was horrific. I lasted 3 contractions then had to ask DH to take her away. Practically dived back into the pool

lou4791 · 16/10/2011 17:16

Thanks for starting this thread. Marking my place in anticipation of tandem feeding when DC3 is born in December.
Tandem feeding was not my original intention, but with only 9 weeks to go, I haven't the heart to wean DS2 (2.2) from the boob. I'm usually very positive about breastfeeding, but must admit i have found BF while pregnant quite trying. Feeling quite sensitive and sore and some feeds ( with a nipple twiddling toddler) can be a bit toe curling. DS is quite possessive when breastfeeding and often states " My boobies!", so I don't know how he wil adapt to a new kid on the block semi-permanently attached to me. However, I really would like him to self wean as I love the way breastfeeding can solve almost anything, I know it's doing him good in all sorts of ways and he loves it.
So i'll watch this thread with interest.

TheRealMBJ · 16/10/2011 17:52

For those still pregnant (like me) don't forget the pregnancy and bf thread.

greensnail · 16/10/2011 18:02

Omg! I can't believe you bf her while on active labour. That's real dedication, tandem feeding will be adoddle after that!
I had horrible after pains with both of mine, and feeding eas horrible for a few days. Drugs helped! How is dd2 feeding?

KellyKettle · 17/10/2011 15:49

DD2 is feeding really well. I'm trying to be careful with her latch, she quite likes sucking the nipple in rather than opening wide & latching on.

I'm shattered this afternoon. Visitors & MW check today. Was awake every couple of hours or less feeding DD2. I'm sure it will be easier when DD2 has more head control.

MoonFaceMamaaaaargh · 18/10/2011 14:10

lou while pg i started a game of bfing ds's toys. He loved it and i have since, at his insistance, "bf-ed" the telly remote, kitchen tongs, even dh . When dd arrived ds could not wait to bf with her and was clearly disapointed that she wasn't interested for the first 24 hrs. He does occasionally try and nick "her" boob, but generally he's happy to share, even moving his feet out the way, stroking her head while nursing, or coming to get me if she cries (shouting "More! Baby!" while signing baby...so cute!). Don't know if that "game" might be of help to you?

Yyy after pains worse...yyy yyy chocolate!

Cor kelly that is hard core! I knew it was time for ds to go to mil's when i couldn't bf him anymore. I got to four mins apart, rocking through ctx perched on edge of sofa but knew i couldn't take it much longer.

Managed to bf dd in the sling quite a bit yesterday. Wasn't very discreet but we'd gone to Hebden Bridge for the day so don't think anyone cared! Just need to work out how to dress myself for it then will be fine. Just jiggled dd down and to the side a bit as suggested eaurouge.

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EauRouge · 18/10/2011 14:28

Wow, I haven't been to Hebden Bridge in years, have they still got that weird little museum? Glad you managed to feed in the sling, it's a skill worth having when you've got a toddler too.

Kelly- yes, it defo gets easier, it did for me after a couple of weeks. I think part of it is being used to feeding a toddler who you don't have to do an awful lot for- they climb up on their own, they latch on on their own, most of them can hoik your boobs out of your top if you don't keep your wits about you so BF a newborn again came as a bit of a shock for me anyway.

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MoonFaceMamaaaaargh · 20/10/2011 18:59

don't know eau... Stuck to shops philastein

It's my b'day tom so yest we left ds with mil and went for a day of shopping and lunch. Now i think i have mastitus. It didn't occur to me that he is feeding so much this would be possible. Happy 30th moonchops.

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