July 2010: Our babes are due! Within the month, they'll all début.

[Chulita]

Thanks to spirael for the title, hopefully we'll all pop before this thread ends!

memphis sorry about your dog. My mum found my dog unconscious on the kitchen floor yesterday (it was my poor mums birthday too) and rushed her to the vet. Turns out she has very advanced breast cancer.

The vet has given us painkillers to give her and allowed us to take her home, but thinks she only has a few weeks left. I think it's hit my mum and dad harder than me because she has been living with them.

I'm having a really stressful time atm, and I know I'm being selfish, but I can't help it.

MiL booked a 6 week holiday (to visit relatives in SA) starting on the 25/07 with two SiL, knowing that our EDD was the 31/07. I have no problem with this (except that she tried to convince DH to go with and then suggested that DS should go with them . Obviously they refused.

Then when it looked like we might be having early section, she hinted that DH might be able to come after all then, he said no.

When we found out that section won't be until the 27th she was upset that she wouldn't see baby until it's nearly 2MO. I do feel sorry for her, but she knew the due date when she booked the holiday.

Now her mother (in SA) is in hospital, and she says she might die (I know I sound heartless, but this reason has been used in the past to get DH out to SA without me and when he got there everyone was fine and acted really surprised that he was concerned. .

She is now flying out on thursday with the girls, and says she'll let me know if 'everyone' needs to come. I didn't say anything, but she knows I can't fly, so by everyone I can only assume she is hinting at DH and DS.

It is really terrible if DH's grandma dies and he hasn't seen her since easter, but I really need him here. I'm terrified of the section and being in hospital alone and I really don't think I can manage on my own.

I know his Grandma would want to see DS too, but if she is actually dying, I don't particularly want him sat in a hospital waiting for that to happen, and if she isn't and this is all a ploy to get them to take the holiday together I also don't want them to go.

The interesting thing is that the holiday is going to include a family trip to Zanzibar commencing on the 29th and there has been no talk of cancelling flights. I even said 'is it too late to get money back for flights/hotel in zanzibar?' and MiL said they would probably still be going as grandma was really looking forward to it. If she is in hospital dying, how is she going to fly to zanzibar?

I don't know what to do. I'm sure when she gets out there she is going to ask DH and DS to come. How can I tell him I don't want him to go

BTW - Beautiful names for the new girls. I especially love Mindy for short.

oh gracie what a horrible situation. i wouldn't hold back in telling him you need him here as its not too often you have a new baby.anyway regardless of anything i could nearly be 100% certain that he feels the same as you and he's not going to want to leave you on your own with a new baby and a section.its just as exciting for them and the last thing he's going to want to do is head off on a holiday without you.and it does all sound like a ploy to get him over there. i wouldn't stress to much over it hun because he's not going to leave you. the best thing to do is just broach the subject calmly and you'l hopefully be happy with the response xx
memphis you poor thing its so heartbreaking losing your dog especially at a time like this. they really do become one of the family and its devestating to lose them. you really need to look after yourself though hun with sleep and all because if you were to go into labour which is quite possible you'll nedd all the energy you can get xx and about turning my phone off i wouldnt want to seem ignorant to people either.im the type of person who always tries to please everybody no matter how it makes me feel myself.
wonder its a horrible feeling isnt it. it makes me feel so guilty to even think about things like that but i cant get it out of my head. hopefully it'l all change once i have my baby in my arms (if that ever happens!). its great that your dd likes other babies.my cousins little girl already doesnt like my baby! she's used to getting all my attention and everyone elses and she's going to be a little bit put out!
well was getting the BH the whole night again only for them to practically disappear this morn.have got a couple since i got up but they're still not painful. really starting to think its just a phantom pregnancy and no baby is ever going to come of it!
and last but not least CONGRATS fireise! beautiful name! i want to steal it! hope your both settling in ok at home and she's being a good girl for you!

gracie that's so manipulative I agree with kkfairy - I'm sure your DH doesn't want to go and leave you. As harsh as it sounds, his loyalties are with you rather than his gran even if she is really ill. As for them going to Zanzibar Is there anyway you could phone the hospital/another relative and ask how ill your DH's gran atually is? (my grandad is exactly the same though, we lived in Madagascar and he'd tell my dad that his mum was dying, dad would rush back and find everyone at church saying how good it was that he was back 'home' to recover so he'd lie to both sides just to get dad here for a few weeks leaving mum with 5 of us to look after...some people have no shame)

Congratulations firerise, such a lovely name

I'm so tired of these BH I've had them since Sunday, I get them everytime I stand up and they're almost constant. They get stronger as the day goes on, when I sit down I get them off and on and then when I lie down I only get a few. I had about 4 last night but this morning I've had loads and I know they'll just build all day til I go to bed again. Can these really keep going like this for another (potentially) 3.5 weeks? I've got a horrible burning pain in my pubic bone too that's just getting worse each day.
And, I broke a tooth a few days ago and it's so sore but obviously at this stage of pregnancy I can't do anything about it.

Sorry for the whinge, I'm not miserable, just fed up.

On the plus side there's a lovely breeze here so with all the windows open it's not too hot

Chulita and KK - starting to know how you feel. I was convinced that something was starting yesterday, was in a restaurant with some friends and kept saying "Im serious! I am having twinges!!" as they all poo pooed me.

As it turned out it was more poo related than I thought, loads of wind and a massive dump later it had all calmed down! . Am now feeling really slow and ploddy, cancelled my plans today just to have a day at home mooching about as really need to have some naps, potter about slowly and look after myself. Have a bit of a nesting feeling but nothing too strong, think I am just symptom spotting- takes me back 9 months!!

Massive congrats Firerise!!

Gracie I think you have to put your cards on the table with DH as sounds like a nightmare! Why o earth would he want to miss the birth and/or first few days and weeks with his child? He needs to put his mum straight and that will give you some reassurance. Even if she does die, he has responsibilities to his new family that need to come first. Having said that, it make soften the blow if he can agree to go out at a suitable time in a few months as sounds like she may be able to "hang on"!

Off to take the dog for the slowest walk ever, hoping you get some quality time in with your No1 baby Memphis and you have lots of happy memories and photos to share with your baby when they are old enough to hear about their big brother who would have loved them. Let us know how he is getting on, thinking of you

Hi ladies,

Just letting you all know that Dylan James was born at 8:57am on 9th July weighing 7lb 2.

Ill put a pic on my profile

firerise and DH massive congratulations to you both Hope you and your new babies are all well, looking forward to hearing your stories

I'm just going to take a scroll through and attempt to update the list- i'm loosing track of all the births now- its so exciting!

thanks for everyones thoughts today, lovely to come back and see so much support, it was the hardest thing i have ever had to do.
gracie so sorry about your dog, and the situation with your inlaws, sounds like it is a ploy to get your dh out there, sounds awful but if grandma was so ill she surely wouldnt be allowed to fly? your dh wouldnt leave you with new baby for a jolly anyway.
kk everyone keeps saying that about not being able to get through labour ive only had 3 hours sleep in 2 days, have bought a mini bottle of red wine, i will only have to sniff it and i will be fast asleep later, i know i need to sleep but im so tense!
dh congratulations on your baby boy, thats a nice size, cant wait to hear birth story and see pic, although i have to admit im very that i was due before you and your now a mummy and im not!
it seems im being left behind think most around my edd have popped and some due after too! come on baby!!!!

Hope i managed to pick up the correct details

ARRIVED
26th June 8:40pm (Due 29th June) - violetbubbles, 33, Glasgow, #1, GIRL 6lbs 6oz, Iris
29th June 0:50am (Due 28th June) - WickedWitch, 30, Bristol, #2, BOY 7lb 10oz, Edward Davis
29th June 11:15am (Due 29th June) - JoJo, 34, N London, #2, BOY 8lb 13oz, Frank
30th June 1:54am (Due 6th July) - Delta4, 34, Leicestershire, #2, BOY, Isaac Henry
30th June 4:32pm - Randomama, GIRL, 6lb 12oz, Vita.
1st July ? (Due 9th July) - Kapars, 36, E London, #1, Yasmin Sophia 8lbs 4.
6th July 9.23pm (Due 3rd July) ? MyLifeIsChaotic, 29, North East, #2, BOY, 8lb 4oz, William.
7th July 9.23am (Due 25th July) - Spirael, 28, West Yorkshire, #1, GIRL, 8lb 3oz, Miranda Jane.
7th July 11am (Due 7th July) - Stac14, 30, Glasgow, #2, GIRL, 9lb 12oz, Riliegh.
8th July 1.22am (Due 23rd July) - Firerise, 31, Hampshire, #1, GIRL, 7lb 4oz, Imogen Frances.
9th July 8.57am (Due 18th July) - DesperateHousewife21, 20, Kent, #1, BOY, Dylan James.

PENDING
4th July - Irishfairy, 25, Oxfordshire, #1, GIRL
4th July - kkfairybrains, 25, ireland, #1, SURPRISE
4th July - orangefizz, 34, southeast, #2, SURPRISE
9th July - Memphis83, Leicester, #1, BOY
11th July - Beckyg123, 28, Glasgow, #1, SURPRISE
12th July - GlastonburyGoddess, 25, Glastonbury, #3, SURPRISE
12th July - DeeLite, 36, Sussex, #1, SURPRISE
13th July - NorkyButNice, 30, Kent, #2
14th July - secondcoming, 37, Manchester, #3 SURPRISE
15th July - Viksam, 35, Somerset, #1, SURPRISE
16th July - nixster, 28, bedford #1, GIRL
17th July - Grumpypumpkin, 35, Sussex, #1, GIRL
18th July - Kittykat77, 33, Lincolnshire, #3, BOY
18th July - Wonderstuff, 31, Hampshire, #2
22nd July - Chulita, 27, Dorset, #2
25th July - Emster30, 29, NE London, #1, SURPRISE
26th July - Anifersgirl, 33, South Bucks, #1, GIRL
27th July - EmsieRo, 29, S London, #1, GIRL
31st July - Gracie123, 26, Cumbria, #2

afternoon, think things are happening here - waters have broken (not with a pop though, just realised i had wet pants and i hadn't wet myself!!!) and am wired up to the TENS...watch this space.

memphis so sorry to read your posts, hope you're OK. and gracie too, what a horrible situation to be put in, hope it resolves itself well.

Congrats to the other ladies who have had their LOs since I last posted, can't keep up with them all at the moment! I hope to be joining you soon x

Gosh! Can't belive how many babies we've had already!!!
Very jealous of you all.
I'm currently sat in barrow hospital where I've been for that last FIVE hours with NO good reason!! Thought I'd had a show, and some tightenings, and DH insisted we let the MW know. She insisted we come in (despite 40 min drive) and they did a swab. Dr was convinced waters were leaking (I disagreed - swab proved me right ) but for some reason we are STILL here.

I'm sure they must need this bed. I want to go home!

Thanks for you repsonses btw. I'm sure DH wouldn't go, it just that he can't go later (until Christmas) as school don't give compassionate leave unless it's immediate family (grandparents aren't). He could get time of for a funeral, but only 48hours (notlong enough to fly there and back). We know this because his grandad died last year and he was unable to go.

I'm sure he won't go, I just don't want to talk about it in front of DS as I know I'll get upset, and we've had non stop guests since the phone call. It's more that I'll feel guilty when he doesn't go, and have to put up with comments about how selfish I was not letting him, than that I actually think he'll go. Had been getting on fairly well with SiLs recently and I know this is going to set everything back again

dh congratulations! hope you all settle in together soon!

orangefizz how exciting, keep us posted! good luck

Congratulations to dh, firerise and possibly orangefizz by now!!

Gracie Think you need to talk about the situation with dh.....at least then it's off your mind and you can relax a bit! Aren't families in law a pain at times!? Hope you get home soon!! xx

memphis sorry to hear about your dog....hope things start soon to provide a distraction!

Have got to go and feed Isaac....

So mt birth story while I breastfeed Dylan:

Thurs night just before 2am I got up to go to the toilet, climbed back in bed and felt wet between my legs, too much for a drip of wee! Stood up and went and sat back on the toilet to wipe it and look at colour which was clear.
Stood up to go back to bed and loads more water comes out.
About time I woke DP so I tell him my waters have broken so told him and he called the hospital who said to come in to be checked. I hadnt had any contractions by now so was thinking it could still be hours but getting stuff together I had my first contraction which I breathed through.

On way to hospital which is about 25min drive I was getting cts every 5 mins. I thought this was quite close together. So had fetal heart monitor and contraction monitor strapped to me and was having strongish contractions throughout. They stepped up a gear and I had gas and air and after an hour or so I desperately needed to push, she examined me and I was 10cm! So after 2ish hours of pushing my beatiful boy was born and I cried!

The whole thing from waters going to seeing my baby was 7 hours long and 9 days early. I couldnt ask for more

Ive now put a pic up on my profile.

dh that's fantastic! I'm so pleased that it was a quick labour for you

Is there a rule that some of us have to have horrible labours cos so far no one's had a shocker (which is great, but rather makes me suspect I'll be the one )

congrats dh! he's gorgeous!told you you'd go early!
gracie that is quite odd that you're still there. hopefully they let you go soon.
orange very jealous things are happening for you as you were same due date as me! best of luck and hopefully things go smoothly!

aw i have missed loads. Congrats spireal our lo's share a birthday also congrats to firerise and dh your boy is gorgeous. How you feeling?

gracie why you feeling guilty bout this trip? Mil must be aware of all you and dh have to deal with. Even if without the section are you not moving? Your mil is being ridiculous expecting dh and ds to leave you on your own. If gran was that ill, surely she couldnt travel anywhere. Sending you hugs hun must feel fed up with this

memphis i'm so sorry bout your dog hun, hope your bearing up

kk and chulita how are both of you? Hope the pains not getting you down.

Riliegh and i got home from hospital yesterday only 2 days after her birth. We're both fine. She's fantastic if i'm honest lol. I'm still pretty sore but managing with painkillers. I don't have bruising and my scars lovely x

I know it's ridiculous and he won't go, I just hate being made to feel like the bad guy all the time for 'stealing' him from his family.

We are moving on Thursday, appt with anaesthetist/bloods on the Monday, then section the next week, so DH definitely won't go. In laws will still think I'm unreasonable though and make catty comments.

At least they are on holiday so I won't have to deal with it until September!

Slightly worried that everyone is having good births. I don't want to be the disaster!!

gracie i was so scared before my section, totally bricking it. I am sore and uncomfortable but the op was fine even though i kind of had a panic attack and the spinal made me shake like mad i'm still glad i did it. X

stac well done 2 days then home is good going!!!
dh another lovely story he is gorgeous!!!
managed an hours sleep this afternoon, went to my mums for a few hours as not wanting to be left in the house, im now contracting every 6 minutes on the dot! such a truamatic day seems to have set me off! i hope they continue but they are definatly not BH! just going for a stroll to keep things moving as thats what hospital seem to want me to do! so fingers crossed its happening for me 2, i just hope mine is plain sailing like so many of you ladies!
fingers crossed i see you on the other side!!

Ohhh orange hopefully things are well on the way for you!

memphis could be it for you!!! looking forward to hearing how you get on! hopefully some good news for you today

Chulita and gracie no there is no rule that some of us have to have horrible labours! it means that everyone due in July will have fabulous labours

stac so glad to hear you and Riliegh are home! How was your stay in the royal? i'm a bit nervous about it all now as it was so busy when i was in yesterday and roasting!

gracie your in-laws sound like manipulitive so and sos! Don't dare feel bad about anything, whatever the outcome for DPs gran. You cannot control what happens!Just focus on you and your little family- thats what is important

I've had an emotional day today- just keep freaking out when things don't go my way! DH and my brother have both been nagging me to stop doing so much- i really haven't been doing too much other than some light housework and visiting a few friends! really don't want to back down to the ploys to wrap me in cotton wool and not move! lol!
On a positive note DH eventually put up the kitchen blind- only been waiting for 6 weeks!

Congratulations dh!

Hot and uncomfortable here and I have had two really busy days - need a chillout day tomorrow.

becky it takes forever to get anything done in this house too!
memphis how exciting! hope you're in the full throes of an easy as possible labour as we speak!
stac cant believe you're home! what does ds think of his new sister? make sure and keep the feet up as you're still recovering after a big op xx
emster put the feet up tomorrow regardless of what needs doing
stil getting the BH. its going to be even a comfort to not have them anymore when this baby makes an appearance!
COME ON BABY!!!!!!!!really dont want to be induced!