###March 2011### Let's get the ball rolling!

[BUnderTheBonnet]

Hi,

Is anyone expecting a March baby?

I've just found out I'm pg following a mc in April at 12 weeks, so I need some company

BUnderTheBonnet pg#2 (DD4) EDD 1/3/11

Evian, I think I am going to try and push for an ELCS, my reasoning is that, I already have the scar (which they can hopefully tidy up a bit) and don't want that scar plus possible tearing/stiches elsewhere. There's a fair chance I may go through labour and end up with another EMCS and why not ust skip the labour bit and go straight to the CS. And I know what I am letting myself in for having been through it once and ELCS are supposed to be better than EMCS. Better the devil you know. However it's not an easy choice, some people think i am missing out on the birth experience, the recovery from a CS can be harder than a VBAC, if the VBAC goes well. Also probably wouldn't be allowed a water birth, which was my first choice with DD, as they want a more hospitalised birth with monitoring, I've already been told no birthing centres or home birth, so my choices are limited. Definitely not an easy choice! I still question myself.

Yeah I know re 2 under 2.5, the thought of it is exhausting. In the long term they will be close in age and will hopefully get on well, but I am aware and am being warned that the first 6 months will be really hard! With the thought of that and the MS i think this will be my last!!

Blimey SFB, how do you cope, what was it like with #2??

erm - I found it ok actually.
But then perhaps I am not a good example.

Due to an EMCS, DS1 went into nursery full time for a couple of weeks to allow me a chance to recover, and DH was also fairly hands-on (employment allowing).

After that, DS1 was at home 3 days a week, so I had a couple of days 'off'. That's how I coped!

I dread to think how difficult it must be for women who have no childcare options who have an EMCS and a DC already. I only coped because DH did the nursery runs for those first few weeks which meant I was quickly back on form.

When I was better, I had them both on my own, it was fine. It's harder NOW, with DS2 a year old, because he is into everything!

mendipgirl anyone who says you are "missing out on the birth experience" needs a good kick in the shins. Or somewhere even more sensitive. CS is a birth experience, it's not like the baby magically appears from thin air. I think being cut open is a pretty big birth experience in fact, and I've never given birth.

So if anyone says that again, send them my way and I'll take care of them.

Muser thanks for that! My thinking is I carry t for 9 months then somehow it comes out and that's all that counts. Don't get me started on those who think I'm taking the easy option or am too posh to push!!

Mendipgirl - muser is right.

I have done it both ways (sounds kinky), vaginally and EMCS.

Pros and cons of both.
Vaginally - you are back on your feet so much quicker, less traumatising for your body, however sodding painful and you can end up with tears/stretch marks down below (Zexy!)

EMCS - horrible recovery (for me anyway), bleeding, didn't like being in theatre, inability to drive etc for a while. However, the birth is all over with quickly with less cow like moaning, less pain and fanjo remains 'pretty'.

Both are an experience. Both are emotional, both are giving birth, both are traumatising and beautiful and both give you the same end result. People are insensitive and will tell you how you should feel every step of the way.
I appreciate that for some women it IS important to give birth vaginally, it's like a personal milestone for them; well I suppose I can't judge, to each their own, but having done both I didn't feel more or less of a mother or person for having to do either.

A C-section is NEVER the easy option.

Let people think what they want.

I am having an ELCS, partly because I 'should' after last time, partly because I want the convenience of being able to arrange childcare for a specific date and time and to tell my mum what day she needs to fly over from the US for

Utter trash all this too posh to push or brith experience. All personal and you do what is right for you. People really get on my nerves.

Hi everyone. I'm another newbie. First pregnancy and it happened fairly quickly so I'm still getting used to it all- was a honeymoon conception! I'm due 26th March so would be great to chat to other people. Finding work a bit tough as am shattered and nauseous most days (though not actually vomiting). Also burping a LOT. Anyone else have that?!
Am very excited about it all and keeping my finger's crossed that everything works out (I've been broody for years!) But I'm concentrating so hard on getting through the pregnancy that I can't even think about an actual baby yet!

Hello and congrats to Kpidgeon and all the other newbies. Spring will be springing in March .

Mendip firstly at group photoshoot!!! And sfb the wide angled lens would only be needed for a shot of my posterior! I fear I ahve overstated the size of my bosom - I started as an A cup and have progressed to a C - pretty huge for me but not world record size!!

Secondly, how you choose to give birth is such a personal choice and no one else's business. I know people who have had successful VBAC's and those who have ended up with another CS. One thing to possibly bear in mind is that if you will have a medicalised labour with a lot of monitoring you may well end up having a CS anyway. Give it some time and see how you feel, but remember neither option is easy, as sfb said.

As for close age gaps, my first two are 17 months apart. I read somewhere that having two children less than 18 months apart knocks 5 years off your life!!! Not sure how thye worked that out. I didn't find it too hard but my dd2 was a perfect baby while her sister was a less than perfect toddler ( very willful and stroppy - bless her)!! Now they are so close and really good friends - I am now wondering how number 3 will affect the dynamic, but I am sure all will be fine. DH is a middle child and is sure he suffered from middle child syndrome and is worrying for dd2.

As for me today has been horrible. I woke up with a cracking headache (I rarely get them) and the MS is back with vengeance . All day I have felt close to vomming and the trip round Tesco was a trial. I managed a small nap, while referreeing a sisterly spat with my eyes shut - multitasking at its best! Here's hoping for a better day tomorrow.

I told my mum last night and she sounded quite shocked but very pleased. I thought she knew we always wanted three. I am visiting them next week, and tbh my bump would have given me away. I tried on a pair of trousers I fitted in at 14 weeks with dd1 but couldn't get anywhere close to doing them up ... all I keep thinking is twins, twins, twins or just fat!!

Hello everyone, and welcome to the newbies. We seem to have had a spate of new arrivals- it's lovely for our group to be growing!

I'm still feeling much better than I was. Slightly sick when I get too hungry and not fancying quite a lot of food, but much better. Am rather emotional though- have wept twice today at things that I really could have dealt with better. Only a week to go to our nuchal fold scan- can't wait to see the baby and know that it is really there and is not my imagination.

Am feeling rather envious of all the boob action you lot are getting. Mine were always on the smaller side, but pretty pert for a 30 something pre-BFing DD for 15 months, but now are a sad shadow of their earlier selves. I think because I was still BFing when I fell preg again I've not really seen any difference in them. Hopefully as we go on I'll suddenly have a growth spurt and be able to show off an ample cleveage in our group photo!

Well, with it being August, we are off again tomorrow to camp with my folks. Last time we saw them as a family was a bit of a disaster, so am hoping that this time will be nice and relaxing. Hope you all have a good weekend, those with scans coming up all go well and those still suffering with MS, try frozen grapes. worked for me.

hi everyone just wondering where everyone is from am in woolwich south east london anyone else out there from london ??? just be nosey lol

being not be lol baby brain

Emma I am in west london.

Up for a coffee (or whatever) if anyone's local.

Hello everyone

Welcome to all the new ladies - good luck to Raye and Spilttea for scans tomorrow and Friday and anyone else who has one this week.

I'm 9+3 and still feeling rough - I'm finding it really hard to sleep at the moment and as a result have no energy whatsoever, and no patience with my kids. I feel like I just don't want to do anything - and can't find anything I want to eat (which is very unusual!!).

I don't remember feeling this bad with my previous pregnancies but i was working full-time during first trimester with both of them (am on school holidays at the mo) and think I just got on with it because I had to (moping round the house is probably not helping) - plus didn't have two kids to look after and was a few years younger.

Anyway, enough of the moaning - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel and know I am incredibly lucky to be in this position.

I know its early but has anyone started thinking about names yet? And will you be finding out the gender at next round of scans? We have to pay £50 for an extra scan to find out the sex in Shropshire so as much as I am tempted I can't justify/afford to pay that.

hello everyone, and hello to all the new people good to have some more 1st timers :)

yesterday for the 1st time in 3 weeks i wasnt sick and instead of being pleased i just worried something was wrong, however back to being sick this morning! I still have to wait over 2 weeks for my scan ill be 12+5 when i have it, feels like forever to wait.
Does anyone have a strong feeling sense what gender they are going to have?
i think its a boy when ever i have birth dreams which is quite alot at mo its always a boy!

Morning everyone.

flower11 I'm convinced I'm having a boy, due to feeling 'icky' a lot and I had nothing at all with DD1.

Names... God I have no idea yet lol! That seems so far off yet doesnt it!

I still havent had my booking appointment so no idea when my scan will be, I'm 10+1 and midwife coming Monday morning, it is dragging, I just want to get the ball rolling so I can start to really 'feel' pregnant!

Ladies, I want to ask, is anyone else out there rubbish at remembering to take their Folic Acid?
I CANNOT get it in to my head to take it, so am on 1 tablet every three or four days. Starting to worry myself with this but just cannot seem to do anything about it I'm going mad lol...

Anyway, Happy Thursday to you all, hope this morning finds you well and nausea-free.

xxx

flower11 glad you're feeling better. VERY normal to improve around 10 weeks so please dont fret!! hormones balance out around this time so it is totally natural to find nausea reducing etc.

I think i am having a boy (and whilst i dont mind either way i do have a slight preference for a boy). No idea why, just a feeling, totally irrational and unscientific but fun!

good luck today rayeraye

morning all.

I want a boy. For no other reason than it makes great economic sense, as I have a house fully equipped with boys stuff and a girl really would throw a spanner in my works.

I have shortlist names for both. In fact, I have names for the next 8 children we should have, I love choosing names!

I totally fucked myself up last night, pulled a ligament/muscle down below, I felt really faint and couldn't walk, was convinced I was miscarrying. Hope I didn't.

Still hurts, hope it gets better before Saturday, I have a photoshoot

Thanks for the welcome all. It's nice to get excited on here together and sympathise with each other too! It's horrible waiting for the 12-week mark isn't it (before you can believe it all). How some of you are coping with little ones and feeling so drained and sick I don't know! Hat's off to you.
I went to bed very early yesterday- half 8. And blissed out just with radio 4 on with my eyes closed. Just got to go with it haven't you. My husband and I are away from my week 11 to week 13 so is it okay to try and get my first scan before that- maybe week 10?
K x

Good morning all! Nice to see your posts very supportive!

Yesterday I thought my stomach/nausea is going to settle ... cause compared to the previous days it was 'not as bad' but got it again this morning & to make it worse I woke up at 3:30am when I couldn't get comfortable.. & needing to pee - and feeling thirsty & then needing to pee again. I just want to have a normal day and a normal night - although I have no idea what 'normal' means anymore. So was very grumpy this morning.

I'm 10wks day after tomorrow - and have booking appt on Tuesday- no idea when the scan will be, also away for the 12th week so like KPidgeon i hope i can get a scan before.

Hi All, Am loving our little group!!

I have no idea what this one is going to be and no preference either. Another DD would be simpler in some ways, but a DS would be nice as well, particul;arly for Dh I think. Although he says he would like another DD.

Also haven't really started thinking about names yet, am trying to wait till after next week's scan. But I do keep saying the odd name to DH which he invariably rejects. DD didn't have a name till a week after she was born. It's not thinking of them that's the problem it's agreeing on them!

Feel less sick than I was with DD so that makes me wonder if it's a boy this time?

SFB, hope you are feeling better. x

Bev, I struggle with the folic acid as well, I think i am taking them everyday but some days I can't remember whether I have taken it or not and it says it can be harmful if you overdose so i'm not sure whether to take another and risk taking 2 in a day or not bother and risk taking none that day!! Bloody Pregnancy brain! I counted how many were left the other day and there are definitely more than there should be!

polkadottytotty I feel exactly the same as you at the moment, no energy at all poor dd is not having much fun at the moment as I feel too tired/weak to leave the house most days. Also my nausea has only started in week 7 since last saturday have felt sick (not actually been sick yet) and cannot decide what to eat, the thought of food turns my stomach.

OH wants a boy I don't mind either way guess a boy will be a change lol. We are not going to find out at the scan we want a surprise. We've already started thinking of names

Good luck to those having scans hope all is well.

mendipgirl, lol, I feel more sick that I was with DD which makes me think its a boy!

bevl81, for years I have had to take tablets every day (nothing scary, underactive thyroid) and I have struggled terribly in the past. I find the way to success is to have a little routine. I now ALWAYS have a drink with my breakfast and I always take my tablets with my first drink of it. This way I remember (almost!) all the time.

As for the rest of it, I want a boy badly (wanted a girl first and got her, now want the full set!) and I think (hope!) it will be - although no way of saying of course. And I live in Guernsey in the Channel Islands.

Bevl81 I am also really rubbish at remembering to take my Folic acid. I was reading the information leaflet yesterday and apparently the tablets can cause nausea which I wasn't aware of - I wander if any of our sickness is being increased because of them.

Is anyone taking iron tablets? I was anemic with both previous pregnancies but not until late in 2nd trimester. But feeling quite dizzy/breathless at times and just wondering if it might be worth getting some now.

I still havn't heard from midwife regarding booking in - I am 10 weeks on Sunday so hope to hear soon.

I think I'm having a boy - just because I've already had two boys and I can't imagine having a girl, and like you sfb it would be better economically, but of course I would love a DD too.