###March 2011### Let's get the ball rolling!

[BUnderTheBonnet]

Hi,

Is anyone expecting a March baby?

I've just found out I'm pg following a mc in April at 12 weeks, so I need some company

BUnderTheBonnet pg#2 (DD4) EDD 1/3/11

B I wondered where you'd gone after you graduated from Charters!

I got my BFP today

Spilt pg#1 EDD 4/3/2011

SpecialSmasher pg#??? EDD 27/2/11
Helenmelon100 pg#3(DS1 3+MMC Angel baby) EDD 27/02/11
BUnderTheBonnet pg#2 (DD4) EDD 1/3/11
delilahbelle pg#1 EDD 1/3/11
Sunchild77 pg#3 EDD 3/3/11
Spilt pg#1 EDD 4/3/2011
Celia76 pg#3 (DS1 5 & DS2 almost 3) EDD ?

Thought I'd tidy up the stats - 7 of us now, lucky number I have become sooo superstitious the last few days - counting magpies (saw 3 pairs on the way to work) and generally turning into a loon. Ah well

Welcome split it's nice to see someone else here on #1.

Ah thanks delilah, once I started typing I wasn't sure how to get back a page and pick up everyone elses data. Hoped someone would do that for me

So apart from announcing to the internet, has anyone told anyone in real life? Other than DH/P?

Thought I would add that it is my 2nd pregnancy to the stats. Feeling OK today, but strange twinges really high up (back / under my boobs) - who knows!

Very happy to be on the list and on the thread with you all

SpecialSmasher pg#2 EDD 27/2/11
Helenmelon100 pg#3(DS1 3+MMC Angel baby) EDD 27/02/11
BUnderTheBonnet pg#2 (DD4) EDD 1/3/11
delilahbelle pg#1 EDD 1/3/11
Sunchild77 pg#3 EDD 3/3/11
Spilt pg#1 EDD 4/3/2011
Celia76 pg#3 (DS1 5 & DS2 almost 3) EDD ?

Hello there - I did another test today and the line was much stronger so I thought I would pop in! Feel a bit more nauseous, tired and boobs are feeling sore. I keep checking the tests over and over (I will chuck them soon or they will stink !!) I just can't seem to believe it really! I feel so away with the fairies, am I going to be like this for the next 9 months?! I have not told anyone yet, except you guys, not even DH . I wanted to do the second test to be sure and he left for work early. Might wait til 8 weeks before telling anyone else, if I can hold on that long. I'll wait a bit longer before telling the children because they will be so excited it'll be too long for them to wait!!

So here's the updated list:

SpecialSmasher pg#??? EDD 27/2/11
Helenmelon100 pg#3(DS1 3+MMC Angel baby) EDD 27/02/11
BUnderTheBonnet pg#2 (DD4) EDD 1/3/11
delilahbelle pg#1 EDD 1/3/11
Sunchild77 pg#3 EDD 3/3/11
Madasajarofwasps pg#3 (DD1 5 DD2 3) EDD 3/3/11
Spilt pg#1 EDD 4/3/2011
Celia76 pg#3 (DS1 5 & DS2 almost 3) EDD ?

Has anyone made a booking appt yet?

Such a mixture of excitement, fear, worry and disbelief

Oops just seen your update specialsmasher - try again ...

SpecialSmasher pg#2 EDD 27/2/11
Helenmelon100 pg#3(DS1 3+MMC Angel baby) EDD 27/02/11
BUnderTheBonnet pg#2 (DD4) EDD 1/3/11
delilahbelle pg#1 EDD 1/3/11
Sunchild77 pg#3 EDD 3/3/11
Madasajarofwasps pg#3 (DD1 5 DD2 3) EDD 3/3/11
Spilt pg#1 EDD 4/3/2011
Celia76 pg#3 (DS1 5 & DS2 almost 3) EDD ?

Sorry Delilah have ruined your lucky 7 .

Ah, that's OK mad, the factors of 8 are 1,2 and 4 and they add up to 7 so it's still lucky

I know what you mean about keeping the p sticks - I have kept both ones I have done so far, and keep getting them out and looking at them. I am tempted to buy some more tests and do another one tomorrow (did last one yesterday) just to see the line get darker again.

I havn't made any appointments yet - was going to leave it until at least next week.

Good to see the thread filling up... How are doing today girls?

I've just been tormenting myself with thoughts of chemical pg. Im worried that I might have jinxed myself by telling too many people so soon... So far Ive told, DH, my 2 close mummy friends, a friend on facebook, and another friend who lives quite far away.

I also am worried that I dont have enough symptoms, feel fine really and no different. Im crazy, I should know by now (pg #3) that there is nothing I can do, but wait and see. Just wish I could fast forward a couple of weeks!

ANyone made Drs/midwives appt yet? I dont want to do it too early this time cos theres a lot of weeks waiting around.... LOL

How yous all doing? Crazy as me?

Welcome and congrats to the new additions.

Think my EDD is around 3.3.11.

Planning on seeing my GP in the next fortnight to request referral to hospital.

I've also decided to pay to have a viability scan privately at 7 weeks. Did the same with DS2, £100 is a lot but just feel that I need to check all is ok!!

When you tell your employer that you are pg, I know you have to put it in writing, but do you have to "prove" it? i.e. do a test at the docs and get them to write you a note, or do employers just trust you?

I'm going to have to say pretty much straight away because my work will probably have to be adjusted (too much physical work and dodgy chemicals!).

They are going to be well put out, since they took away my job share partner a few months ago on the assumption that I could cope with the whole lot . Course they just announced it, no consultation etc so what's sauce for the goose...

Obviously though I did not get pg to spite my work!

Hi spilt when I told my employers first time round they believed me. I needed time off for early scans and for pg related things you could claim back the flexi-time. My manager (a woman) was extremely understanding. Later on my midwife signed the form you need to give them to sort your maternity pay/leave as they need confirmation of your EDD.

If your working responsibilities need to change immediately you might need to get a letter from your doc so they don't kick up a stink. You have rights and don't feel bad about it, your baby comes first .

What Madasa says is right... First time around for me (5years ago) my boss (small private company and he was male with no kids) was a utter and complete twat.
He made everything very difficult, made me get appointments in my lunch break, bullied me etc, was awful, I was so stressed out. Luckily I had an easy pregnancy. I ended up walking out at 31 weeks pg (2 weeks before my agreed mat leave)
I wish Id realised there is a ton of legislation to support me as a pregnant mum. DOnt worry though....
You dont need to stand for any of the nonsense I did But Im sure you will be fine Any worries at all get legal adivce, there is LOADS out there..

adivce = advice obviously...!

Thanks Madasa and sunchild for sharing your experiences. I think I'll book an appointment at the GPs for early next week (on A/L until Wednesday anyway).

It all feels very unreal this early doesn't it? Don't know whether to get excited or whether to try and pretend nothing's happening incase nothing does happen IYKWIM?

Very tired though, have had 2 sleeps today . In fairness that's probably because I was overexcited last night about testing in the morning and couldn't sleep!

I am debating about telling work too... I'm a teacher and they are currently sorting the timetable for next year. Realistically I know my boss would want me away from certain groups, as swapping to a new teacher mid year is not a good idea. But I don't want to say anything - if this doesn't work I don't want to have to go in and explain that.

I'm tired too, feel a bit lightheaded and dizzy also.

Delilahbelle are you a Maths teacher by any chance??? Nothing to be ashamed of....

I've told my family, cos I found it helpful that they knew last time when I miscarried (I miscarried a few days after I'd told them ). I won't tell work though. Again, I told my boss in confidence as there were potential redundancies happening and I didn't want someone to lose their job unnecessarily when they could have done my maternity leave. Anway, two days later, I heard another manager discussing my pregnancy in the staff room with a completely random member of staff So I'm not telling them early this time. Unless I need time off.

I am planning on calling my GP tomorrow, but I might ask to just chat on the phone because going in for an appointment is completely unnecessary, if I recall correctly. I am planning to use the independent midwife I used last time, so no need to make a booking appointment either. I do want to have a viability scan this time (post mc trauma!). Anyone know anywhere good in Kent???

Good guess B - what does everyone else do?

I would love an early scan too, not sure we can afford it at the moment though. I am going to see if I can beg my GP for one given the chem preg I had earlier this year, but dont fancy my chances.

I keep on panicing about lack of symptoms at the moment, and poking my boobs every ten seconds to assess how sore they are, as they sem less painful than yesterday. That and I have bought 2 digital pregnancy tests on the way home, and plan to do one tomorrow. I need the reassurance.

DH has just phoned to say he is working late tonight - I am desperate to tell him now I have accepted that I am actually pg!! Nearly told him over the phone but restrained myself. Have spent the day with dd2 who has an upset stomach nothing like clearing up poo to help settle the nausea .

I don't think you need to rush to tell your employers if your job is safe for pregnancy - esp as you might become the topic of conversation at Bunderbonnet's employer.

I'll ring the docs next week, I am sure they will refer straight to the mw. Keep well everyone - this is the worst bit I think from the test to first scan, but we must keep .

Madas I think it's hilarious we know before your DH! I must admit I was straight on here after I'd told mine. If he hadn't been at home, I think I would have told you lot first too

Delilahbelle Another maths teacher here!

Good luck telling your DH madas hope it goes well.

I've just POAS then had a minor freak out when it came up 1-2 weeks pregnant not 2-3.
Then realised since I have been quaffing loads of water (TMI) my wee looks like water, and there was probably not a lot of HCG to detect.
Further reasured by the small print saying that you had to use FMU. Tempted to use the other one tomorrow am. Can see this becoming a very expensive habit...

Still stressed though, I hate the fact I can't just enjoy this time, but I am very aware it can go wrong so quickly

B Maths teachers rock! Promise I won't talk about school though - always DHs biggest complaint when he comes out with my teacher friends.

lol Bunder tbh he will be less excited that you lot - all he will think about is messy childbirth (had a homebirth with dd2 and will do again!), sleepless nights and all the other baby upheaval . He is not really a baby person, but does love them when they get bigger .

Try not to panic delilabelle try again in the morning, now you have read the instructions .

Oooh maths teachers - I feel intimidated now, it wasn't my best subject at school .

B - been doing some googling (trying to find a place near me that does viability scans) and found this:

www.kentmedicalimaging.co.uk/obs.htm

Looks like viability scans are about £50 there. HTH

B I am at your boss, what an appalling breach of confidence!

Oh delilah naughty girl POAS in the evening! I'm sure you'll get a much better result tomorrow. Have to admit to being a cheapskate and have only used the internet cheapies at about 20p each. Can't bring myself to spend £10 on a branded test.

Well I told him reaction as expected - oh.... followed by how can you tell this soon... followed by its only a cheap test, lets see in a few more weeks!! Bless him, nothing scares him more than the sight of a positive pg test! Oh and he said he's not coming near me again without his pants on . Its lucky I love him so much ! Feels mighty real now!

spilt I am the same with the branded tests, but after DH's reaction I might have to splash out - maybe a digital one so he can't dispute the result!

Excellent reaction madas bit like my DHs! He was happy/shocked but won't talk about it at all now - he's a bit overwhelmed. I suggested a viability scan earlier and he said "what's the point?"

And yes I am so regreting spending stupid amounts of money on tests then wasting then by doing them at the wrong time. But I just can't believe I'm pregnant - it seems more real in words. And it's very reassuring when you have a wobble.