10/10 Babies - Rock and Rollin Pumpkins showing us their groovy moves.

[Hermya321]

Right then (brushes off sparkly dress) I'm here!

(cue groovy disco lights and an appropriate selection of tunes)

I also have alcohol free wine, and I'm sure theres a stash of mini eggs behind the bar (along with other some other things) and I'm dancing, whose going to join me??

Stats list here!!

x-post with Xav

oh and your belly button might not pop out! mine didn't... but then my belly button is such an 'inny' that i'm not sure i've ever seen the bottom of it!

Thanks, Xav and KSal. To be honest, yes, it has definitely occurred to me that they are wanting to edge me out. This, at the same time they know I am going off on honeymoon to do what many people do on honeymoon (and yes, it worked, I came back pregnant). Nine years, no problems. Get married, go on honeymoon - bam. Hm. Tricky to prove, as he was crafty enough to tell me JUST before I went on honeymoon and got pregnant, you know?

Sorry, I don't really like being all me me me!!!

Ooh, Dilly, I didn't see your post before I last replied. Thank you too. And yes indeed - PO can see what's happening - as can everyone else, but sadly, it does seem my manager has manoeuvred things so craftily, it's hard for me to prove anything illegal, which is why personnel can't really do much, apart from be sweet to me, and supportive.
As for microm girl (nice expression! ), yes - too little, too late. I told the manager back in February what was happening, and microm girl was informed of all the points I'd made (I'd listed various incidents, which he showed her) and she just continued to patronise and belittle me, and rub my nose in it.

I am sat here with a bag of fresh Turkish Delight!

x

Wow even in the time it has taken me to read this morning's posts there have been more posts!

welcome listeel re pelvic floor, I have discovered I can no longger run with ds when we are late for school drop off. It just feels like things will give way!

I am begining to feel uncomfy roobear but not constantly. Hope it eases up x

Nymphdora I have felt woozie a couple of times when standing up. Glad people looked after you.

I also feel like my bellybutton is being well and truly stretched shieldbug, however I was ten days overdue with my last two and sadly it never popped out because they were back-to-back.

Hugs for those of you anxious about scans over the next few days.

Enjoy your scan and minibreak tiredfeet dont let apprehension take over and forget to ask for a piccie at the beginning of the scan.

Thankyou for the welcome back everyone.
Abfab I wish I could say I had been somewhere exciting and held up on an exotic beach by volcanic ash or something but sadly not. Think when I felt lousy plugging in the laptop was too much effort! That and time, I am very disorganised so there always seems to be things I need to do round the house just to keep things moderately untidy instead of complete chaos!

Glad I am not alone with having the munchies. at christmas hamper luch patsy sounds delicious as does living in the crisp aisle Hermya. mmm crisps, does anyone remebr the Branston pickle flavour now they were delicious.

Just had pasta with dd, my bowl was enormous so she tootled over for a share when she finished hers, and her face when she looked in and saw it was empty... there were tears of outrage and disappointment in her eyes! like mother like daughter

LOL, pook - I've just got a messy house, and spend all my time on MN! Come on, Woman - get your priorities straight!

What's all this care you are all getting?
All I've had so far is:

• booking in appointment with MW
• 12-week scan with sonographer
• 16-week check-up with MW
• 20 week scan (tomorrow!) ... and that's it. Should I be seeing the midwife more??? I haven't even been offered a consultant or obstr-obstr-obstetrician-something-or-other.

abfab LOL re the care - don't feel hard done by, even if you are an 'older mother' ( like me at 37!) I only saw the consultants (well, the SHO only they're not called that any more) because I'm asthmatic so they go through this process in order to check I'm not going to have an attack and cark it during the delivery (though actually they have no way of knowing that) so now I'm back under the mw and a good job too! Otherwise, exactly the same appts as you.

abfab I've only had the same and my 20wk is in june so i'm sure its fine! thanks for the reaassurances ladies, glad its not just me! (in the nicest possible way )x

Abfab he sounds awful and like he was anticipating things. wont say more as you suggest. Really feel for you and hope it works out. Enjoy the turkish delight .

I feel like coming on here is giving me license to eat - just rounded off lunch with a muller little stars jelly and some toast!

Xav awww baby clothes, so tiny and cute! I remember being unable to resist buying ds a little white cardi and hat from mothercare when I was pg 1st time. Tip - pack different sized babygros in your hospital bag, ds looked like the incredible hulk in his newborn outfit!

AbFab I've had the same level of care as you i think...

and 20 week scan tomorrow.. yay! (well 19 and a bit, really)

Managing to valiantly ignore mess at the moment Abfab you may have some more appointments at your gp surgery with community midwives after 20 week scan ring your gp surgery to check it out?

Feel sick - I can never stop with the Turkish Delight until I've overdone it!

Thanksm Dilly and Roo re care - ok, I'll chill, just didn't want to be missing out.

Thanks, pookey, yeah. He's very crafty, I'll give him that!

Is anyone going to the Birmingham BabyShow? We probably are! (Haven't got tickets yet.)

And thanks KSal (this thread moves so fast!)

pookey, yeah, I'll check with my GP/MW/call the helpline or something, maybe speak to someone when I go in for my scan TOMORROW!

Gawd, head has Turkish Delight brain. It fizzes.

re baby clothes, my god daughters are 15 months and 20 weeks, guess what i done to celebrate her birth lol. and her mummy has kindly dontated to me 5 boxes!!!! of girls stuff that they have outgrown or wont fit in winter, guess i need a girl in my scan on wednesday

I've had the same appointments too,

8 weeks - booking with MW
10 weeks - scan
16 weeks - bloods with MW

This is what it says in my notes;

19-22 weeks - Anomaly scan
25 weeks - 1st baby - GP
28 weeks - MW (all)
31 weeks - 1st baby - GP
34 weeks - MW (all) - bloods
36 weeks - MW (all)
38 weeks - GP (all)
40 weeks - 1st baby - MW
41 weeks - MW (all)

I would have loved to go to the baby show as Birmingham isn't far from here. But no point without any pennies to spend as I think there can be good 'straight from the manufacturer' deals there. Will have to see if there is another one closer to D day.

My very inny has never gone outy either KSal

Thanks, Xav. Guess it will all pick up in a few weeks then!

Abfab well done on getting through your meeting - hopefully everyone involved can "make it work" just long enough for you to get your mat leave entitlement after so many years of service... after that I would tell them where to stick their job but I've always hated office bullys!

In terms of what ante-natal care you should be getting have a look at the NICE guidelines egap.evidence.nhs.uk/CG62/guidance/section_1#section_1_2 It sets out what the recommended timings/screening procedures etc. for antenatal appointments. The NHS has to follow this but some areas may be behind others in picking up recent changes.

Can't wait to find out the sex next Weds so I can go shopping and v. jealous of everyone that already knows!

Yeah, I am torn. It IS far from here, but my second best friend lives not too far away, and it would be good to combine the visit, and I think maybe we'll see some cute little outfits that I'd otherwise have to go to dozens of shops to come across. And I might be able to see the colours of the pram I am keen on, and possibly even get a bargain.
But balance that with the entry fee for two people, and I don't know!
Shame the one in London (down the road from me!) is a few weeks after my EDD!

Thanks, Ivy. I am pretty sure I'll get my maternity pay no matter what. Personnel have said some things to me perhaps they shouldn't have, but in a nice way, and I feel financially protected, at least. I'd love to tell them to shove their job (sadly I think this would be a good result for them though, and what they want!), but I want to hold out for the maternity pay, AND keep in the loop for the next round of maternity pay if we get pregnant again soon after this first one pops out!

Thanks for the link too.

AbFab why should you lose your job because you're having a baby!?! That's what the new(ish) employment laws are there to protect you from! I didn't tell anyone here we were TTC or even thinking about it, it's not their business and they can't ask. Grrrrr. If you end up leaving because of what has happened then I would imagine you'd have grounds for constructive dismissal. Not that I'm an expert but still.... on your behalf!

You are right, Dilly. They'll say it's nothing to do with my pregnancy though, and the fact that he told me the week before I went on my belated honeymoon, kind of supports his story, even though I'd been very open about my wishes to start trying for a baby while I was away, the fact was, I wasn't pregnant when he told me the plans.

I really thought I was safe from such treatment, and they wouldn't dare.

Someone told me constructive dismissal was VERY hard to prove. I still think I might be better off riding it out for a few months - I go back on the 1st, if I am not happy, I start the ball rolling with the formal grievance - I expect that will take a few weeks - even if it doesn't find in my favour, I don't believe I've lost anything (need to check that, but I think that's the case). At the end of June, I have Jury Service for at least two weeks - potentially more. (That would be a real result for me, a good two months of Jury Service!). So Mid-June at the earliest, so then only two more months til mid-September, and then we are fast approaching my EDD (I am due early October). So I do see an end in sight, and with the nine months full pay I get, that postpones having to deal with them again until October 2011 (I'll take the rest of my year off unpaid), and who knows - by then, I may be pregnant again. And as I mentioned many posts back, there is also talk of redundancies in a couple of years, so I might be offered that, and if the price is right, I'll gladly go.

Congrats on the girl Jenimoo

Oh, you make my employers sound like angels AbFab. You stick in there and get the maternity pay you're entitled too! Glad to hear you at least got a bit of comfort from your HR people.

My appointment schedule looks pretty much like Xav's except all with the MW except scans. I live in the middle of nowhere, and community MW only visits our surgery for 1 hour every 2 weeks, so end up with most of my appoints being about a week late! And there's no chance she'll be on in the hospital when the baby pops out, so I won't know anyone there either.

Considered trying a homebirth, as I love our house and think it would be wonderful for the baby to be born there, but live 30mins (on a clear run) from nearest hospital so would worry incase I needed an emergency transfer... decisions, decisions!

Thanks, Patsy. Most of them are nice, which is why I've stayed there for over nine years, and up until the end of last year, things were ok. But it's all gone very wrong now. And yes, at least my HR people are lovely. My consolation is that at least my maternity package is excellent (and another reason I've stayed!).

Tricky knowing what to do re home birth - I'd prefer to be in the hospital, just in case.
How lovely to live in the middle of nowhere though (for the most part).

Fair enough abfab, just annoys me, that's all - clearly missed my vocation - should have been an employment lawyer. Very happy to fight on other peoples' behalf, less keen doing it for myself

Ah well, chins up then ladies... I went to see my friend but she wasn't in her office.. now I will have to eat her share of the cake as well as mine...shame.

Mmmmm Cake...