10/10 Babies - The sun is showing and the pumpkins are growing

[Hermya321]

Here we go, pull up a deck chair, catch some rays and help yourselves to a mini eggs ice cream.

Link to the stats list.

Hello Antidote and Levijess. MMooMar thanks for the answer and good luck with the amnio. I need to bite the bullet and make the appointment I think. Like you it's the impact on my ds I think about and he already has SN (cp).

Shieldbug sorry to hear about the fibroids. It's a worry. I have endometriosis and wonder if that was a factor in ds arriving early.

Been to gp, all he came up with was my bp being low, signed me off for 2 weeks but if I feel better next week I can go back. The driving concerned him which was a good job cos it worried me! Have some bloods to have done next week & to see him after that & have bp taken at least weekly. I normally have highbp &am on meds so it's more worrying that normal to low IYSWIM although I haven't taken my meds as often as I should as they make me sick .

tyson check your hospital rules as some don't let children in the scan room, at least you can prewarn them then.

Oh & heard heart beat & baby tried to get away from dopplar! Dh sat grinning whilst gp looked worried about me

Nymph its a private scan, its not till 6.45pm but not so worried now as i have been lazy in the last hour and felt baby move

Nymph I'm glad you've been sorted by your Doc. I hope you feel better soon. It's great hearing the heartbeat isn't it. Dh wasn't with me this morning, so the midwife let me record it on my phone. Dh grinned like a loon on loon tablets when he heard it.

Tyson I'm glad your worries have been abated.

Right ladies, I have a horrible horrible cough, what the hell can I take for it that won't potentially kill me due to my pregnant state .

That's good then tyson. Have seen private scan ads aimed at the whole family

Baby is still narky tried to bend over & it seems to be headbutting me

Great to hear all your news, I am still feeling coldy/fluey too so I am not stopping for long.

Hermya I went to Boots and the pharmacist said all I can take is Lockets (or something similar) and paracetamol. She recommended a hot waterbottle on my throat and chest, loads of fluids especially warm drinks.

Congrats on your scans and dopplars.

Hi and welcome to the newbies! Great to have you here!

floozie good luck with your amnio x

Nymph!! You take it easy girl- lovely to hear heart rate.

I'm good, bought some mat clothes from gap sale, and a gorgeous uttam dress with plenty of extra material for a wedding in a month- I seem to be maxi dress addicted at the moment.

Right, if anyone needs me I'll be in the politics section tonight whilst I mn and watch C4 alternative election!

Friday 5 tomorrow umm if anyone else is up earlier than me feel free to post or I'll subject you all to the mental image of shagging GB again

Hope the rest and relaxation sorts you out, Nymph. Take it easy.

Hermya, I thought to record the heartbeat just after I'd left the midwife. Grrr! Am sure I'd normally have thought of it in time - must have pregnancy brain.

SeaShells, love your questions but no more on GB, DC or NC please!

I am fine. My two weeks of Work-Related Stress leave ran out today, but I went to my GP again and she signed me off for another two weeks. I just doubt things will have changed at work, but I think I will have to go in and meet with them sooner or later. Just don't feel up to the stress of it really. Am thinking I might have a case for constructive dismissal (not that I have left yet, and I don't intend to, as I want to hold out for the maternity pay and earn until October) but it does feel like that's what my boss has been aiming for. Hard to prove though.

Just heard from a friend of mine also due in October (doesn't work for the same place as me) and they sacked her, after finding out she was pregnant! She's fighting it through legal channels, but you just don't need the hassle at this stage of your life, when you are meant to be enjoying this phase.

Abfabt: lol, I promise no more politics, or rather, grim mental images

glad you have been signed of for couple more weeks- try to relax. Can someone look at your case and decide your chances of success?

Not impressed with conservatives. I want to go to bed but it's too interesting! I need my mum here to send me to bed.

Thanks, SeaShells!
Go to bed!

Well, I've been to my union rep, he actually suggested I play the long game and see if I can put up with it for five months, as I am then on maternity pay, and our maternity pay is amazingly generous (nine months full pay) so I should stick it out for that, and then challenge them when I am back, unless of course I get pregnant again with our second child and then apparently (depending on timing) I'd qualify again for Maternity Pay without necessarily having been back in the office. I am going to email a couple of the other union reps tomorrow, to see what advice they have. Just not sure I can put up with the manager and the situation for another five months. Well, it will be four and a half after this next fortnight off. Stresses me out just thinking about it.

Ok, watched a film earlier but have now made the mistake of turning over to the count. I really need to go to bed too seashells!

I'm thinking back to 1997 when I certainly was still up for portillo, and more. Watched it at a friends house and can remember cycling home long after dawn feeling fantastic, even though I had no illusions in Tory Blair whatsoever. But still marvellous to see the toerag party out after 18 long, awful years. Thus endeth the politics! Goodnight!

AbFab, xposts. Have you got much leave in reserve? If so could you possibly start annual leave in mid-aug or start of sept then go on mat leave straight after? Then you'd only have three months to deal with it (and maybe a "bad back" three week break in the middle? You can play as dirty as them if it comes to it...).

Echoing floozie abfab

Bloody DC keeping me awake keep having nightmares and gave up now and watching TV

I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who is worrying about finding the sex out because we might then get overly girly etc presents! DH is now leaning towards us finding out but not telling anyone. I want to have fairly neutral stuff for this child, in the hope we will have a second at some point (plus I'm not keen on the overly girly stuff)

sheildbug I'm sorry you've got fibroids to worry about. But it does sound like you're being well monitored at least.

AbFab I am really feeling for you with the work related stress. Are you being given full pay while on sick leave? If so then definitely eke that out for as long as possible, and then could you start your maternity leave earlier than planned? Even if you have to go back for a little bit, you might find it a little easier to cope with (albeit still awful I don't doubt) when the end is in sight? Is there any scope at all for you to continue at the same work place but in a different team or similar? Your union rep's advice sounds sensible really. Constructive dismissal is tough to prove unfortunately (imo it should be easier as its so often the way people are 'pushed out' by bullies). It would potentially be an immensely stressful process in itself to claim it if that makes sense? The employment board on mumsnet was an excellent source of advice when I was considering my options. You never know, your boss might leave while you're on mat leave

tyson hope the scan goes well

I woke up ridiculously early again, this baby seems to decide to do most of its moving around at about 5am! Today it was almost a relief to wake up though as I was having dreadful election themed dreams all night, the reality is never as weird as my dreams at least

shieldbug, I don't know anything about fibroids, but just to say hope you are doing ok and getting looked after.

Thanks, floozie, Nymph and tiredfeet.

I do have loads of annual leave in reserve, but I don't want to use it up really, as what I don't use, gets tacked onto the end of my maternity pay and I can then stay off longer with my child, on pay. (Terms and conditions like that are very good where I work. It's just my particular manager who is awful. When he started, three people in my department left pretty quickly, because of him. So he has form. I am not sure how he gets away with it, really. Well I do - he is 'in' with the right people at the top.) I don't really see why I should give them the satisfaction of leaving early.

tiredfeet, I believe I am on full pay, though tbh, it is genuinely so stressful right now, if I'm not, then I'm not, and no money is worth the stress I am under. DH has said I should just leave now, nothing is worth the stress, and we'd manage. We would manage (we wouldn't starve, bills would still get paid), but I feel I am entitled to that maternity pay, I calculated what it was worth and it's about £20k! Plus the next five months of pay, I don't want to lose out on. This will really help pay off a bit of the mortgage and put us in a better position when we want to move, which we will have to really when we have a second child.
I can't really move departments, as the job I do is very specific, and doesn't apply anywhere else.
And oh, IF ONLY he would leave. Would make everyone's life much easier, but sadly, I very much doubt that he will. He's got it too good there. It's actually not just him I am struggling with though - it's him and someone else who he has put in charge of me and my projects as an extra line-manager (I've been doing the job for over nine years without someone micromanaging me, and her promotion was merely to satisfy her ambitions - she's in the 'in-crowd', and the manager is keen to keep her), who has taken to patronising me at every opportunity, so I've got two people to contend with. This is pretty much what started it all off.

Hi everyone!

Hope everyone is feeling ok and that you all have a good day!

Went to see Black eyed Peas in concert last night was amazing!!!!!!!!!! so im in a very happy mood today dancing around my house listening to them lol

tyson hope the scan goes well! cant wait to hear the news!!!!
xxx

Morning all!!!

I hope you are all well. I've still got my horrid cough and am feeling a bit off at the moment. Hey ho, work beckoneth though.

Abfab That sounds like a really tought situation you've got there. I hope things go your way.

Nymph How you feeling today?

Morning all I'm knackered this morning only 2 hours sleep thanks to the election (I'm sad I know but I get so excited). I'm also not a happy bear today as I'm a Tory girl

Hermya lot better considering I was up at 3am with nightmares. Am going back to bed soon when the bbc stopping getting me excited -couldnt have done this yesterday though so must be on a good day.

Morning Guys.

Hope everyone is feeling ok today and those or have been feeling rough are a little better today.

Finally told DS1 that will be presenting him with another tormenter later this year lol!
He was really happy about it,which is such a relief ,I was dreading telling him.
He has decided though that he wants another brother,he cant quite get his head around the fact that you cant pick what you want.

Just added myself to the stats list,was a bit miffed at first as you lot are all spring or springish chickens,then caught sight of you ILGH .....sorry but you made me feel better .

xx

nymph I've been worried. It must have been such a relief to hear the heartbeat and know that your baby is still ok. Take it easy even if you feel you have more energy- it's too tempting to overdo things.

abfab really hope you can get your well-deserved maternity pay. At least you have the support of your union rep.

tyson let us know when you have some news! Good luck!!

hermya how about lemon juice warmed with honey? Only take a spoonful but it's meant to soothe sore throats and this may help ease your cough if that's the cause. If it's a chesty cough, the utterly gross garlic tablets are meant to help and those should be safe to take when pg. There's supposedly odourless versions available now. Hope you find something to help.

Shieldbug I'll probably nip out and get some later, I'm due at work in a few hours and I feel really horrid. I'm hoping today is the day that they've stuck me in a back office for the evening where I can hide away for a little bit. Thanks for the tip though.

shieldbug does being glued to MN & bbc count as taking it easy?

hermya Im most intruiged to what you do. I keep picking up clues but havent IDed it. Is it a big company you work for?