~~August 2010~~ tummies blooming into bumps

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5th thread come grab a bean bag, theres a cake table in the corner (feel free to help yourselves)

Jaysfourth - do you mean the triple test? I had that with ds as I moved around 12 weeks and they couldn't get me an appt in time for the scan. It just came back saying very low risk for downs - not sure if there was a figure or not but I don't remember one.

I don't really get pain when sneezing - as sunch - but it's almost cramp / stitch like and I always hold my tummy! had it first time around too - it's very annoying isn't it.

neenz my DH was very keen on a hb for DD and was gutted that we didn't. Even when I had a wobble and thought I'd go in, he talked me out of it! If this VBAC goes well he'll probably try and talk me into a hb for the next one

"I don't think many people would proceed with hb over advice from their MW"

Hmmm. That depends on whether you think the midwife is talking crap or not (veteran of more than one homebirth fight with NHS, hence ind mw last time and quite possibly no mw this time)

And my DH is extremely pro hb having felt like a spare part at my first and only hospital birth. In fact he caught my 3rd baby as the midwife didn't show up in time, he was very pleased with himself

Thanks pample it's my day off tomorrow (only work 4 days per week) thankfully, so I don't need to see or speak to the knb until Monday. Grrr. DH says he reckons the knb will get it in the neck from his pregnant wife when he goes home complaining of the pregnant hormonal outburst at work

Oh, all this talk of home birth makes me want one! DH totally against though as had shoulder dystocia with ds and think dh is stil traumatised by the memory of being shoved into the bathroom out of the way so they could whip my knees up to my ears and pop ds out like a cork Mind you, with general consensus being that 2nd labours progress much, much faster than 1st time labours, not sure I'll make to the hospital in time (or so at least 3 separate midwives have told me already )

Oh I have a scan booked now, but not till April 7th (boo! hoped for one sooner)

Sorry for everyone who's had a crap day, I've had a fairly crap day but DH is coming home before 9pm, which counts as good round here so the day is improving!

Ok lovely ladies i need advice. I am providing champagne (virual so indulge) and chocolate.

As you probably know im a single mum. These babies were a BIG (very happy) surprise. Anyway, i have this friend. Its a guy and we get on really really well. Lately we have been spending loads more time together. He comes up every weekend for dvds coffee and a chat. Normally goes home at about 4am.
We have been doing the dvd nights for about 8 months now and nothing has ever happened. We have always done friendly flirting but was just fun. To be honest he was put in the friend box as i "knew" it would never be anything more.
Well he told me he has feelings for me and me falling preg was a kick up the ass that i might not be single forever. It was only then that he realised that he wanted more than friends but has waited to tell me cos he didnt want to lose me as a friend if i didnt feel the same.
I do feel the same and i think i always have but feel very concious of how pregnant i look if that makes any sense.
Not sure what i want you all to say but feel i need to talk about it. Is it a really bad idea getting involved with him while im pregnant?
God im soooooo confused lol

Oh blueberries, how rotten. I had a hormonal crying day on Monday when a colleague lashed out at me by email for no reason. I started crying but then Could Not Stop for the rest of the day. Every now and then I'd go and wash my face, reapply my make up, have a cup of tea and then ten minutes later start crying again. It was miserable.

I went to M&S to get some maternity bras today, I got a couple early on but they are getting tightish plus they are both white and I need a black one. I tried some on but wasn't sure about what size to get so asked to get measured - then the fitting lady found me two packs in the sale! One a size up to fit me now, one a bit bigger to hopefully keep me going till the end! They are sodding 40D though... However it meant I got 4 new bras for £18. Bargain!

ok not sure that actually makes sense lol

Jennycomelately, my scan is on 7th as well - I'll be nearly 22 weeks then - wish I didn't have to wait so long!

emster that's exactly what I was like! Could not stop crying - so just gave up and came home!

Oh starshaker what a dilemma. I don't know what to advise to be honest but at least he knows you're pregnant and I mean this in the nicest possible way, but if he's keen enough to tell you when you're this pregnant with twins, then I think he might just be a bit of a keeper (ie. worth holding on to!).

I hope that doesn't come across as condescending - I just think men are a bit rubbish at being honest about their feelings at the best of times, let alone when you're pregnant with twins

Does that make any sense, or have I drowned my brain in snot and tears

pamplemousse thanks for your offer of help, which is verymuchneeded thankyou. I have no idea what to write have to do 4 seperate diary entrys, minimum of 350 words each, each showing different ways I have learnt study skills, such as revision or note taking. I dont see how that would make 350 words. Oh and have to refernce a book or internet site used.
Sorry if its too much writing, any help is much appreciated.

Is anyone having bad heartburn already? Ive tried gaviscon but that makes me heave, and rennies are too chalky, anyone have any other idea that works?

Star, go for it if you like him too. What's the worst that can happen? You have to take some chances in life. Hope it works out for you, that would be wonderful. Talk about it all you want .

Yeah Jenny of course some people do proceed with hb over official advice! I know a woman who had had three C-sections but insisted on a hb with her fourth - ended up being rushed to hospital in mid-labour for a section . All was well but it was quite hairy for a time I think.

I mean for first-timers whose DHs are scared because they watch things like OBEM (a couple of posters on here said their DHs were put off), when that situation is very unlikely to happen at a hb in low-risk uncomplicated pregnancy. It's great that some DHs are supportive - mine is if that's what I want but I think he would be happier in the hospital.

I have a bit of a fear of not making it to the hospital this time too. My first labour was 10hrs so not particularly quick but 2nd ones do go much quicker. I'd really like a hb and I would hate for others to want one and not be able to have one cos their DHs were scared by OBEM iyswim.

bbb i think he is a keeper to be honest. Hes straight talking and we get on so well. Think im a bit worried about how things will change when the babies come along. Im not sure how much spare time i will have and he might get neglected abit to start with. Also worry about what his family would think about him getting involved with me

kcoffin, last week I had such terrible heartburn my entire torso was on fire and every tooth ached, I couldn't sleep and didn't really eat for 3 days. Eventually I gave up and went to the doctors and he prescribed me Zantac. I never actually took any because later that day it cleared up on its own! But if you are really suffering go to the docs and get some

Gaviscon did nothing for me either, nothing helped and I was so miserable.

Hi,

My name is Anna and I am new to the site. I am 20 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and he or she is due on the 4th August, which really can't come quick enough as I really can't wait to meet my little one!

I am booked in for my scan tomorrow and am really looking forward to seeing the baby, but am also a quite nervous, so all in all can't wait for the scan so fingers crossed I can be confident that everything is ok. I have only told close family so far as didnt want to tempt fate, but now am desperate to let the cat out of the bag, especially as it is becomming quite obvious now!

I am looking forward to swapping stories with you all over the next few months!

Anna

Had my 20 week scan today...all fine baby happy. She spent ages looking at its heart and I was getting all worried but it was just in the wrong position. She gave us 2 photos but kept applogising for how bad they are..they are fine...mind you I think we are going to have a 4D scan done anyway as its my last pregnancy...better make the most!!

Starshaker -he sounds fab.Go for it... you might need a real shoulder to cry on in the early days or someone to takey you out for a break...(We can vitual babysit )

Hi Anna

Welcome Anna! Good luck with the scan tomorrow. Gosh, I'm jealous - mine's still aaaages away!

Night all!

Hello Anna!

Cazzy babs Good news!

Blueberries Poor you. Hope you've had a chance tonight to put kn*b director's little episode behind you. If his wife's pregnant, you're probably taking the rap for his own worries.

Starshaker You seem to be hesitating because of the question marks you have about other people's feelings. What about your feelings? Everyone deserves to be loved and this guys sounds as if he is kind and has a big heart...if you really like him, stop being scared and let yourself be loved. A friend of mine got together with her husband 15 years ago when she was pregnant with someone else's baby - they're now happily married with 3 kids. Just have a big heart to heart with him first about how the next year or so is likely to be for you.

Night all - off to bed bed with a bucket of milk to combat the raging heartburn. Will drop off cakes after tomorrow's bakefest for my niece's 1st birthday on Saturday.

morning all.

Hi Anna snap for due dates- though my scan is not till the 29th aaaages away

Feeling baby move a lot more now s/he had hiccups this morning!

star if he still wants to know when you're pregnant with someone else's twins I reckon he sounds like a decent bloke. That bloke off this weeks OBEM wasn't the baby's biological dad.

bluberries sounds like a nightmare at work- similar happening to my pregnant friend at her work. She's due end of june and reckons she'll go early due to the stress of it all!

Good luck to all of you planning home births- personally can't think of anything worse. Rather keep the mess and any negative feelings about the birth at the hospital- plus the dog would want to get involved

I wouldn't be 'allowed' a hb anyway so that's out of my hands. I am panicking about not making it to hospital in time though. 6 hr labour first time 3 the second.

GYA I'm glad you said that about home births . Just how I feel as well. Don't want to have to worry about getting blood on my sheets, and don't want to be constantly reminded about it afterwards ('ooh, this is where I threw up/was in excruciating pain/pooed myself etc'). Feel even more strongly this time because of DS - my parents will be coming to look after him while I'm in labour, and quite apart from not wanting him to see me in pain, the thought of being in labour in the same house as my mother does not bear thinking about .

blueberries your director guy sounds vile. I remember when one of my colleagues was pregnant and told a (female) client that she couldn't commit to a meeting because it was only a week before her due date, the client said 'I hate it when women use pregnancy as an excuse at work'. WTF!? Sounds like you're doing a fantastic job of keeping on top of everything at work - they should be bloody grateful to have you.

starshaker sorry for the personal question and do please tell me to butt out, but is the biological father of the twins going to be involved at all? Reason I ask is that I'd be a little bit worried about your new guy (who sounds fab, by the way) feeling a bit left out if the father's involved, even if it's only in a platonic context. Not saying don't go for it, but I just think it's the kind of situation that might get a bit awkward. But if the father's definitely not going to be around, then I'd definitely say go for it - new bloke sounds lovely .

I have to admit that a HB wouldn't be for me either, but love the fact that we are all lucky enough to be able to choose where and how we give birth.

One size defintely doesn't fit all when it comes to giving birth and every other aspect of having children from then on. Vive la difference!

kcoffin27 where do you have to get this info from? From 'normal life' or your course? If your course, what is it (I know you might not want to give too much info on here but it'll help me think through how it can be structured.

Sorry for the delayed reply!

starshaker not much time to write now, but the new guy sounds lovely. And I think it's really important you do some stuff for you as well as the twins and your LO. xx

Elusive the bioF is not interested. He still doesnt believe im pregnant lol so no fear of him ever being involved.
The new guy is coming over tonight so will just need to see how it goes. Think it will be a chance for us to talk about this properly and see what happens. I will keep you all posted lol.