~~August 2010~~ tummies blooming into bumps

[CherryPie3]

5th thread come grab a bean bag, theres a cake table in the corner (feel free to help yourselves)

Hello everyone and welcome to new friends on the list - it's getting soooo long now - all those lovely babies growing away ;-)

weehector if you've got any extra energy would you send some my way please? I seem to have had a relapse this week, feeling tired and having bouts of nausea (that only a bacon roll can really cure ).

Am feeling a bit fed up at the moment TBH, with absolutely no reason to be. Hoping it lifts soon.

Wow! Well I go to work for the day and come home and we have a new thread up and running!

As for giving birth again, I think I'm getting over my earlier wobble. Pain is managable and if it gets to bad they can make it go away to a certain extent, a planned C-Sec wouldn't bother me at all. I'd much rather go in with it all being calm and slowly done than the huge panic there was on OBEM last night and being knocked out. I have always been nervous of ECS though, but that is because of my job and something I need to try and not dwell on too much. I work with children who are profoundly disabled, and 2 children in my class are the way they are because the decision to do an ECS didn't happen quickly enough. I refuse to let that happen to me and will be screaming for one if there is even the slightest hint of baby distress. But then again, out of the millions of babies born how many end up with disabilities because of a traumatic birth - its just unfortunate its at the forefront of my mind because of what I do. I'm sure it will all be a lovely smooth natural birth and I will cope really well! [wishful thinking]....

Anyway, DH is home now, we need to go and bath the cat. She stinks! Haha!

Catch everyone later!

I found most stores a bit rubbish for mat clothes, you have to go to the bigger branches. Our local new look and dorothy perkins don't do maternity.

Meant to say before - starshaker, hope you are bearing up ok, glad you are looking forward to your scan. A twin pregnancy is very very hard so don't be too down if you feel rubbish sometimes! That was hilarious about the antenatal classes. I remember when I was 6mths pg I looked about full term, I was in the village and some random woman looked at my bump and said 'not long to go now!' and I said '3 months!'. She nearly fell over with shock. I didn't even know her!

Aw, Caz, I can understand your worry . You are doing totally the right thing not dwelling on it cos those situations are very rare fortunately. The MWs and obs at the hospital won't let you go too far without intervening if necessary

How is everyone doing this evening? Baby is very active now and the kicks are getting quite strong now. Got my scan on monday and cant wait.

The woman from OBEM was exactley how fast my section was (its the same hospital) I was given an epidural earlier which had no effect on me at all, so also had to have a g.a.
My second birth I was adamant I didnt want the epidural as it hadnt worked last time, and after a long labour ended up with another section under g.a.

This time I am seeing the consultant after my scan, so I shall be finding out about an elective section this time again under g.a., just because im so scared of trying the epidural again for it to have no effect again.
What is everyone else's experience with epidurals been? is there hope that it may work on me?

ARGHHH!!

I've just agreed to give my baby away. Well not really. Only for a night. DH was desperate to go to a gig on his birthday c.3 months after my due date, and because I said I didn't want to leave the baby he was making all sorted of ludicrous suggestions for our June holiday (his 'last chance of freedom!').

Anyway MIL said she'd look after baby and so I agreed. I haven't even had it and I'm already shipping it out! Feel rather bad! Oh well.....

kcoffin the epidural I had with dd1 didn't really work either but I think it was because it was way too late- went to 10cm as they did it.

With dd2 I had a spinal after she was born to remove placenta in theatre, it worked but I hated it. couldn't move my legs or do anything really and had to have catheter. Not the same as epidural though.Stronger I think. Anyway wouldn't want to go through that again.

pample I had to leave dd2 overnight when she was 5 weeks as I was a bridesmaid- after the initial wobbles I was fine- alcohol was the way forward!! When I went to collect her from my Mum she didn't want to give her back!

Totally missed the whole thread title thread thingybob. Can we be a clique though please?? never been in one before

Hi Caz, I too would be secretly relieved if i was advised to have a planned c-section although i wouldn't admit it to everyone!
On a happier note, i am a teacher and my bump is now big enough for my pupils to notice. I have been given two rounds of applause this week when my classes established that i am actually pregnant and not just been eating too many pies!
My older pupils are very excited and are being extra nice. (they are lovely anyway).
I am planning to try and stay at work till the end of the summer term so support from the pupils will be gratefully received.

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow

Cherrypie - having had 2 normal and 1 cs...I would opt for normal everytime...but having said that with dd3 I didn't have a choice and I would rather have dd3 than a natural bath

Hi carolondon - that is nice about your pupils. What age do you teach?

Haha all I've had so far from my little class is a whack and kick in the stomach from one child! (Luckily I wasn't too close to the foot so it sorta just skimmed over the top...) And one of the pupils in another class keeps grabbing me in the corridor (nothing new, he's always done it, to all the long blonde haired staff...) and pushing me into walls, trying to pull my hair etc etc. I'm starting to give that one child a wide berth though because he was right against the baby the other day and I got very nervous. They don't really understand what they are doing or what damage they could do. Goes with the job I'm afraid...

I'm shattered tonight girls, and sorta feel like I could be coming down with something. I really hope not, although wouldn't surprise me, half a class off with quite an aggresive bug at the moment. Hope everyone is well!...

It teach secondary so its the 6th formers who are being particularly sweet. Yours sound a lot tougher.
Hope you are feeling better tomorrow.

Hi Carolondon & CazEM, i teach Foundation (4/5 yr olds) & they are so excited about the baby. i told them just after halfterm that im going to have a baby & since then a little group of girls in my class have been making 'presents' for the baby. They're so sweet. Last week we were talking about the story of The Gingerbread Man & they cut out loads of paper gingerbread men, decorated them (complete with felt hair etc) & glued them together to make a little mobile. Bless!

Talking of baby names, another little 5 year old in my class has been giving me tips on good baby boy & baby girl names! lol.

I have noticed this week that the children keep looking at my expanding tummy. One even asked today if i'd had my baby. They dont have much of a concept of time! They do make me smile & am aiming to make it to the end of the school year & see out their first year with them, so we'll see... x

Forgot to add on the maternity wear front. My sister-in-law who was pregnant last year gave me a tip to get maternity jeans from Mamas & Papas. So when the time came i wandered in, picked out 3 pairs to try on & ended up buying all three pairs! They look good & are sooooo comfy i didnt even look anywhere else. Tho this is my first and have been spoiling myself a bit when buying maternity clothes!

Saying that, is probably worth looking on ebay for things. Has anyone looked at the bundles of baby clothes you can get for next to nothing? I bought a bundle of nearly 20 items for a fiver (plus £5 postage). Some still had tags on! Probably shouldnt have this early but couldnt resist, the little booties are so cute i dont know how anyone could have parted with them! Hmmmm going all gooey...

Right, tired after all that waffling! Off to zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

i teach year 1 - they haven't guessed yet and neither have the parents

Hi everyone. Only a day away and I've missed so much chat (and a new thread!!).

Cherrypie, happy birthday to your DD.

GYA, I didn't know you'd had a retained placenta too (or else I'd forgotten - if so, sorry ). Fun, isn't it? Has anyone talked to you about ways to avoid it happening again this time? Apparently the chances are higher if it's happened before, but nobody's said a word about it to me so far. I'm hoping the consultant might at least mention it next week .

Re labour, I agree with whoever said that although it's excruciatingly painful, you're actually pretty zoned out for the 'bad' bit. I actually found 'early' labour much harder than the closing stages - it lasts for bloody ages, it's very painful but not quite painful enough to do anything about, and you're still at home and quite stressed about timing contractions/when to go into hospital etc. Sorry, I know that's not terribly helpful, but I wish I'd known how hard that early bit might be, because I was so focused on the birth bit that it really surprised me. And I'm sure that part of the reason I had such a hard time pushing DS out (at 6pm Sunday night, by ventouse, eventually, G&A only - what joy!!) was that I'd been in labour, pretty much without sleep, since some time on the Saturday morning. And it's bloody tiring.

I know lots of people swear by home births, but personally I was just so glad to get to hospital (around 1am on the Saturday night), because I finally felt that I could pass some of the responsibility onto someone who knew what they were doing - I relaxed a lot more. I was so horrified when they suggested sending me home again that they caved and let me stay . Oh, and another thing about childbirth - when the hundredth midwife tells you that you're 'not in active labour' yet while you're writhing around in pain, you WILL want to punch them. Oh, and don't be surprised when no-one shows the least interest in doing an internal exam. I got to hospital at 1am and no-one took a look until about 3pm the next day - I was practically begging someone to stick their hand up there .

Right, I'm off to bed. Really tired tonight. Swimming with DS tomorrow - first airing of the maternity tankini. I'm rather hoping fit swimming dad won't be there .

elusive scan on the 29th and then consultant meeting afterwards to talk placentas..

There seems to be very conflicting/limited knowledge about it. My Mum had it with both me and my sister but they managed to pull it out (eeww) without theatre.

My sister had it with her first and needed the MROP in theatre which is what I had with dd2.

So even though it appears to run in our family they still claim it doesnt

Also apparently there is more chance if the baby is early as the placenta is not ready to come out. That theory works in 3/4 of our family's cases- me 4 wks early, my sister's dc1 9 weeks early, dd2 11 days early.

Also been told if you have a natural 3rd stage the chances are more limited.

I just can picture myself this time being more worried about getting the sodding placenta out than the baby!

Morning all!
kkfairy I had an epidural that did sod all but when they needed to do an emcs they gave me a spinal which worked instantly. I've said I don't want to waste time with an epidural (if I have to at all) this time but I really don't want GA. I just hope this one can be squeezed out the way it's supposed to!

kcoffin, sorry that MNer's on a different thread.

Kcoffin - for section s they usually do a spinal or combined spinal/ epidural which is what I had - the spinal works right away (well about 20mins I think? and then later they can top it up with the epidural - although they only topped up mine once I think and the whole thing was out 6 hours after the section and I actually had to ask for the top up lol - having said that - I wasn't in much pain, and the combined spinal / epidural was fine and didn't feel a thing.
Scan for me tomorrow, and then next week a meeting with consulatant to get my date for section!

Anyway, my appetite seems to be going mental again - not sure if It's just eating out of boredom or i'm getting really hungry again. perhaps baby is having a growth spurt - anyone else having that around 20 weeks?

Wow I had no idea this thread had been started, I need to keep up! Just popping on to say I had my Downs results today, 1 in 14,000 so nice and low risk

Cazzybabs, have a great scan today!

Morning All! Am loving the cake table.

GYA and Elusive sorry to hear that you have retained placenta to worry about. Hope that it's not a problem for you this time round and that your consultants are more on the ball about it soon.

Vix glad you've had a low Down's prediction, it's reassuring to get it.

Rubena I've been stupidly hungry the whole way through so far! Am dreading the inevitable Fat Club membership that I'm going to have to take out to shift what I'm putting on. And I'm also one of those women who manages to even put weight on when I'm breastfeeding

Sorry about my whinge yesterday. I'm feeling a bit brighter today. Have had a consultants appointment and now have a date for an ELCS.

Am a bit sad not to be going for a VB but need to be sensible after a bad tear from my last labour. It's a means to the best end after all - delivering my (now very wriggly) baby with no more fanjo damage. Just going to have major abdominal surgery instead . Ah well.

Don't want to be rumbled in RL so am not going to change my date on the list - also don't want to tempt fate as DD was over two weeks early and I'm not sure I'm actually going to make it to the ELCS date I've been given

Have a good day everyone!

I'm constantly hungry too, it's ridiculous the amount I'm eating [sigh]
I just looked at my 'notes' from DD's labour and apparently I had a cs due to cervical dystocia - which is odd because I was told I was fully dilated so now I'm wondering whether I'm confused and if so whether a VBAC is a good idea. I was going for it thinking I'd got fully dilated and now I wonder if I didn't - argh! (They did also say my labour was 7.5hrs which doesn't seem right at all) I'm sooooo confused!
cakeywakey, don't apologise for whingeing, that's what we're here for!

chulita thanks for the upside down cake
and also rubena thanks to you both for the information on the spinal, I will talk to consultant about maybe trying that.
Goodluck with your scan tomorrow rubena hope you get to see a very active baby

Im feeling mega tired today
not been feeling very hungry at all, and some days it seems a real effort to eat a whole plate full

Thanks kcoffin -
Yeah I think the combined spinal / epi is fairly standard these days for C-Section
I had no issues with it - cept a slight bit of itchyness which wore off pretty fast.
I'm sure your consultant will make you feel happy about it.

GYA, it sounds crazy to suggest that it's just coincidence that your mum and your sister and you all had it. FWIW, I was 13 days late, so it clearly doesn't only happen when you're early!! Having said that, in my case the baby wasn't that keen to come out early, so I don't know if the two were related. I just felt that my contractions were never really regular or strong enough to do the job - and they ceased completely as soon as I was 10cm, so they had to put me on an induction drip. Don't know why my natural contractions weren't up to snuff, though .

Interesting what you say about a natural third stage - I'll definitely raise that with the consultant.