First baby due November 2010...am I the only one?

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Anyone, anyone? It's early days I know...

Hi there I'm new to this.

My due date is 12 Nov - this will be baby no. 4 and as I've previously had a Downs baby I am a bit worried. I am seeing my GP tomorrow so I hope we will discuss getting a CVS as early as possible this time.

I haven't told my husband yet that I'm pregnant. He has been so busy at work I don't want to burden him with this too.

He does know we were 'trying to conceive' but I still think he'll be a bit shocked. I'm 41 BTW.

Loopymumsy Oh dear! You'd think a "Congratulations" wouldn't be inappropriate! Good luck with your parents then. And - Congratulations CC Mmm Weißwürstchen Are they allowed actually? I'm sure I've got a can of them in the cupboard somewhere. fresh would be nicer, but needs must. I used to go to Munich on business a fair amount and always enjoyed my visits. It's a lovely city. I'm officially jealous!

Fizzy juices! Dur, why didn't I think of that? Can I blame it on the hormones or something? A nice tonic water and juice should get my tastebuds a bit more excited.

Fatigue is setting in, but thanks for a lovely chat all of you.

Good night, bonne nuit, schlaf gut!

Hi pinkje, there are heaps of us on pg4,and you are due the day after me. Ups and downs I have resisted doing mine because I am very grumpy and hormonal but here goes

Ups: no nausea, lovely secret between me dh and special friends, HUGE BOOBS.Sleeping really well, enjoying life without booze and hungover weekends.

Downs: DH is offshore and I cant share secret as much as I would like, no nausea is scaring the crap out of me even though I wasnt sick with the others???? Freezing cold, so knackered and being grouchy with the kids.

See I told you I was a grumpy cow.

Fenouille I can't believe how paranoid they seem in France. I know in the UK more listeria cases are linked to salads than to cheeses or cold meats so I can understand why they have those restrictions but the alcohol and rare steak???

Maybe we just have more cats in the UK so toxo is more prevelant in the population anyway. Could you ask to be tested for toxo? It's only the primary infection that's dangerous for pregnancy, so if you've already had it you're fine and are steak can be back on the menu!

Thanks everyone for the appriate noises about the picutres of the garklet. Is a proud mum

lol at 'we are with child'

Even more LOL at 'in your loins' sounds like you both slipped into a historical novel!

I'm curious to know what sort of concerns are being raised about larger families? I come from a three child family and all my aunts also had three, so i'd be surprised if my parents felt that more than two was too many. At the moment I want 4 but having started late and not yet experienced life with more than one to care for I'm reserving the right to change my mind

Loopy for all the naysayers there will be ones who are jealous and pleased for you (you can be both!) that you have a larger family, if DH and I had decided we liked each other enough to have children earlier and I didn't hate pregnancy so damn much I would be going for at least 3.

Hi all, hope everyone is well.

This thread moves sooo fast

Well i am having a paranoid day today! Woke up feeling that the bean must have stopped growing because my boobs didnt feel as painful and im not constantly needing the toilet! I then took my temperature (have been slightly sad and been taking it most mornings to make sure it is still up as apparently that is the case when your pregnant) but this morning it was back to what it was before!
Sure i am just being ultra paranoid as was sick yesterday and feeling slighty nauseus today....but still cant help having a nagging feeling all is not well. No bleeding and very very occasional slight cramping so no chance of getting an early scan! Dont have my booking in appointment for another 2 weeks so just hope i start to feel worse again soon

Sorry to moan.....just nice to be able to say how im feeling without people thinking im really odd! (although you may all be feeling that too of course!)

DH says he is sure everything is fine going by how ive been and sure he's probably right but every day just seems like a lifetime!!!

Anyway scared about symptoms coming and going??

ladybee my parents are expecting their 6th in april, they claim no benifits or financial support from the government or any one else at clooege none of us qualified for ema because my dad earnt too much. my dad has a good job and fully supports the family and they are quite well off. The reaction they have had is that they are selfish, they are money grabbers, their damaging the children they already have and they need to concentate on grandchildren and the younger ones.

Everyone has an opinion, its rubbish you have as many children as you want and dont listen to anyone who says your selfish at the end of the day i love being from a big family, i have a great relationship with all my brothers and sisters and am really excited that my sister is going to be 5 months older than my baby.

Dont listen to otthers. Do what you feel is best for your family

Loopy and Addicted couldn't agree with you more. I come from family of 4 but my Mum is one of 7 and my Dad one of 6. Large families can be great. I've always wanted to have 3 or 4 but started a bit late and then had fertility issues. Given that this is my first proper pregnancy I guess I am still blissfully unaware of how hard it will be but would like to think we will get a chance at a few more!

Loopy given the newness of all this it didn't even cross my mind that people might not be exclusively congratulatory when we share the news. My nose will be properly out of joint if I pick up on any disapproval! Having said that, I am a little worried about telling my Mum as due date effectively means I won't be able to go to my sister's wedding (which I'm already gutted about, v close to my sister and was supposed to be Chief Bridesmaid) and will feel "stealing her thunder" vibes. Am just hoping that the excitement of it being the first grandchild on my side will overshadow any negatives....

It's abroad and EDD is 5 days before the wedding. If baby is early I guess there's a chance but if not, don't think I could take the risk of travelling while I'm overdue. Also believe first babies quite commonly overdue (anyone know if this is a myth?).

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing! I loved sapphire telling her mum about being "with child". I must note that one for my own dramatic announcement! It's also really interesting to hear about the different reactions. I have a niggling worry that my own parents may react badly due to the fact that we aren't married, but maybe I underestimate them.

Anyway! I am back from my first scan today! I'm in Belgium and they do a dating one here between 6 and 8 weeks. I thought I was 6+5, but the doc reckons 6+2. The main thing though is that everything was fine! We saw a heartbeat and everything. It was actually amazing. I feel really happy about it. Keep sneaking out the scan photo (it's just a blur really, but that doesn't stop me ) to have another glance at it! I also went and got a blood test, to check for a few more things I guess - dunno what really Oh, and my due date was calculated for 14 nov - so I'll change it on the list one of these days.

I was interested to hear the different toxoplasmoisis advice too. I'm not immune unfortunately. I also got the raw fruit and veg warning - so I do wash it very carefully. I have been avoiding the bagged salad as well.

Ups: seeing the scan and heartbeat made it all very real! It was wonderful. We are really happy and excited.
Downs: MS has kicked in since Sunday - though for me it's worst in the evening. I haven't been throwing up yet, though the doc seemed to cheerfully imply that it will probably follow. Oh well!

Hi babybean, I am having a paranoid day too. I have been doing tests every other day to see line getting darker and last one was on Sunday and the line seemed a bit fainter than Fridays. I've run out now so trying not to buy any more. However I had a clearblue fancy one left so did that this morning expecting it to say 3+ but it only says 2-3, ie 4-5 weeks pg, when actually I should be 6+2. so this has made me very pessimistic. If only I hadn't been testing, hey?!

All dh can say is 'don't worry' which doesn't exactly help. I am seriously considering trying to get a pvt scan tomorrow, but worried if it's too early and can't see anything then I'll be even more worried. I going to see doc this afternoon to get signed in, so will see what she thinks. I have no real symptoms other than lack of appetite at the mo. No sore boobs or anything. Bloated and tired though.

Hello,

Can I join the gang?

Our first baby is due 15 November and I'm absolutely exhausted ALL the time.

Usually I work from home but have to go in Wed-Fri this week and am worried I'll fall asleep at my desk or throw up on the tube. Fun times...!

Anyone else worried about concealing pregnancy at work?

Love Jo xxx

Hi Jo and congratulations!

Definitely concealing at the moment. Not sure when I will tell either, although I suspect it will depend on when I start to "show". Am a bit concerned that I am starting to develop if not a bump then at least a bulge already and I'm only 8+1. Normally have a pretty flat tum as I carry all my insulation behind me so perhaps this is why it's showing so early. Was reading another thread yesterday about when people start to show and saw loads of people saying that they didn't show at all until well into 2nd trimester. Made me feel brilliant obviously . Ideally I think I would wait until at least 16 weeks before telling work - 6 months seems an awfully long time for people at work to know you're pregnant, but I suspect I might have to tell after the 12 week mark.

PS Can you just say you have a doctor's appointment/hospital appointment to get the time off for the scan? Would be a bit rude of your boss to ask for more information if you said that!