Due September thread 10 - On the downhill slope...

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Here's the new thread ladies - may it be as chatty as the last 9!!

Thanks for all the kind words, just wish i knew what to do for the best for all the people who need me and for myself. Feel like i am drowning in a huge pool of bad news. Would really like to be able to say that i am giving up driving now until afterwards as it can get uncomfy but my nans both depend on me for their shopping. My sister would help but she has ME and is having a bad spell at the moment (Thank goodness her hubby has finally passed his driving test else i would be doing her shopping as well). Mum is waiting to have her knee caps replaced and dad has just been told that they won't do bypass surgery (it would be to risky in his case). It never rains but it pours what the f**K is going to go wrong next? Something has got to go right soon hasn't it?

Oh Mummyhill, something WILL go right, I'm certain. I'm so sorry that you're having a rough time of it. The only thing I can say is that it's really important that you try (easier said than done) to make time to be nice to yourself, your dd and they baby. In terms of karma, the amount of help and thought you are giving to others will rub off on you, I'm sure.

Thanks pooka, I am just having a bad couple of days, will shoulder my burdens and get on with life. DD is looking forward to seeing nanny and grandad with the cats durring the day tomorrow and having a sleep over with nanny and grampy with the caravan tommorrow night. I try to make sure that both sets of grandparents and the great grandmothers spend as much time as possible with her so that we can have happy memories all round as i know that anything could happen in the next half hour so to speak with all of them. For the most part i try to remain calm about it all and be positive round them all but occassionally it gets too much and i have to get it off my chest. We are all looking forward to the arrival of bump and i hope that they will all be able to take part in vumps early years.

Take care mummyhill - I'm sure things will brighten up soon.

jessysmummy - you are right to feel upset about dh's Trainig in America late preganacy is an anxious and vunerable time - Hormones make us feel extra vunerable so that we protect ourselves and our babies. Take it easy.

Going to a wedding tomorrow - never did quite grow into the dress I brought 6 weeks ago!! but should be a nice day .
Night night

I personally find the time dd spends with my mother and my MIL to be so important. She loves it (went with mil to the stables today to see the horses - and one farted which pretty much made her day) and yesterday left her happily with my mother all day pottering around in my mother's kitchen with a small step ladder so she could "help" with washing up, cooking and generally wreaking havoc. Perfect time to myself to get on with whatever needs doing, grandparents love it, dd loves it, everyone happy
Had hypnobirthing consultation today which I have to say was amazing. I do feel really chilled and ready for bed. Hope to have a better night tonight. I had gone into it kind of expecting the therapist to click her fingers and for me to be "out", but it was nothing like that (she's not a stage hypnotist, after all). It was strange being completely relaxed and trusting, but still in control. Quite an experience and if nothing else, the feeling of being chilled at all is quite precious.

I love having time to my self when dd goes to visit the grandparents, she loves going to see them and they love having her but it has had to be cut down a little recently as she can be too much for the grandfathers sometimes it is difficult balancing between their need to see each other and wearing them out. When they get to the stage they have had enough my dad will disapear upstaurs and leave her to nanny but fil just snaps at her.

Mummyhill - I hope you get some good news soon.

Jessicasmummy - how are you feeling? Sorry to hear that DH has to go away. You are not over-reacting to be upset about him going away. I suspect he knows full well that you are unhappy with the situation (probably why he didn't ask how you were feeling about it, because talking it over might make you even more upset). And maybe he knows that talking about it would upset him too (and he has to be "strong" for you). Remember, men are not the greatest communicators at times and aren't too good at dealing with us in our emotional states. If you can, try not to be too upset with him. Sounds like it is out of his hands, and he is probably feeling like he is letting you down having to go away right now.

Got the infant car seat yesterday. It hooks on to a set of wheels, like a pram. DS has spent all evening pushing a teddy bear around in it. He keeps asking (hopefully) "baby coming soon mommy?" (I hope not - still 6w+3d to due date - but given that DS was three weeks early, we know how unreliable due dates can be)

Visiting Maternity Unit tomorrow (different one from where I had DS). Suddenly all this baby stuff is becoming a lot more real.

Midwife bought the entonox around this morning which makes it all seem scarily close. I pointed out that it wasn't even August yet, and no way is this baby arriving before September, but she said that as they had a full can in stock they thought it best to bring it round.
Never used it before but might need it this time so I suppose it's good to have it here.

Hi all. Things are going slightly mad here at the moment - the builders we thought couldn't start until October have now a slot to do us starting in a week!! We've booked a holiday now, so next week is one mad rush to empty the kitchen into the dining room ready for it to be demolished (ah) before the extension can be built. It's definite that they will be here when the baby arrives, but I'm keeping surprisingly calm about everything!

Zubb - how's your building work going?

On top of all this we have moved DS into his big bed ( fun and games last night) and are making pretty feeble attempts to potty train him - nothing like making the most of the last couple of months before baby arrives!

Would agree with you all about time spent with grandparents - my parents had DS on Monday and took him to the seaside which meant he had fun, DH could get on with jobs around the house and I could sleep, read and generally do the slobbing around I've been craving for months!

Hi Sarahhal - we're about 2 weeks behind you I think. We have a meeting next week with the builders and the architect to make sure that we are all agreed on everything, and have nothing to add in, then they are starting in a couple of weeks. They say that it will be about 4 weeks before they need to work inside, so I can see the chimney and walls coming down the week I have the baby! Thinking of moving to my Mums that week as the dust will be horrid, but need to talk through the timings with everyone.
Not doing well choosing kitchens at all, can't find a style we like at a price that fits, with someone who can design it to what we want. We'll get there though!

zubb & sarahhal - good luck with your building projects.

Hi All
Have been busy at work the last few days, and haven't had a chance to catch up - there's been a lot of postings!

Mummyhill - sorry to hear about all your bad news. Make sure you take care of yourself!

Jessysmummy - fingers crossed that baby stays firmly where it is while your DH is away...

I had my first midwife appointment with UCH on Wednesday. Had been starting to think that I shouldn't have bothered changing hospitals, but the appointment confirmed that I definitely made the right decision. For starters, the appointment started on time, the midwife was lovely and answered all my questions and didn't make me feel like I was an inconvenience to her (she even gave me her direct phone number if I wanted to call with any questions!!). It was even better from the point of view of the amount of information available in the waiting room re support groups, pregnancy information leaflets etc. It was a breath of fresh air!! Apparently baby is head down, bum up under my right ribs.

Boompi - do you get a 32 week scan through your hospital, or did you get a private one? UCH and St Marys don't do them, but got an email from a friend in NZ saying she just had one too, so was wondering if they were standard in some places?

Started making a list of all the things we need to get done before we move back to NZ in November - then looked at the number of free weekends we've got before the baby arrives, and got very scared! Most worried about getting the packing done. Am going to spend some time going through my drawers and culling a lot of stuff this weekend - not the easiest task for a self confessed hoarder!! 4 weeks today until I finish work, and then 4 weeks until I'm due, so hopefully baby won't arrive early and I'll get some time to work through my to do list!!

hi everyone.
jessicasmummy, i would be extremely upset in your position too.
well, i had my 3d scan yesterday and it was fab!!!also had my babys sex confirmed, it was so exciting and overwhelming. dd was really made up too and can't wait for our little bundle. my friend was due yesterday and they were going to start her off as they told her she had a massive baby in there and not much water, she went into labour herself and yesterday she gave birth to a little boy, wait for this.......... weighing 7lb4. how is that massive? if this is the case, i hope my baby is "massive" too!!!!!

sorry, i meant jessysmummy

KF - I wouldnt have had scan routinely at my hospital, but because of concern with blood sugars I asked for it. Now have to have another at 38 weeks due to 'big baby' (thats what is written on appointment letter) and my weight gain I know scans are pretty hit and miss with fetal weight but Im happy to have it done. TBH was considering paying for a 36 'fetal wellbeing' scan before all this happened.

Whilst at antenatal clinic today got message from friend to say her ds had chickenpox and we saw them this week. Mentioned to mw that was only 90% sure Id had it as a kid and they went into a spin - isolating me from rest of clinic etc. To cut a long story short they had my blood antibody results back in under 90min!! And of course I have had it sometime in past. They said they had recently had to recall over 200 patients after a mother bought her chickenpox covered child into clinic so where obviously on edge!
Only surprise is that my next antenatal appointment will be in 4 weeks - I will be almost 39/40. Seems a long way off.

Good grief dd must of been huge at 7lb 10oz and if the second follows the wives tale of being bigger than the first should i be getting worried? Just been sat lookijng at the calender and realised i only have 5 weeks and three days till due date ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

DD has just come home from the in laws with a bunch of flowers for her mummy. Must be a thankyou for the tea, chocolate cake and sympathy i gave mil this morning when she turned up an hour early in floods of tears FIL is driving her up the wall worrying about non important things and completly ignoring the fact that he is so ill. Have had sil here for a coffee this afternoon and we have agreed a strategy of checking up on them between us so that we can at least get a semblance of normality going.

Mummyhill - sorry to hear all your bad news, it must be a worrying time. It's good you have your sil to help and speak to. And it's so sweet that you got flowers, it's nice to know your appreciated.
Got a baby present today from a girl at work who is going on holiday. It's a lovely baby photo album. I'm due 7 weeks tomorrow, where has the time gone? Going shopping tomorrow with my Mum to get some bits and pieces for my hospital bag. Really exciting things like maternity pads and large knickers!
Hope you all have a good weekend, I'm waiting on DH coming home with a take away!

morning everyone, well i'm 35 weeks today and i'm actually starting to panic about this baby arriving, don't know if i'm ready for another child, oh well, i think i'm 35 weeks too late with this worry.....
not a very talkative day yesterday was it... it usually takes me ages to read through all the posts.
my friend visited yesterday who is due oct 10th(all my friends seem to be pg at the minute must be something in the water) LOL. she was telling me about her bil's gf, she's due jan and has copied everything baby wise that she has bought and has invited her mil into the birth. my friend feels like she's being silly but can't help thinking this is turning into a competition. why do other people always try and make you feel bad about decisions you make? i'm now worried incase my sil is slagging me off for inviting her mum to be my birthing partner. i really hope not as i only did this because my mum came with me last time and i felt it was only fair as mil has never seen any of her 5 grandchildren born.(first 4 sections). hope this all makes sense. sorry for waffleing. xxx

on a more positive note but slightly off the subject, how good was big brother last night, seeing kemal evicted????? can't stand him/her LOL

Hey Bubbles, I don't think you can worry about your SIL's reaction (if she is small minded enough to be upset, then she just needs to get over it - it is her problem, not yours). I think it is lovely that you are giving your MIL the opportunity to be with you.

Know what you mean about "not sure if I am ready for this baby"! Am due in 6w3d. Was told by mw today that my blood pressure is up, and baby has dropped, and for other reasons she believes that this baby might be early (DS was born at 37 weeks). So might be as little as 3 weeks to go (hopefully not less). Poor DH is just about having kittens!

wow kiwikate, so you could have your baby in 3 weeks? well technically i suppose most of us could. i'm seriously scared now. thanks for your advice about my sil, i don't think she's upset about the situation, it's just seeing the way my friend has reacted to the same situation, although my sil did seem a little gutted that my placenta has moved so i can have a natural delivery, but i don't know if i'm just being hormonal and paranoid. also found out my cousin and his wife are 6 weeks pg, all my family wiil talk about now is them as they think the sun shines out of their arses. his brother and dp are expecting too but no one will mention that poor baby. ggggrrrr family eh... who'd have em????

Hello!
How is every one? - Anyone else after being desperate to leave work - now missing the old routines? My mobile used to ring all day and I used to moan alot about it - now it never rings and I feel all unimportant. I'm glad to have no work pressures - but it does feel odd!

Im sure I'll feel very differently as my new role of mum of 2 starts in a few weeks! Now thats scarey!

morning redhelen, i know what you mean about work, i was desperate to leave and now i'm missing it like crazy, already visited once last week and can't wait to go in again. found out they've done a big collection for me but because i haven't told anyone what i'm having and they don't want to buy me white they're waiting until my bump has landed. how old did you say your ds is? does everyone always ask if you'd like a girl this time? when i told everyone i wasn't bothered but if i had the choice i would like another dd, they all looked at me like i had 2 heads

bubbles2904 - my son is 5.5 now - I put of having another child for far too long and it is a struggle as I'm nearly 38!! I'd love to have a girl - the scan said it was a girl so fingers crossed - my ds is a real mud and muck boy and so I hope to get a girly girl to dress in pinks and lilacs - but I imagine she'll be a mud and muck girl - like me!!!!!

I can imagine having 2 dd's would be fantastic - my cousin just had a son and she was quietly hoping for a second dd - but her dh was delighted!It's great your collegues have collected loads of money to buy you a present - I got Mothercare vouchers and I enjoyed spending them in the recent sale!

I'm still really tired - despite getting seven hours (if broken sleep) - has any one got energy?? If so can you bottle it and send me some???