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Due September thread 10 - On the downhill slope...

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Kiwifruit · 11/07/2005 21:06

Here's the new thread ladies - may it be as chatty as the last 9!!

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Redhelen · 30/07/2005 16:33

bubbles2904 - know what you mean about Kamal in bb - I missed his/her eviction sadly - imagine he camped it up for all its worth!!! dh remarked that with my sunglasses on I looked just like him - now that hurt! but maybe he meant how slender I am - or that that I also wear a red silk kimono and stilletos! (haha - no sadly its my fizzy hair thats similar!)Time for my medication!

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Redhelen · 30/07/2005 21:15

Every one is so quiet tonight - hope you all sleep well- must be time for my ice cream!!

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mummyhill · 30/07/2005 21:24

Had a great night out with our friends last night. Went to collect DD from mums and we went shopping bought scratch mits (I'd forgotten about them)and bibs and a load of clothes for dd so she didn't feel left out. Then went shopping with dh he and dd both got something and i came home empty handed again.

Am going out for lunch tomorrow with mil, sil and a load of their female relatives am taking dd so we will have a lovely girly day.

Feeling absolubtly shattered most of the time regardless of sleep gained would love a bit of the energy i had when preggers with dd as this house is no where near ready and i am on a count down 5 weeks and 2 days to go if it arrives on time but theoretically any time from here on in is possible!!!!! I thought i would have loads of time to get ready and get myself prepared mentally for becomming a mum for the second time but now i am starting to panic as time is slipping through my fingers.

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mummyhill · 30/07/2005 21:34

OK I give in I am going to bed will speak to you all tomorrow after my girly dinner. Sleep well everyone.

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milward · 30/07/2005 23:35

Hello all - just had a snack of cereal & then bread with tomato spread!! Feeling tired as well. Have 8 weeks to go - but could be 2 more or 2 less. My dd3 arrived 2 wks early in 1.5hrs -this was a surprise. She was 3.920kg & 54 cm so I think she was just ready to be born. Plus can't imagine how she could have grow any more as I was the size of an elephant.

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bubbles2904 · 31/07/2005 09:00

morning all,
redhelen, his eviction was great, the look on dereks face was hilarious. i nearly pmsl.
yes, i'm hoping they don't buy me mothercare vouchers as i don't really shop in there as dp hates driving and i can't and it's a good 40 minute walk from where i live. i'm feeling quite tired this morning although i have cheered up slightly as i now have a 3d scan picture of my bean as a screensaver so i can see baba whenever i'm on here. just washed covers of my moses basket, it's becoming extremely close now, only 34 days until i'm due but got a strange feeling that it's going to be sooner than this. i'm not even slightly prepared, still got to decorate and get new carpet put down. YIKES!!!!! mpil's go on holiday on the 1st as i'm due on the 3rd so they're really anxious for it to be born a few days earlier as my phone won't stop ringing otherwise. i can't believe just how excited they are!! my dd thinks that baby is holding a box in my belly with a present for her and convinced herself (and almost me) that she saw it on the scan. LOL hope everyone is feeling ok and i'm looking forward to having a chatty week.
stm, i bet you're glad you've finished work now, have a well earned rest!
mummyhill, have a lovely lunch, it sounds nice, i'm just like youbtw, i always come home empty handed whilst dp, dd and bean end up with lots. lifes not fair LOL

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pooka · 31/07/2005 09:47

I had a panicky thought at midnight last night. ONly 4 weekends to go to due date, of which dh is away for one on a stag-do (the weekend after next) and is best man at that wedding (on my due date!). OH MY GOD!

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pooka · 31/07/2005 09:48

There's so much to do.....

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LadyLazarus · 31/07/2005 10:13

RedHelen - I missed the company of being at work for the first few weeks, but not the actual work! I now couldn't care less whether I go back or not... was a bit miffed that they didn't even get me a card (worked there 1yr 8months) or anything, only one person has kept in touch, and they left it 2 months to ring me... don't think I'm being missed and I'm not missing working there one jot either!!! I have found that over time, I have got into my own little 'routine' of being at home, plus I'm trying to write a novel (possibly not the best time!), so that keeps me fairly busy...

bubbles - your story about your dd thinking she saw the baby on the scan holding a present is so cute!!

Boompi - did they say why they think you're having a big baby? I feel MASSIVE and GP is always on at me for putting on 'too much weight' (have put on about 16kgs now), although when I go to midwives no one seems particularly concerned (starting to think my GP has a bit of a hang-up about weight!). I had a scan the other week but they didn't say how big they thought the baby was or anything.

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bubbles2904 · 31/07/2005 10:22

ladyl, it was really cute, she's so excited to see the baba. i wouldn't worry too much about the weight issue, you'll soon be too busy to eat so it should
drop off you LOL
Boompi, i wouldn't worry about what they say about the size, i don't think half of them know their backside from their elbow. like i said they told my friend her baby was massive and he was 7lb4, someone else i work with was told hers was tiny, and her ds was 9lb10 i think. i take it all with a pinch of salt. i've been told my baba is just above average but i'm only 5foot so it will obviously look bigger as it hasn't got much room to hide.

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Redhelen · 31/07/2005 11:06

ladyl - you old collegues must have been miserable not to have managed a card and gift! Like you I'm not bothered if I return to work - I fancy doing something from home(as dh is worried about being the only bread winner!)

I was told ds was a large baby - it worried me - but he was only 7'3!! - its probabaly the effect of being only 5 foot'2 - I was really like a barrell last time - now its all out front - can't see my feet and my balance is terrible! and it feels soo heavy! Nearly into August - this time next month!!! ahhhh! Got a terrible desire for chocolate and icecream - must be for the sugar boost - still tired and really need to get house ready!

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Redhelen · 31/07/2005 11:09

ladyl - what is your novel about?? Sounds fantastic - which I had the patience and imagination to write one!

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Redhelen · 31/07/2005 11:11

ladyl - please replace which with wish - obviously illiterate too!!

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LadyLazarus · 31/07/2005 12:05

aah it's a crime / detective type story. I've tried to write numerous novels before, but haven't had the time to finish them, so thought I'd take advantage of having this time to myself to make a headstart with a new one!! I think the hardest thing is getting yourself sat in the chair each day, once you've managed that you're halfway there! It's probably total drivel, but it's occupying my mornings! I fancy trying to work from home as well, possibly trying something like freelance writing or something along those lines, although I suspect it's quite hard to make any substantial money from that. Yeah, my 'colleagues' went down considerably in my estimation after they couldn't even stretch to a leaving / good luck card! Plus on my last day I had to provide my own 'party food'!

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bubbles2904 · 31/07/2005 12:15

i can't believe you even had to supply the food ladyl, they may be planning to suprise you when your bump lands though ladyl. thats what happened to me, the only reason i know about the collection is because my mum works with me and let it slip.

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Redhelen · 31/07/2005 18:48

Ladyl - good luck with your novel - hope bubbles2904 is right and they get you a surprize pressie after baby arrives. I'm very down with work to - just seen the pittance that was paid into my bank acount at the end of the month

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bubbles2904 · 31/07/2005 19:00

when did you finish work helen?

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Redhelen · 31/07/2005 20:46

I finished work at the end of June (severe anaemia had made me a zombie!)- but was told I would be paid 3 weeks on Annual leave first before I went onto 6 weeks of 90% of my pay and then 20 weeks at £106! However they seem to have forgoten about the annual leave and that will make a few hundred pounds difference over the coming 6 months - and I've already spent it!!!!

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KiwiKate · 31/07/2005 20:48

Redhelen, when I left work preg with DS1, I didn't get a pressie or card or even a morning tea (I had been there 6 and a half years). I did not get any surprises after DS was born either, but was asked urgently to come back when DS was just 2 m.o. because my boss was unexpectedly ill for a whole month. AND (I still can't believe it) they did not want to pay me for that work because it was "such an unbelievable opportunity for me to lead the team". Needless to say I insisted on being paid, and I quit when the crisis was over. I am now very fortunate to be able to work from home, which means I've been able to spend lots of time with DS. And I have a lovely supportive mum who looks after DS when work is really busy (but even then we usually have our meals together as she brings him back for lunch). Also I've been working a lot in the evenings so that I can have some free time in the day with DS.

Of course, working from home has its special challanges, but I highly recommend giving it a try if it is something you are keen to do. My view was to give it a go, and if it did not work out I could always look for another job at a later stage.

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Redhelen · 31/07/2005 20:56

KiwiKate - my word your old company sound even worse than mine! - I work for a self made woman -who is one of the top 100 wealthy women in the uk - and buys her clothes from charity shops - so you can imagine we always have to fight for our full pay!

I really fancy working from home - I may see if any of my old contacts could use any print and design support - or I may become dell girl trading on ebay!! Night night - it's ice cream time!!!

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LadyLazarus · 01/08/2005 09:10

Bubbles - I doubt very much if the people at work are planning a nice surprise like you said, I don't live anywhere near any of them or the hospital where I worked, and don't keep in touch with them either... just have to put it down to experience

KiwiKate - what sort of work have you been doing from home? have you found the transition easy?

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bubbles2904 · 01/08/2005 10:12

i think it's awful that they could let you just leave like that. i've been in my job for just over 4 years and love it, i can't wait to return, as i have a lot of good friends there. i thought the maternity pay was full wages for 6 weeks then 90% or £105 for the last 20 weeks????? i guess i'm wrong though. my memory is mush at the moment. i went to the shop specifically for eggs so me and dd could make some cakes, i came home without them, had to go back and then left them on the counter. dd was running behind me saying "mummy, your eggs, you've forgot your eggs". it was quite funny but i was so embarassed, even the guy in the shop was laughing at me.

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LadyLazarus · 01/08/2005 10:55

what's more annoying is that in my hospital's personnel pack for maternity pay, it says you have to pay the difference between the OMP and the SMP back... it'll be around £1100 but I think it might be worth shelling out for!!!

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KiwiKate · 01/08/2005 10:55

LL - I am a lawyer and a patent attorney (do things like register inventions & brand names, as well as a bit of court work when someone's brand gets infringed, advise people on how to stop someone using their brand name as a domain name etc). So from that point of view it has been easy for me to do work which generates an income. I can charge about one third of what big firms charge, and still do well out of it.

I have not missed formal employment at all. I get up early and work while DS is sleeping. DH works from home too. We all have a long drawn out breakfast together, then my mum (who lives closeby) takes DS away for music/gym and his afternoon nap etc. I work while DS is away with mum. They come back for dinner time and we all have the evening together. If I am really busy, I work while DS is sleeping in the evening too.

Some days I take time to take DS to the pool or playground (although energy has been a bit lacking lately). I try to do something fun with him at least every second day (the whole point of working from home was to spend more time with him than I would otherwise have). If the weather is good, sometimes DH takes an afternoon off and we go to the beach (but then we work most Saturdays). The difficult part is trying to get down to do the work (and finding time to market to bring the work in). Also there are no holidays as the clients might need me at any time.

I also do 9 weeks of law lecturing for a local college (spread throughout the year, with a maximum of two weeks at any one time - am actually in the middle of a two week stint right now).

I do not miss the politics or the working hours of a big law firm. Surprisingly, I don't miss the human interation either. I occassionally get to go and see clients, so I do have some contact. But the flexibility of being able to NOT work when DS is unwell has been wonderful. It was a huge risk to set up on my own, but has been well worth it. Financially it is not quite as rewarding, but I factor in that I don't have to buy smart office clothes, no travel costs (and a saving of 2 hours a day that I used to waste commuting), no stress (other than that I place on myself). Of course the income fluctuates, but having an office in my own home means I have low overheads so if I don't do well some months, it is not the end of the world.

I decided to give it a go and not be too stressed if it did not work (I could always have got another job in a law firm at a later stage if I needed to). But the incentive of knowing that I will be able to spend time with my family if I do a particular work task, means that I am pretty productive when I do work. The transition into my own business felt like the most natural thing in the world. My only regret has been that I didn't do it sooner.

BTW my dream has always been to write novels, but I've never managed to finish any, and now with this business it might be years before I have another go. I really admire your drive for getting down to it! All the best with it. If you are able to work from home, and it suits your personality and your circumstances, then I can realy recommend it. (And if it does not work out you can always go back to working at a later stage)

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jessysmummy · 01/08/2005 10:58

Good morning all!
Thanks for all the sympathy about DH going away. It's nice to know that I'm not being unreasonably upset. And sympathy to anyone else who's DH/DP are going away. STM - you must be thinking "Don't know what she's moaning about - at least she's got a man!" Turns out that there are redundancies on the cards at DH's company so it's even more important that he is seen to be accommodating when asked to go on training. SO looks like he's definitely going. Fortunately my DPs live about half an hour away so I know I won't be completely abandoned.
Mummyhill - don't think anything else could possibly go wrong for you. It's definitely time for you to have some good news...and the pitter patter of tiny feet has got to be good news for you and all your family.
LadyL - can;t believe that not only did your colleagues not get you a card or gift but you had to provide your own leaving food?????? How mean. I hope it choked them! Maybe you could write a book on inconsiderate work colleagues?
Bubbles - some companies do pay more maternity pay than others. Mine though only pays the minimum - 6 weeks @ 90% and then £106 or 90% of pay (whichever is least) for 20 weeks.

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