Due September thread 10 - On the downhill slope...

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Here's the new thread ladies - may it be as chatty as the last 9!!

Dont think I mentioned but at 33 week ultrasound babys estimated weight was 2.5kg (about 5.5lb). I know they are notoriously unreliable but OMG DH is a large man...
Had enough of this stupid work - going shopping!!

Boompi, as my DS was 6lb 1oz when he was born, your baby sounds quite large . But I have heard that weight scans are very inaccurate.

had a midwife appointment today and by feel she thinks this baby will be mid 8lbs - which will make him my smallest so far! Ds1 was 8lb15 and ds2 was 9lb9 so this one will look tiny to me if she's accurate. With ds1 though they estimated high 7's so were quite a bit out.
Everything else was fine at the appointment, bp still 110 / 60 where its been the whole time, and baby is on the brim of being engaged - whatever that means!
Bought extra towels and some plastic sheeting the other day, so need to get a decent torch and then my home birth kit is all together! Got dh up in the loft at the beginning of the week so have washed all the baby clothes, and the car seat covers, and feel quite organised really. Just got all the nappies to wash and then thats it. No idea were to put everything as the baby's room is still my office at the moment and will be for the next 3 months or so, so am having to improvise!

Hi all - My turn to have a moan. Life is going really pear shapped at the moment for practically everyone around us.

Best friends mum has just been rushed into hospital due to accute renal failure.

My 85 year old nan has just being diagnosed as diabetic but they haven't given her any dietary advice just told her to avoid sugars (poor woman wasn't aware of the fact that there is sugar in baked beans, ketchup and a load of other stuff).

Then to cap it all my father in law has been told he has cancer and we now have to wait for a ct scan to find out just how bad the situation is. This isn't helped by his diabetes or the fact that he seems to have appointments for different tests at different hospitals (surely they can do all the tests in one place) and therefore the information is getting lost somewhere in the system.

I feel completly exhausted at the moment and everytime i turn round something else goes wrong. Trying to stay strong for mil,fil,sil and dh whilst preparing for the worst. Also trying to support best friend and help nan with dietary advice etc as well as looking after dd and myself. Not sleeping due to bad back. Bump feels like a dead weight and I seem to be turning in to a bad tempered hag. DD can tell there is something up and is acting up. I would love the luxury of being able to go somewhere on my own and have a good sob.

Moan over thanks for listening.

mummyhill- I'm really sorry - you have too much on your plate looking after so many others when you need plenty on tlc yourself!

I'm sorry to hear about your back pain and can really sympathize with your bump feeling like a dead weight - it's so tough when you have people dependant on you and your knackered and struggling to get sleep. I don't know the answer - I'm hoping the payback will great when our fantastic little people arrive.

Ps go to bed as soon as dd goes to bed - don't try to do the house work - it makes you feel worse - honest!!

hyi everyone, mummyhill, sorry about all your family problems, u aint moaning, you're just getting it off your chest and we're all always here to listen. i have also started to get organised, got all dds babygrows out of the loft and they're all washed dryed and i wish i could say ironed but i'd be lying. i hate ironing as i think life is just too short!!! also had a mw appt today and she says all is well. i have my 3d scan tomorrow at 4pm as last time we attempted to have it done, bubba was facing the other way and wouldn't turn to look at us. dd is really looking forwrd to it so i really hope it plays the game this time!!! hope everyone's ok, i'm now a lady of leisure and am bored to tears already!!!

I'm sorry you;re having such a rough time of it at the moment Mummyhill. Second advice about going to bed as soon as dd - easier said than done, I know.

Zubb -what else have you got in your home birth kit. Apart from an old duvet and a plastic sheet, I haven't a clue what else to set aside.

evening all,
sorry long time no post, have been so busy during day and too tired at night. Can't wait till next week, start mat leave and ca finally have my afternoon nap that i;ve needed since 20weeks!
Had an antenatal session with the post natal group today...their babies were so cute...not long till that'll be us now though...scary!

Anyway hope everyone feels better tomrrow...i'm having braxtons hicks at the moment, it;s soooooo uncomfortable

STM
x x x

mummyhill - sorry to hear you are having a rough time of it, I know its not easy but you need to make sure that you are OK first or you won't be able to help everyone else as much as you want to.

pooka - thats all I have - towels, plastic sheet, and the soon-to be purchased torch! Thats all the midwife has mentioned.

Mummyhill - sorry to hear about everything - hope you're ok xxx

RZ - goodness what a tough time you had to go through with your gp. Don't know why people are like that.

had my first appointment with my birth supporter & physio. She massaged my legs & back - wonderful. We also spoke about dd3 birth that she helped at and all the probs I've been through with antenatal testing. Felt lots better.

DD refuses to sleep durring the day but have negotiated with dh and i am planning on going to bed as soon as we finish tea each night. I think things will be easier when we actually have fil's test results because then we will know what we are facing and can be better prepared for what life is throwing at us at the moment.

I only need to get the crib matress and a monitor and we will be all set. Dh needs to go up in the loft to get down the car seat, bath and the rest of the baby clothes and then i will feel happier that everything is ready for baba.

mummyhill - I hope you getsome good sleep early evening after dd has gone to bed and dh is in charge. I tried to go to bed at 7pm today and 2 phone calls later and a visit from a wheeliebin cleaning company and I'm still up!so pooka I take your point, going to put some washing on now!! night night!!

I'm terrible at following my own advice! Seem to be going through a mad houseproud phase, which is most unusual and most frustrating when builders are traipsing plaster all through the house.

Morning all. Finally got to bed at 9 last night and was woken up at 6 this morning by DD. Didn't have to get up too often in the night so i think that qualifies as my first good nights sleep in the last three weeks.

A friend is supposed to be comming over today to entertain Dd so that i can get on with some house work but as it is raining and she has to come by bus i won't hold my breath. Will probably resort to tv and try to get on anyway. Will be hammering the electricity bill though as tumble dryer probably won't stop all day let alone washing machine and dishwasher.

Have promised that if she lets me get on with my jobs this morning we will bake a cake this afternoon!!!

Lets see if we can hold off on the temptation to start a new thread till Monday and then keep that one going to the bitter end!!!!

morning mummyhill, sounds like you had nice sleep too. i got up at 6:15 this morning, better then the 2:30 yesterday. i only woke then because i needed the loo so all in all it was a good night. i like the bribe for your dd, might do that myself later although no need yet as she's still in bed so i might get lucky and she'll sleep for a little longer. ha ha thats wishful thinking!!!

i was just thinking about how long this thread has got. great minds eh!!

RZ - you're certainly getting a lot of flack for making an informed decision! Hope you can prove them all wrong by having everything go smoothly.
Boompi - good luck with research data - how teidious. Motivation = finish work, get baby. Hope the shopping spree has inspired you somewhat.
Mummyhill - I came on here for a good old moan until I saw your posting. How awful that everything has happened all at once. Glad to hear that you are managing to get some rest, sounds like you need it to support your friend and family.
for everyone's mw appts. I've not seen mine for 4 weeks and not due to see her for another 2. Seems a very long time.
Now, I'm not going to moan because this isn't a life or death situation...just very annoying! Conversation with DH this am(who is 4 hours away with work this week) went something like this:
DH: Have we got anything booked in w/c 21st Aug?
Me: Don't think so, though it is your brother's birthday that week and my mum & dad's anniversary so may have something coming up.
DH: Oh, okay but nothing definite?
Me: No,why, where are they sending you?
DH: Training
Me: Oh right, where?(Thinking it must be far away, Scotland, perhaps Cornwall if he's phoning to let me know)
DH: AMERICA
Am I being unreasonably worried that at 36weeks pregnant my DH is going to the US for a week? I was too shocked to ask where, so he could be anythng from 8 to 12 hours away if anything happens...great . Don't know if I'm more annoyed about the fact that he is considering going or that he hasn't even asked me how I feel about him being so far away so close to our (allegedly) happy event. Needless to say, I've embarrassed myself by having a little cry at my desk

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Jessysmum can understand why you would feel upset i would too in your shoes not the best of times for them to be sending him so far away is it really important that he does this training or can he postpone it till after baba comes along?

Thanks for sympathy Mummyhill. Have asked if they can send him later or even sooner but apparently it's a once a year "jobbie". I know DH needs this training as he's hoping that it will mean that he might not have to spend so much time away from home in the future which will be helpful once we've got two little ones to look after. I'm trying to be sensible and reasonable...but it's hard.

I would be upset (and cry) too JM - getting anxious about not being able to contact dh when labour starts too.
Mummyhill - I hope you find the strength to cope with all this but look after yourself too.

Shopping helped - spent an hour in John Lewis' getting face done and buying nice cosmetics, small stuff for house/baby etc. Trip marred slightly by realising when I got to till that wallet was at home so had hour round trip to collect it! My brain is like mush these days!

DD has been good this morning and i have got 4 loads of washing through and dried yipee. Will be making choclate fudge cake this afternoon and it will only last about ohhh 3 mins after it has cooled and been decorated.

Mil has asked this morning if she can have DD 11-4 tomorrow so i shall get a few jobs done before lunch then put my feet up and have a rest till they drop her back at 4. Then when DH gets in from work we will drop her off at my mums for the night as DH is taking me out for a meal to give me a break from DD and kitchen slavery bless him.

Ooohhh! Mummyhill, sounds like bliss . Enjoy the time alone with DH and some guilt free chocolate cake scoffing this afternoon!

hi all - the weeks really do seem to be zipping by now, i'm manically trying to finish off everything at work so not looking on here as much as i'd like - very conscious that i should be winding down as well so brain all over the place...
Mummyhill - sending you a big hug, everyone else is right, you have to use mumsnet as a place to come and share stuff - its not moaning.
Jessysmummy - hugs to you too, my d/h travels abroad with work a lot and last time he was away I
was much more upset than usual, i think we all need a bit more security and support for these last few weeks, do you have friends and family near? (I know its not the same )