Due May 2010: Into the third trimester we go, can the bumps get any bigger?

[MarquiseDeMerteuil]

So here's the continuation of the thread previously known as Due May 2010: Where we get a 'bloom' just in time for the christmas mayhem???
Let's see if this one lasts up until the first birth... Knowing how chatty we can be, I doubt it!

Hi y'all - and newbies too!

A quickie, cos I'm exhausted and need to get to bed!

MadamedeM - we've succumbed to a 4d scan - booked for Sat. We went with Baby Bond - and it's £139 for a basic package, involving pics and a DVD. They do the gender (if wanted) and a health check too. Hope baby isn't so coy this time!

All this hol news has got me very too! Must sort out a hol - just feel that there's so much else to sort out, so little time and so little energy....

Thanks kateyjane and hobnob. We're in London kateyjane, so I'll probably have to add about 50% again to those prices!

Just to clarify - my sister is pregnant too (due 3 days before me), I'm not treating her to a 4D scan of my baby! Realised my post wasn't completely clear on that!

Hi to AliMouse & Livshannah and good to hear from you again LotusPalm

Sorry to hear some of you are suffering with aches & pains (& In-Laws!) or feeling down. I find myself going from feeling quite happy and excited one day to really low and anxious the next. Must be the hormones

cupcake I'm also getting kicks all over the place - not so keen on the ones low down but love the belly button ones . Bump seems to be growing by the day - at this rate I'll be huge by May!

Glad to hear that so many others have booked holidays for the Summer. One of my friends thinks I?m mad for even considering taking a 3 month old baby to Spain in August. I just hope I?ll be able to cope especially as I?ll be spending the week with MIL!

I?m starting Maternity leave on 3rd May but using all my holiday beforehand so finish work on 1st April. That means I?ve only got another 6 weeks to work as we?re off to Spain for a week's holiday end Feb (just the two of us this time). Can't wait as really need the break.

Feels like there?s still lots to organise at home, not to mention choosing pram, carrycot, car seat, etc, etc! Hoping to borrow cot and some other essentials from Dsis but still need to get mattress and bedding, not to mention some clothes for LO .

Some of you seem so organised already, very impressed &

Hi livshannah and alimouse, good to have lots of newbies!
Glad you cleared that up MDM, when i first read the post, thought she must be such a loving sister to appreciate a birthday present like that OR they are pregnant together - how exciting! Glad its the latter! You whole family must be thrilled.
Heffa and kateyjane hope tomorrow is a little better for you both, will be thinking of you
We are off to Lanzarote in a week or so, after my exams, and I cannot wait to escape the grey, I find the winters really get me down and this one has been no exception, made worse by all the vomiting i expect ;) We will aslo be attempting an ambitious trip with a new baby, to see my family in south africa. Must admit, i was definately wondering where i was going to put it for 12 hours!
Everyone going to be watching "one born every minute" from behind the sofa tomorrow night?

Welcome Livshannah

Thanks all for kind messages. I spoke to DH last night and we've sorted out some stuff to get done. PILs are off for a long holiday soon so hopefully that gives us a bit of breathing space.

Kateyjane - the itching sounds awful

MDM - giving your sis a 4D scan is a lovely idea!

Kateyjane I have similar itchies

Well I just braved my scales this morning and it was a shock. Only because I caught a glimpse of my ass in the mirror which is now covered in a new layer of dimply fat :/ Put on 7.9kgs already... oh my days.. so no more chocolate for me, damn you creme eggs, I hate you!!

Anyone doing antenatal yoga? I would love to go but the one near me is way too expensive - any recommendations?

Hi all

Thanks again for all the messages of support, its been a tough time but starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Den26 - I went to aquanatal with dd and really enjoyed it, especially near the end when it gets really uncomfortable. Looked for more this time round and there's none running in our area now .

Livshannah & alimouse - welcome to the thread.

Did anyone else feel slightly anxious when they reached 24 weeks? It sounds silly as if I went into labour now there would be hope for the baby and that only improves with each day. I think after the ordeal of the last few weeks and my ds's two premature labours this time seems much scarier than last time with dd. I should be feeling relieved shouldn't I?

Sorry I haven't been around for a while, kids and sleep getting in the way!

LolaAnn - I did antenatal yoga with DS and loved it, they had a creche in the building so after my 6wk check I went straight back there! Part of me wishes we hadn't moved as I haven't found as nice a yoga class since. Never tried aquanatal though I'd like to as before DS was born I worked in a school and could use their pool for free and it was nice not to be standing up all the time - I didn't have back ache then like I do now either.

Glad you feel like your friends are coming out of the wood now Hollyoaks, it just makes you feel so guilty to be pregnant doesn't it. This pg has been awful for that - DB and SIL had a mc when I was about 6wks and haven't fallen again yet as she bled for ages after which really put the dampers on Christmas, a friend from NCT with DS was due in June but at 20wk scan found brain hadn't developed properly and had baby induced 3days later and my BF is currently going through her 2nd IVF cycle so fingers very tightly crossed.

Sorry I can't offer any advice to the itchy people but loads of sympathy as it sounds so frustrating.

Very impressed with all the nurseries getting done - I am nesting this time which is a 1st for me! and DH is considering getting me barred from Ikea!

WHo was saying they felt more anxious now they'd reached 24 wks - I know I was more nervous this time, only 26wks now but I remember saying to DH that until 2wks it was just considered a mc and he couldn't believe I was thinking like that - I suppose now its the fear that baby will have to fight for its life, literally, although as you say, everyday is a better chance.
Says she going to Cornwall for a week at the end of April!! Will be back nicely in time for 37weeks and sitting around waiting for my HB! Hoping this LO doesn't come early as DHs cousin is getting married 9days before my due date - will try and avoid photos as they won't be able to fit anyone else in!

AnAngelwithin I have also been feeling faint and breathless and I went to see my consultant today and he took it really seriously - sent me off to have a blood test to check for low iron and if I do have low iron, he reckons there's a great Pregnacare plus type thing you can get called Pregaday (only only prescription) which is the same thing only more iron. It's really worth taking it seriously!

morning ladies!
hollyoaks- its understandable to feel anxious if you have had prem labours before...fingers crossed that you get to term. are they keeping a closer eye on you?

lolaAnne- i stoppied getting on the scale when after my midwife weighing me and i was 62Kg ive put on about 1 stone up to now, but have been told about 2 is normal at term so pleanty of room to grow yet. i just dont want to end up like like time, went from 8st 2lb to nearly 14 stone, it took me about 6 months to get it off. i blame the gym ban and having to stop all the sprort i did at uni when i told everyone i was preg ( contact sport and cheerleading), after havig a bleed at about 6 months.

i have an appiontment at the medical diseases unit tomorrow afternoon, to see if they can find a reason for being ill all the tiem and to try and finally get my asthma back under control. i sound like an old lady at the moment and keep having to stop and breath then carry on.

my aunt brough over cot bedding last night, and told me i need to get organised as i only have 13 weeks to go ( went 4 weeks early with ds)...it was kind of ironic really as she is the most disorganised person, so i realled of a list of all the things ive done and got on my own and when i planned to get the rest. sorry for the rant ladies im just sick of being treated like a child who has done something wrong...im 26 and i have a child already, im not 12 so please all stop treating me like im stupid, and FFS talk to me about the baby, dont ask my nan to act as spokes person.
one good thing is though it has shown thema ll how resorceful i am and that i will cope.
Rant over.

LolaAnn some local councils offer free pregnancy pilates classes. I know Southwark council in London does, as I saw a poster at St Thomas's hospital, where I go for my antental yoga (which I'm loving by the way - very relaxing!) I don't know where you live, but the details are here . Might be worth checking on your local council's website.

I have put on 6kg so far this pregnancy, but 2 years ago I went on a diet and lost 7kg, so I'm still thinking of it as a net loss! I'm still amazed that we don't get weighed at our antenatal appointments.

Sk- Glad the scan all went well.
Re furniture- We will reusing DD's cot so just needed a chest of drawers ( white- same as DD's). The cheap SINGLAR cot in Ikea does seem abit smaller than normal... I know my friends DS outgrew it quite quickly. Also got a couple of TROFAST storage units. We have the stair Bulkhead in this room so have out them ontop to make use of the space.
Its a magnolia currently from when we moved in but it does need repainting. Need to choose a colour but going to go with a neutral colour..creamy,outmeal brown sort of thing for now as we dont know the sex for sure.

Welcome to Alimouse and Livshannah

Re secret stork- Did we ever set a date etc??

Everyone having the 4d scans... Enjoy. We had one for DD and it was lovely watching her trying to suck her thumb but missing her mouth!

Peaky- Yeah ill be watching tht tonight too. Just as i did with DD, ill be convincing myself I be having one of the easier births!

Littleonemum- Glad you were taken seriously and that you feel better soon.

re weight- I dread getting on the scales! Quite glad they dont weight you at the midwife visits!

Bought DD the most adorable dress today for our friends wedding. 3 weeks before im due!- I will look hideously large by then so hopefully DD in her pretty frilly dress will get the attention and not me!

Haven't been on for a couple of days and so have spent a long time catching up with all the posts! Welcome alimouse and livshannah.

The Channel 4 programme tonight was filmed at the hospital I had dd in (though after I'd had her); at my booking appt this time round my MW was telling me that she had been on duty for some of the births that were filmed so I will be watching to see if she's on there (and also to see if any of the umpteen staff that ended up being present at dd's birth are on there ). I'll be interested to see how it is edited - apparently although the mothers got final say on what bits of their labours could be shown, none of the staff were allowed to veto any of the footage containing them which sounds a bit unfair.

I have no idea which way LO is lying as I seem to be getting kicked all over the place, though heartburn has been unbearable the past couple of days so I certainly think it has moved recently.

And as for holidays, we keep talking about one but don't get around to booking anything so I don't know what we'll end up doing. I think we will probably go and stay with my parents for a couple of weeks in the summer and use their place as a base for making lots of day trips. That way we don't need to worry about other people being disturbed by 2 young ones kicking off in the middle of the night!!

evening all!

weight....well i was 11 stone 11 pre-pregnancy. I am 12 stone now, so I've not put much on so far. Might be a nice diet to give birth haha.

Been unbelievably tired and weepy today. DH hasn't been sleeping well and he keeps waking me up. The baby is pretty active at night and keeps me awake as well.

Littleonemum I am on pregnacare and trying to eat more iron type foods now. I don't want the consultant to decide I am anaemic otherwise byebye homebirth!!!

anangelwithin - I think that is my MWs tactic as well, she keeps going on about my colour and being anaemic as if it is another excuse not to have a HB, was talking to another Mum at toddlers today and she was saying the same thing that everything seemed like an effort to her and she didn't think much of her.

pigley - I only need a cot for a little while IYSWIM, depending on this extension thing DD3 could be out of it by 2 1/2, annoyed though as I know of a few friends who have got rid of cots recently as well.

carikube - I will watch the programme too very interesting it is in "your" hospital.

itshappenedagain - don't worry rant away, I think sometimes people treat you like a child when you are having a baby, the number of people who say to me things like "oh it will all be worth it" "wait until the baby is her" etc etc and I feel like saying "this is my fourth I kind of know how it works now thanks" the minute you become pregnant everyone sticks their oar in.

yorky - nice to hear from you, you cannot feel guilty as you are having a baby when so many people struggle such is life I am afraid, it's not your fault I think in some ways it makes you appreciate more what you do have. It's hard though.

Hollyoaks - only natural to feel anxious. As you say every day they stay put is a good day. I'm 28 weeks tomorrow that's a milestone, next one is 30 weeks. 30 weeks seems like wow almost there.

Right off to watch this programme and cry at the births.

Hollyoaks - I can understand what you mean about feeling anxious. I always relax a bit after 24 weeks but hadn't thought of it the other way round.

Would anaemia really be a reason to deny a HB? Shame that your MW is being difficult SK.

Itshappenedagain - people always seem to know what's best for pregnant women (and mothers!), it's really annoying.

We're hoping to move DD to a bed so I don't need to get another cot but a bit nervous about it.

LolaAnn - I am starting pilates at beginning of March. Looking forward to that as I am really struggling to carry on with gym at the min. Worried about over doing it as baby is so far down.

Hallelujah at 27 weeks I have finally got movement....baby kicking lots now!

Went to Next to buy some vests etc (in pink) and the sales assistant said 'Are you sure its a girl? My grandaughter came out a boy' keep the receipt' she said!
GREAT!

Yorky - I know what you mean re mc etc. My sis has had 4 mc. She came with me for 4d scan and cried afterwards. Felt awful taking her but now we no longer have our mum and not sure a baby will happen for her (long story). I thought it would be a nice experience for her, but maybe was a mistake. Just don't want to leave her out.

Saw the physio today, but not much help, to be honest...

Might give aquanatal a go - who was asking about it? Would have to travel about 25-mile round trip, but I might give it a whirl.

Haven't done antenatal yoga, but the pilates is great - and I'm definitely doing it post-birth too, to try to salvage my pelvic floor.

The birth programme was so emotional! I was so tired for the fourth-timer - it really brought it back how lo-n--g it can go on for. Exhausting! I would have merrily booted her hubbie to the A+E ward, too; what a pain in the bum! I'd have lost my patience big time!

And the other poor mum - I cried so much for her, especially when the poor baby was whisked away and she was just left shaking, knowing she'd not see him for at least six hours... Such a rollercoaster of emotions. Am really looking forward to the next programmes. I avoided ANYTHING like this for my first, figuring that ignorance is bliss and I'd get just get on with it when it happened. This time round I'm reading every birth book going - realising that, actually, knowledge is power!

IT'shappenedagain - your aunt is panicking me! I've still bought nowt! I'm hoping to hang on until begnning of March, when there's a local NCT nearly new sale, and then buy what I don't get soon afterwards...

Morning all!

Really enjoyed reading all your gossip, it took me quite a while though, you are a very chatty lot!

Did anyone else watch One Born Every Minute? Did anyone else think the policeman husband was a useless twat? If my husband blew up a rubber glove and came at me with it during a contraction he wouldn't need to worry about faterhing any more kids afterwards... and did you see the look on their 18 year old son's face when the baby's head was coming out - poor boy. Noone needs to see their mother's privates that close, surely!

Well, it's my 40th birthday today, my little darling woke me at 6.21 and I'm just waiting for the husband to surface. He is working nights so I've kindly let him lie in - he'll pay for it later!

I've read that a couple of you are feeling a bit down - and up, and down again. It's very reassuring as I have too and that's not happened in my two previous pregnancies. I guess it must be normal, it's good to know I'm not going mad or am a total freak.

Day off work - going to Dicken's World in Chatham, then bowling for an hour after school then a family pizza. Not what I had envisaged I'd be doing on my 40th (the alternative reality involved pink champagne and Venice) but I didn't envisage being 25 weeks pregnant either! Hey ho...

Anyone decided names yet? Tricky isn't it!

Happy Birthday Alimouse!! Can't send you a cake on here, so you'll have to make do with a birthday biscuit .

I have sky+'ed One Born Every Minute, as we were just dishing up dinner when it started. Can't quite decide whether to watch it - am feeling fairly relaxed about the labour and birth at the moment, despite being a first-timer, and don't want to scare myself unduly, but at the same time, I know that bad and difficult labours do happen, it's just a case of whether I want to upset myself by seeing it or not. If I do watch it, are there any bits I should fast-forward?

Names - we have been through the baby book and got a shortlist of 'favourite' names and a longish list of 'possibles' or ones we quite like as a middle name. One of the names we really like doesn't actually go that well with our surname as there too many consonant-less syllables between the end of the first name and start of our surname, so we might have to save it for a future cat or dog instead!

I have been feeling a slight sense of irrational irritation for the last week. No idea why and can't put my finger on anything that has annoyed me, just feel vaguely irritable with little things. Probably the hormones or maybe it's from avoiding biscuits and treats for a week while waiting for the results of my fasting blood sugar test (which came back clear, hurrah!).

Trying a new yoga class tonight, so hope it goes well.

Had a really vivid dream last night about my friend whose baby was due last Thursday but hasn't arrived yet, wonder if that means she's gone into labour?

Happy day everyone!

Carikube- Did you recognise anyone from last nights show ?

I watched it as did DH. We were both appalled by that husband- What an idiot! Even DH cringed when he took the micky out of her saying "I want to do all Naturally" I would of punched his lights out!! No way would i have my teenage son there too.. some things he really shouldnt see! I said to DH before they mentioned it "surely that cant be the babies heartbeat!?" It was really low!
Sympathised with the lady having the C- section. I too laid in theater shaking like a leaf before promptly throwing up over everyone!

Hobnob- Sorry the physio didnt help that much.

AliMouse- HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Hope you get treated like a Queen today!
Do you live near Chatham? I grew up just down the road from there. My parents still live there and my mum spends half her life in the outlet centre next door to the Dickens centre.

MDM- Dont worry about being scared, there wasnt too much to worry about in this episode

I have woken this morning feeling absoluetly Exhausted!!
Had a very vivid dream last night about giving birth so guessing I must of been actually pushing this baby out in my sleep. I ache all over like i did after DD'a birth!!
Thats what watching Birth programmes before bed does to you!

morning all!
happy birthday alimouse-you will just have to celebrate 41 rather than 40!
im another who watched one born every minute...and again would have punched the husband, and was confused as to why the eldest son was there.

hobnobfanatic- my family are flling into 2 catogories at the moment...the talk about it and be helpful( mainly those witha larger family) and those who seem to think that ive done something wrong having another baby and try to make out that they know better. to be honest id dont need shitty coments or to be told that i have to get prepared. last night i was told by one of them that i didnt need a new pram and that they work full time and couldnt afford to do the things i do, i just tols her i would swap places and she would soon take her coments back. my mum, dad and most of my family are very supportive, like i say im just sick of it all, but i think all will change when baby arrives

im minding my cousin this morning, so we have bikes and cars out all over the lounge, but im not bothered as they are playing nicely together. am thinking of a trip to the park in half an hour or so, but am debating putting my cousin in his pram ( hes 18 months old).

im off to the womens hospital today, hoping that they will be able to sort me out. im very envious of all those attending aquanatal, i went with Ds but the course have moed venue and time so im unable to get there. my local surestart is runing yoga for pregancy, so will be going to that class starting after half term, so would say to look if they do it in your local one as its free.

anyway off to the park i go!

Happy Birthday Alimouse, hope you enjoy your day sans pink champagne and Venice (dream about it tonight!)

I watched the One Born Every Minute programme last night and cried through nearly the whole thing, birth is just so emotional for me! I was glad DH was working a late shift, I wouldn't have wanted him to get any ideas from the Steve fellow! That would really send me over the edge! I didn't think there was anything in the programme that would scare first-time mums too badly. Other than seeing a partner teasing and making fun of his wife in labour. I hope most partners know what's good for them, and not getting kicked in the groin is probably a priority!

I did antenatal yoga with DS1 and really enjoyed it!

DH and I had decided on the kids' names years before we had a baby and I got first choice for DS1, so DS2 is being named after one of DH's favourite football players. Luckily, I like the name! I must say that I miss not having the fun of exploring the possibilities. Anyone decided on the name and telling people what it is yet?

I wanted to buy some paint for the nursery today but it's just too cold to go out! I am really enjoying nesting this time around as we moved house the day after DS1 and I were discharged from hospital, the closest I got to nesting last time around was some light packing! I really feel for you ladies who are about to move house. It's not fun at the best of times, is it?!

Happy Birthday Alimouse, hope you have a good day.

I watched One born every minute last night with DH and (having never given birth) didn't find it off putting but that bloke Steve (Tracy's husband) AAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH! I just wanted to batter him! He was so annoying, childish and obnoxious, it almost ruined the program for me... and their 18 year old son being there? Couldn't get my head around that at all! Really felt for Lisa..

It was good for us in the sense that me and DH discussed how I think I might like him to be during labour (quiet and no crappy jokes thanks).

Marquise we have a short list of names but quickly discovered it's best not to tell people as they always have an opinion that can put you off.

Off for part 2 of the 4d scan on Monday, looking forward to that.

Take care ladies

The programme prompted a discussion here, too, about DP"s role. I couldn't tell him what I want him to do - just depends, really! But I do know I don't want him taking the piss out of me and trying to lock me in the loo!

Has got me thinking about doulas again...