Due May 2010: Into the third trimester we go, can the bumps get any bigger?

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So here's the continuation of the thread previously known as Due May 2010: Where we get a 'bloom' just in time for the christmas mayhem???
Let's see if this one lasts up until the first birth... Knowing how chatty we can be, I doubt it!

welcome to whimsical and glastochick!

glastochick, the ikea matress is good and a decent price. depends what sort of thing you want? springs in it?

Agree IKEA mattresses are fab and start quite cheap and go up for sprung etc

I think you can hide your groups on FB, don't know how to do it though!

I'm a little better today, I just get so frustrated not being able to do things, I know I shouldn't moan as I know this will go and some people live like this all the time. I try and compensate with the girls not being able to go for walks etc by doing indoor things like nails and make up today, they look like little erm ladies of the night as they don't go for the subtle look lol still they are happy and we will wash it off before Daddy comes home!

ooh heffa sorry xposted!!! ds1 is fine now. Back to his usual (hyper) self!

glad you are a bit better today SK.

Thanks for the mattress suggestions, will take a look at Ikea

Which FB group are we called?

One question for those of you with cats and have already had a baby. Did you find those cat nets which go over the cot / moses basket any good? What about sleeping arrangements? Currently our cats have 24/7 access to our bedroom and 2 sleep on my head (don't ask!). A 3rd one also sleeps on my head occasionally. Do you think they'll be so horrified by the appearance of the baby that they'll naturally stop coming into the bedroom while the baby is there? I don't intend to leave the baby alone where there's a risk the cats could access it; but would like our bedroom to remain 'open access for all' IYSWIM!

just a quickie as Im snowed under with work..been to day assesment, spent an hour on the CTG..all seems ok..growth scan booked for weds..then high risk clinic..must get round to taking a pic of my 29 week bump.

glad you are getting a new fire Angel

SK..sorry to hear you are in so much pain..have you been referred to the physio?

glastochick - I have 3 cats who were our babies long before any real babies came along, they used to sleep on our bed as well. I have to admit once DD1 came along I used to shoo them off the bed when we were there (we coslept) they never jumped in the cot or anything so never had a cat net. TBH they stayed well clear of anything baby. At the moment they sleep in their own beds in our room during the day and come down at night and sleep in the lounge when they DC are in bed. They very rarely ventur into the DCs rooms as during the day there is a good chance there will be DCs in them and at night the doors are shut.

I have found the cats have to be protected from the DC more than the other way around! The older two are very good with them now though, DD3 tends to be a bit too rough still.

ML - am not going to physio this time, last time she said as soon as she did any corrections my pelvis was so soft it bounced back and delivery was the only sure

Angel - glad your DS1 is OK now

Glastochick - we have a cat from before DD was born. We never bothered with a cat net but I don't let her in the nursery. She's never shown the slightest interest in sleeping anywhere near DD (although she does sleep in the buggy in the evenings but only when it's empty). She used to sleep in our bedroom at night but gave that up after the baby came too.

SK - glad you're feeling better, it is horrible feeling so restricted. Glad your girls are enjoying make-up, I love how little ones believe more is more with make up. I took my niece to the cinema once when she was about 4 and let her play with a tube of glitter make up during the film. By the end, she'd completely covered her face and basically just glowed in the dark.

Glasto - my cats sleep on my head too! And one now sleeps on my 6yo's head - they adore each other!

THey had complete access to everywhere from when the baby was born. They stayed a fair distance, because they don't like noisy, smelly, unpredictable little things like babies, but certainly slept on the same bed while I co-slept with DD. Apparently, children who share a bedroom with a dog or cat are less likely to get asthma or various other allergies, as they acquire stronger immunity. And pet-owning children have fewer days off school... It's one of my specialist subjects, I'm afraid - I go bonkers when the anti-pet brigade try to tell people that pets are bad for kids - it really is codswallop!

I've heard that cat nets can be more dangerous than they sound, as a cat could bring them down, on to the baby, and smother them if they jump on to the net. Better not to use them, but to keep turfing puss out if you see her/him in the cot/buggy/playnest, so the puss realises it's a no-go area and they won't get any uninterrupted kip but will be ousted pronto. Mine only went in if the baby wasn't there - much to my annoyance when it came to removing cat hair...

I'm with you Glasto! I've got 3 cats at present and a dog and it infuriates me when the anti-pet brigade start on about how "Ofcourse I'll be getting rid of the pets before the baby comes"...As if!
What happened to a pet is for life not just for Xmas, its not like there is an anti-child brigade that suggests you put children into care should they make life difficult..you just adapt!
As for allergies, my partner and I both have cat allergies but have found they have improved significantly through exposure, removing the source just seems to make you worse when you do come into contact later on. I have a cousin who's mother was one of those uber-paranoid mums who bleached everything, wrapped her in cotton wool and wouldn't allow her within 10ft of any animal. She grew up a weak child, always prone to illness. Now she lives in london, smog-city, has 2 cats and I am glad to say does not bleach every surface her baby goes near like her mum used to!!!
Sorry for the rant all but I'm quite passionate about my pets, I should also say I'd like to be added to your list as my due date is May 3rd but its already so long!! LOL

to those with pets..I had a cat when DD1 was 18 months old and when DS1 was born..she was friughtened of him and kept well out of the way!..If he was in his car seat in the living room, she used to flatten herself against the wall to pass through..I think it was his (constant) crying that freaked her out.

When DS2 was born we still had Tabby but also had DH'S cat..we did have watch her though as she was a big fluffy cat and we caught her in DS's pram a few times...cats like warm places and theres nothing more snuggly than a new born.

no experience of having dogs and babies but I cant understand why people would assume you would re home your dog, unless it was known to be unpredictable round children...however..I was attacked at the age of 7 by our cocker spaniel who had always been soft as butter, so there is no telling...I think most people exercise caution with dogs and babies and dont leave them alone together..its common sense...but its nice to grow up with a pet

So glad to hear everyone's experiences with their cats have been positive . Our eldest will be 12 years old 2 weeks before DC1 arrives, and our youngest will be 6. I care for them as though they are my children, and I've been responsible for their welfare since they were teeny kittens and wouldn't dream of being anything other than their mummy until it's time for them to leave this world.

I too hate the anti-pet brigade who tell me I should get rid of them!

I will steer clear of cat nets then and just turf them out of the cot / pram / moses basket / wherever as soon as I see them in there. I actually think I wouldn't mind seeing one particular mog of mine curled up next to the baby, but I have a feeling he will be so put out and jealous that I'm not going to see that happen. He's jealous enough of our other cats and was jealous of DH when he came on the scene too, although he quite happily flumps all over DH in the evenings when he thinks I haven't noticed

Would have loved to have grown up with a dog or a cat from a young age, but I was 13 when we got our first dog. Guinea pigs and rabbits are nice, but not quite the same. Poor DH never had any pets until he met me!

Glastochick - I'm sure your cats will be just fine. My parents had cats throughout when each of us was born and never had a problem either. Other than protecting them from us I used to put our very grumpy, dignified black male cat in a bonnet and push him around in a pram I grew up with lots of animals and no allergies here.

Hi all

Welcome glastochick and whimsicalname . We re-homed our labrador with a family friend when I found out I was pg with dd as she was snappy and unpredictable. Seriously think she had some sort of mental disorder as she was a little bit crazy but couldn't take the risk. You know your own animals and whether you trust them or not, go with your instincts.

Well, I have just got out of hospital yesterday afternoon after being admitted in the early hours with threatened preterm labour. I went to bed on valentine's day feeling absolutely fine but within about 5 mins I was having strong bh and lower back pain every 2 mins. After a couple of hours we arranged childcare and went into the delivery suite. My water sample and blood showed wbc's and blood in the urine but no bacteria. So the consultant said it wasn't a uti and changed the abs (just to cover a skin infection) and ordered bed rest for the night. By morning the bhs had stopped and I felt much better but still feel sore and tired. Sil has dd today for me so I can relax as I think it has been causes by stress with both work and home-life.

So, we all need to relax as much as possible and enjoy our pregnancies. Dh is under strict instructions to pamper me for the remaining 15 weeks

I have a feeling my three cats will also stay well away from our new arrival, when he/she puts in an appearance. God knows children freak them out enough as it is so I can only imagine how they'll react to an even smaller, noisier version!!
As to Tyler, our Rottweiller, even though he has been well trained and disciplined since we got him at 7wks and has the sweetest nature and is great around children I would still not leave him alone with a child at any age...its not that I don't trust him but better to be safe than sorry! Besides, its children who are unpredictable and I think one of my cats in particular would only tolerate so much tail pulling before he decided enough was enough!
Hollyoaks - Hope you really are taking it easy after your hospital stay! If your anything like me it will be 10minutes on the couch and then..oh look...some fluff that needs hoovering....
I've finally got some time booked off this week and next, which was planned to be a rest period with a little nursery decoration if I felt up to it but I've now managed to fill every day with friends and family visits and shopping...I'll probably get more rest when I get back to work! LOL

Hi All, just popping in.

Hollyoaks - hope you are taking it easy.

Got day off work today to wait on new sofa being delivered. We ordered it way back in October!!! Woke up this morning and its bloody snowing!!! AARGH - have no idea if it will come now Currently sitting on a pile of cushions looking at my old sofa sitting outside under a cover in the snow!

Anyone else having vivid dreams? I keep having similar ones where i'm being given tiny animals to look after and they are so small that they keep dying not nice!

A tip for cat owners: make any changes to routine now, before the arrival of baby, to minimise stress to puss. Move the cat litter tray or feeding bowls to where will be convenient with a little one around (ie out of reach!), so puss doesn't have to cope with too much change at once - nor associate change with the baby. I know babies don't move for a while, but it good to be prepared. Ditto a sleeping area somewhere out of the way, unreachable by crawling children/toddlers - if you set somewhere aside where puss can always escape to, it should be happy families. I'm lucky to have deep windowsills - where my cats eat and sleep!

Feliway spray can help to calm any stress in new situations, too...

Vivid dreams here too. I was on the TItanic the night before last; last night, I had a dream involving Kelvin McKenzie! All very peculiar...

Hollyoaks..sorry to hear about your scare..do take it easy and put your feet up..Im surprised they didnt give you steroid jabs as they did me last week.

Cant beleive Im 29 weeks today..one more week and Ill be 30 weeks..its starting to seem very real!
I watched last weeks one born every minute yesterday and wanted to slap the husband of the woman having her fourth baby..what a twonk.

Im embarrassed to admit..I have piles..I always get them in pregnancy and I couldnt sleep last night for the pain..will have to go the chemist and get something.
Im reluctantly bunging my pliko in ice back on ebay as I cannot get the car seat to go with it,daft though it sounds as I wont be leaving baby in the car seat.but for school run I probably would and it would bug me not to have the matching car seat.

Hello everyone,

Loads to catch up on after 3 days, but I'm off so I can check back regularly this week.

Back from DP's after a long weekend. I came away with a linen basket full of clothes, nappies and other baby items. My mum is so excited! My DB and SIL came to stay too - she is due at the end of May and she is really competitive. My DB put his head on my tummy and baby kicked him. She spent the rest of the weekend trying to get hers to do the same and comparing bump sizes. I had a lovely time though.

Good to see you back ML

Hollyoaks - hope you are resting, make sure you do nothing and relax!

Den hope you get your sofa, can't be comfy sitting on cushions!

Welcome to all the newcomers!

Hope eveyone else is well and trying to take it easy too. It's something we should all try to do x

Hello,
Finally after MN being down last night and my internet sodding about earlier I can post. Using an internet dongle thingy at the mo.

Cant comment on the pets as we only have 2 goldfish!
I grew up with lots of families pets around and loved it. We plan to get a dog once this one is abit older.
I caught DH looking at Puppys a few times when i was pregnant with DD.. Told him theres no way with a new baby too!

Hollyoaks- Glad everythings ok. Must of been scary! Make sure you do rest

Littleowls- My Sis had a baby 8 weeks before me with DD and my mum has been the competitive one. It has caused sooo much heartache and tears with the 2 girls being constantly compared so can sympathise how annoying it is.

Keep getting pins and needles in my finger tips..anyone else or am I just odd?

Knackered today after DD being a madam yesterday and being up last night. Also been tricky this morning too Hoping this is just a phase!

omg had a weekend in center parcs all those babies and toddlers have freaked me out! I'm so scared my 2 dc are so much older I am wondering what an earth Iam doing, doing it all again after all this time....help!

Got horrendous wind problem and not sleeping well even with my sleep genie! (which i love)

Dont know who said it now about being fed up of comments about the size of their bump. I am sick of it. I am huge, bigger than the last 2, cant believe I can get any bigger. I now have cellulite on my legs and my arms are huge. I just cant seem to be one of these stick people with a nice cute bump!

Ello all, cripes this thread is moving along quickly

mustbemadno3 - Why did no one tell me about the wind before getting preggers? I woke DP up last night as i thunderously quietly broke wind!!

pigleychez - don't get pins and needles in finger tips but 2 fingers constantly lock into place and its bloody painful trying to unlock them

ML - 29 wks today too... its bloody scary!

Anyone else started feeling unbelievably sick when they go to bed? Last 3 nights i've slept less then 3hrs each as the moment my head touches the pillow i need to vom, tried sleeping upright but thats not helped and all the pillows in the world won't get me comfy either - hips ache in bed, arm goes dead in seconds, feet are freezing.... the list just goes on lol. DP has said he'll move to the spare room but i'm even worse when he's not there - looks like i can't win!!

Just wondering if anyone has had experience of delivering at the Royal, Belfast? The girls at my work all have horror stories, i just wanted to hear something positive

Hope bumps are behaving for everyone xxxx

hello all. not sure how much i will be around over the next few days. everythings gone tits up here so to speak. Amongst other things, I had to have my darling dog put to sleep today, and I am beyond devastated. DH is being an arse. I'm not coping very well to be honest. I hope you are all well x x x

ANGEL - I'm so sorry. I'm a complete wreck when a pet dies - they really steal your heart. Hope you are coping okay and DP is supportive

Oh Angel, that's so sad . Thinking of you and the poor dog. Hope your DH behaves himself soon - is it possible that he's upset about the dog too but coming across as a bit of an arse in a mis-placed blokey attempt not to let it show?

Was going to have a little moan about my day, but have gained a bit of perspective after reading your post, so won't now!

I was going to write a proper post yesterday evening, but everything was down on here, so couldn't. Now can't remember what I was going to say to everyone and things have moved on too far. So I'll just leave it as Hello and welcome to Glasto and whimsical.

Can any of the more experienced mums recommend a good book to get for the first year? A friend recommended What to Expect: the First Year, so am thinking of getting that unless there are any other strong recommendations.

My secretary asked what I was giving up for lent, so I said 'nothing apart from my social life for the next 18 years'! Usually give up chocolate but figured I'm already pretty down to one glass of wine a week and can't have salami and nice cheeses, so I'm buggered if I'm giving up chocolate too!

not really MDM, it started a couple of days ago when i sonfronted him about something and rather than proving his innocence, has decided to totally ignore me and make my life even more difficult than it is already!!

moan away! Everyones problems are uniques to them, and are no more or less important in any way!