The PESH Deli - The drinks might be virginal, but that's about all...

[CurlyCasper]

Come in, come in to the new haven for diffed BESHies. I think a group effort is needed here (and I'm being a lazy preggo), so please add to the deli whatever you crave/love/can stomach.

Nominations are also open for sexy fathers we can hijack to serve our mouldy cheese and cured ham

And the best mocktail recipe wins...well, bugger all to be honest

this is the baby love book. Stillundecided on whether I will buy that one..

this is the Dr Sears one - am thinking maybe bit american?

cas surely youtube is the way to gory details?!

Far too scared of fixated on pregnancy and birth to think about books on actual babies...

Maybe i'll get one as a giving birth present? That's not too late, I assume

Me too cas I am much more fixated ont he giving birth bit than anything else

When we did our NCT class the teacher asked us all to write down what important things we hoped to learn from the course. All of the women wrote (and I paraphrase) "how do I get this friggin monster out of me without being split in half?" and all the men wrote "how do I change its nappy/bathe it without breaking it?". The men seemed to not comprehend how we were so terrified and fixated on this ONE day. And the women had not thought about what to DO with an actual baybee afterwards.

Ooo, just had another fluttery kick thing.

pone were the NCT classes any good?

I want to feel flutters/ kicks

iggs my flutters have gone. Maybe wasn't flutters at all. It's still very early to be feeling them.

piglet Ours were good but I think we were quite lucky. I think the NCT has a slight reputation as a bunch of home birth lentil weavers who don't believe in pain relief. But 3 out of the 5 in our class were having planned c-sections so we had a somewhat different focus. There was no judgement and plenty of talk about informed pain relief decisions for the normal birthers.

Really pony I didn't realise that! Hmmm... I have booked myself in for a course anyway - so I guess will just see!

Was also interested in a hypnobirthing class (does that make me odd?) but they seem v. expensive...

Well we only heard that after we'd booked, and our experience was quite different. So maybe it's a completely unjustified reputation.

iggy get a pregnancy relaxation CD set instead - ebay best bet. Just the same principles of hypnobirthing but a fraction of the cost. I practise mine when I have a spare mither-free half hour and its very lovely.

ok so as requested by skibesh here is my boast;

just before christmas, our new MD called me in to his office told me I was ace and started talking about moving me in to a new sales type role.

I've been umming and ahhing because of the diffyness, so Friday I went to see him and fessed up. He said he is still 100% behind me, wants me to do it, thinks I'll be ace at it, and has said when I come back I can do 4 days work for the prie of 5, with the equivalent payrise when I move back to 5 days.

He also used the phrase "I am sponsoring your career"

Can I get some sort of BESH certificate now please? I have a career, not a job apparently.

Must admit I'm over the moon, 4 days was always my ideal but not possible in current role, you need to be there every day.

Woohoo cossy!

Great news cosmo. What an amazing deal

return of the bizarre dreams. Last night I lived naked and pregnant in what can only be described as a sand castle (though more a sand Wendy House, going by the size if it) in a cult/hippy commune. And my MW notes said that the shape and size of my bump indicated that I would be having a 19lb boy . This was during the little bit if sleep I got, as I am waking more and more, and finding all positions less and less comfortable, despite the recent purchase of a full body pillow. And we have another five-plus months of this???

Yay for cossie and her high powered career

cas I had wierd dreams last night - was stabbed and then gave birth (actual stabbing and birthing not actually part of dream) and was in soe wierd hospital where everyone was demanding the name of the baby and the baby was only about 6 inches long...

I too not sleep well at the mo - but think I have got used to it!

Hello, just poking my nose in. I read a thread on preggie books yesterday (can't find it now, sorry) which recommended this for the medical side of yer brain and this for the squidgy/lentilly side.

I liked this thread too

Am in awe of Cosmo and her boss today. Take that, Daily Hate.

I is well impressed with Cossie and this is all so much more dignified that my wailing "pleaes don't let this ruin my career".

Big boss pulled me aside yesterday to talk about buying baby stuff. Told me I was a clever girl and not to get swayed by all the sales crap. Said he asked the shop why x buggy was 300 euros and y buggy was 1000. He said the girl looked at him as though he was a moron and said "well obviously as you can see, this is this year's colour". He told shop girl his wife was pregnant, not mentally ill.

Curly 19lb boy?
My back has been sore the last couple of days - mid back, it's either baybee or mahoosive comedy norks. I'm now wearing something which Ellen MacArthur could negotiate the south seas in. I'm sleeping OK-ish, always up for at least one pee and generally the second around 5-6 so I get up anyway.

Lyra Please to furnish us with the link where Giselle Bunchys says laying a baybee not to hurt and pop out in bath?

The absolute cow

But this really gets to me, for some reason. Probably because I'm a BESH, and she ain't.

FOUR DAY WEEK??????

Lyra If you already hate Ms P, might I offer you a little more hate material? It has been rumoured in the past that during the evans years she used abortion as a form of contraception.

Mornin' all - flying visit & will catch up with fred at lunch - early scan shows BOC and heartbeat. Bit small for 7+6, doc thought more like 6+6 but as this means nothing to me I will continue in ignorance. Also only one there. Phew. Was nice to hear someone else say it not just a stick.

lyra I has that Yehudi Gordon book you links to... is ok... I quite likes it. Agree is bit lentilly tho..

cas I think you win with the 19lb baby

Yey VAG you are officially one of us!!

I dreamt I went to a disco with the cast of Neighbours this morning whilst I was too ill to go to work (being too ill wasn't part of the dream, that bit is real)

cos I am also going to put in for a four day week - on compressed hours so still paid the same. Figured I do the hours anyway for a normal day and just accrue flexitime which I then strugle to find time to take, and it would work out better for being dropped off and picked up by hom (thus avoiding public transport) if I worked longer days but only 4 of them. Win win.

LOL @ Disney Princess getting through life tits-first.

Kudos to my GP who rang me yesterday a mere week after telling her I'm up-diffed to offer me the swineflu jab.

Nice one on the job cosmosis!

Re pregnancy books: I bought the Leslie Regan book recommended on this thread. However I bought it online not realising its a big hardback, so I can't read it in the bath. Bah!

Great news about the scan VAG

"Vag and skater how're you both feeling?"

I could be any of the following seven dwarves: Happy, Sleepy, Queasy, Windy, Fainty, Hungry and Stacked.

Also, I would like to recant my former judginess. On the BESH thread I moaned about my pregnant colleague eating nothing but crumpets and Pot Noodles. Well on Sunday I made tons of this healthy salad full of broccoli and butternut and everything a pregnant lady needs. And I do not fancy it at all. All I want to eat are crackers and bananas. And for a bit of variety, toast and yoghurt.