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First Time Frolicker Graduates...

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WhiteRoses · 13/01/2010 20:46

...now the "Crazy Baby Ladies"!

Had the idea to start this thread because, after getting my BFP on Monday, it suddenly dawned on me that I was going to lose contact with a lot of lovely people. I feel sad every time anyone leaves (though obviously happy for you that you've got your BFP) and thought this might be a nice idea, so that we can continue to keep in touch. After all, we've been through a lot together, haven't we?!

Also, I felt a bit out of my depth on the other threads, where it seemed like most of the members had already had children. There didn't seem to be a "first-timers" thread on here. (Unless I missed it!)

So here goes!

CURRENT GRADUATES:

Trying4Baby1 - BFP 21Aug - EDD?
Kaystar - BFP 27Aug - EDD?
Pepperonipizza - BFP 12Sep - EDD?
Fulhamgirl - BFP 18Sep - EDD?
Ladyemmalou83 - BFP 13Oct - EDD?
bluesnowfalcon - BFP 14 Oct - EDD?
Spirael - BFP 7 Nov - EDD?
Curlycasper - BFP 11 Nov - EDD?
TishTosh21 - BFP ??? - EDD?
EmsieRo - BFP 16 Nov - EDD?
vix206 - BFP 8 Dec - EDD?
HypotheticalMummy - BFP 9 Dec - EDD?
Ozziegirly - BFP 16 Dec - EDD?
NovemberAli - BFP 24 Dec - EDD?
Eleanora - BFP 28 Dec - EDD?
whiteroses - BFP 11 Jan - EDD 25th Sept
hamsterlover - BFP 11 Jan - EDD?

FUTURE GRADUATES:

addie81
aly323
blueberry noo
Bunnygirl
Calyx
Capricorn76
ceebs05
chalky3
chancewouldbeafinething
chico193
CJ2007
cla ireinthecommunity
DrewsGirl
evilgiraffe
fudgecat
Hobnob
Homebound
Honeymoo
Kaloki
kkas
Mada meG
mrscinco
mumnerves
Muser
Pidgin
pixiestix
Sevans
Sky27
sparklyrainbow
Stellybelly
Worr isomHeart
YorkshireTeaDrinker
Zippys

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pixiestix · 20/04/2010 21:18

Hi Worrisome, I'm still here! Nothing drastic happening with me though, just ticking along.
You are brave to be thinking about number 2 ousting Mr T from the buggy already! I can't imagine feeling as ill as I have done with a toddler in tow - its amazing that anyone manages to have more than one! My pet hate at the moment is people saying "Pregnancy is not an illness" - I think Roses heard that from her midwife, and I have been told it by about three different people so far. It makes me grind my teeth!
The Sola looks really good. I am tempted by it but I havent seen one "in the flesh" yet. I had a good old play around with the Mothercare Spin at the weekend and its bloody great! A bit of a price, though nothing like as much as Fulhams Bugaboo!

Trying - its lovely to hear from you. Your dog sounds like she knows whats what - I would get the hospital bag in the boot of the car if I were you! How exciting to be so close to meeting your little one.
You'd better fill us in on all the details though, not like that Fulham who has just up and deserted ship

pixiestix · 20/04/2010 21:23

Oops, meant to add - Worrisome, yep, the checking for a heartbeat is pretty standard at the 16 week check up I think. Its fab!

Trying4Baby1 · 21/04/2010 09:13

Hi pixiestix I have my bag packed now but it's sitting in the baby's room just now, ready and waiting. I've been really lucky that I've had an easy pregnancy compared to a lot of my friends but I'm really starting to feel it now. Just really tired and needing a nap most days and can't walk anywhere very fast now. It can be quite hard making myself slow down and take it easy otherwise I feel really sore the next day.

I hate people thinking that pregnancy is easy though as some people have real problems and I think it's shocking that the midwife wasn't very sympathetic!

From what I remember (as the earlier appointments seem so far away now) I think the heartbeat has been checked at every appointment after my 12 week scan.

Hoping Fulham makes an appearance back on here to fill us in on the details but realise that she'll definately have her hands full now. I'll hopefully have some news soon!

bunnygirl80 · 21/04/2010 10:09

Hermya I tried the chocolate but it was rubbish...way too sugary for me. It was such a disappointment! I helped DH with the tasting by sniffing all of the wines and giving my verdict

Trying the end is so close for you now - it must be so nice knowing that in a few days you'll be getting to meet your LO.

Worrisome I like the look of the sola. I have got my heart set on the Bugaboo chameleon. Just need to start saving now for it, although I've seen some good deals on ebay.

This is now going to turn into a me me me rant. I spoke to FIL on Skype on Sunday when he announced that all of the family were there for Sunday lunch and they'd like to see me to congratulate us. Cue my response of congratulate me on what?? It turns out that MIL has decided that when I said tell noone until I'm 12 weeks that meant tell noone except both of DH's brothers, both his grandmas and his uncle

I was (and still am) so angry with her. I'm not that bothered about people knowing slightly before 12weeks, but I was really really looking forwards to telling everyone myself and now I'll never get the chance

To top it all off I got an email from my SIL saying that MIL has been walking around like the wounded party as she doesn't know why I'm upset with her!! Luckily SIL is gong to try and smooth things over as she understnads how exciting it was telling people when she was pg and how it might be quite annoying not to get that opportunity.

Trying4Baby1 · 21/04/2010 13:38

Hi bunnygirl can't believe your MIL told everyone before you had a chance to! We found out I was pregnant at 4wks but decided not to tell anyone until after my 12wk scan (just in case). We knew MIL wouldn't be able to keep it to herself, and neither would my sister, so we decided not to tell anyone. My MIL by the way is lovely but we knew she would be too excited to keep it to herself.

Sorry you didn't get to share the news with everyone yourself. We just wanted to make sure we were the ones who told close family ourselves, wasn't bothered about anyone else after that. Don't bother about hurting your MIL's feelings she was a bit insensitive but it was probably just the excitement! You have plenty of other things to get excited about like the scans and picking out everything! Congrats by the way!

felicityFlick · 21/04/2010 15:29

sorry to intrude.... but just had to say poor bunny!!! I'd be so mad if I was you. We miss you on the frolickers- come and say hi soon that goes for all of you- we love it when you come back!

Hermya321 · 21/04/2010 18:15

Seriously I can not believe some people, I mean have we bred common sense out of the gene pool??

I've just been walking home along a very very busy main road when I saw some lads playing about with a football. There were about four of them and one of them kicked the ball into the flow of traffic, and get this, his mate DIVED (without looking) in front of a van to get it. Thankfully the man stopped and the lad got his ball and moved on. I just stood there in horror as they walked off LAUGHING!

I was just so shocked and as I walked past them (I still can't believe I did this) I turned to them and said 'You could have been killed, watch it next time'. The lad mumbled some expletives at me and walked off. I wasn't planning on saying anything, but my hormones kind of took over .

Muppets!

Felicity Hello!! You ok?

Bunny MIL's are terrible for this, I just think they get too excited don't they. Are you ok?

Pixie Despite the fact that 'pregnancy is not an illness', lets face it if you didn't know there was a baby in there you'd think you were dying of some terrible affiction wouldn't you.

Trying So exciting, I bet you can't wait.

Worrisome It's not practice, practice would involve you borrowing one of those fake electronic babies that they give to teenagers to put them off having one. I'm sorry you're suffering, I've had it and it's not nice. Have you tried drinking hot milk, I find it helps me.

fudgecat · 21/04/2010 20:30

Hi all

trying enjoy your last few days ? good to hear you have got the bag packed
bunny I know how you are feeling, when I found out DP had told his work I was so angry our parents don?t even know yet!!
hermya I know what you mean about kids these days, im sure our lot will be nicer

Just thought I would give you a quick update on whats been going on with me since Fridays 12 week scan...
Saturday ? nice day, all happy and relaxed after the scan
Sunday ? woke up to brown spotting and cramps
Monday ? called the local MW phone in number and was told not to worry as long at the spotting stayed brown
Tuesday ? Red blood when I first got up but that went brown as the day went on
Today ? Had to go to the docs as last week they told me that my booking in bloods and urine needed to be redone. Asked the nurse what the problem with the bloods was and was told they wanted to redo them as they had come back with slightly low platelets. Told the nurse about the spotting who said she would ask my MW to call me. MW called me an hour later and has asked me to go to the MW drop in clinic tomorrow.

mumnerves · 21/04/2010 21:36

fudgecat Oh I do so hope everything is ok for you, keeping fingers crossed it's just mild spotting. Do let us know how you get on

bunny at your MIL! We're not telling anyone especially my mother and MIL as we know they are useless at keeping secrets. I hope you manage to smooth things out with her. Fancy not letting you tell everyone yourself!

trying oooh good luck, am getting excited for you

Hermya what idjits!!! The thing is if he had been run over it would've been the van driver's fault

I currently have to work next to a colleague whos moisturiser makes me nauseous. It's so hard as she's such a lovely person and doesn't know I'm preggers either. I have to try and get on with work without turning my nose up when she gets close, it's just so hard! I can't wait for my first trimester to be over

bunnygirl80 · 22/04/2010 00:50

fudge I hope everything is ok with you and LO.

hermya kids nowadays just don't seem to have any common sense - and of course if he had been hit it would have been blamed on the van driver

Thanks for your support over the MIL incident. While I know she was just excited it still leaves me feeling disappointed that I won't get to tell lots of people myself.

If I could turn the clock back I think I would probably tell noone at all until 12 weeks, but I am naive and thought I could trust people to keep a secret! I'm now looking upon this as a learning experience - when we get around to having no. 2 I will definitely keep quiet until I'm ready for the whole world to know

My symptoms seem to be disappearing this week, I'm feeling less sick and definitely have more energy. While I'm pretty convinced that it's just that I'm nearing the end of the first trimester (Woo hoo!) I still can't help worrying a little bit. Only 7 days until my scan when I'll get proof that there's really a little person in there and I'm not just imaging the whole thing

WorrisomeHeart · 22/04/2010 08:04

Blergh.. have woken up to a headcold today so am still in bed feeling sorry for myself. Does anyone else get that ridiculous guilt when they take a sick day from work? For some reason I feel worse now that I'm pregnant - don't want them to think I'm slacking off already, which is daft.

fudge am crossing my fingers that all is fine - keep us updated with how your mw check goes tody

pixie I think it's only the 2nd trimester high that is helping me to imagine having a second!!

Trying how are you feeling today? Any interesting pre-labour signs yet? (and are you getting fed up with people asking 'is the baby here yet?' )

bunny ooh I love the cam, but it's just too pricey for us. Hope you find a good ebay deal - are they much more expensive in Oz? Am at your MIL.

hermya I think it's a good thing that I don't have one of those robotic dolls - i think I would be freaked for the next 5 months!! Am reading What to Expect in the First Year which is freaky enough...

mumnerves That super sense of smell thing is really tough isn't it? I still have it, although the smell don't make me really nauseous anymore, it's just not fun sitting next to someone stinky on the train!

Pidgin · 22/04/2010 08:39

bunny that's so annoying about your MIL. I know it shows that she's very excited about your news, which is lovely, but it's still your news!

fudge hope you are OK and it goes well at the clinic.

Hermya glad to hear you are sorting out the yoof! DH who's a psychologist tells me that young brains don't develop fully in terms of judgement and risk analysis until late teens/ early 20s - sounds like those boys still had a bit of developing to do!

zippys · 22/04/2010 08:40

Hi everyone, just wanted to pop my head in and have a quick read to catch up with you all. I cant believe we now have our first frolicker baby

Although I have to admit I am slighly as I stupidly thought I would have had my LO by now instead I am off down the route of the infertility clinic and hromone issue

Anyway I didnt come on here to moan, just to say hi to you all and I really hope I can join you soon but thing you will all have graduated from the grds board by the time I get my BFP!!

Oh and Fudge I am thinking of you - hope everything is ok.

WhiteRoses · 22/04/2010 10:12

Hi all... Just about to try and catch up on thirteen pages of posts that I've missed. First, I wanted to say sorry I've been away for so long though. As you know, we were on holiday, but when we came back, our internet had been disconnected. After over an hour on the phone, they told us it was because we hadn't paid our bill. We asked them which bill they thought we hadn't paid. Half an hour on hold later, they told us we had paid all of our bills, and they had no idea why the mix up occurred. So, over a week later, we were reconnected and credited with a £10 goodwill gesture by way of apology. £10 won't even cover the cost of the phone call, at 10p a minute, but if we want to complain, we've got to do it via e-mail! Good job we're reconnected now! Anyways... Time to start reading!

Spireal - congratulations on passing the 24wk mark! How exciting! And I'll look forward to seeing pictures of the nursery.

Congratulations to Spanishlady! I was hoping I wouldn't have to read for long before I came across the first BFP! Here's hoping for several more now!

Hermya - wonderful news about your scan!

Oh wow! Did not expect that post from Fullham - waters broken! Must read on...

Wow! Lily's here! Congratulations Fulham! There was you thinking you were taking maternity leave early too... Now you'll have LOADS of time off with your little daughter! Oh, I'm SOOO hoping that if I read on, I'll find you've updated some more, though I wouldn't be surprised if you haven't had the time! Hurrah, our first baby! (Our first baby! Lol!)

Bunny - great to hear that your mum was so pleased for you!

November - how lovely that you've felt movement.

Luckyseven - congratulations! Excellent news!

Lol Bunny at your mum worrying about ugly babies - is there such a thing?!

And funny how a few of you have thought of Family Guy - that's what I've been saying for weeks! Seems my "Stewie" is mastering new skills every day! Lol!

Worrisome - I can understand what you mean about your twin being pregnant too, but at the same time, how lovely to be able to talk babies like that with someone so close to you, and know for a fact that you're not boring them!

Yorkshire - sorry you've been so tired and queasy but sounds like the pregancy's going well! Won't be long now till your scan and till you're shouting it from the rooftops!

Worrisome - glad to hear you're feeling so well.

Pixie - how are you?

Hermya - great about DH's new job. With that, and you fast approaching the "feeling better" (if not "blooming") stage, things are really looking up, eh? x

Capricorn - congratulatioins!

Ozzie - delighted that you're so happy about having a boy!

Ooooh, Fudge - I'd be RAGING with your DH too! And the fact that he didn't tell you right away either... That man has some making up to do! Be sure to milk it!

Bunny - I wouldn't worry too much about the visitors if I were you. With a new baby, you'll have too much else to think about, and they'll understand that. They'll just have to look after themselves and make allowances.

Chance - sorry to hear about the low B.P.

Hermya - the crib -

Aly - I'm so, so sorry to hear your news. [hug] You've been having such a horrible time of it. Hopefully though, with your body already prepared for pregnancy, you'll conceive again nice and quickly, and be back on here in no time. And hopefully next time around, things will be a lot easier for you in terms of diabetes too. The one thing I hate about MN is that I can't just reach into the screen and give people hugs when they need them!

Bunny - I'm sorry about the sickness. It's so miserable.

Fudge - glad your scan went well. It's so amazing and real, isn't it?

Chance - I'm sorry to hear about your MIL. Still, at least they're moving fast with it all. Hopefully she'll be back home recovering soon. x

Hobnob - good news about your scan and hearing the heartbeat, as well as accumulating so much baby stuff! As for the muscle twitch... I've had a few of those and keep wondering if it's the baby or not. No butterflies either... See, one minute I'm convinced it must be the baby, and then I get a twitch in my leg and think that felt exactly the same!

Worrisome - I had heartbeat checked at 16wks and think it seemed pretty standard. Might be different in different areas though... ???

Trying - so glad you popped in! I really hope you'll keep us posted asap!

Nearly there now! Only two more pages to catch up on! God, I was really missing for ages!

Bunny - I can't believe people being so unreasonable! That's your news, not MIL's! I don't know if you remember that DH and I initially argued about who to tell prior to 12wks. In the end, we told my parents and sister, but not his mum, which he wasn't happy about. But then at 12wks, we told her. Once we left her house, we used the mobile to phone the first of DH's brothers. By the time we got to the second, he had already been told the news by his mum! Infuriating but sort of proved I wasn't just being a mean bitch and excluding her! Hmph!

Oh Fudge! How scary! But at least you know all was well on Friday. Hopefully that's still the case. I know when I was in hospital with the sickness, there were several pregnant women in there who were losing a lot of blood, but whose babies were completely fine. In fact, there were more bleeding women there than sick ones, and just think how common sickness is. Try not to worry to much, if you can help it. (Another case of wanting to pop through the screen and give someone a hug!)

Bunny - glad to hear you're feeling better.

Aww Zippys - think positive. The fact that you're looking at intervention might just trigger that BFP! You never know - worked for others! x

Hurrah! Caught up!

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WhiteRoses · 22/04/2010 10:29

And an update on me (going to keep it as short as possible after the last message!);

  • 19wks+1
  • Felt a few muscle twitches but nothing definite, no bubbles popping or butterflies, let alone kicks.
  • Sickness much better, generally. Feel queasy but not AS queasy, and only physically sick every few days.
  • New symptom = sore backside! Feels like I've fallen hard on it, which I haven't. Keeping me up through night and have actually had to phone in sick to work today (Worrisome - I know the guilt you're talking about!) Seeing physio on Wednesday.
  • Another one = leg cramps.
  • Another = hands swelling randomly to the point that the skin cracks and bleeds when they shrink back down. Pleasant.
  • Had first antenatal class. About physio and how to deal with back pain, leg cramps, SPD, etc., but no mention of winding up with a sore bum!
  • Boobs now leaking.
  • First person I hadn't told about pregnancy guessed a couple of days ago.
  • Have decided to boycott New Look, after trousers became shabby enough to be binned after a few weeks, and jeans ripped on second day of wearing them.
  • Belly's become hairy. (Is that just me or is anyone else experiencing similar?)
  • Haven't had anyone feel bump but have had two people (men!) talk and listen to my bump, univited, and I kinda think that's worse...
  • 20wk scan on Tuesday. Can't wait to (hopefully!) find out gender.
  • Still haven't bought any baby stuff. Clothes are difficult - they all seem boyish or girly, and the big things, we're going to wait till after Tuesday for. Really liking the Silvercross something-or-other travel system but actually very tempted to watch out for second hand baragin, as I'd far rather spend money on something else if we were able to get one in really good condition... Dunno though. Will wait and see.

And I think that's it! I know that wasn't short short but come on, it's been three weeks!

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WhiteRoses · 22/04/2010 10:51

Oooh! Another one! Have had craving - pickled mussels... Mmmm! Sooooo good!

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chancewouldbeafinething · 22/04/2010 12:01

Bunny I would be very at your MIL too! Does she have any daughters? I think mothers who only have sons sometimes are a bit strange when it comes to other women. My MIL is one of those, but luckily she is very close to her nieces so she has some idea (lovely lady really, just a bit socially strange sometimes) My MIL is doing ok, taking it one step at a time, and being very positive. Her doctor seems very up front and aggressive, so we are hoping it goes well.
Glad to hear you are feeling a bit better now

Fudge I hope everything is ok, my fingers and toes are crosssed xx

Hermya Well done you, just be careful! What oiks! there are some people who natural selection should have weeded out aren't there?

worrisome Hope the cold is getting better. Dont feel bad about taking one day off, I haven't been to work in over a week, and my boss told me not to come tomorrow as its my birthday and if I'm not 100% take the extra day! To be fair though I have been doing a lot of work from home, and have the phone glued to my ear(but I still love my boss)

roses Great to have you back!! Sorry to hear about all of your new symptoms I was thinking of you the other day....I woke up and had leakage from my boob! just shy of 16 weeks now, so hoping that it doesnt start happening all the time. I know what you mean about the clothes i am having trouble finding anything I like enough to buy, I think its because I cant imagine myself that big yet. Although I bought a dress/long top from dorothy perkins, it says its maternity but I dont think i will be able to wear it for long, I even bought a size bigger than usual I,m very about it.

I got an email that GAP has 30% off this weekend....maternity clothes look pretty good hopefully the jeans will not fall apart!

If anyone is interested make sure you print this and take it with you www.gapcorporateinvite.com/spring10/en/voucher.asp?advertiserid=1

WorrisomeHeart · 22/04/2010 12:51

roses welcome back!! Glad to hear you're progressing so well - and I am also glad to hear you too have fallen to the sore bum syndrome! I've started feeling that too - I assumed it was just because I was so sedentary at work. Not the most glamorous of symptoms!

chance I've bought a few maternity tops from Gap and although I've only worn the less tent-like of them, they seem good. I also got a jersey for £5 in the sale for our wintry holiday back to NZ in a months time! I agree with you both on not being able to find good mat clothes - I'm sure they were all better when I was having wishful snoops before I was pregnant.

zippys stay positive - remember I got my BFP on the morning of my first fertility clinic appt!

Have been sleeping all morning before being woken by a cold-caller - grrr! Am going to try for some more sleep after feeding the bump , hope you are all having good days.

fudgecat · 22/04/2010 16:52

bunny it good to hear you are feeling less sick

worrisome head colds are horrid, warm ribena always makes me feel better when I?m feeling grotty

Hi zippys nice to hear from you ? I try to keep an eye on the TTC thread but you lot post so much it?s very hard to keep up!

roses it?s nice to have you back, you have been missed how was the holiday? You had nice weather for it thanks for the hug

I went and saw a MW at the drop in clinic this afternoon who was able to hear a heartbeat so that was a relief. She thinks it could either be cervical erosion or part of the placenta coming away, she has said that if the spotting goes red again, or if the cramps get worse I need to go to my GP asap to get referred for a scan. So I?m basically in a ?wait and see? situation...

WorrisomeHeart · 22/04/2010 16:55

fudge great news re the heartbeat. At least you know the LO is still snug and safe. How are you feeling now? Is the spotting slowing down any?

fudgecat · 22/04/2010 19:11

hi worrisome im feeling ok i guess, still worried that something may go wrong but glad that they could hear the heartbeat this afternoon.

The spotting has eased a bit so fingers crossed.

chancewouldbeafinething · 22/04/2010 19:24

Great news fudge on the heartbeat Take care of you and the bump. My fingers and toes are still crossed for you.

pixiestix · 22/04/2010 20:10

God, Fudge how worrying for you - the week after the scan is supposed to be the reassuring bit! So glad that they heard the heartbeat today. Rest up, and take care of yourself x

Hermya321 · 22/04/2010 22:23

Fudge How worrying for you, I hope this is the end of anymore spotting for you. Glad to hear that your LO is all bouncy in there non the wiser. I've had a bit of cervical erosion, it is scary but explainable I'm surprised that they haven't refered you for a scan yet to see whats going on. Take care of yourself my dear.

bunnygirl80 · 23/04/2010 00:24

roses good to see you back here! Sorry about all the new symptoms - I am pretending I didn't read the bit about leaky boobs though as the thought that they're producing stuff so long before LO actually arrives still freaks me out

chance my MIL only has boys, although she always wanted a girl so has adopted me and SIL and her surrogate daughters. She always buys me pink girly stuff for my birthday

I thought she could be trusted to keep things quiet as when SIL was pg MIL kept it a secret until it was officially announced. SHe does behave a bit strangely at this time of year though as she has her annual cancer checks coming up for both of the types of cancer she has had, so she tries very hard to distract herself. I think she has just used my news as her distraction this time so I can't stay with her for too long.

fudge I'm glad your MW was able to hear the heartbeat. I hope the spotting goes away soon and you can get back to enjoying your pg.

zippys nice to see you here. I do pop over to the TTC thread but it moves so fast I can't keep up. I hope you get some answers from the hormone docs and that they will be able to help you get your BFP soon

worrisome There are literally hundreds of Bugaboos on ebay here, all nearly new and less than half price so I should be able to get a deal. Brand new is slightly more expensive here than in the UK, but not enough to justify getting my mum to buy me one over there and ship it out.

When are you heading over to NZ? I don't envy you having to get that loooong flight while pg, although I suppose it might be slightly more bearable then with a newborn

It's our wedding anniversary today, so DH is taking me out for dinner. Hopefully I'll manage to find something on the menu that's suitable for pg people to eat!!