July Babies - Follow on from Pukey Tums and Burpy Bums

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Hey Ladies we have reached the big 1000 so I thought another thread needed to be started

deelite i know what you mean about your bump - i'm totally in love with mine! keep rubbing my belly and just looking at it in the mirror your work environment sounds awful for yiou just now! my friend works in such a baby unfriendly office that she was nervous about telling them i was preggers! she got lots of negative comments like "oh i suppose you'll be next!" "all that mat leave these days, totally unnecessary" it would make me cry!

stac according to the glasgow club website it starts at 10.30am on fri. Nope i'm not especially fit and am little self concious in my swim suit!

Off to face the snow in attempt to get to work this morning - been through about 100 excuses in my head for not going in - if only i put the same energy into other things!!!

It's only easy if you're lucky, I couldn't push a pushchair/trolley or sit in chair for longer than 20 mins for about 4 months after DD was born, and wasn't painfree til 10 mths later. I definitely wouldn't have been back at work 5 weeks later! Annoying people like that piss me off because if you have a hard time they think you're pathetic rather than realising that they were lucky I hope works sort itself out for you deelite, sounds horrible!
Happy Thursday everyone!

becky friends mum passed away last night so may have to give friday a miss, have to help out.

deelite your work sounds awful, that woman sounds like maggie thatcher, theres no way i could have been back at work 5weeks after ds was born. By law your entitled to the time off so enjoy it with your baby

dh21 sounds like a busy week hun, i can't wait to the weekend as ds is in the cup final with his footy team and my cousin is visiting with his baby which is always nice lol and dp is off work so hopefully we can try to spend some time together

Oh Chulita - sounds like you had a tough time last time! here's hoping this time round things are less painful!

stac thats sad news - hope your friend is ok. Its good that she has a supportive friend to help. Sounds like you have an exciting weekend to look forward to tho - hope your DS does well!

DH and I are going away sat and sun night to hotel and spa!!! I am so excited, really feel like we need a break together. DH has been working 12-16 hours for days on end and we really have not had much time to be together and relax. MIL looking after the dog and i'm worried she won't get enough exercise - what on earth will i be like when she wants to have LO too

becky - I just didn't recover from emcs as quickly as some. I'm determined to give a VBAC a good go this time, will just let this baby grow and pray it gets on with it properly!
How cool that you're going to a spa Hope you have a lovely time, sounds like your dh's hours are horrendous!

Fingers crossed for you Chulita - really hope things go well this time round. This is my first so no experience YET!!!
I've never been to a spa before so am very excited - its totally not us but since we can't go out drinking this sounds like a great substitute

That sounds like a busy weekend you have stac lol hope you have a good time.

Just to let everyone know wasnt sure if its been mentioned or who's seen it but there is a programme on tv next week about child birth, 40 cameras go into a maternity ward and follow stories about child birth it starts next Tues @ 9pm on channel 4. Ive already put it on the sky planner!

oh dont know if i want to watch lol in saying that may be a good way to prepare.

Tbh becky i'm a bit worried he will go off the rails but just have to offer support.

I have the nurse at ten past 6, have a pain in my back at the right side they think i have a urine infection, typical lol xx

dh - the ad came on while DH and I were watching the news and he heaved a big sigh 'that's tuesday night gone then'

I just read that '3 things you wish you'd known' thread and actually I found it very reassuring Although there are lots of horror stories, all the ladies on there survived and have their little ones. Made me realize I can actually do this again!

The programme sounds interesting, will have to try and catch that.

Sorry to hear about the work problems Dee. The last thing you want is people making you feel bad. I'm lucky in that everyone at my work has been really excited for me and supportive and solicitous - telling me off for working too hard etc! But I think my boss is planning to restructure a bit as well rather than replace me which I don't really approve of - I don't know whether she recognises that I have specialist skills that no one else in the department have. Plus there is a girl at work who is technically at the same level as me (actually she's a level higher than me, but we both head up teams) and I have to fight to stand my ground and keep my team separate from hers. I think my boss wants to put her in charge of both teams while I am off and that really worries me - I don't want my team being seen as a sub-set of hers.

Just got home to find the letter with my 20-week scan date - it's on 12 March. Seems a long way off but hopefully it will come round quickly.

Thanks everyone for your supportive words. I feel better now. I told my secretary and she was really lovely about it and that surprised me as she is very anti-babies and it will also impact negatively on her while I'm away.

That's great your colleagues are being nice Emster but the situation with the other girl sounds a bit daunting. She may be taking on more than she handle though and may not be able to cope which means they will be delighted to see you return to get things back to normal. Although I complain about my situation, I guess I'd be equally worried if I was one of the people being left behind with all the extra work.

Meanwhile, ante-natal aqua sounds like fun. The place I do my pregnancy yoga has a swimming pool used for teaching babies to swim but they also do ante-natal aqua so maybe I'll go along. It's so nice meeting other pregnant people....and ogling their bumps. I'm like some kind of bump fetishist now!

Hey all
Had a friend over this morning who had a fantastic second labour - apparently she didn't think she was that far gone as it didn't hurt too much, her dh pursuaded her they were best to go to hospital and she delivered an hour after arriving, she said it was so easy she nearly didn't get any G+A made me feel much better because her first labour was similar to mine. I have also been on the '3 things you wish you'd known' thread and it scared the hell out of me!!

My cold seems to have got better today and I'm feeling much less sorry for myself, managing to do violent sneezes without peeing myself as well which is a bonus

Can't get over how different this pg is from my last. Pregnancy was the centre of my world last time, I had no less than 4 pregnancy books and brought a ton of pregnancy magazines, I knew exactly how far gone I was, how big the baby should be, I spent hours picking out names and looking at pushchairs.. This time, I'm only vaguely aware of how many weeks have passed, I haven't started to look at names and have no desire to start, I haven't picked up a pregnancy book or a magazine, I have half heartedly had a flick through the Mothercare catalogue...

I feel a bit bad but I'm just not as interested or concerned. I was excited to see the baby at my last scan, that was just as exciting, but I so looked forward to mw appts last time and I have my first one with the community mw next week and I'm thinking how annoying I've got to take time off work and I'm sure it will all just be fine.. Anyone else feeling like this?

I'm the same wonder The mw asked me last week how many weeks I was and I just looked at her blankly I bought myself a new shiny pregnancy book and haven't opened it yet. I am excited for this LO, and I loved hearing the heartbeat but it's certainly not taking over my life, DD does that already!

Wonder this is my first pregnancy and its NOTHING like i thought it would be. I spent up untill my 12 wk scan racked with anxiety feeling very worried and scared 24/7, then after I had the scan i felt better for all of about a day. Im not so anxious now and really thought i would start enjoying things but i dont feel like i am. I thought by now i would have been buying things and really be in baby mode but i am equally disinterested. I think its coz of the 20 wk scan being such a mile stone that im waiting for that on the 24th, which isnt that far off really. Im so hoping that i can start enjoying this now, after all i have waited long enough!! So, i think what im trying to say after all that waffle is i now where ur coming from wonder and maybe it will get better with time...........

I can imagine it's less all-consuming second time round! There's no mistaking it's my first, I check various pregnancy calendars online all the time to see where we're at, always know to the day how pregnant I am, it occupies most of my waking thoughts...

Loving the Mumsnet pregnancy book btw - that's the only one I've got.

Same here Emster Im constantly checking week by week guides and seeing how big my baby is each week and look forward to Sundays cos thats when another week starts for me lol.
I get excited about buying a preg magazine and if I find a new preg/baby website I scour it for hours, also got the MN preg book, bought it before I was even preg!

Definitely with you on that wonder and chulita. I literally don't have time to think about it! First time round it was so all-consuming that it took over every waking thought...this time it's only really my bump that keeps reminding me I'm pregnant! If I'm honest I feel a bit guilty about it. I love ds sooooooo much I still can't imagine loving another one as much. I absolutely know I will, it's just hard to imagine. Hope that doesn't sound cold to 1st timers, hopefully 2nd/3rd timers will appreciate what I mean.

Going double buggy shopping on Saturday. Need to know how much I'm going to have to fork out for that so I can budget. That's the only big buy I need I think, oh as well as another cot (but have no idea where that'll go!) other than that just want a new steriliser and bottles as I can't face the trauma of breastfeeding again. Had an horrendous time with ds for 4 months and can't put myself through it again so buying everything in advance in preparation of bottle feeding.

PS still lmao off at you peeing when sneezing wonder When I was violently sick on Sunday night it really took me by surprise and have to admit I actually peed myself! I was mortified! Trust me, all first timers please take notice and do your pelvic floors cos things are never the same after childbirth!

wonder chulita winter I totally agree that second time around it doesnt seem to consume everything around you. Maybe it is because we have other kids to run around after

winter my son is 10 and I was a single mum for 5 years so I too am concerned how he will feel about the new baby, how I will fit it all in without pushing him out and on top of that I have a step son to ensure he feels included. Wow that sounds so selfish but dont mean it too

Although ladies I have to admit I have been checking online week by week guides but more so because its been a long time since I have been pg. I am excited but a little scared due to the pnd I had last time. Very grateful to have a good support network on here

lmao at winter and wonder with the pee, have been there, I did it when coughing so winter is right defo get the pelvic floor exercises started.

emster and dh21 please dont think we ar trying to take away your good feelings its just different 2nd time around

I didn't wee when I sneezed [proud] I clenched my pelvic floor muscles really tight, it just felt like I was going to.

Being sick then having to mop up and find more clothes (because our wardrobes are so full of clothes that fit right?) is the most depressing thing ever [been there]. If I get enough warning I try to wee before being sick. Last pg I was sick all the way through, every time I brushed my teeth, which was v. annoying, especially after about month 6 when my pelvic floor really just couldn't cope any more. Having bucket by toilet and multi-tasking is the way forward. Sorry I know TMI. There are some really serious design faults in this whole reproduction process I feel.

I'm trying to avoid double buggy and go for using a sling for dc2 - because the price of them sent me into shock - not sure how sensible this will prove to be. How old will your ds be when new baba makes an appearance WM?

It's Friday! Yay!
wonder, I'm trying to avoid a double as well but DD will be 19 months so I can't see how she's going to be trustworthy on a buggy board. We have carriers but if I have a c-sec I won't be able to use one of them, and if we go to Mums and Tots groups I won't be able to keep bablet in the carrier if I'm making sure DD's playing nicely...logistical nightmare!

My dd will be 2.6 so quite a bit older. Didn't think about not being able to use sling if I have c-section though! Everything crossed that doesn't happen!!

Well today my cat has decided to piss in my kitchen and poo in the living room - lovely - I've obviously seriously upset her. Could be worse I guess, at least she hasn't weed on any carpets or been sick or anything.

DD woke at 4.30am this morning, very upset about something. She is now full of beans and has found her toy keyboard! I'm shattered. Roll on the weekend.

Morning! I'm off work today so i can "relax" before we go away tomorrow (DH's instructions) however just wrote a to do list and i might aswell go to work!!!

Sitting here frantically doing my pelvic floor exercises after reading last nights posts!!!
i don't want to wet myself
the other day i did have a coughing fit that turned into the giggles and had to run very fast to toilet was still giggling while on the toilet thinging how embarrasing it would have been if i hadn't got to the toilet on time

i'm a definite first timer as i read everything and know exactly how far i am (17 weeks, 5 days and 6 hours!!!) at all times! lol!

hi ladies sorry for the rant last night.

becky you must be looking forward to getting away, weres your hotel?

How are you all today? Whats the plans for the weekend? We are hoping the weather is good for ds's football match. I am loaded with the flu, started working on me yesterday and i woke up with it

Meant to ask has anyone had pains in your sides? Or groin area? X

Hey everyone - Happy Friday!

Stac - I had really bad pain in my lower abdomen, just above the pubic bone, earlier in the week. The only thing that eased it was lying on the opposite side to where the pain was and swinging my top leg over my pregnancy pillow. I stayed like that for about two hours and although it didn't completely disappear it did feel better. Almost no pain today I looked it up on the internet and it sounds like Round Ligament Pain, which happens when your uterus is expanding a bit; which it should be doing at your stage. Hope that helps put your mind at ease

I'm just back from aquanatal class - it was great - feel really energised. I also met the lovely beckyg123 at which point I realised how ridiculous my username sounds when someone says it out loud! . Enjoy your spa weekend Becky!

I have just realised that I've returned home without bread, which is an absolute disaster because I really want a sandwich now...

Hope everyone else is having a good Friday!