Not yet November but already three babies down! Ooooh oooh nearly there!

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Good day all! Sorry to hear about your DH pav, but you never know, might not be teh end of the road yet.

I'm with you Scarlotti and Fruit, on the stop/ start here. After being convinced she was going to turn up Thursday all has gone v quiet. Still, I saw the midwife yesterday and she says that its v common with 2nd and 3rd babies, and although it's frustrating, it isn't wasted effort as it will make things easier and quicker when the time finally does come. Apparently as we have already been stretched once our bodies are doing what they can to prepare. Am trying to stay positive whilst necking gallons of raspberry leaf and scoffing pineapple!

Hope everyone has a great weekend,x

I need some suggestions (again sorry if tmi) but where my hind waters have been leaking I have to wear a pad all the time, I now feel really sore, I think it's because of the waters leaking, lack of air and the leak proof stuff in the pad. Today I've started using sudocrem does anyone know of anything else I could try that might be better.

Sudocrem is the best I know (or as the DSs call it 'special botty cream').

We're off to a Hallowe'en birthday party this afternoon. DH is going to have to look after any trick or treaters that come around this evening. We've carved our pumpkin ready. I bet he doesn't bother lighting it though... I even bet he just sits in the study with all the downstairs lights off and doesn't answer the front door (and scoffs all the chocolate himself)!

Hmm, the swimming didn't go too well- managed five lengths before developing the most excruciating pain mid bump, as if it was being wrung out. Made it to side of pool and winched myself out very slowly.

Hoping the biscuit decorating will go better!!

WWYD...my Grandmother died this morning. I think the funeral will be in about a week (I'll be 38 weeks) and about 3-4 hours away. Would you risk it? I was pretty much on time with DS1, but am worrying that if I did go into labour it's a loooooong drive home.

aww turtle, so sorry for your loss.

its hard, cos obviously its not something you really want to miss, but at the same time you dont really want to be so far from home, maybe go and bring your notes and at any sign of a twinge come on home. will you be going with anyone else?

turtle so sorry to hear your news. I'd go and just take your bag and notes with you. I did my neice's birthday last weekend and with DS did a wedding which was 4 hours away. Someone else drove to that one which helped.

Backache is back here, along with some twinges so send your labour vibes this way to save my sanity!!

homeinthesun meant to say, it could also be mild thrush (I've had it and I just got sore) so maybe some caneston?

Turtle it's up to you but I would go. Just take notes and bag in car incase.

turtle for you. I would go.

I am in a foul mood thanks to my lovely bloody dh. He was shitty all morning, fucked the day right up, apparantly it was me yes, used to hearing that one right now. Anyway, DD was in a bad mood too, likely fueled by us, bought her a barbie doll in sale at sainsburys but she can't have it due to her tantrums, meant to all be going to Halloween Party this afternoon and evening, I was going to take DD, stay til about 7ish and DH was going to stay put. He says he has nothing to celebrate so won't stay and due to the constant sniping, moaning, irrational bloody behaviour I have sent them both off without me. I am gutted as its DDs first ever halloween party, but if I go, i am likely to lose my bloody rag with one of them.

So i am staying put and sorting out the rest of DDs new bedroom. She will be up there today. Finally. So, i bought a few things for it, and need to put them up for her, make her bed, hoover, that kind of thing. Our room is a danger zone, but will have to wait until tomorrow.

Thanks for supprt re DHs job. Not likely they would have kept him hanging on over the weekend after telling him they would let him know that day if successful. I mean, yes, a possibility, but no point clutching at straws. DH feels useless, and is transferring in on to me, i am making him feel stupid, i hate him, i am angry with him for not getting the job, i think he is an idiot etc etc all the things he is clearly thinking. All Day.

Baby is fine though, which is all that counts eh? Appears fine, i feel totally unprepared for him to arrive, mentally and physically, DH and I clearly are not in the same place we were with DD, this time last time, we had lots of bump pictures, i wrote a diary, we went and did things together, it was all lovely and peachy. How times change. Now, he only sees baby moving as you can't help it, no touching, no telling me i look lovely, no telling me how pleased he is we are having another baby, its all shit this time.

Sorry for another mememememe post its all encompassing and its very selfish. You are all a lovely bunch and have your own things going on, good, and bad. I just feel like its all going wrong. And I feel immensely wound up. DH has wound me up with this horrid mood of his that he refuses to acknowledge. I would like to go to bed, and start today all over again. Grrr

Turtle so sorry about your grandmother. I'd go to if you've been close, it's so unlikely to happen during those particular hours.

Pav sounds like your DH lost it a bit there. So sorry, not what you need on topof everything. You have so much going on with jobs, house, baby, it's bound to be too stressful. Really sorry you miss DD's party. Take care of yourself while they are gone.

Looks like DD migh thave Lyme disease...am quite freaked out about it but hopefully we caught it early enough to not have major damage....poor little thing! I'd so much rather have it myself!

comma is that from a recent tick bite? How scary for you all. I'm sure she'll be just fine, but it's the 'what if's' that worry us.

pav You two have been through so much this summer, it's no wonder you're both at your wits' end. DH went through a period of unemployment a few years ago and I found him really difficult to deal with at that time, never mind being pregnant, having a toddler and dealing with builder issues at the same time. I think you both need to try to give each other some slack/time out. If it's any consolation this time around my pg has been pretty much forgotten about apart from occasional comments about how big I am and how it can't be too long to go looking at the size of me. We're both a bit distracted and haven't even chosen names yet. I don't think either of us is ready for the reality of a little adoring bundle yet!

We tried to have a DD day today, so did manage to get to the farm (DD was far more taken with wading through puddles in her wellies than the animals) and then went to a nice cafe for lunch. She had fun. It involved walking through the newly opened shopping centre which was heaving. Dealing with crowds, noise and DD = recipe for wound-up DH. He just doesn't have a filter for these things. It drives me nuts because it affects his mood & tolerance of DD for the rest of the day. But that's not new, so I shouldn't moan.

A bit more BH action again

Also found my BEST idea of the week today - a cushion in the car. It was bliss.

Turtle so sorry to hear about your grandmother - don't know what I'd do in the same situation, but I guess I'd want to be there and just hope the baby doesn't come.

Pav big hugs. My DH goes through funks like that but usually works himself out of them eventually if I leave him alone - is your DH the same way? Must be so stressful for you, I can't imagine

Yikes, Comma, Lyme disease? Certainly hope that's not the case, but if it is I hope they can treat it right away!

Feeling like death warmed over this evening, staying home while DH is out at a party. Would have liked to go but I've been way overexerting myself lately and I just had to draw the line. Keeping busy doing laundry and planning to make some macaroni & cheese to go in the freezer. Possibly some rice krispie treats, too - for more immediate consumption

Kyte so excited for you

dh has just bought dorset naga Chillies, Im scared. he thinks this will bring out titchy. He's now telling me to 'man up' and bite one.gaa

Forgot to say turtle that I'm thinking of you. Definitely go to the funeral - now I'm 39 weeks I can say that! You'll know yourself if things are looking like they may kick off or not, and if you have someone with you (and your notes) then you can stop off at any hospital along the way! Probably not what you want to hear, but if it were my gran I'd feel better for having tried to go. But you've got to do what feels right for you and bubs too. Not a good time.

i tried the end, bad move tis burning my gums. dh is laughing, apparently he didnt expect me to do it. im never one to back down on a dare.

trikken ouchie! that will certainly give the little one a kick up the backside even if it does not shift him! It might give you a kick up the backside too I am looking forward to being able to eat spice again. I used to love hot hot food.

longwayaway he will if he is left alone, but its difficult to leave him alone like this, as the very act of leaving makes it worse. Not sure if that makes sense. If I go out to give him space he goes off on how I am avoiding him, not wanting to be around him, dislike his company, not communicating blah blah. But if I need to go out, or he does, it can help - he came back from the party in a much better mood, saw some people, DD had a brilliant time, I got the place sorted here (somewhat anyway) and he is going to go back to the adult party while i watch x-factor/casualty which will do him and me some good. Think we need some space.

hobnob like the cushion idea, i should try it as I am finding it quite uncomfortable in the car now. Sounds like your DD had a good time, but perhaps your DH didn't . DH is like that, crowds, toddler, noise - head explosion!

Pav yea, I know exactly what you mean... my DH is a Scorpio

j/k ladies... Scorpios are great! Really

oh....yes....DH is a gemini, I had not considered that , I think that might explain it, jekyll and hyde methinks.

Newherehelp yay!! That really is such fantastic news, I am so happy for you!

Usi grrrrr at DH. I am sure he will realise once baby arrives... Moving in together doesn't have to be permanent, and neither does marriage, but I think a child pretty much is!! I feel like it is the biggest thing I have ever done.

Ended up traipsing to the Natural History Museum this afternoon, thanks to DH's idea... Walked from Victoria, and was having such awful Braxton Hicks, I couldn't go into the exhibition. My parents were down, so my mum and I sat in the cafe all afternoon. Also had really bad achy backache but think it is all to do with whatever I have managed to do to my pelvis rather than anything exciting. Does anyone else have v strong BHs everytime they walk/stand up? It pretty much goes when I sit down normally though.

Evening of curry, Strictly and X factor - yay!

Turtle about your grandma. I think I would make a last minute decision, but if felt OK the night before, would definitely try and make it, armed with notes etc. I hope you're OK.

Turtle so sorry for your loss, I think I would try and make it, as others have said if you take your notes and the car seat then you'll be sorted if needs be.

Pav Men really, can't live with them, can't kill them, hope everything starts to get better soon.

Scarlotti thanks I'll give that a try tomorrow.

It's thundering again over here which means DH is sleeping in the spare room with the dogs again tonight (yeay double bed to myself again) Not really anything going on with me, saw the midwife at lunch time, my blood pressure is fine and temp is normal, the waters are still dripping a bit and probably will do until she arrives (whenever that is) but midwife will be back tomorrow. DS has been such a grumpy git all day and was only happy when we bought him new spiderman trainers with flashing lights on. I'm off to bed as I'm knackered. (it's 10.15 over here so not too much of a light weight)

Sorry I haven't read at all, will do later, but kinda urgent question... Was in the bath just now and had like little bubbles of fluid coming up from down there. I didn't need a wee (sorry, tmi) so could it have been my waters?! Or was it just the bath water making its way around my vast form?? What do we reckon? Am going to keep an eye on things for a bit...

Wow at all you ladies going out and 'doing' things! I went to CDS/The Range for 20 mins with DD, then to sainsburys, that was about it for me! I guess I have used all my energies!

DD is asleep in her new room! Well, I say asleep, she is not, she is trying really really hard to resist the temptation to get out of bed and play with her toys! I have put my old disco ball up and she has a spotlight on it, creating patterns on her walls. When she saw it, she went mad with excitement, like a little bird chirrupping! I have dragged that thing around with me for years since uni and never found a home. Almost threw it out when clearing the loft, but then thought, maybe i still can find a use and BINGO a perfect use, DH is amazed and agrees it looks great!

BHs - I have some, but nothing to serious or extensive. In fact baby is quite calm for a change. I am getting period pains, but think its just baby preparing.