Due May 2010: how much longer can we survive on crackers & crumpets?

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19 May - cupcakefairy, 25, #1

sweetkitty glad it's not just me having bad days. Hope you get a chance to have a rest and just do something nice for yourself soon. xx

Hi All

Welcome Cith glad you had good news

Memorylapse what a nightmare with your landlord, was it not you who had the trouble with the broken boiler. Moving might be a blessing in disguise sounds like hes not a very god landlord anyway.

Sweetkitty Hope your appointment with MW goes well - let us know.

I'm off work today with a cold, feel dreadful, no energy whatsoever Didn't sleep a wink last night which didn't help. Worrying this will affect the LO (sorry this is my 1st so totally new to all this) my understanding is that as long as you don't have a prolonged temp its ok. Don't see the need to contact doc as just feels like normal cold.

Hi folks, I'm having a very moody tearful day today, probably because ds decided to wake up three hours early so I only had about 4 full hours sleep. It's as if they know when you're not up to the job of parenting and they're as naughty as they can be - he poured his cereal all over my paperwork, poured my drink all over the rug, wiped sudocrem into his shoes, crumbled a biscuit all over the livingroom floor, thrown everything everywhere and swung from the roman blind so it's all wrecked.

I've cleared up now but the place was a right mess and I've done nothing but shout and plead (then burst into hormonal tears which he's never seen before so laughed his head off at - probably for the best!) Poor little sod, at least it's playgroup shortly so he'll have a few hours of fun while I rock in a corner get something done and shake off this mood.

Hope you're all ok, going to take ds to playgroup, post more later. x

SarahLou, am so sorry bless you x

Have not posted for a while. All is going well with the pregnancy (as far as I know) but bit over whelmed in other areas of my life with a house move in 6 days (after having lived here 8 years but also , a poorly grandad in hospital and a Masters course which I stupidly signed up for, its very early days of it but already a lot of reading. Oh and looking after DD1 and the trials and tribulations of finding a new nursery.

So ..... better crack on, boxes to pack, an oven to clean. My MIL is kindly coming round to help but feel I need to clean before she gets here!

Hi all. having a bit of a weird one at the moment and was wondering if anyone else is the same. was thrilled when got bfp, then low cos i was ill, now not really sure how i feel. this was a planned baby so not like it was a shock or anything. got scan tomorrow and keep remembering how excited i was with dd and just not feeling that this time

Memorylapse - agh, that's awful I hope you manage to find somewhere quickly, but what a nightmare having to do it!

SK - sorry you're feeling down. I have horrible dreams a lot during pregnancy and they can really affect me. I hope you're able to get reassurance from your MW that everything is OK.

Den26 - you're feeling poorly. It shouldn't affect the LO, but if you're any doubt I'm sure your GP would be happy to see you. Take advantage of being able to wrap up in a duvet and look after yourself while you still can

James - sorry you're having a rough day, it's awful when you're feeling knackered and they're in a tricksy mood as well. Hope you get some respite at playgroup!

Pamelat - good to hear from you, glad it's all going OK. I hope your Grandad's OK. What course are you doing?

Tiggsy - I've had conflicting feelings during this pregnancy. I was so surprised that it happened really quickly that I was convinced we were going to lose it so I was quite down for a while. Having seen the scan, I'm now really excited but I felt a bit hot and cold about it before. This may sound nuts, but sometimes I wonder if I'm betraying DD by having another one. I know I'm not, but when we're playing together, I realise how different her life will be with DC2 and I get a bit sad. I think it's probably just hormones though.

tch yeah i feel guilty because of how it's going to change my relationship with dd. and wonder how on earth i'm going to cope lol!!

me back again, well that was completely pointless I actually feel worse now, told the MW how I was feeling about not feeling the baby and she said "well you are only 16 weeks and it is early and I know this is your 4th" she refused to listen for the HB as they have been told not to as if she cannot hear it she cannot refer me for a scan then when I said a friend had been told about the hospital now doing 20 week scans she said she hadn't been told this and apparently it is after December and only for women booked in after December, what a load of bull really.

Oh and to make me more cross, we were second to be seen appt was at 1pm and we got seen at 1.35pm, now with a tired 1yo and a bored 3yo this is just great, of course DD3 is just down for her nap and I am going to have to wake her at 2.45pm for the school run My next appt is in 9 weeks when I will be 25 weeks oh and am also low in folate which could be making me v tired!

I felt the exact same when pregnant with no2, how would I ever love another baby like DD1, she was only 9 months when I got pregnant with DD2, would I have enough time for them both, but now they are both here and older I love having 2 so close, it's actually easier as they play together well (most of the time).

I have felt a bit like that with each pregnancy, although you are happy theres a bit of you which thinks "what have we done?" I am currently going through "4 what are we thinking?" no family support, bigger car, extension, have just started sleeping all night, the cost, the quality time with each. Sorry am a bundle of joy today.

James - maybe it's something in the water today, up here there's a lot of it about

Pamelat - good luck with the move

Hi All, have just been catching up with your threads with some interest. It's good to hear that I'm not the only one who sometimes wonders what on earth I'm doing having a baby. My DH already has two teenages (who are a big part of our lives) but this is my first so have found that hard to deal with and have felt very insecure about whether he really wants to go through it all again. Have also worried about my age, career, financial implications and the impact this will have on our lives. Despite all that I am excited about having my very own LO and it really does help to read your experiences and realise that a lot of these feelings are perfectly normal. Thanks xx

Welcome to Cith,

ML- Guessing it could be a blessing in disguise about the house. He doesnt sound like a very nice landlord!

Sarahlou- Thinking of you.

Re vacine- Im still in 2 minds if to have it or not. Keep reading so much conflicting stuff. Heard nothing about it from the DR's, so guess ill just worry about it if/when I get called.

Den- Hope you feel better soon.

James- Hope your day improves! They do seem to know when your not feeling tip top dont they. Although DD was so cute the other day. I was layed on the sofa watching her play, feeling really sleepy. She bought me her Teddy and said Hug, then put teddy in my arms. Bless her!

Pamlet- Hope the moves goes ok. We moved in April when DD was 9mth old so I remember it well!

SK- Sorry you are feeling down. Im sure Bubba is fine in there. Prob too worn out just listening to its sisters!
How annoying that your MW was being a pain! and why do they always seem to overrun!

Tiggsy- I think that pregnancy is a huge rollercoaster of emotions at the best of times. This is Number 2 for me and I have found that it is different. Im excited but also find that I have to just get on with things more for DD and quite often even forget im pregant at all. I too find it hard to imagine sharing my time between DD and baby when its been just her for the past year.
A friend came round yesterday with her 3mth old. DD was so good with her, bringing her toys and was so excited. It was very sweet to watch.

Well had a busy week here. DD has such a social life!
Sadly my Uncle died yesterday We knew he was terminally ill with cancer and was told it was doubtful if he would last the year but its still sad.

Mogg- Welcome to a lifetime of worrying!

sorry to hear that a lot of us are feeling down today

Ive been upset today too as I havent felt baby move and my sickness has vanished..was in such a state that when I went out to lunch with DM, I had a panic attack..DM said to listen in with the doppler but I darent as the MW did it yesterday and they told me nit was dangerous to do everyday...supposed to be going to see Kasabian with DH tomorrow in Manchester and staying overnight in a hotel and am terrified Im going to end up spending it being told my baby has died..sorry to be all doom and gloom

Hi all,

I just wanted to say thank you all so much for all your responses. I am feeling a little better today, I have been overwhelmed by the support of family and friends.

I will still continue to pop in if that's okay, and see how you are all getting on even if it's not quite as regularly as every day!!!

Don't be sad. We're going to have a good Christmas and then try again in the new year.

Best of luck and love everyone
Sarah x

HI Sarah, glad to hear you're doing well (and being very brave!). It's good that you're going to keep in touch. Best of luck for next year!

Hi Sarah - thanks for letting us know how you are and hope you have a really happy Christmas.

I had my invitation for the swine flu jab today so have made an appt for the 30th. Still not entirely 100% at the idea but figure I've got a few days to make up my mind though I think I will be going through with it.

Sarah, great to hear from you. I look forward to hearing that you're well into another pregnancy before May is over.

ML, I've got my fingers crossed too that you get through to the end of this week. I'm sure you will. Does sound like you've had enough bad luck for anyone.

I keep trying to workout what milestone will make me feel relaxed and confident about the whole thing and I've come to the conclusion it will be a few days after giving birth - and then I guess there's a whole set of other things to worry about.

Anyway, good to hear I'm not the only one mid move. We're in a one bed flat on second floor with no lift - so I'm spending a fortune on lawyers, surveys and mortgage brokers. Not sure though if I'm more scared about the purchase of new house going through or collapsing. DH also has potentially serious health issues.

So much for avoiding stress during pregnancy! I wonder if it ever happens?

Not all bad though, relieved to have had good results from cvs confirmed in writing today :D

I know what you mean about feeling different with a second pregnancy. Sometimes I have a little cry about the fact that it will no longer just be me and DD and sometimes I cant imagine loving anyone else to the same extent as I love her. I also feel sorry for her when I think that she will have a shock and have to suddenly "share" me but she will love having a brother or sister in the end, and I am sure that once the baby is born you love them just as much (I bloody hope so anyway!!)

After my scan and I was happy, everyone wanted to see the pics but unlike the first time, i didnt have any interest in showing them. Was a bit worried about this but i figure its because I have a real full size version in front of me everyday already, and her demands are enough for now!!

Course is Open uni, social policy and criminology. Feels like I have been studying for a life time, used to love it but its hard going at the moment.

Sorry people are having scary days - I had an antenatal appointment and all is well - I'm high risk because I'm overweight even though I was same weight with DS and DD and had no problems - means more appointments and more scans which I guess is ok. Very low still with exhaustion and sickness and all sorts of worries about money, family etc. Just not doing brilliantly at all - just about holding it together. Keep having panic attacks whenever I wake from sleep.

Lets hope some better days are coming

Sarah - please don't be a stranger and best of luck with the TTC, it's been over 2 years since my mc and although I still think about it from time to time I am over it, the other thing is as sad as it was if it hadn't of happened I wouldn't have DD3 who is an utter joy, I like to think of it as the baby who died gave us DD3. It will be the same for you once you have a LO, take care

ML - 20 weeks not that long away then we will be moaning about feet under our ribs and being kicked constantly, hang on in there

pamelat - it's like your love doesn't half it doubles the minute no2 is born. They just fit in and within weeks you cannot imagine having one again. My DD1 is overjoyed at having another baby (sister) so it cannot be that bad. One of the best things is just sometimes watching them interact, DD1 was playing hide and seek with DD3 earlier and she was giggling away it was so cute.

Sarahlou you are so thoughtful, I hope you have a wonderful Christmas.

SK and ML I am the same, I don't feel pregnant at all. It seems like a long time until your booking in scan but once that is over the next gap until the 20wk scan seems even longer. I get the odd flutter but its not regular and sometime twice a day and then not for a few days so that also worries me.

Molly I hope things improve for you soon. Like you say, having more appointments if it means more scans then thats not too bad and least you will get to see your lovely baby more often.

Schipo sounds like you have loads on your plate too, it will be worth it when you have moved though and are nice and settled in time for the baby's arrival.

Pigley sorry to hear about your Uncle, how sad.

Tiggsy good luck for your scan tomorrow.

thank you sweetkitty, was telling my DH about how I am sad that it will no longer be just me and DD (and him of course ) and had a little cry. Your message makes me feel a lot better.

I just love our time together and the thought of sharing that with anyone is scary. I am sure it will all be fine.

I'm sorry to all those having scares, problems and upsets.

Before I was pregnant but getting broody, I looked at obviously pregnant people with envy, but you do forget how scarey and difficult it can be.

I have been lucky so far and I admire the strength of everyone else, you are better people than me.

Evening girls just popping in to say hi- thanks for the tips re prescription meds for heartburn, will def be onto that! Peppermint tea seems to be doing the trick at the mo but sure it will get worse!

Sarah thanks for popping in to let us know you're ok, you sound very zen. I agree with SK that our new LOs will heal the pain of our mcs...really hope the same is true for you. Please do let us know when you conceive again. I popped in to let the November ladies (when my lost lo should have been born) know I was expecting again & they were all so pleased it was really lovely
(and at the risk of sounding like a broken record- please do come and join the Emmsy thread on Conception boards! You'd be in v good company)

Just nipping in to say HI again and sorry for not catching up on everyone's news.
DD was 1 today and has been really good - she crawled upstairs by herself at bathtime.
My tiredness is back with a vengeance, I was asleep by 830 last night and the only reaosn I'm still up is because I needed to feed the cats (DH normally does it but he's away) and one of them wouldn't come in and I needed to hide his drugs in his food - all done
Night all, will try and stay better up to date

Thanks for all the welcoming messages!

brightredballoon, SK and memorylapse - I know what you mean - after feeling so anxious and waiting for results etc...I have had a few days of feeling so excited and relieved, but then today start to worry again...this time that the nausea seems to have disappeared, no bump (just a little roll from carbo-loading for 10 weeks!) and not feeling anything move yet. I am guessing that at 14 weeks it is still a while off till one feels the movements of the baby - but will be nice to have that to reassure our insecurities!!
memorylapse so sorry to hear that you have been worried around this time from past pregnancies or MCs. It is horrid to have these lingering thoughts and bad dreams - I have had two such dreams. I hope that calm can arrive for you soon.

Schipo - glad to hear that you got that wonderful letter confirming the 'all clear' results of the CVS...time to relax.

Sweetkitty - sorry to hear that you had such a frustrating time with the MW. I hope you had a moment of peace and calm in your day!
Goodnight all...sweet dreams.

How are you doing, Memory? Is it OK for me to say that I personally think you have one tough baby on board there and he or she is not going anywhere until term? Let us know how you are doing.

Mogg and Moll and everyone else having wobbles/house-moves/ 'WTF am I doing' moments - I am so reassured to here it's not just me being a psycho, and at least we can all wobble along together here.

Sarahlou, good to hear from you. Hope you have the happiest Christmas.

Anyone heard from Viv?