Due Jan 2010 - we're all bump now !

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Hi all - a new thread for all our new chat as teh old one is nearly full. No idea how to do a link though !

i cant see how apples would help with heartburn as they are quite acidic! but then the mw knows better. i do know that oranges/citrus fruits are a no go though. i just drink gaviscon out the bottle these days! and i am gutted i bought a bottle when i can get a free prescription for it!
i dotn know how many weeks i have left at work as should be made redundant by end of november but still no definate answers from, our new employers so just sat around the office facebooking/mumsnetting looking busy!

Gaviscon out of bottle is a must every 30 mins at the moment! I am eating plenty of apples and oranges each day (my attempt at being healthy) but I also have a penchant for pickle and other tasty/spicy stuff so I guess Gaviscon out of the bottle is a given!!!

I really sympathise with those of you still at work. I worked with previous two DCs, left around 34/35 wks but this one I've been at home. Tbh, I don't know if I've suffered more this pregnancy because I'm older (40+362 days); or because I'm at home and not working taking my mind off it? What I do know is that with the SPD the way it is, there is absolutely no way I could work at this stage. Those last few weeks really really drag as well so best to keep busy for as long as you can

I was a bit about the apples, but I guess knowing random stuff like that is what she's paid for... It's a new midwife BTW - very efficient and prim looking. (I registered with new MW when I moved, she's already changed jobs so I'm on my second in this area!) Do think I like her though, she seems like the type who'd just be professional and not irritating. (I'm easily irritated when unwell, i'm guessing i'm going to be a bit tetchy in labour)

She also mentioned that there's private rooms available at the hospital I'm going to, for £225 a night. I was a tad shocked, think the answer is 'no thanks' but would any 2nd (or 3rd!) timers recommend it? (FYI - a night in the Ritz on the same date would only be £25 more)

I'm not finishing work until Christmas - so still 7 weeks to go. Not due until later in Jan though. Was actually planning to work the first week of Jan, but it was too compliacted with annual leave/maternity leave dates for HR to work out! (something to do with my due date being a Saturday and having to count weeks from the previous Sunday ).
I'm in a sitting down office job in front of a computer all day though and (crosses fingers) still feeling pretty good. I have tired days (probably related to getting up at 6.30 for work!), but am lucky enough to be able to work from home a couple of days a week, which really helps!

FakePlastic - it depends how long you end up in there for! With my first I was taken in with pre eclampsia and had 2 nights on the antenatal ward, then was induced, then due to complications remained in hospital for a further 10 days. A single room saved my sanity after a couple of nights on the ward, but they gave me one free out of pity as I was so unwell. With any luck, you'll be out fast and won't need one. You'll be so wired the first night you won't sleep anyway for looking at your little one!
Am having swine flu jab this sat when i'll be 29+3.Will report back....

helenabeth - which one has your surgery got?

i've not been offered it yet but think i will just go for it!

i'm not the best one to offer advice on paying for a private room, for some reason both times i got my own ensuite room - just must have been luck!

my friend spent both times on a ward, but both times she was only in 1 night so she didnt mind. with 1st baby i was in three nights due to a heavy bleed after giving birth (due to a full bladder - so empty it every 2 hours when in labour) and 2nd time i was in 2 nights but not sure why.

i dont think i would want to spend that on a room and would prefer to keep it for the ritz after with partner.... and baby

I am still in work til xmas and will be leaving when I am 34 ish weeks. Will be mainly lying under my desk with exhaustion by then I think !

Hi all- Devotion - Thank God for the all clear for your dad!
We also are the same amount of weeks now!
saw MW today no mention of- swine flu jab!
so glad couldnt deal with the reason why i dont want it! They have now booked my GT test or 13th dont want it but she feels i should due to my mum who had diabetes!
didnt have it in last 2 pregs so why the worry now?
Im on a countdown for finishing work- Cant wait 27th Nov is dee day! 17 w.days left!
Dec- A/L cover so Mat leave kicks in Jan 2010 -

Afraid I don't know which jab it will be. As I'm high risk (previous heart condition) I'm the third person from my surgery to get it - gulp.Having two wee ones already I just know that if it comes to the area, I'm bound to get it so, for me, having the jab is a no-brainer.
Anyway, funny question I know, but has anyone else found out the sex but feel convinced it's not right? No strong preference one way or another, but I find it hard to accept. Perhaps it's just hormones or something, but I won't believe it till I see it.Winge over - sorry!

oh and i was offered the HP form and i never even had to asked for it! now thats wow!

I don't understand the stomach acid and fruit thing either. Mine started playing up yesterday - not reflux - just lots of stomach acid when there isn't a reason for it, as in I just ate.

Have my Rennie at hand but am wondering if Toblerone will cure it as well? I am adverse to putting foreign chemicals meds (Rennie) in my body unless absolutely necessary and wonder if chocolate is better or worse.

Went for a Back Awareness course today run by the hospital's physio dept. It was quite a good sesh and she said that the leg cramps were due to circulation being diverted to more around the belly/ baby/ womb area so that esp at night, your extremeties might be less well-circulated. She reckons that if you stretch before bedtime, you can maybe alleviate somewhat the incidence of night time leg cramps.

Don't know much about wards and hospital stays. I can't believe the NHS can charge that much. I mean I'd probably consider it for 1-2 nights but like it's been said, you don't know how long you are going to be there for. I presume new mothers are on a separate ward from general sick folk? It's just that DH once got kept in for something once which turned out to be nothing, but he was put between an older gentleman who was in pain all night from cancer, and this older lady who kept shouting "I don't want to die alone here". Needless to say even though there was nothing wrong with him, he felt worse after the overnight stay.

I've already been told to try to have as much of the pre-labour bits at home as last thing you want when you are in pain is hearing someone else screaming for dear life. By extension, I wonder if you will be within earshot of the delivery suite, in the wards where you will be recuperating.

Oooo... new smiley which is also making me hungry. Off to find some biccies!

Had my swine flu injection today after much heart-searching (have been getting stupidly/irrationally(?) upset about dying and my DSs not remembering me). Was in tears in the chemists about 5 minutes later (they must have thought me a nutcase). Took me about half an hour to stop welling up. Have no idea why. Still a bit fragile. Must go to bed and hope I'll feel better in the morning.

Good morning! Hope you are feeling better about things today chickbean.
I had my first hypnobirthing session last night, which is just what I imagined it would be. DP said "Your on your own now darling!" Not quite his 'thing', but it's for me and I think it's a great idea. Not sure it helped that he was missing a Rangers game and got a fire shout halfway through Also, one of the exercises got us to visualise ourselves in a kitchen - ours is in the process of being installed by DP & FIL, we have no cooker or sink, and new bits of kitchen are sprawled all over the house - not the most relaxing for either of us!
Oh well, best get ready for work - 200 miles to do and it's been raining all night - at least all the flood signs they put up a fewb days ago will still be there
Have a good one all x

Devotion i never knew having a full bladder in labour could casue such bleeding! something else that is failed to mention in all the books etc! mind you i cant remember needing a wee in labour as thought the pressure from the bbay would pretty much close up your bladder iykwim?
is anyone having a reduction of movements? i think it is more that i either dont notice or forget that she has actually moved! she is head down already but must remind myself that my placenta is at the front so may not feel as much as others! off to drink cold fizzy sugary drink!

Okay, so note to self...keep peeing when in labour! Are there any other hints like this that peeps with experience can pass on?

DH was looking at a freebirthing site and was overjoyed to find out that sex during labour is recommended as sperm makes everything a little more relaxed and squishy...I was less impressed that the same site said that taking said sperm orally was also helpful. I put my foot down at giving him a blow job during labour and swallowing ! Also laughing is supposed to be great during labour, think tummy muscles and endorphins.

bethoo - no such luck here. Baby is in training to be a kung-fu master. It's very rare that she is still. She's much more active than the boys were.
FPT - The general ward is quite noisey/busy. Not much chance to rest, everytime a baby cries you wonder if it's yours. I was moved from the ward to a private room a couple of days after DS1 was born cos I needed a blood transfusion, so got the room for free. I ended up in for a week. If I'd been on the ward for that long I'd have been a zombie. I guess it really depends on how long you are in for. DS2 I went in at 11.30pm, had DS2 at 2am and was home for 9am so it wasn't really an issue.

Just realised I am rambling and not sure what the point of all that was

thanks for the replies on the private room. I think it's not just 'room to yourself' but private as in has plasma screen TV and would be where you'd go if you were having a non NHS delivery IYSWIM (Or this could just be a Kent thing, since moving have realised just how yummy mummy it is round here.) I guess I'll see how I feel at the time, if we're looking at a couple of nights, I can think of other things I'd like £450 spent on...

somewhathorrified - there are things I might fancy doing in the early stages of labour, but tbh I can't see giving a blowjob being high up on my list of 'to do'... Don't think I'll tell DH about that one.

flyingma - let me know how that Toblerone works! (I mean, it can't hurt!)

I'm currently trying to work out how to 'handle' my parents, they really want to 'help out' and get things for the baby, however have view getting things now is bad luck. Thing is, in 'their day' you stayed in hosptial for at least 10 days and it was the grandparents job with the father to get everything ready. I've tried saying I might be out within 24 hours, which isn't long to go shopping, (particularly in the January sales!) but when I suggested DH and I just go get everything now, was told to "stop worrying, everything you need will just arrive". Which basically means I won't get to pick anything and there's a good chance the baby will have no where to sleep/nothing to wear/no form of transport when it first arrives... ("car seat? We didn't bother in our day" ahhh!!!!)

Trying to work out if it's worth the argument to just hit Bluewater this weekend, then tell they we've already got everything but if they want to pay for it, they're welcome to...

(perhaps should have posted this in WWYD)

ooh that's a tricky one fakeplastictrees... I would say, you will be so annoyed if they get, for example, some hideous stuff you hate.

Eg my mother bought the naffest moses basket and the cheapestmosthideousandhuge buggy without telling me, and a baby sling that didn't even hold the baby in.. she'd have fallen out!

I had to say 'sling is really unsafe, er, look.. buggy not suitable yet, maybe you should keep it until she's bigger...' and the moses basket I was just stuck with (it really was an ugly design one, hideous print)

I think you should give them a list of things you need, and be specific on the list. Tell them you are going to buy a few newborn clothes and somewhere for it to sleep incase it arrives early, and the list should have on it things they can't get too wrong

eg-
steriliser
car seat (specify brand and colour)
a (specify brand) buggy
bedding
vests

I think it's best to do a list of items to allow them the fun of buying things for you, but definitely specify what you need and definitely buy the bits you want just right yourself.

hth

I'm really sorry chickbean I didn't mean to upset anyone, I would probably have it myself if I had other children as it is the responsible thing to do. sorry, I read a couple posts and people were saying whether or not they'd have it.. didn't think, really sorry. It was a different batch anyway that has caused problems and isn't the same as either that is being used here.

chickbean like crumpette said it is each our own decisions to whether we have it or not. no one is right or wrong in not having/having it. it is just your hormones taking over right now. you made the decision that was right for you. this is a support thread and people have their own views on subjects as controversial like this so do not worry. i also agree to some degree that we descend from aliens! did anyone else watch Battlestar Galactica? god i love that series!
crumpette i am hoping she is squashed in there though apparantly according to the whole world and sundry i am blooming which in my eyes translates to fat! though i am measuring a week behind as usual so i ma hoping she is curled up in a ball with minimal fluid as my waters dont seenm to be alot when they do go!

Oh Chickbean, try not to get upset, everyone will have their own views. It is support thread but it's kind of on everyone's mind.

I'm personally going for the 'head in the sand' option as I haven't been invited to have it yet.

Also, I've become unbelievably tearful about the most random things, you're not being pathetic, you're being pregnant. And hormonal. And being asked to make complex decisions based on patchy information and (I'm assuming here your not a scientist) trying to analyse data and reports that you haven't been trained to do.

Have some jaffa cakes and tell yourself it's too late to do anything about it now so the best thing you can do for your baby is be as happy and as rested as you can be.

I asked MN to take my post down, I really didn't mean to upset anyone. sorry x

fakeplastictrees bless parents for trying to stick their oar in help!my mum is the same she constantly buys stuff i dont really need but it is her way of taking control being a granny! like someone said before give a definate list of what you need and dont mention the stuff you wnat to get to give that personal touch. i have to admit that apart from stocking up on nappies and wipes there is nothing really to get. was considering getting another moses as the dog adopted the other and neither children slept in it since we co slept so umming and ahhing about that one! still have at least one thousand vests and grows from last two babies. a shame really as want to buy cute little outfits! now it is my turn to rant on pointlessly!!