June 2010? Goodness am I the first!

[ScaredOfEverything]

Hello everyone...

Had a positive test this morning, suspect due on 3rd June. Gulp! Very surprised as DD is only 9 months and it took me 2 years to conceive the first time around.

Anyone here to join teh long wait?

XX scared

Happy Birthday GibberingGinger

So sorry to hear Barak's news - especially after the ray of hope. Best of luck for the future.

I'm feeling really about my relationship with dp at the mo and not sure if it's my hormones or just a situation coming to a head after a long time brewing. Wondering why we're having another child together when i can count on one hand the number of times we've 'done it' in the last 3 years (i.e. since ds1 arrived). I can't even share a bed with him at the moment as i find i just can't relax and go to sleep. Everything seems to cause an argument. He works 6 days a week and when not at work is still quite pre-occupied by it :-self employed, business failing, won't admit it, can't cope financially, he has no confidence in himself and i'm just so tired of the whole thing and worried about our future and more importantly our children's future.

I do want this baby and dp is basically a good, sound bloke but..... I just feel SO platonic about him and SO annoyed that he can't put his idealism about his business to one side and start thinking about his family.

Am i on my own with this one? Is everyone else in 7th heaven with their dearest ones? I really hope so because the way i feel about it all at the moment is rubbish.

Really sorry - grump over - just needed to vent some steam. Really hope it turns out to be the hormones!

Madamfreckle , sounds like you're having a really difficult time. Really sorry.

Back to huge numbers of kids in a short space of time - my mum had 6 kids in 7 yrs, all singletons

Madamefreckle - I feel for you. Its not the same, but my dh (who I adore, and do still fancy a lot most of the time, albeit not at the moment due to feeling fat and tired and hormonal and grumpy and him being very off, see the following...) has been having a tough time at work. He's a solicitor and has just missed out on making partner. Now he's completely traumatised about his future career choices (or lack of, due to massive recession) and feels like an abject failure. Because the partnership selection took over a year, this whole process has been pretty much the central tenet of our lives for a long time...anyway last night I ended getting quite cross with him. He's been so negative recently that I feel he's discounting all the 'good' things in his life (2 lovely dcs, wife who adores him, nice home, good friends etc) and making everything all about work. Whilst I appreciate that both he and I spend about 80% of our waking lives at work, I still think its important to keep it in perspective and to take the good stuff where you can find it...I realised that most (admittedly not all) of his reaction to my pg has been worrying about costs of childcare, school fees etc...

To be fair, he took it like a man (he cried ) and has absolutely promised to try harder. I've promised him I will keep on supporting and believing in him but I can't deal with him loading all his negativity on me and dismissing anything positive I suggest...

Last night was the first night in months in which he didn't wake me up at 5am worrying about stuff I got up at 8.30 to look after the dcs and left him to sleep, woke him up with breakfast in bed at 10, he's like a different person this morning

Sorry to share all of this - I'm just trying to say you are not alone and that maybe a frank conversation and some mutual caring would help?

GG - happy birthday! Hope you have a good one...enjoy the soft drinks

Right, dh has taken the kids out for an hour or so, so I'm heading back to bed with the papers and a cup of tea

Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to say how great it is that you are all being supportive of each other through this early journey.

Congrats to all those who are doing well so far and to those who have had to sign out earlier than anticipated, next time will be the right time.

I'm in the TTC thread although not actively TTC at present. I got married in Sept and thought we'd conceived #1 then. Hubby is away so no other attempts made ;)
I've been off work now for 4 weeks with pg symptoms - vomitting and dizzyness being the worst - and have had light bleeds and BFN. My GP is convinced that my symptoms are too pg related to not be so have had 6 blood test and a hPG. The bloods rule out any infection, so am otherwise fit and healthy but the hPG is low. Not sure what to think as my boobs are sore (heavy and sharp shooting type pains and growing out of my bra), my back aches, have put on half a stone although I've been living on soups the past 4 weeks. I've had weird gurgling/nervous sensation in my lower abs so I'm just confused as to why else I could be getting these symptoms. (please shed some light if you are able to - it would be much appreciated)

I have trawled online and read it is possible to have bleeds and BFN up until 12 weeks so if I'm one of those, I will officially join the thread then when my due date will be 14th June. If not, hubby is back so we can TTC for 2010!

Till then all the best to you and look forward to hearing great things in June 2010!x

Morning ladies, just a quick line, am feeling very poo and sorry for myself- sickness is the worst it has been this pg. May it ease for us all soon!

HA thank you for explaining, feel much more at ease now, thanks.

GG Happy birthday, hope you're doing something nice out of the rain!!

Madame really sorry to hear things are hard, no words of advice i'm afraid just a sympathetic ear. I am sure the hormones aren't helping things & being pg does make you think about your future a lot more.

My dh is away on a stag do this weekend & I don't drive so i have no idea what to do when ds wakes up!

Hi bathroomsink. wow you must be really up in the air with all this. Can't you insist on an ultrasound to know once and for all? Good luck x

madamefreckle you must be feeling really down,DH are ok at the mo,but never feel like you are alone and everyone else is living blissfully,some people cannot even admit it to themselves that there are 'issues'. I hope you can talk things through and spend some quality time together and remember why you fell in love with him in the first place,and him you

Just a quick update, scan yestreday diagnosed MMC at 6 + 4 (so around Monday when they'd done last scan really).

Have had a lot of pain since so I'm sure nature is doing it's thing - another scan on Friday 'just to re-confirm' but basically am bowing out of this thread.

I sincerely wish all of you the best of luck, busy dealing with two upset teenage DS's and a DP who for the first time saw a scan of his first child - he asked for a picture but the sonographer had gone and they don't store the pictures!

Anyway - good luck all and take care

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Very sorry to hear that Newherehelp. Wishing you better luck in the future.

How confusing for you bathroomsink. I did have a friend who didn't get a +ve result until she was 7 weeks. I presume that they are keeping an eye on whether you could have an ectopic? Not an area of expertise for me, but I do know that they can cause lower HCG levels, and obviously they are important to detect early.

Madamefreckle - I can relate to some degree. I am pregnant from the one and only time that dh and I have had sex since ds was born 13 months ago!

Oh newhere, I am so sorry, lots of love xxx

Hello Cantsleep!

So sorry to hear that Newherehelp RnB & Cantsleep I've an appointment on Thursday so ask then if symptoms persist. Its more annoying not knowing why the symptoms are there and I dint want to read too much into them. I thought it might be eptopic but there has been no severe bleeding and no cramping.

My friend has a heart beat listening device so I may try that to see if theres to hear. If not, i guess its pretty clear, but then the question remains why the symptoms!

Will keep you posted. Hope you're all feeling well.x

madamefreckle you have my sympathies. DH is also quite absorbed in work and his own health problems at times and I go off sex completely when pg. We're currently in the same bed, but at some point he will get fed up of sharing with a pregnant insomniac and leave the marital bed, not to come back until the baby is sleeping in its own room!

bathroomsink Sorry, I don't think my story is going to be very comforting. I had a very similar thing about 3 years ago. Pregnancy symptoms+++ and no periods for a few months but several BFN's. I'm afraid it ended in a miscarriage My theory on in was that there was something wrong and the baby was never going to survive and this is why my hormones never got high enough to register on a test. I really, really hope that things turn out more positively for you though. Will keep my fingers crossed that you get some good news soon.

newherehelp so sorry to hear your news, and hope you are being well looked after.

cantsleepwontsleep welcome out into the open!

Hi greensnail

Sorry about your story. It certainly put its all into perspective. Whatever the situation, there's always something to gain. If its not my turn this time, then at least I know what to expect when the right time arrives. If there is a little miracle at the end of this, then God is really looking out for me.

As always, will update as soon as anything changes

newherehelp - so sorry to read your news. x

Good luck bathroomsink

I'm 8 weeks today, each day feels like an achievement after my MC earlier in the year so starting to let myself feel pretty excited!

Thought my boobs were less sore today until my cat trampled on me, ouch! I think I'm getting used to the soreness a bit...

Hope everyone is feeling OK and not too sicky.

Get your thinking hats on, I think this thread will be full at 1000 messages, so we'd better come up with a new June2010 title. I am rubbish at witty titles (hence rubbish nickname) so can't think of anything better than Due in June. Will distract us from the morning sickness for a while!

Newherehelp sorry to hear your news

Fingers crossed for you bathroomsink

Haven't posted in a few days as we have all be struck down by a tummy bug. Thankfully we all seem to be on the mend.

Definitely still feel rather sick on and off. DH assures me this is not to do with the tummy bug as he doesn't feel sick so am having to accept that I have got morning (or usually evening sickness).

Gibbering hope you had a lovely birthday.

Oo morning sickness on top of a tummy bug - poor you herewegrow

Gibbering I am awful at witty words and nn's so doubt I will be much help! I'm going to try though - anything to get me through this dreary Monday!

Bathroomsink - it's way too early to rely on a doppler to determine whether you're pregnant or not! Midwives won't even use them before around 15 weeks because they often can't find anything before that (and it tends to worry people if the mw can't find something if she tries).

I have spent years coming up with thread titles, and am all out of imagination, so would just go with 'fantastic scantastic', since most of us will be having scans over the duration of the thread.

Thanks for all the birthday wishes. I had a lovely weekend. Went out Saturday night for a super yummy thai red curry at a local restuarant. And DH arranged for DD to stay over at MIL so we got a lie in on Sunday morning til after 9am!!! Hurray.

On top of constant nausea, have now started getting heartburn. Might be the thai curry - but remember constant heartburn from last time so suspect not. Time to bulk buy gaviscon!

Hope everyone is doing well. Counting down to scan - only 15 days for me

Happy birthday GG

Is anyone else getting weird reactions to food they can normally eat? I can't eat anything 'hot' at all (I seem to get an instantly upset tummy) and beans and things seem to make me a lot more umm...'windy' than normal (sorry if tmi!!). Its a shame as I love spicy food and particularly veggie chilli!

Oh yes, thread time (pg brain)...I'm pants at these but how about "Christmas is coming and the tums/bumps are getting fat"? or "Its not just the mince pies and pud!"...

November nausea brings joyful June arrivals?