Due March 2010 - do my boobs look big in this?

[donttrythisathome]

Hello everyone,

I can't find a March 2010 thread so thought I'd start with.

This is my first and i think my EDD is 2 March 2010.

Come and join me!

hello, I haven't been on her for ages. Bellasyummymummy, glad that you saw a heartbeat and you are hanging on in there.

Re exercise, I think the general rule is that you can carry on as normal - my superfit friend did a triathlon at 6 months. Nutter . I do think you have to listen to your body and not push it in the same way as you normally would, if that makes sense.

Dophus, I know what you mean about being distracted. I am tired, feel sick and so uninterested in work (or anything really).

Oh, and my friend came round on Saturday and told me she was PG - due 3 days after me. So i told her. Our 3 year old DCs are two weeks apart so its really lovely.

Arcadie- where I am, we now have to self refer. I called my surgery and she said don't need to see doctor and I have to call the hospital myself to register with the community midwife which I did. They have then sent me an appointment for next week (week 8) to go to a health centre for my booking in appointment. Not a whisper from a midwife at my own surgery. Can't believe how much it has changed in just 18 months since I had my dd. Even more so since I had ds 4 years ago. I got told off when booking in at 10 weeks with dd because they said it was a paperwork nightmare to try and get every sorted. I don't think they will see you before 8 weeks but prefer it before 12 because they need to get you a scan date. That's how it works here anyway. Hope some of that made sense.

We are asked to book in around 8 weeks so the paperwork can be sent for the scan to the hospital and processed before 12 weeks. This is in Norfolk.

arcadie and of course a huge big - wow you made light work of that, didn't you? "Hmm I am vaguely thnking it might be nice to have 3DC - oh I'm pregnant!" Good to have you on board! In answer to your questions, I went to the GP at about 5 weeks and he has let the mw know but I don't think this was actually necessary. Re exercise, I have stopped doing anything at all because I feel so ghastly but I think it is good to carry on as you were for as long as you feel comfortable doing so (don;t they say you shouldn;t get to a point where you wouldn;t be able to have a conversation?)

dophus - great news, what a relief.

BYM - great news too - such a strong heartbeat has got to be a good sign!

mini - yes I definitely felt guilty when pg with DS because I felt I was betraying DD. It actually took me a long time to get used to having 2 DC and not being able to give either one what DD had always had (basically all my attention) but now DS is 18 months they get on great and I know both have benefited hugely from having each other.

Oh no DH is home wanting a chat - better go - hello to everyone else

Glad you finally got sorted Dophus!

Still lurking on this thread even though I know I've no business being here anymore! I'll remove myself on Friday after the hospital have confirmed "no progress". Not quite ready to face up to it yet.

Oh and good news on seeing the heartbeat BYM, sorry didn't finish reading all the posts before I started tapping at the keyboard!

Hey all - just doing a sporadic check-in and so glad to hear everyone seems to be doing OK... I went to see the GP today - thankfully has an appointment anyway for some other minor stuff so that worked out well. They were as vague as I would have expected from last time. She could even work out my dates apparently my long cycle mucked up her little wheely gubbins . Thankfully I had done the mumsnet calcualtor, told her what it had said and so she put that down . Ah, there's nothing like seeing the professionals, is there... .

I've been referred to a different hospital than the one I started off with last time (and who basically wanted to terminate my clearly perfectly healthy DD after giving her a 'not compatible witb life' prognosis at our 12 week scan... I'm hoping for a less stressful first and second trimester this time around...

I'm also hoping this hospital are a bit more clued up that the last lot - I ended up having a most bizarre booking appointment AFTER I'd had my 12 week scan last time - which resulted in my being asked 'do you plan to breastfeed' and 'do you know about the risk factors for SIDS' AFTER I had just been told that there was something dreadfully wrong with my baby. Ah yes, it was all terrific fun. .

So it'd GOT to be better this time round, right?

I also asked the GP whether it was alright to continue carrying my DD, in her buggy up and down two long flights of stairs 3 days a week ( combined weight of goodness knows how much...). She said (I quote and shit you not) "It's absolutely fine. Your baby's tiny and it's not going to fall out, you know." Which made me feel tremendously reassured.

Still, I actually am not going to be mean about her, (too late?!) because she was actually quite nice, said my DD 'cuted her out' and actually DID something constructive about my DD's persistent cough and rash which I've been trying to get soem help with for 6 months now.

And hey Dal - not real sympotms yet - apart from the general knackeredness - but I'm saving up my sympathy on that one for when I'm 2 weeks overdue and the size of a house and really am too exhausted to move. General aches and pains down below - but I keep reminding myself that I had these last time - because I was thinking for about 6 weeks that I had 'really bad period pains' and that my period was due any day, surely... [stupid emoticon]. Trying (and failing) to remain calm and stop panicking about things which haven't happened yet!

And DD now generally eats like a horse now - thankfully. It took a while to get her onto chunky stuff, but things got a lot easier when I decided to stop worrying about it and just be thankful that she was taking on calories. That said, today she's eaten bugger-all, but is teething with a temperature and runny bum, so I can't say I blame her. Sorry to hear your little one's still a pickle to feed... Is he a good weight now though? DD is still on the skinny side, but is very tall, so i've decided to give up worrying about it, and just be envious of her 'I can eat my bodyweight in ice-cream and chocolate buttons and not put on an ounce' lifestyle.

Things got a lot better with DD when I stopped stressing quite so much about what she was eating, nutrition-wise, and concerned myself more with giving her stuff she liked the taste of - figuring that if she could get it into her head that eating was actually quite a nice thing to do, we might start getting somewhere. Not to say that I started her on a diet of turkey twizzlers and fruit shoots, but she certainly started having food with more interesting flavours (and seasoning!) and the occassional choccy pud and stuff. OK, frequent choccy puds.

Actually - note to all first-timers - motherhood seems to work a hell of a lot better when you stop trying to do everything 'perfectly' like some kind of stepford mummmy... I swear I nearly drove myself round the bend trying to do everything 'by the book'.

"She's only breast-fed for 25 minutes and stopped, and The Book says she should be feeding for AT LEAST 45 minutes but I can't get her to have any more..."[panic]. Hindsight says I had a supply like niagra falls and she was just full up!? Could I see that at the time? My 3 notebooks where I kept a record of exactly how long she fed from each boob, at whiat time (to the minute) and how many nappies she'd done in between says... er... no.

Beware stepford-mummy madness, ladies. . Dal, if you catch me succumbing again, you have the right to give me a virtual slap - or better still, find out where I live and come do it in person.

Hope everyone else is well - sorry for the off-topic diatribe, but Dal and I have some history, see...

I'm also SO jealous of all of you who have seen your little bean's heartbeat! Part of me won't believe it's real until I see it (even though the 4 HPTs suggest that it is pretty real...). I too, am thinking compulsively about any number of horrific outcomes. I try and stop myself, but once you know all the things which 'can' happen it can be hard to remember that the vast majority of beans turn into perfectly healthy little babies...

Anyway, must eat chocolate, and then sleep. Hopefully in that order - how slummy mummy would it be to fall asleep whilst eating chocolate in bed?

db
xx

p.s. sorry, have inadvertently written a novel... blah blah blah - it's because I'm not allowed to TELL anyone yet!

Aw chubby, sorry, started writing that post before I read yours - which makes my first sentence REALLY tactless. I'm sorry to hear that, and will keep hoping that indications are wrong. But that's a crap thing to be going through. I'm really sorry.

db
xx

Awwwwwwww shucks and thanks Skid. You'll have spotted that I've told PN Dec07 now. Just wanted to make sure I told my bestest chum before she found out on MN!!

Actually really really thanks. Being only 4+6 means I'm not telling ANYONE else in RL so it's really nice to have some people be excited for me!

Arrrrrrrrrrgh - chubby - I skipped over yours accidentally. So So So sorry- really hope you get good news. Am somewhat dreading that I'm going to have to remove myself soon too, can't see a baby surviving my bleed and checked today on wikipedia ( fount of all knowledge) that you can still get a bfp after an mc because the hCG doesn't disappear that quickly. Phew. That was a lot of acronyms. Anyways chubby fingers crossed for you.

Morning ladies

Welcome and congrats to all the new ladies joining - great to see the list getting longer! Yay for spring babies!

BYM congrats on seeing the heartbeat . It must have been wonderful after the stress of a light bleed. It's good to avoid the internet a bit (googling can cause so much worry) but seeing a strong regular heartbeat so early bodes well.

Dophus I was shocked to read that the first hospital was being arsey when you have a history of ectopic but am glad you got sorted and congrats on seeing a heart beat . And know what you mean about being unmotivated at work (and I don't even have bad MS as my excuse ).

Retromum glad you've got a scan date, though time is passing soooo slowly that I bet it feels like ages away still! Fingers crossed you get a nice view of beanie.

Designerbaby am also in a comedy open plan office so also have to be careful about posting at work! It's bad when all I want to do is surf through sites about early pregnancy (this is my first) but is good for forcing me to do something else (like, er, work!) too. On your dating, it sounds like you know your ovulation date pretty well so you just need to count that as day one and add two weeks onto that. The LMP counting system is based on a 28 day cycle, with ovulation on day 14, so the first two weeks of a 40 week pregnancy are just the time between your LMP and conception. I'm 7+1 today, so if your due date is one day behind me then you'd be 7 weeks pregnant. Hope that makes sense (sounds a bit garbled when I read it!). My doctor didn't have a clue and just asked me what date I'd worked out my EDD to be .

Chubbymummy still hoping you get good news on Friday...but this waiting must be so stressful for you .

Waves to everyone else. Hope everyone is doing well.

I had good news yesterday - I had my first scan and saw a lovely little bean with a nice strong regular heartbeat. It was great to see, although it was so tiny (only 9mm!). I feel a lot more confident about this pregnancy now . I've had pretty much no MS, a couple of bouts of gagging and that's it, so am now hoping that I avoid it! The awful tiredness (and teen acne ) is enough for me and no longer want MS to make it seem "real"...We called my PIL in the States and told them last night and they're delighted (my EDD is my MIL's birthday) but my FIL "accidentally" told my SILs...I'm not that bothered but I feel bad because we've not told most of my siblings in Ireland!

And in other news my DH is getting over swine flu, so he couldn't come with me to the scan (which was a bit but better than him potentially infecting other pregnant ladies!). He's in the spare room, and there's lots of antiseptic alcohol wipes being used chez caitni as swine flu's risky for pregnant women. But our GP said the risk is mainly to do with a raised temp as that can cause M/C so I've got parecetmol (sp?) in my handbag to bring down any temp I've got. So far feeling pretty chipper (bar the desire to constantly sleep) so am hoping I manage to avoid it.

Hi everyone, nothing to say, but have been reading everything.

Fingers crossed for chubby and arcadie

Ok, so the weird dreams have started - I forgot about them! Last night I dreamt that it was twins (actually that goes through my head quite a bit - I hope it's paranoia not prophecy!) and we had Michael Jackson staying with us. I had him doing the washing up and was telling him it was good for him to do some normal stuff... ???

db
Xx

Keeping my fingers crossed for you Chubby and Arcadie.

Not much happening here except I felt a bit yucky today.

With regard to bleeding, a friend of mine bled extremely heavily over about a week, she thought that there was no way that she was still pregnant, but her dd is now 5 months old. The docs said it could have been a twin. Another friend of mine bled for the first 6 weeks with both of her pregnancies. Hope that might help just a tiny bit. (smile)

I meant

(smile back) LouBudd

Hi All,

Just to say fingers crossed for chubbymummy and arcadie too. I really hope all goes well and that you'll be with us for the long haul.

Glad someone has some advice about swine flu and pregnancy! There are a few people at our work with it and although I know I feel absolutely fine, I find I do start to convince myself I have a sore throat on about an hourly basis as I have been reading all the scare news stories too much!

Other than imaginary swine flu, I am doing pretty well. No morning sickness YET (frantically touching wood). Have not yet told anyone other than DH in real life as I have quite a lot going on in the next few months and I think it's nice for DH and I to have it as a secret for the moment so it's nice to come on Mumsnet and remember that it's real and really happening for a bit.

Have a nice evening all and get plenty of rest!

What's the thinking for swine flu whislt pregnant? A 6 month preggy mate asked me today, in passing.

Hey ladies,

Arcadie - Like the others have said, all I have heard is that if you had an excercise routine just to carry that on as normal but not push yourself too far. I think it's worse if you don't excercise then you start a crazy routine once you've fallen pg, more likely to do yourself an injury or something as all your joints become more flexible...

Sariska - Did you manage to hide your wrist bands?

Dophus - It's times like these i'm glad i'm a sahm at the moment. Ms at work is the pits. Although it's not so easy having to feed Ds dinner when I wanna spew, changing his nappy first thing is a treat too.

Bellasyummymummy - Sorry you've had a scary few days. Glad you managed to get a scan and saw everything was ok

twofalls - How nice your friend will be going through this with you

DrSkid - Ooh you've got 2, i'll be coming back to you for advice when i'm tearing my hair out in those scary first few months

chubbymummy - Don't feel you have to go anywhere, it's not over yet. I really hope it's good news for you... Sorry this is a dificult time for you.

Designerbaby - Glad your doc was so clued up . Your 1st trimester experience with dd1 sounds absolutely terrible , hope it goes a lot smoother this time. That reminds me of when I had a growth scan for ds at 39 weeks and the sonographer said 'yes, all is fine you're measuring 29 weeks' , I reminded her I was 39 weeks and she was like 'oh yes, I must have put the figures in wrong, will check again, ah yes 39 weeks'. Erm too late, already had a heart attack now thanks!

Sounds like your DD is doing well . Dylan still sees the dietician and has high cal milk, he is slowly getting better at eating and is finally off jars now. Only has 4 teeth so finds it hard to chew stuff! He's an ok weight for his size, he's on the bottom centile but only 9th centile for height anyway, small but perfecy formed. Happy and healthy most importantly . Pics on profile

LOL at your MJ dream

I will happily administer a 'stepford wife slap' if I see you going that way this time. Same goes for me!

donttrythisathome - Hi! Hope you're doing ok

LouBudd - Hope you feel less yucky tomorrow

Childofthe80s - I worry about swine flu too. A friend of a friend has it at the mo. I really don't want to get it. Not a lot we can do but hope though. I've heard it can cause pg complications but that doesn't mean it will for every case so will try to think positive I suppose...

Well, felt sick on and off today. Had to eat a crisp and marmite sandwich at 10am to stop myself spewing! I've gone from wishing for ms to wanting it to bugger off in a very short space of time.

Can't believe i'll be 7wks on fri. Seems to have come round quickly but slowly at the same time iyswim, every day is slow but then suddnely it's just here.

Was winging to dh about when to tell people today. As you know my bil and sil x2 know but noone else. Dh doesn't want to tell anyone else till 12 weeks. In theory I like this idea but I think it's harder for me than it is for him, he just has to keep schtum. I on the other hand have to pretend not to feel sick, refuse alcohol without looking suspicious, refuse certain foods and just generally act 'not pg'. It's quite tiring and although I like it being our secret i'm already not enjoying the sneaking around about it and just want to blurt it out (especially to his parents as we go round there all the time) so I can just relax and stop 'pretending'. Ok rant over. Any oppinions on this?

HI all,
We're trying to not to tell people until 12 weeks this time... Although DH is famously indiscreet, and has told his whole (extended) family. I've just told my mum and my best friend. We've jointly told our DDs godparents, because they were all really behind us when we had difficult first/second trimester with DD, and so would have no qualms about them knowing any problems we may encounter this time. But it's bloody hard.

Difficult to explain to colleagues/boss why pulling a 12midnight finish at work on Monday meant my leaving the office looking like I'd been hit by a truck (especially as DD has chosen THAT morning to wake at 5.30am) and be basically useless for the next two days. That said, I'd kind of implied since I've been back at work that I was in no hurry for a DC2... which I wasn't, but... So anyway, a bit about telling them. Doubt they'll be overjoyed at my buggering off for another 12months.

That said, determined not to spread the news too widely this time - we told everyone we knew pretty much, last time, but it was dead hard meeting people who were all bouncy and happy for us when, for about a month or so, we didn't think she was going to make it. It involved a lot of explaining of the situation over and over and over again which I could have done without.

Oooh. That's all a bit depressing.

Anyway...

Dal, your little man is a total cutie pie... like you say, perfect little man! Do you have a wife lined up for him yet? If not, may I present DD - although since she's on the 90th centile for height, they my make an odd-ish pair at the altar. Oh, and what's that you say? We don't do arranged marriages anymore? Really? What a pity - would save them so much heartache kissing all those frogs/spolt princesses...

On a lighter note, I wonder what MJ will be up to in my dreams tonight? Maybe I'll have got him doing the ironing? Cleaning the bathroom? So many chores and only one MJ (sigh) What would I do without him? My dream-house would be a total tip (much like my real-life house - oh, if only he wasn't dead! I'd live in a show home...). And the upside is, it's all for his own good! If he'd just had the opportunity to be my skivvy for a few weeks, he wouldn't have had to have all that surgery (because, like, housework is so enriching and fulfilling and life-affirming) wouldn't have taken to prescription medication, and would still be with us...

... what a shame.

db
xx

p.s. Do you think this official pregnancy madness? I actually have found myself thinking about this kind of stuff. Maybe it's sleep deprivation, now I have to get up several times a night to pee... and DD only just sleeping through after 18 months of broken nights - BAH!

spolt princesses? SPOILT, obviously.
tsk.

Morning ladies, only one tiny wave of sickness so far hoorah.

DB - LOL at 'may I present DD' you certainly may, she's totally adorable! Hmm the height issue, could be a bit odd. If my genes kick in he might have a growth spurt and end up 6ft 3 like my brother, will keep you informed

We've just told people so far that we would feel comfortble telling if anything went wrong. Hopefully that won't happen though...

Even bigger LOL at your dreams, I am known for having VERY strange dreams and yes they only get worse when pg. Will try and remember some for you soon!

Dalrymps Also been on an DH to let me tell a couple more people. Have told bestest friend and no one else. BF forms one 1/3 of my prayer square so would love to tell the third lady and be able to pray with them about the future and ask for their support in stopping me freaking out. DH says no. He also refused to tell his parents on the phone. My brother is getting married in 2 weeks so the general thinking is to let him have his time in the sunshine of my family's attention before shamelessly hogging all attention back over to the Arcadie side again by fessing up about the utterly unsuspected DC3!

morning all, is anyone else feeling a tiny bit mad at the moment? I feel like I have got raging PMT - DH is walking on eggshells. I think its because I am sooooo tired. Hopefully it will pass.

In terms of telling people, if it is stressing you NOT telling people then why not tell parents and close friends? I hate lying to people/pretending I am fine. We haven't told our parents yet because my SIL has just moved here from about 200 miles away and it has been lots of stress and excitement so we wanted to let it all calm down before we shared our news. I think telling the people you will need support from if anything does go wrong is probably a good thing. I think we will tell our this weekend.

I did tell my business partner yesterday because he wanted us to do a training course in March and obviously that isn't going to happen! Also, I turned up at his house for a meeting and asked him if I could have a crumpet with marmite on (his kids were eating them) because I truly felt that if I didn't have one I would eat the table . You could tell he thought that was a bit odd.