Due March 2010 - do my boobs look big in this?

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Hello everyone,

I can't find a March 2010 thread so thought I'd start with.

This is my first and i think my EDD is 2 March 2010.

Come and join me!

I had a friend who had a miscarriage when I was 7 months pregnant with my 2nd child. I was worried she wouldn't want to see me, but she did. She felt that I was someone she could talk to properly about how she felt. I was really surprised.

Desingnerbaby don't worry about recurring problems this time round. I was paranoid when I had my 2nd because when I had my 1st, I had stitches which had to be operated on again 10 months later (it's called a Fentons). I was so worried that when I gave birth again that the scarring would tear, but I had no problems at all. She was a big baby like her brother as well. He was 10 1/2 lbs and she was 9 1/2.
Who knows what will happen this time. Just remember all births are different.

Oh Retromum, don't get me started on the subject of finding out the sex! It seems to be quite a touchy subject for some reason and I've almost had arguments with people about it... We found out that DD was a DD at 21 weeks, we thought why not if they can see what it is?!, it's exciting to know, and you can raid the charity shops & NCT sales for cute girls clothes... (we did buy the odd overpriced new thing too!). Both before and after the scan, quite a few people almost seemed upset with me, saying "oh why did you want to find out, you're spoiling the surprise" etc. I said I think it's enough a surprise to find out if the baby is healthy and what it looks like. But I can understand if some people don't want to know, for that dramatic "it's a boy/girl!" after birth. What's everyone else going to do?

Josie - I had some cramps on one side after I hade been sitting/lying in a funny position. If it's worse when you've been at work I think it must be just muscles...

DB & Doctor - that's real sad about your friends... Yeah, let her know you're there whenever she wants to talk or see you.

Sariska - Working full time + long commute SUCKS! If you can afford not to go back to work at least for a while, don't do it! I've just given up work due to 12 hour days away from home getting too much, and I love spending more time with my DD and resting a lot. (She goes to nursery 3 mornings a week though which is great for everyone!)

LouBudd - I'm glad you had no problems second time around! Anyone had a MORE difficult birth second or third time around...?

The whole labour was more difficult 2nd time round, but she caused me no injuries if you know what I mean. I don't believe anything midwives tell me. They told me my son would be an average size baby, and he clearly wasn't. Then they said my daughter would be about 8lbs at a 36 week scan- she wasn't. Then they said, "oh second baby, your labour will be much quicker" - it wasn't. I have come to the conclusion that I think they guess everything, so take it all with a pinch of salt. We all know it's going to come out and how, so I think we should all chill and not worry about it.....hmmm, easier said than done.

annamama - we had the same reactions re finding out - a lot of people said, oh I didn't find out because I didn't mind what sex it was' - I used to get quite annoyed thinking well we don't mind either, it is just really exciting to know and if they can tell you, why not find out? It is strange how so many people find it hard to understand a viewpoint which is different from their own.

Not sure if we will find out this time. I suspect we will because DD really wants it to be a girl and I think it would be good for her to have time to adjust to the idea of having a boy if it is a boy. DH wants to find out too so I reckon I will will go along with that.

Loubudd - re labours being different - I saw the mw yesterday and she said that for some reason 3rd labours tend to be really different from previous labours. I was a bit taken aback by this as I had a fantastic labour with DS (2nd baby) and sort of assumed that it would be the same with no. 3. But as you say all this 'advice' needs to be taken with a large pinch of salt!

Designerbaby so very sorry to hear about your friend . You too DrSkid . I think keeping in text contact, allowing her to control when to see you/bump, is probably what I would do. It's important to acknowledge it and to let her know you're here but without crowding her...

It's interesting to hear what others are doing about finding out the sex. I've always tried to keep a "if you want to know, then that's great" attitude to friends and family so am a bit to hear people react strongly about it - they need to mind their own business . As this is our first, and we're just so bloody happy to be pregnant after years of ttc then IVF, we're not too bothered about finding out. My DH feels quite strongly that he doesn't want to know, whereas as I'm going to try and avoid finding out but won't mind if I can tell from a scan . For some reason I can keep imagining a boy...for no reason other than I have a boy's name I love but girls' names are currently eluding me!

ooh what's the boy's name caitni? - will you share?!

FWIW I have 'known' both times what sex my baby was - I really felt very strongly that I knew and was right both times so your hunch might be correct

Also re finding out the sex, I think they won't tell you in some areas because of the whole terminating girl pregnancies thing. Does anyone know anything about this? We live in Oxford and don't know what the policy is here..

Hey all - just had booking in appointment. (45 minutes late VERY thorough midwife) Will await details of 12 week scan. MW was saying that the most accurate time to date you would be 8 weeks as they can tell to within 48 hours what your EDD should be. why don't they scan you then ? The longer they leave it the more inaccurate it gets as babies grow at different rates.

Not going to have tests. Not going to find out sex. Bit of a purist. But fully understand why other people would want to know. I know that for me i will be slightly disappointed to find out early if it's one particular sex and I know that once I've actually got baby in my arms I won't give a monkeys and will be happy with whatever I've got. I am more tempted this time round to find out to know which way round bedrooms will have to be shuffled but we'll have plenty of time once Tapioca comes out.

Hoping for a homebirth too. Might not get to have one as apparently my PPH (Post partum haemorraghing?) was 600 last time and the cut off is 500. I had no idea I'd bled lots with DD... no one said!

Hi everyone

Thanks for lovely welcome messages.
DB & DR I am sorry about your friends. My mum always told me to never be afraid to say something even if it is just "I really don't know what to say but I am thinking of you and if you need anything let me know". Its better than not doing anything at all. You never know who your friend would prefer to be around.

Josie22 - I had pains at 7 weeks and my doctor just wrote me a letter and told me to turn up to the Lanesborough Wing Ground Flr the following morning(by the blood tests). At 8.45am until Midday they do free scans. I had a referal letter but there were also women there who just went of their own accord because they were worried.
I got there at 8am and I was already 4th in the queue but they started at 8.45am and I was out of there by 9.30am feeling very happy and shocked that a heartbeat was visible on the screen.

I have also, just this week - after nothing after the first 6 weeks, started having crampy pains very low down but my friend who is about to have her second said it is incredibly unsurprising when a little person is been built inside you, using your blood, energy, etc. She said to just relax about it unless there was any bleeding or constant pain.

Definitely have a little belly now and all my trousers are just not possible although shift dresses are seeing me through and no-one has commented - well, not to my face!

I am in Furzedown (between Streatham and Tooting) Would love to meet up with anyone from the "Sarf" once my scan is out of the way and I can (fingers crossed) tell the world.

Good luck with all the scans and appointments everyone.

Hi RubY good to have you on board.

Anyone not in London/ South East? Someone must live near Yorkshire. I can't be the only Northern person who's pregnant

I'm in Northern Ireland, very much would love to meet up with other pregnant ladies or other MNers, but as far as I know there aren't any

I'd love to be proved wrong though!

DrSkid the boy's name is Richard Fiachra - Richard after my father (who died when I was young) and Fiachra cos I currently love it...but don't love it enough for a first name iykwim . The first name Richard is going to stay but I won't be surprised if the middle name changes a good few times before d-day (and of course would also be thrilled with a daughter!). I have no idea about policy on finding out the sex in Oxford...I've only ever had friends in Scotland say they couldn't find out.

%Arcadie* sorry to hear about your PPH - really hope it doesn't stop you having a HB.

Rubyslippers you're friend is totally right - amazing to think we're all growing little people - but wish it was easier to just relax!

I'd also love a meet-up for the Laaandoners amongst us. I'd even be willing to travel down sarf

arcadie - I reckon they don't scan you at 8 weeks because quite a few people miscarry between 8 and 12 weeks but by 12 weeks almost all pregnancies will continue? Therefore saves money and perhaps a little heartache

I am the same with you re VERY SLIGHT preference for a girl and agree that once I have the baby in my arms I will not care if it's a boy or a girl but may be slightly disappointed (for my DD really, not for myself) if I find out it's a boy at the 20 week scan... we'll see

ruby - I second what your friend said although I know it's hard not to worry. I had a few crampy pains with DD which came to nothing.

TLC - I'm sure there are some other N. Ireland mums on this thread or did I imagine that?

caitni - crossed posts - that is lovely to name him after your dad. I take it Fiachra is an Irish name? How do you pronounce it? We would like to give this one an Irish name as DH is Irish but we can't agree on a name we like. We do both like Aoife for a girl (although DH has recently gone off it ) but for boys we can't agree at all. DH likes Killian but I can't get past the 'Kill' thing. I like Malachy but DH says it's not a proper Irish name and no-one in Ireland would be caught dead naming their child that

Arcadie - I also had a PPH with DD (so have had one delivery without since) and I have been told I can have a HB if I like. Don't know what number mine had though! Does that mean how much blood you lost? I had a transfusion of 2 units so don't think it was too bad - did you have a transfusion?

DrSkid Aoife is lovely! Hope your DH changes his mind back soon! Not too sure about his take on Malachy, as I've only ever met Irish Malachys in my time, so reckon he just doesn't like it ...I also like Cillian, but only with the C spelling (as am a bit of a pedant and there's no K in the Irish language!). How about Ciaran or Cian (I love Cian) as alternatives? Oh we'll have fun in the baby names section once we get closer to March . I already love lurking in there and seeing what names people love/hate. PS Fiachra is indeed Irish is pronounced pretty much as it's spelled - Fee-a-kra (am rubbish at phonetic spelling so hope that makes sense!).

Have decided to sneak out of work early this avo and get down to Mamas and Papas for some maternity jeans. My tummy is too big for my regular jeans and am in a pair a size up that make me look proper fat (my ass looks extra massive in these baggy jeans!). Plus I think I need one of those belly bands, to try and make my regular tops last a bit longer. Luckily for me my line manager has bunked off already so I feel like I can take the p!ss slightly

He has a Ciaron and a Cian in his family so we can't really use them.. Tadgh (is that the right spelling? like Tiger without the -er) is another possibility that I'm coming round to. I like Fiachra - I hope you end up using it. And ha ha at waiting until March to post in the baby names section - that is where I spend most of my MN time!!

Hope you find some good mat jeans - makes such a difference to feel preg instead of fat! I am in mat only clothes now and I feel a hundred times better DH even said I looked 'fit' this morning, poor deluded soul...

Hey girls, thought I would throw in my 2 penny-worth on the finding out the gender discussion.

I am led to believe that our hospital has a policy of not telling expectant parents the gender. Not sure why. We are going to Frimley Park in Surrey

Anyway, with the decision taken out of our hands I am quite happy that we will just find out at the birth. TBH we tried for so long that just the fact that we are having a baby is enough for me.

However I see all the reasons from below why it would be important, especially if you have another family member who has strong feelings one way or the other as it gives them time to adjust.

I'm quite a gender neutral person anyway and will just buy lots of white clothes and wait for the cute boy/girl outfits to pour in from friends!

One last thought, my friend has been told both times, "We THINK it is a girl...." so even the sonograph people are not 100% right!

Pregnancy, fun, innit?!

DrSkid I also spend far too much time in the baby names section already (but reckon it'll only get worse as pregnancy progresses ). Shame Cian and Ciaron are out but I love Tadhg . I also love Sean, Declan, Finbarr...I could go on but I won't bore you all

And lucky you looking "fit"! Considering I didn't really look fit before I was pregnant I reckon I'll settle with looking a little less like I've eaten all the pies (and ice cream and dairy milks...).

Tigress - is there big Asian community where you live? I think that may affect hospital policy on disclosing gender. Am a bit of you having the decision taken out of your hands tbh - decision-making has never been my strong point!

caitni - may I assure you that I do not look in ANY way 'fit' - my poor DH is probably just trying to maximise his chances of a Friday night shag

Drskidaddle no there is no large Asian Community, I wondered if someone might ask that which is why I specified that I would be going to Frimley Park in Surrey.

I really have no idea but I am not questionning it, quite happy to just trundle along knowing I have a baby whatever gender

Anyone know if the Whittington will tell you? I really want to know - we found out last time after we had our CVS, and I loved being able to call DD by her name while she was still inside me, and refer to her as 'she' rather than 'it'.

It helped me get over the trauma of what had happened prior to that, I think, and really helped me bond with her.

I'd love to find out this time - DH wants a boy, I'd prefer another little girl, so it makes no odds. Just want a healthy one but I'd love to be able to start calling them 'Amelie Hope' or 'Jacob John' (JJ)...

db
xx

Hi, just checking in and trying to keep up with everyone.

I didn't take much notice of the MW with DC3 when she told me 3rd labours tend to be different as DC1 and DC2 labours were the same just quicker 2nd time. BUT she was right DC3 labour completely different!

I didn't find out the sexes with other pgs so won't this time round but completely understand why people do. IT'S SO TEMPTING!!!

becky - how was your 3rd different? Was it different worse or just different different?

db - wow you have even the middle names all decided?! I agree it is lovely to say he or she instead of it

Hi everyone Been out of fit this week. DD1 started school on Monday. The cough I have had for weeks on end went into my chest and became a nasty infection. So I am on antibiotics. Then I cracked a rib with coughing, so I am in excruciating agony if I cogh, sneeze, laugh etc. The infection is clearing now, so I hope the rib gets better soon - teh pain is apparently becauseit is all inflamed - and of course I can't take anything bit rubbish paracetamol.

My top tip for all of you is - DO your pelvic floor exercises religiously from now on and forever. Trust me on this one.

Now onto the good news. Had my scan today, and I am apparently 14 weeks + 5 (!!!) So my due date is 14th Feb. Mad pregnancy brain is now thinking - what is wrong. All the others I was told the date was later than my LMP calculation... But the baby was fine (only one! Phew!). Iam most defnately looking fat/pregnant. At my toddlers group this morning everyone commented on how much I am showing. Sigh!

REgarding subseqent labours, I was induced all 3 times and it was easier each time. Midwife also said that third time is a bit like first time, as it can go either way - weird. But I do think that in most cases second time is easier. I freaked out the night I went in to get induced for DD2 and the midwife was really nice saying it was unlikely that I would have such a horrendous time. She was right. Won't quote the timestats etc as most people don't think it is good, but it was a massiveimprovement, so I was happy with that.

Hey Everyone,
So many posts to catch up on!!!

Rubyslippers ? I live in Streatham, so would definitely be up for a ?sarf? London coffee once my scan is over and done with.

Caitni ? The belly bands are fantastic. I bought one on the last visit to a maternity shop. I was pleased that it feels really comfy and seems to have lots of stretch on it for when I really do grow!

DBaby ? really sorry to hear about your friend. That?s so sad. I think you just need to give her space and be there on text, so you are still in contact with her and she won?t feel as if you?ve dropped her. No doubt your pregnancy is going to be hard for her but hopefully you can both be there for each other.

I?ve pretty much made the decision that I don?t want to find out the sex of the baby so (poor) DH just has to go along with it. I think if I get to a second or later pregnancy then I?d be tempted?just to be organised but for the first I definitely want the surprise. Its just going to be murder trying to find ?neutral? things.

Hope everyone has a great weekend
xx

potpourrai - is it safe to do pelvic floor exercises before 12 weeks? I've been wanting to start (my mother's horror story of a bladder which never really recovered frightens me too much) but everyone keeps saying wait till I've passed 12 weeks...