Officially blooming part 2

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Thought I'd start a new thread as there were only 3 posts left!

lol nitnat - you probably won't like it at first but when the m/w can see the head you won't care that she's looking at your hoo ha, you'll be ecstatic that the ordeal is nearly over

Hello - can I join? I think I found the right place but put me right if somewhere else is better!

I'm in Birmingham, loving being pg at 35 with #1 after TTC for 2 1/2 yrs and 3 mc. We're coming up to 26wks - never believed we'd get this far so it is all very surreal. Due on 9th Sept by my dates and 12th by the 12wk scan. My little bean was a real slow starter and we have a family history of arriving late - to everything!

Don't know whether it's a boy or a girl, but very tempted to find out...

I'm also teaching and LOVING that this is my last half term! Got students in teaching tomorrow so it's not too big a shock...

Welcome gentleness.

34 get-ups now! Woo hoo! Although I am going to go back for a couple of days in sept [probably just the inset days], just to make sure mat leave starts as late as poss.

at Nitnat. You really won't care who sees you bits! It was strange when I had DD1 - I had ex H in a headlock cos I didn't want him to see [I restricted his circulation and breathing]...THEN when I'm lying there afterwards [legs akimbo and in stirrups and mum and ex h taking piccies of each other holding baby] I decided to start saying stuff like, 'Did you remember to put the washing machine on spin?' and 'Oh my God, I've split it, haven't I!! That's it, I'm never gonna enjoy sex again!' I blame the diamorphine. This time around, I had the same mw who stitched me do my 12 and 20 wk scans. It's 12 years on and she still remembers the crap I came out with! [As well as where I lived!]

Hi ladies, Glad you all had nice weekends mine was lovely too, a bit knackered after walking round leeds castle yesterday though!

Am i the only one concerned as to how small my bump is? Im quite petite anyways and i know eveyone has all different shapes & sizes but it really doesnt seem to have grown much in the last few weeks (Im 26.3 weeks).
I do have a noticeable bump but im just concerned its not grown much! I have another scan on the 11th to check the growth as i have "placental lakes" so i think thats whats making me feel even more paranoid! Other then that im great!

Hey all,

Thanks for the reassurance about the cramps from a few days ago. I haven't had any for a few days so I am feeling better. Turns out I didn't have a UTI after all which is good news! There were some nasties found on a dipstick test but the lab grew nothing, so no treatment needed. I hope the pains were just normal pregnancy aches and what not, MW said they get worse with second pregnancies. I hope they don't come back.

Nitnat you might care a bit at first but when once labour really starts you prob won't notice rather than not care! DP kept trying to cover my arse up when in labour but I wouldn't let him and insisted on being naked when I pushed ds out . MWs and docs see it all day every day, just an constant stream of girly bits, blood and poo! And lovely little babies too

Does anyone else know the sex of the baby but is trying to keep it a secret from everyone else? We did this with ds but people know that now and therefore know we know this time too if that makes sense, its making it much harder. I love having it as a secret only we know, and I love the surprise for everyone else IYSWIM, and that phone call saying 'its a boy' or whatever is so nice.

I'm feeling really shite as I think someone has figured it out, they made a few comments that its a girl because now I am saying I only want 2 kids for sure, and that before I said I might want more if I had two boys etc. I had actually decided no more children several months ago but thats besides the point really. Also I had a parcel of gender specific baby things on my kitchen table and I have just noticed a hole in the packaging which they might have looked through. I know that sounds weird but I swear there wasn't a hole in it when I got it this morning and the rest of the packaging isn't damaged at all, I have a funny feeling they made the hole just to see if they could see iyswim, which they could have done, it looks like a finger has been pushed through. Or they sneaked a peak through a hole that was made in transit. But that would be truly bizarre behaviour and I am sure its just defensive pregnancy hormones driving me mad as nobody would do that right? She is a perfectly normal person and I have no reason to suspect she would go behind my back to do something like that by the way.

So either they did and shame on them for being so rude and ruining something that is important to me, or they didn't, I am over analyzing and being ridiculous and I feel very bad for even thinking that they could do that (I like her and she is nice to chat to). Dp says does it matter if she knows, and I guess it doesn't as she could never let on that she does but I feel like something special has been taken away from me all the same God that is so ridiculous, but hormones are all over the place! I am sure she doesn't know for sure even if she has a hunch. I sound like such a paranoid freak! This pregnancy is driving me crackers I swear I wasn't as mad last time round.

I am such a moaning minnie at the moment, sorry. I am just sat here crying, as either someone has worked out my big secret or I have gone round the twist by suspecting my poor friend of being a snoop. I just feel so confused! Even if everyone finds out its not the end of the world in the slightest and I know that, but it wouldn't have been my choice and I feel like it should be my choice seeing as its my pregnancy and my baby!

I am so sorry about this by the way but dp thinks I am mental (maybe I am) and I need to talk to someone about it to get some perspective. I wish I could shake myself but once you get a crazy idea in your head you can't get it out can you.

Oh dear Bigbang- hope you feel a little brighter after unloading on here! Hormones are a CRAZY thing!
I keep getting paranoid over bizarre things.
Hehe to everyones comments about me being scared about 'seeing bits'. I guess I will be nervous about it regardless.
My feet are really sore today and have swollen up in the heat. Also I have this sharp pain in my bum area when I walk. Feels like a trapped nerve? Any ideas?

Nitnat - I had this pain. Like a shooting/stabbing pain. Most disconcerting. Comes and goes. Pregnancy is a very strange thing indeed!

Bigbang - hormones my love And protective maternal instinct. It will get worse after lo born Pretty weird if your friend did peek - esp if she had to put a hole in the packaging. Otoh, could be a nosey postie

Hi all
Sorry no post this weekend but I have had a serious trauma. Babies seem fine so at least that's OK. I am the worlds biggest s**t magnet.
Here's the senario.....

I had a friend (quite odd but not sectionable) she needed somewhere to stay on and off and I was on my own so could do with help and company. I gave her a key and the upstairs spare double bedroom.

We arranged to go out on my canoe on Saturday but after waiting for an hour in the blazing heat and no contact I went home....
to find her gone plus all my money to pay my parents for the rest of my car, some clothes and the last £5 from my wallet!

I have spent the last 2 days crying and making statements to the police and tracking her family, who were lovely and had apparently had years of this behaviour and offered to pay for anything she had done to me!
I am gutted... there's more but I can't bring myself to say it. Makes me question my faith..... if I get chance I'll give him upstairs a piece of my mind!!

Oh gosh neddie how awful! You poor thing. What a horrible thing to happen, very scary too I imagine. Very sweet of her family, they must be so sad and fed up with her behaviour. I hope they can find her and you can get your money back. Is your dp around at the moment? Or someone else that can come and spend some time with you, it must be hard going through this without some rl support. I know it doesn't help really but I am thinking of you and keeping my fingers crossed you can recover from the shock soon.

Really puts my pathetic paranoia into perspective. Like a mad women, in my head I keep aplogising to the friend and hoping she understands the hormones, stress and tiredness are frying my sense of reason Imaginary conversations are fairly standard for me though and not something I can blame on pregnancy! I am giving myself a good slap.

Neddie - that sounds truely dreadful, am thinking of you too. Please take it easy and be gentle with yourself, I hope you manage to come to terms with it and put it behind you soon. We used to take in "waifs and strays" before DD with mixed outcomes, although nothing anywhere near as bad as your situation. She sounds like she needs some serious help.

Bigbang - you're not mad at all sounds like fairly normal pg behaviour to me.

Hope everyone else is taking it easy, lol at nitnat - I felt like that before DD too.... why oh why do hospitals position beds in the delivery rooms with the "business end" directly facing the door (or is that just me).

Oh dear neddie what a horrible thing to happen.
Nit nat could the pain be like sciatica? Try crossing your legs at the ankles (standing up) and then bending over to touch your toes. Was taught this in a yoga class many years ago.

Bigbang this pregnancy for me has been very twingy and it is my second so maybe your MW is right.

Thanks Peachygirl I will give it a go!
Pebblebeach- oh great! Never knew business end faced the door!

Neddie. She seems to be quite a disturbed individual. It's a shame that she betrayed your trust but that is a poor reflection on her - so don't blame yourself. When you say "not sectionable" are you implying that she possibly has a personality disorder?

Hi all,

Oh Neddie that is just awful, but don't let it change who you are, as you obviously have a very lovely and generous nature. Some people just don't appreciate it when people are reaching out to them to help them. Sounds like they need some serious professional input though.

Bigbang, I am completely with you on the utter madness, I started my job in December after 15 months of looking (was not a pleasant time) and then found out I was pg in January, so wasn't sure how they were going to take it. They have been ok, but being a children's centre they couldn't really not be. However, I have been completely paranoid and neurotic over every little thing, constantly feeling like people aren't liking me and that I'm not doing the job properly because I can't be like I would normally due to being so tired and extra ditzy. I've tried really hard not to have time off unless feeling really rough and the doctor signed me off for a week as I went into his room and burst out crying (wasn't feeling well either and it all just got on top of me). I'm feeling better now, although still tired, doesn't help that it's a 40minute journey to work, and that's a good run, but I'm so appreciative that I have a job and I do enjoy it, most of the time. I'm so looking forward to going on maternity leave but not sure when that will be exactly, my line manager has said we will sit down soon and sort out dates and everything, I do want to work for as long as possible too just to get the most maternity leave with my baby.

Nitnat, I'm also completely with you over feeling worried about people seeing your 'end zone', I'm worrying about it too and people are constantly telling me I won't care, but really think I will, I hate being naked and even in the height of summer I will wear shorts and t'shirt in bed. Also terrified of pooing in front of people, have been told the MW won't even tell me, but still feeling quite worried about it!!

Anyway enough of my ramble, sorry about that, especially as I don't post very often!!

Hope you're all feeling well, well as good as you can whilst growing another human being!!! As much as I have just moaned I would like to say that I am loving it and every kick and movement makes me feel more ready to become a mum (although scared about that actually as well, lol!!!)

Hi Ladies Hope you are all doing ok, Neddie so sorry to hear what has happened to you, really hope things get sorted out and you manage to feel better soon.

Looks like quite a few of us have got our prams from ebay. Main thing I need to do now Is get DD a single bed so I can move her cot/bed into baby's room.

I have finally uploaded some pics to my profile, nothing too interesting but I know when Im at a loose end I like to nosey at all your profiles so thought id let you know

Regarding weight gain - I did a couple of google searches and found one where you put your starting weight in and the number of weeks through and you get back a range, but the one I looked at didn't take account of height. I've put on a bit over a stone so far.

DP felt the baby move for the first time over the weekend, which was lovely for both of us.

Sounds like a lot of you are getting pretty organised. Not superstitious, but don't want to have too much stuff in the way until we've got a bit further with sorting out the room. Congrats on the huge savings some of you are getting on ebay. Will take a look in a few weeks time.

Neddie - sounds like a horrible experience! Hope it doesn't shake your faith in human nature totally!

And big bang, I've always been prone to ups and downs, and getting wound up about things. I got into such a state over a few comments over my size last weekend, but am totally relaxed about it now. At least when it is pre-menstrual hormones, we get a clue as to when it's likely to lift - this pregnancy lark just makes it totally unpredictable - it's DP I feel most sorry for in my case.

Still trying not to think about the birth, so no one needs to look at the business end of anything in my world. But, it's suddenly June, and September's not so far away...

Neddie - thinking of you. How awful for you. I hope you are able to recover from the shock soon. The woman sounds like she has some serious issues.

Hi all,

Neddie sorry to hear about your experience. Hope they catch and make her pay everything back!

I too am getting a bit nervous about the naked stuff. I am not big on nudity at all and the thought of everyone staring "down there" for a few hours is quite a daunting one to get over - even if they have seen it all before. For the second timers, what did everyone wear for the labour? The hospital says front opening gowns - where does one get something like that??

I am 28 weeks tomorrow and going for a tour of the private rooms at Queen Charlotte's on Thursday, so it will be interesting to see what it is like.

Can't wait to finish work now - still busy at the moment. Got home at 10pm last night. Lucky I had taken it easy at the weekend and had plenty of energy. Course that's all used up now for the week!!

BabyLady I would recommmend wearing the oldest or cheapest nightie you can find. I have previously been to Matalan and spent £4 on a nightie but have noticed that Asda have got a pack of 2 for £5 at the moment, not worth spending any more as you will want to throw it away afterwards. The front opening gowns are the hospital ones I think and I really felt like I wanted to be in my own stuff. I also found a nightie better than an old T-shirt so that if you want to be active or move a round at least your modesty is covered.

I wore a nightie with poppers down the front, it was basically a navy sack bought from ebay but it was brilliant. It was so cheap if it got totally ruined then I could throw it away without feeling guilty. I took it off towards the end but it was roomy and non restrictive, and covered up my modesty (to a certain point!). I bought some lovely breast feeding pjs to wear afterwards, they were a bit more expensive but I felt nice in them which lifted my mood and I was pleased to have something pretty to wear in the pictures lol. I would just make sure it was big enough to wiggle in and not become tight, and covers you to the top of your thighs at least so you can walk around without feeling on show!

I think they say front opening so when the baby comes out they can put him/her straight onto your chest for skin to skin, and so you have easy boob access to start breast feeding.

Glad to hear I am not the only one suffering from paranoia and maddness! I'm finding impossible to get my thoughts straight.

My nighties were from Matalan too, short sleeves would be a good idea as the hospital was hot.

Last time I wore my nighties at night time then put on my Pjs ( also cheap front fastening ones) on in the day time, it made me feel like I got dressed

Neddie, that's awful. What a stupid cow. Maybe she's sectionable after all. Has your husband come any closer to finding a job over here? I've got a friend whose husband is commuting between Frankfurt and London but his children are 10 and 12 already.
Best of luck xx

I haven't bought any buggies or baby furniture yet - especially since there is no room in the baby's room at all yet with all our rubbish still to sort out - but I have bought my first two pairs of proper maternity trousers yesterday, I think I will never wear anything else ever again! Very comfortable and I don't have to keep adjusting belts or drawstrings when getting up or sitting down. (I was very tempted to get a pair of dungarees but it would have traumatised my boyfirend too much - he has this thing about Germans wearing embroidered dungarees, some exchange student did in c. 1982...)

I still find it really strange that it's actually the baby that's kicking me and not my own body doing funny muscle spasms or whatever. I can't quite get my head around it yet. My boyfriend felt it too the other night, but I had to literally beg him to keep his hand on my belly for a while. And he wasn't really impressed. Far too cool for his own good sometimes. I'm going to have to get him drunk again before he can admit that he's actually quite excited about having a baby.

Thusnelda my DH is like that too. I have to tell him to be patient.
I think they think the kicking will happen instantly when you say 'feel this'

Hi could I join all you lovely ladies? I am onto my second pregnancy and have a 17 month old daughter at the moment. Scanning through the posts there is so much going on for everyone and it's a busy and sometimes worrying time. I've only 11 weeks left of work and it can't come quick enough, feel like I've been pregnant forever at the moment. Also now starting to think about the birth and how that will be, especially after my emergency section last time round, I don't want another section, it is a little worrying, but hey no going back now. Hope you are all well.

Hi Soulsu, welcome!

I just just got round to counting weeks left too - I have 9, woohoo